A Mother's Heart

There are times when we do not realize the importance of a mother's love. We take each day for granted. Some of us call our mother's once a month and others on occasion. A mother is like a lion and we are her cubs. They are there through the good times and the bad. They listen and give advice and although we may not always listen, they always know what is best. Since the passing of mom last August the journey has been long. Going through her things, wishing we had longer and realizing it was not God's plan has been what I would say rather complicated. A mother's heart never stops beating even when God has called them home. The things that are instilled in us are forever etched in our memory and our hearts. Reflecting on my own mother I came to realize that the way I fold towels, to the way the dishes are washed are all due to my mother repetitively and patiently teaching me how to do things correctly. Our mother's are precious and when a person loses them a flood of memories washes over us, like waves rolling in from the ocean. The flood gates open and we begin to jot down every last detail trying to hold onto those memories. We find ourselves holding and clinging to our lives knowing that when that day comes we will be reunited once again.

A mother's heart regardless of her flaws and mistakes keeps right on beating loving you unconditionally. Those last moments of our mother's life I knew that although she passed away, that very last beat of her heart was still loving her children and all of their imperfections.

If you still have your mother embrace her and love her. Visit or call her more often. Send her a card, gift or flowers to show her that you care. Hold onto her as long as you can and ask as many questions as you deem necessary, don't save it for another day. Another day may not come and you will never get the opportunity again to ask what you should have been asking all along. Get to know her as a person, you can bet she will be thankful that you did.

If your mother has passed away, write down all the memories that you can. Keep a picture by your side or something special that you remember about her. It is o.k. to cry and feel empty many of us have experienced the pain. It's o.k. to laugh about something that she did or talk about something that upset you. Those are all feelings and memories of someone special who was called mom.

All of us are our mother's heart and that will never stop beating.

If Roses Grow In Heaven

If Roses grow in Heaven 
Lord, please pick a bunch for me.
Place them in my Mother's arms
and tell her they're from me.

Tell her that I love her and miss her,
and when she turns to smile,
place a kiss upon her cheek
and hold her for awhile.

Because remembering her is easy,
I do it every day,
but there's an ache within my heart
that will never go away.


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WillStarr 5 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

Beautiful Hub AEvans, and a lovely tribute.

My little mother was so sick and miserable from botched radiation and then a botched surgery to 'fix it', that she just called us together one day and announced her intention to die. She refused everything but an occasional sip of water until she lapsed into a coma and passed away quietly after a five day ordeal.

Her mind was sharp until the end, and I still miss her.


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Vladimir Uhri 5 years ago from HubPages, FB

AEVANS, must be hard for you since you were silent for awhile. I did rolled my water on cheeks for you. But I am not ashamed of it. I lost my mom when I was 5, then special wife 7 years ago. But I cry from joy since God replaced and renewed my sadness with joy. Lord bless you sis.


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G-Ma Johnson 5 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

So sorry abt her leaving, but we all do. What you say is so very true and I am lucky enough to have my mom at age 92. Though she suffers from Dementia, and unable to speak understandable words I see her at least every other day. We carry on conversations, though I am not always sure I am on the right track...I say that because sometimes she gets angry with me!!!

...but I do believe she is still teaching me,especially about the end of life and what being elderly is really like. Unfortunately it isn't very well discussed as I think it should be.Being alone is tough after you have become used to a partner,then suddenly you are one your own and try to pretend you are OK.

Sorry I should just write a Hub about this...Love you and God Bless...:O) Hugs G-Ma


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AEvans 5 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Will Starr: I understand how you feel. Thank you for sharing and that is so sad.

Vladimir: I am on my way back and I am so happy to hear from you. Thank you so much for sharing your heart too. Thank you for being my friend to. :)


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AEvans 5 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

G-Ma Johnson: You should write about it and you are so lucky to still have your mom, looking forward to reading that hub. :)


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vrbmft 5 years ago from Yucaipa, California

Hello AEvans,

So good to see you back here. I KNOW it has been a journey and then some. There is a delightful book, "Feathers Brush My Heart," stories by women whose mothers have "touched base" with them after death, sometimes in very humorous ways.

I still feel the urge, a huge urge, to call Mom and it takes me several seconds before I realize, I can't. For awhile, I used to call her old phone number just in case she might answer! It was silly, fun, and a tad "scary" wondering how I would react if she did answer! My Mom died in 2003.

