A Haiku - Judging Others And More

I can fairly well judge if someone is a good skier by the way they ski, and still not have a clue who the real person is.
I can fairly well judge if someone is a good skier by the way they ski, and still not have a clue who the real person is. | Source
How many come to rest in the average cemetery through the fault of someone else who didn't choose to obey the law?
How many come to rest in the average cemetery through the fault of someone else who didn't choose to obey the law? | Source
What does it take to make a happy home, a lasting marriage, and a family blest by God?  Lots!
What does it take to make a happy home, a lasting marriage, and a family blest by God? Lots! | Source

A Haiku - Judging Others

Your face, dress, walk, speech

Say things about you I sense.

The real you? Unknown

A Haiku - Law

Bend, twist, wink at law,

And become the law yourself.

More the pity then.

A Haiku - Marriage

Rings and things don't count,

Marriage ceremony doesn't,

Unless you mean it.

Quote: "If I am doing all the good things I am capable of doing, I will have no time to do anything else."

Manolie N. Jasper


Judging Others

There are times, even professions, which require making quick judgements, such as situations soldiers and policemen face, sometimes daily.

For the rest of us on normal days such judgements are not usually necessary. On such days we should not rush to judge others.

If you have been wrongfully judged, and which of us has not been, you know what a serious mistake hasty judging can be.

Even in conversation, you will note that some people presume what you are going to say even before you have finished your sentence.

Here are several cautions from classic thoughts and persons you may recognize:

Mother Theresa is quoted as having said that "If you judge people, you have no time to love them."

Jesus is quoted as having said: "This is my commandment, that ye love one another, as I have loved you" and also as having said: "Judge not according to the appearance."

James, an apostle of Jesus, is said to have taught that a person who seems to be religious but can't control their tongue, at the same time deceiving their own heart, that person's religious exercise is in vain.

This little true story on judging others illustrates the dangers of judging, and how easily it can stand in the way of loving others:

Two men, unshaven, poorly dressed, and smelling of sweat and worse, came into a church service and seated themselves beside other worshipers, some of whom moved away in apparent disgust. At the end of the service another worshiper approached the men and welcomed the strangers. Surprised, the strangers asked the man, "Aren't you offended by our appearance here today?" The man replied, "No. Should I be? You are always welcome here."

The two men then confessed that their dress and appearance, even their apparent lack of hygiene was a sham. They had chosen to go to several different churches to see where, even appearing as they had at this service, they might be accepted as Jesus would have accepted them, for it would be at that church where they would choose to worship and lend their generous financial support to worthy projects to aid the poor and needy.

Admittedly this is an unusual example, but ask yourself what your own reaction might have been, or will be, should someone described as these two were, should approach you. Your thinking about such a situation will help you to understand how quickly you might judge someone else without really knowing them.


In the second haiku, on how some may hold "the letter of the law" in some contempt, even a direct law such as "STOP", the assertion is made that doing so puts such persons "outside" the law, a law unto themselves, making them modern day outlaws.

We know what tragically happens so often when stop signs are ignored in contempt of the common good they offer.

Equally importantly, the bending of laws, the twisting of laws to a particular person's or group's advantage, is also done in contempt of the common good they are meant to serve. The tobacco industry made itself a classic example of such selfishness in years past, killing and sickening far more people than random contempt for stop signs has since the invention of automobiles, trucks, and buses. And, this also illustrates the reality that it is not always those outlaws who pay the price for their disobedience, gangs and organized crime being other examples of such outlaws.

Our right to "life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness" is at stake when laws are only winked at, are twisted and bent by any of us. There is also the danger that a little bend can take any of us down the wrong road.


On the subject of marriage, it appears the subject is increasingly unpopular. The rate of divorce bears that out, and the rate of common law marriages (if such relationships last that long) attests to a worthy institution trending toward its demise, or at least its reduced role in public morality.

Can we blame the media? Marriage jokes have probably existed as long as marriages have; and some marriages area joke, entered into lightly, even for the sake of publicity with no commitment to make the marriage last. In fact, marriages that last in Hollywood are considered newsworthy, but are given far less prominence than the second, third, etc., marriages of serial brides and grooms.

Society has generally condemned polygamy, yet it tolerates men and women who have made a similar mockery of monogamy on the basis that "one spouse at a time" (no matter how many times) is legal, even reason to celebrate (that's "celebrate" definitely not "celibate".)

