What a Woman Really Wants
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Meet her Emotional Needs and she will Meet your Physical Needs
What a woman really wants from her man may not be what her man thinks she really wants. A woman’s needs are emotional as to where a man’s needs are physical. Women are more sensitive than men and a woman’s needs are easier to be met than the man may realize. The man may think he is taking care of all of her needs, when in reality; she is feeling very empty and lonely. I have composed a list of some ideas that a man can use to make his woman happier.
A Woman Likes for her Man to Listen
A woman likes to know that when she is talking her man is listening. Not only that he is listening, but also that he cares about what she is saying. However, in most cases, the man comes home from work and has had a long, stressful day. All he hears when she is talking is “blah, blah, blah.” He tries to tune her out and goes to his favorite recliner and grabs his handy remote control. He loves his television more than anything in the world.
She stands in front of the television and he leans left and right to see. Finally, she gives up and eventually, communication is lost, thus the relationship goes bad.
Communication is very important in a relationship. There is a way to stop your relationship from falling apart due to lack of communication. I know you men are tired when you come home, but I have a few suggestions:
- When you first get home, ask your woman how her day was. When she answers, actually listen to what she has to say and respond. This will let her know that you care about what she went through during the day and that you want to know what she has to share with you.
- Tell her about your day. Ask her for advice on problems you dealt with during the day.
- After you communicate for awhile, then you can go and watch television.
I think communication is the most important factor to a healthy relationship. If you always know what your partner is feeling then you will always be close to each other.
A Woman Loves Compliments
A woman loves to be told how good she looks by her man. When you get home in the afternoons and she looks like she has spent hours getting ready to go nowhere, she did this for your attention. Tell her how hot she is. This will make her feel that you notice her and will help to keep her self esteem at a peak.
I know a lot of times you are exhausted and may not pay much attention to the fact that your woman is wearing make-up and has on that hot dress. However, if she does go way out to look good for you, you need to make an effort to let her know how fine she looks to your eyes.
If you fail to do this, the beautiful woman that you love will either quit trying to look good anymore. She will have her pajama’s on and her hair will be sticking straight up on top of her head at 5 in the afternoon because she knows that you will not notice if she does dress up for you. Or, she will dress herself up with the hope that someone else may compliment her. If this happens, you can tell your relationship good-bye. Someone else will notice her and she will like the self esteem booster. So men, just take a few minutes everyday and tell your woman that she is HOT.
A Woman Loves Romance
I know that most men are not very romantic. However, most women like a little romance. You do not have to spend your whole paycheck to romance your woman. There are simple things you can do to “knock her off of her feet.” Here are some things you can do to romance your woman:
- Send her off to the store and fill the bedroom with candles. Put rose petals on the floor from the front door to the bed. Put rose petals on the bed also. Turn on some soft music and wait for her to get home. The rest is up to you.
- Take her on a surprise picnic. Take some food in a basket, a blanket, a radio, and some wine if she likes wine. Find a secluded location and park your blanket in that spot. This will bring you closer and can be very romantic with little cost.
- Go for a hike together. You could hike to a waterfall or just hike through the woods. This is a wonderful way to bond.
- Take her out dancing and to her favorite restaurant
- Surprise her with a romantic dinner one night
A Woman Loves to Cuddle
Women love to cuddle and be held. Men are usually thinking on different terms. Maybe you could just lie in bed and watch a movie together. Give her a gentle massage, hold her close to you and cuddle with her. Do not do anything more than this for a couple of nights. Just be close to her and let her be comfortable in your arms.
If you do this along with some of the other tips in this article, your woman will be “so into you.” If you can meet her emotional needs, she will meet your physical needs.
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Comments
Well put. so true, it is really easy and takes so little effort. Thanks for a good hub sharing those little tidbits of importance.
You touch on some good point, especially after years have passed we tend to take these things for granted. Such small deeds have such a big impact in a womens life. Turn off the T.V. and listen to your women.
Regards
No wonder I've been married four times! :D
Thank you for this Useful Knowledge. I'll work on it, I promise.
Thanks for your comments. Women need to feel special. It is the little things you can do that mean the most.