I, and I'm sure I can say we, here on HP, were honored to "meet" your Mom and walk with her vicariously through your postings. I am so glad you did that. I am unexpectedly crying right now. I am just so glad you shared your life and her life with us during those last days. I guess for me it was one more piece of healing with not only My Mom but also my first wife.

If I remember correctly, your Mom passed on on my birthday, August 21, so I feel a special connection with her after following your journal all those days.

So good to have you back.

Vern


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Tamarajo 5 years ago from Southern Minnesota

we never stop missing our parents when they pass.

What a beautiful bond you had with your mom. How blessed she was to have had a daughter that recognized and appreciated all the good things she did.

Encouraged to love my mom today. Thanks.


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Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

A beautiful tribute that I'm sure has warmed many a heart.

Thank you for sharing and take care

Eiddwen.


Lady_Tenaz 5 years ago

This was absolutely beautiful AE! I am so sorry about your loss. I cannot even fathom losing my mom as she is not only my bestfriend but also my next door neighbor. You are so right about realizing so many things like the way you fold the towels or sheets or washing dishes, maybe even the way we dab our perfume on the base of our necks and wrists, or the way we pout our lips after we put on lipstick that we watched our mothers do when we were growing up. Just looking up to them and learning from them, our ORIGINAL TEACHER of life. This was a beautiful piece and very moving. Everytime you look in the mirror remember her...you are her legacy! I am always here if you need to talk girl, HUGS!


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Genna East 5 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

Such a beautiful hub. I lost my mother a few years back, and miss her terribly.


Harvey Stelman 5 years ago

J, Knowing the feeling, my heart goes out to you. I hope my mirror technique helps, please let me know. H


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AEvans 5 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

vrbmft: I am at a loss for words and it is so wonderful to be back. Sometimes I feel like I am having writer's block, but I will get through it. I will certainly get a copy of the book and read it. Your mom will come to you when you least expect it. My mom comes through butterflies and when I am sad one seems to fly by.

She did pass away August 21 and I am glad that everyone who read about her was able to know her, she was wonderful and is certainly missed. Thanks for being here for me and glad you enjoyed.

Tamarajo: Love your mom all you can, because when they are no longer with us there is a very large hole in our heart. I am glad that I could encourage you to do something wonderful.:)

Eiddwen: Thank you so much and stopping by.

Lady_Tenaz: It is amazing and the memories, favorite foods, cleaning, or even actions are a part of your mom. You are right we are our mother's legacy. :)

Genna East: I understand that feeling nobody can ever replace our mother.

Harvey Stelman: I am going to use them and will let you know. With your techniques I am sure it will work.


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Maggie-May 5 years ago from the Island of Cape Breton to the Eastern Shores near Halifax, NS

Hi there, so glad to see you've made it back.. You've been missed too. I am so sorry for your loss, and I cannot begin to imagine what you have been facing. I did lose my grandmother and with her passing I felt the loss of my youth.. You've been in my thoughts from time to time, and I knew you were going through avery difficult time, I'm sure glad to see you stepping back here and finding yourself again. Thanks for sharing these feelings with us and sending such great advice, thank-you,

MM


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AEvans 5 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Maggie-May: I am glad to be back and thank you so much for thinking about me. When you lose anyone that you love all of a sudden you tend to mature quickly. See you soon.


ghost whisper 77 5 years ago

A lovely hub about your Mom--her heart for you and yours for her! :) I stopped to think about who taught me to fold my towels this way and laughed....I never quite had thought about it. Glad to see you back! ;)


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AEvans 5 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

ghost whisper 77: Glad to be back and it does make you think doesn't it? Today I took my niece who leaves with us to the docotor and what was strange is we were in the same room as mom and I were with her one year ago. Missing her bnches, but I kow she would be happy that I am writing again. :)


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tony0724 5 years ago from san diego calif

E it has been way too long since you have been here.And like you have said , I definitely treasure her. I know that it has been a rough patch for you, but it is nice to see you around.


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Max_Power 5 years ago from Sunshine Coast, Queensland, Australia.

Hi AEvans,

I am sorry to hear of your loss. Your hubs are a moving tribute to your mother, and a reminder to us all to make the most of every moment that we have with the people that we care about.

I truly believe that we continue to exist after death, and that your mother is only ever a thought or a precious memory away. It is great advice to cry, laugh or feel whatever we are feeling in every moment. That is part of the grieving process.