Marriage has been, and by rights should still be, a solemn commitment to a lasting love and sacrifice of each spouse for the other....not to one spouse and then another and another, and.... .

Christian marriage is defined as "each for the other, and both for God." I suspect other religions would define it in much the same way, although I hold some personal reservations about any religious marriage in which divorce is as simple as saying "I divorce thee" three times, and also allows for having three wives at the same time.

© 2014 Demas W. Jasper All rights reserved.

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AudreyHowitt 2 years ago from California

I loved these haiku--and especially the one on Law--take care and happy writing!

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jhamann 2 years ago from Reno NV

Great Haiku! Thank you for your poetry. Jamie

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annart 2 years ago from SW England

More thoughtful and thought-provoking haikus from you. I like your analysis of each one and I thoroughly agree with all you say.

Judging others is all too easy and, yes, so many try to finish a sentence for you. The story regarding the church worshippers is so telling; I confess I'm not sure how I would've reacted though I hope I'd have been compassionate.

Great stuff!


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Ericdierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Well done!

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Perspycacious 2 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

AudreyHowitt - Nice hearing from you. It's enough to make me want to write some more. I tried to insert the relevant photos within the text. but the "Insert Capsule" always ended up putting the photo at the bottom of the text, so next time I will have to choose the photos as I go along, I guess. Any suggestions?

jhamann - You can post them on your trip, just retain the copyright line, or simply post just the link. Safe travels.

annart - We all do well to examine ourselves from time to time (not just so we can report to our dermatologist!) Empathy is all about putting ourselves in the other gal's shoes and imagining walking a mile or so in them.

Ericdierker - Three folks beat your mad scramble to be first today on this one, but I knew that, if I had one comment, it was likely to be yours

What a great set of commenters here already (so fr 6's and 7's.) I used to be an 8, I guess now I spend too much time writing and too little time reading?

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Perspycacious 2 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

P. S. I wonder how it is possible to have four comments from separate Hubbers, while the Statistics page shows that this Hub has only been read two times? 'tis a puzzlement" as the King of Siam was characterized to have said.

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James-wolve 2 years ago from Morocco

Great article,But there is a point you mentioned here I think it needs some more explanation.It is about pologamy .Islam in fact merely allows pologamy, but does not encourage it because it teaches that a man who is married to more than one woman must achieve a perfect balance between his wives financially and in terms of his time. The Quran explicitly instructs Muslim men that if they are afraid they will not be able to be just between their wives, then they are to marry only one woman. This justice is only achieved if the man is able to provide the same amount of time to each of his wives, and the same material lifestyle. For example, they must live in similar accommodations, have a similar amount of financial support, and the same level of material possessions. Islam prohibits polygamy if a man is not able to achieve this, or if he even fears that he will not be able to achieve this. Besides,the reality of life is that there are a lot of men who are not monogamous, regardless of their faith.According to some recent researchers, up to 70% of men cheat on their partners. The rates of women cheating on their husbands were lower. But what is very interesting is that most researchers find that men who cheat on their wives usually give the reason as being a craving for more sex and sexual variation. On the other hand, women usually cite a lack of emotional connection to their husband, or that a stronger emotional connection has developed with the man they are cheating with. In a recent survey in the African country of Togo, 37 % of married men admitted to having more than one sexual partner in the past year. If this is carried over 10 years, it is likely the percentage approaches 100 %!

Peace !

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Perspycacious 2 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

The added information is welcome, although my personal reservations remain unchanged. Perhaps you can comment on why that version of polygamy is limited to only three wives, and why divorce can be so sudden and one sided? It appears that the status of women in such a setting is somewhat different than it was originally, "way back when"?

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Gypsy Rose Lee 2 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Enjoyed your creative work here. I never judge other because I don't like to be judged and each individual should answer for themselves. I don't like trouble so I always keep on the side of the law but the law isn't always fair. If one enters a marriage one should keep to that one person and if it doesn't seem to work out then it's time to move on not to lie and deceive.

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aviannovice 2 years ago from Stillwater, OK

Everything that you have stated is so true. If we think about it, it makes a lot of sense...

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Perspycacious 2 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

Gypsy Rose Lee - Strong points well stated.

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Perspycacious 2 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

aviannovice - And it is so easy to forget to think about it.

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