My life likes it when I lock eyes with her in the middle of conversation and kiss her with a lot of passion for no good reason.
ColoradoMathguy,
I am sure she does. Women love those little spontaneous things you do.
Thank you for your comment.
This is right on time and the truth....
Not according to my ex haha
UNDERSTANDING IS VERY IMPORTANT IN WIFE AND HUSBAND RELATIONSHIP.
Very good article...
L. Andrew,
I looked at your profile and it said you are 17 years old. I think I am refering to a mature woman that you may not have expierince with yet.
Believe me, someday, your woman will want this.
Though I don't disagree with your article, I find it far too focused on what the woman wants, rather than presenting the information in a fashion that addresses ways in which both parts of the whole that is a couple can win.
As the old saying goes, women need to feel loved to make love, and men need to make love to feel loved. Too often, a vicous cycle emerges because both parties feel their needs are not being met...a woman wants romance, and should get that romance...conversely, when was the last time a woman got all dolled up and rocked her mans world just because she knew he needed it?
Women like to cuddle, and so do us men...there would be a LOT MORE CUDDLING if women let that cuddling sometimes go a lot further.
I'd love to see this article and its information presented in a way that addressed the needs, and desires of both the man and the woman, sharing ways in which they both could be made happy and whole.
"A woman likes to know that when she is talking her man is listening. Not only that he is listening, but also that he cares about what she is saying." So true. Great advice.
What I know about women could fit In a thimble . I am lucky enough to have a pretty good one . Thx for the tips .
Bud,
Thank you for your insight. However, I will consider writing an article on your request of the desires of a man and a woman. This article was wrote only of the womans needs. It was intentionally wrote that way. A man's needs are completly different than that of a woman.
I do agree that men need cuddling and such, but men and women are wired different. Women think with thier feelings and men think with testosterone.
I do agree that sometimes the woman may need to give her man a little extra attention. Really though, in most cases, the woman is content with just the cuddling and closeness.
Another great hub! See - it really doesn't take much to make us happy. I don't need diamonds, or expensive vacations (would be nice though but not necessary at all).It really is "the little things" that make all the difference. A little goes a long way. I'm happy when he brings me home my favorite cup of coffee. It's just nice to know that he was thinking about me. I always joke with my hubby and say "Treat me good, I'll treat you like a GOD, treat me bad, I'll treat you WORSE!" He knows I'm kiddin but it keeps him on his toes :-)
Chloe-You are so correct. It is not the "things", it is the emotinal stability we women need.
Spmeone who listens, compliments romance and cuddles Yes, I like all that but also I would add good sex as an essential requisite.
Great learning for me. I always wanted to know, what a women wants and think your hub is an answer.
Great learning for me. I always wanted to know, what a women wants and think your hub is an answer.
What we really want is someone that will care about us. We know you want to fix things and move on, but we want to TALK about the whole thing, and after we vent and get all emotional, THEN we want you to fix things for us.
We want to know that you will never be able to replace us. Even if we die. If your wife or girlfriend asks you, "Honey, if I die, how long would you wait to remarry?" THAT is a LOADED question. The ONLY safe answer here is, "No one could EVER replace you." Leave it at that, except maybe to add with a tear in your eye, "If you died, I wouldn't know what to do." And don't say it picturing the girl down the street that you would be jumping on the minute your other half kicked the bucket. You can visualize that later, my friend.
i would like to know if a women is in love with me how will i come to know
women and men are in need of the connection and each couple needs to take the time to talk about what the other enjoys and needs. your article gets to the core of what most women want whether she ever admits it. if a man think all the woman wants is jewelry, cars, expensive clothing, then he found a woman not in touch with her true self. the heart of a woman wants to be adored by her man, not pampered with things.
really good advice.........
thanks a lot
Great learning for me. I always wanted to know, what a women wants and think your hub is an answer.
Thank you for all of your replies. We women can be taken care of quite simply. Just a little TLC goes a long way with a woman.
"A woman likes to know that when she is talking her man is listening. Not only that he is listening, but also that he cares about what she is saying."
She certainly does which is why I am going deaf.
100% agree =).
I feel this hub is rich with real life examples.