This is a beautiful hub, and I look forward to reading more.

All the best for the future.


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sunflowerbucky 5 years ago from Small Town, USA

It's so great to see you writing again. I still remember often the way you shared with all of us the journey you endured during the loss of your mother. I imagine your mother would be so very proud of you! Thank you for reminding us all to hold onto what we have, it's easy to forget! Blessings!


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AEvans 5 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Max_Power: Thank you and I to believe we continue to exist after death. I miss her so much and then to make it even more stressful my favorite uncle passed away Mar 11th. They are both missed deeply. Grieving is not easy and we have good days and bad. If all of us could bring someone that we love back it would be a blessing.

sunflowerbucky: Everyday is precious and if you still have them hold onto them. It is so hard to say goodbye. I miss her so much and there are still days that I want to just talk to her, so I speak out loud.


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ama83 5 years ago from San Jose, CA

I am so sorry to hear about your mother, AEvans. When I didn't see posts for your hubs, I assumed it had something to do with your mother's condition. At least she is no longer in pain and she is in a much better place now.

This is a beautiful hub to tribute to your mother, and a wonderful way to remind all of us to cherish our own mothers, as I know you have.

It is good to see you on HubPages again. God bless, and I will be keeping in touch :)


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AEvans 5 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

ama83:It was a long road and grieving is a long process, I still cry for mom but not as often as I did. I have a large hole in my heart and an emptiness that cannot be explained, the only thing I can do is keep going and remember there is sunshine after the rain. Thank you for stopping by and I will be touching bases with you to. :)


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Cagsil 5 years ago from USA or America

Very nicely written AEvans. :) :D I can relate to much of what you said and I see plenty of things in my life that go on with regards to my mother and us siblings. My sister isn't tight with our mom and hasn't been for years. I've tried to explain to her that she will regret it later on, but she continues to not listen. She is in the same situation, my mother was with her own mother and my sister just doesn't realize it or refuses to accept/recognize it. Thank you for sharing. :) :D


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saddlerider1 5 years ago

Losing any member of our family is a painful process and not one easily accepted. I lost both parents a few years back and it's been a slow process of healing. I loved your poem and could see the roses being placed in her arms and a loving kiss from her dearest daughter being given by God from you to her.

Thank you for sharing, I pray that it helps soothe some pain I know you still feel. Your mom is looking down and smiling on her beautiful baby girl. Hugs to you from the Saddlerider


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AEvans 5 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Cagsil: You are welcome and I hope she has a change of heart. My own siblings have some of there own regrets and it is sad. I will pray for your sister.

saddlerider1: It is hard and I am glad you understand. This hub was odd, because I had the title before she passed and couldn't figure out what to write, but now I believe it was meant for this. Thanks bunches.


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sofs 5 years ago

A beautiful tribute from a daughter who values what is precious. I am glad that you wrote this hub, once a mother always a mother.. it took me some time to understand this. It was when I became a mother and held my baby in my arms and glanced at my mother sideways did it strike me that she will always love me no matter what. May God truly fill you with his peace.


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AEvans 5 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

sofs: Thank you and she will certainly will love you no matter what. We love our mother's conditionally and unconditionally and when they are gone we are forever lost without them, but we have to keep on going and never quit. One day I will see her again, I know I will. :)


Eddie-Perkins 5 years ago

A Mother’s Heart is truly beautiful AE. Thank you for writing this, I enjoyed reading and the poem is beautiful. Vote up and beautiful. ~ eddie


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AEvans 5 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Eddie-Perkins: This title sat in my account for a year. One day I knew exactly what to write and the hub was created. Thank you again for reading this hub and truly appreciating the words. Thanks to for the vote. :)


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

So sorry for your loss. I need to see my mom more. Life gets so, so busy, ya know. Your hub inspires me to try harder. Very touching.


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Victoria Lynn: You do need to see here more. Time does not wait for anyone. Love her and talk to her, take the time to spend with her. I know how busy life can be and now I only wish my mother was still here. I still cry for her when I think of her. Love your mom she is the only one you will have in this life. :)


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Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

If Roses grow in Heaven

Lord, please pick a bunch for me.

Place them in my Mother's arms

and tell her they're from me.

Beauitful words and thanks for sharing this warm hearted gem. Enjoy your day.

Eddy.


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AEvans 3 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Eiddwen: You to and thank you for commenting and enjoying. :)

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