"A Leopard Cannot Change his or her Spots"

"A Leopard Cannot Change His or Her Spots

A leopard cannot change his spots, so why we think that a man will change his ways for us.
A leopard cannot change his spots, so why we think that a man will change his ways for us.

"A Leopard Cannot Change his or her Spots"

I've seen many relationships crash and burn and come to inexplicable end because the man would change his habits to make the wife happy. I think we get into relationships that aren't healthy for us and instead of waiting for that go through the same thing when you for their Ms. right. This is a bad habit for our society today, especially for the women. Listen up people, I've been screaming this for the absolute longest time, if you aren't getting what you want in a relationship. don't just settle for what you can get because you will be miserable I promise you. We all want certain things in our relation with our loved ones, so if your not getting at least 45-50 % of what you want, you might need to slow down just to see where it's going.. Now that I said that let me also say that you should give as much as your your counter part, so they don't feel that they're the only one giving. The giving has to balance out in all relationships, are they aren't going to prosper and grow.

The problem that I have been seeing in most relationships is that the women always be the one that end up giving the most in that relationship and the man hardly gives anything back. It is a misconception that the women should always be the one to stick her neck out on the chopping block,but that's a lot of garbage. When you're constantly taken advantage of, you will soon start to feel it. I can tell you about these types of relationships because I had my share of heartache and headaches because of them, before I finally found my real husband. It took time but I guess it's better late than never. Itt you're in a relationship where you're the one always letting the man have his way, then you're in a no win situation and you need to let him see first hand, what it feels like with the shoe on the other foot. Ladies we get ourselves into bad relationships by thinking that your love will change this man into the man of your dreams, but guess what? It's not going to happen. if a leopard can't change his spots, why do we think a man even want too.

I want you to remember one thing , you can only change yourself and your attitude, so if you're waiting for him to change, you might be waiting forever. The old saying about the leopard changing his spots is true, the leopards spots never changes in any situation. So, just remember the signs: If he wants to choose where to go all the time., or what to do all the time, and want to make all the decision in the relationship all the time, then there is something very wrong with this picture. Whether we want to except the writing on the wall or not, it's time to kick him to the curb and find someone that's truly into you and you needs and wants. we must also remember tha in all relationships there are compromises to be made so both parties can be content. I will say this once again,if you can find a man that love and respect God, his mother, sister and other women in his life, then he isn't going to treat you bad, because he has a conscience. It worked for me and I know for a fact thAT it will work for you. Happy hunting my friends.

Benny Faye Douglass (C) Copyright 2011

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creativeone59 4 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

SerenaG, a lot of what you say is the truth, but I do have to say that there are a chosen few men out there, that will treat right, you just have be careful where find them I guess. I found my husband of nine years on the internet, but not before praying and taking one step at time. There is hope my dear, don't give up. Much love. creativeone59


Serena Gabriel 4 years ago

I got tired of being taken advantage of some time ago - and I'm afraid. I'm afraid of criminals and con artists. So many guys don't show who they really are until they think they have you cornered and only then do you find out how wicked and criminal they are. Con artists ("Con" means confidence, of course) do everything they can and will go to extremes to gain your confidence.

Why keep doing something again and again knowing the outcome is just going to be the same every time? This is why every woman needs a cat.

Accolades and voting up!


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creativeone59 4 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thanks hello, control freaks always want the power to control someone else. God bless you. creativeone59


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Hello, hello, 4 years ago from London, UK

My EX wanted to come back to us again As you the saying goes.....

I don't these control freaks ever give up and there is no chance of you cutting them down.


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creativeone59 4 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you yenajeon, for your visit and comment, I appreciate you. God bless. creativeone59


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yenajeon 4 years ago from California

I could't agree more. A leopard cannot change its spots indeed. Thanks!


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you pmccray, for your visit and comment, and I'm glad that you and your mate found the secret to a righteous relationship. God bless you. creativeone59


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pmccray 5 years ago from Utah

You speak only words of truth creativeone59. It is only in the latter part of my life that I've come to realize these truths.

My current mate and I were very honest with each other the 1st week of our meeting. Honest and open, he and I both had grown tired of "changing" our partners.

You have to learn to meet in the middle and remember that you're individuals and don't lose your individuality because you're now united.

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