Some things you have mentioned are real happenings in married life. A simple yet precise hub. This hub is a tonic for a healthy relationship.
Womes's need and men's need may be different. But as a couple men and women have to come to a point where there is no difference in needs and likings. That only gives the real pleasure in life. If they behave with different fancies it will be a parellel trfic where they will not meet in life. Then they will be really a couple, a pair of unlike parallel forces acting in different direction.
I love this article however as a women it is not always true that is what we want. The only thing I can do is take from my personally experience and say I do not wanna be romanced or cuddled I would much rather have fun and hang out. Like going out somewhere to some fun place (ex:to amusement parks or an arcade) I would rather sit back pig out and watch sports with my guy then go on a "romantic date" however that is just me and I am me crazy for thinking like that however this is the 21 century. I really did love your article tho! It was a great read and i am just saying my own advice that is all. I and for all I know you may be more right then me. Great read tho really!
Oh yes...And passion...And someone faithful...
You are right about romanticism.
It is a way to say you care about another person.
Honesty is nice also.
I will remember your article and maybe show it to my husband and see what he thinks about it.
Thank you all for the comments. I do understand that what some women want may be a little different. However, I am a woman, and I wrote the hub in reference to what a woman wants.
I really appreciate all of the feedback.
I think the key is communication. If you keep the communication open, there will be no guessing in a relationship.
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I don't live with a man at the moment, and everything you said i realise that i miss a lot. You get used to being on your own and forget that you are still a woman. I can't remember the last time that i felt feminine, reading this has made me think that maybe i need to get out that little black dress.........
Back when I was in college, I asked my girlfriend one Saturday if she had plans the following day. When she told me she didn't, I told her that I had a surprise for her and so to be ready to clear out the entire day.
The following morning, we drove out to the ferry on Lake Champlain, between New York and Vermont and then drove out to Burlington, Vermont amidst the orange and yellow hues of autumn foliage. I found this restaurant I'd read about that was situated in the middle of a huge pond on an island. Luckily she'd never been there before and neither did I. The food was amazing--we both agreed on this. Later on, we went shopping and then went back to campus just as the sun was setting.
She told me that night that I was the "best boyfriend ever," and I remember believing that I really was. Looking back, I'm not really sure why I did it. I think that it really had to do with things getting to mundane and predictable. I really just wanted to take a little road trip and so it worked out immensely. What of the things that I did learn (in my frail age) is that women really do like whimsical escapades. Once your relationship gets too routine, you get into trouble.
Just thought I share that with you, UK. I thought you like it.
Thank you for sharing this insightful hub with me! I told you I'd come by :D
....guys, take a moment each day to tell your woman she's SMART! That gets me everytime.
I don't need to be told I'm hot; all that does is make me feel like -ummmmm...an electrical outlet.
Hi there. I found you through your friend dohn121 and very happy for that. You have hit the nail on the head with this one. I totally agree and have for years that communication is the KEY. Well done. New Fan here.
Cuddling, romance, an ability to listen and being able to understand what a woman wants: these are all good qualities in a person we are with. Being Empathetic can mean so much. They say women have greater emotional intelligence than men. Men and women are wired differently (like when women "vent" whereas men "rage", and men need to understand that venting is important to understand because its not neccessarily criticism.)
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Useful,
These things should all be known by men, I knew them well before getting married at 28. One of the best compliments I've ever gotten was; "talking to you, is like talking to a girlgriend." All I did was listen and talk about what she had brought up.
What I tell all younger men getting married is; "make your wife happy, rhat way you have a good chance she will make you happy."
Thanks, I will keep these facts in mind.
Although I found your hub to make some good points, I must respond to something you said in the beginning of the column that nearly knocked me over when I read it. "A woman's needs are emotional whereas a man's needs are physical". Yikes! I don't know if I'm an extremely un-typical man or what, but I do have very emotional needs. If I'm in a relationship and such needs are not being met, I don't stay in the relationship. Just letting you know we DO exist.
good post ,now I know and knowing is half the battle.
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\Brenda Scully says:
4 months ago
very good advice...... i hate it when you stand in front of the television and they just look around you aaaaaaaaaaaahhhhh