About my Father

If i had known that it will be the last lunch

If i had known that you will not come back

If i had known that it will be the last kiss

If i had known that it will end like this

I would have gone out with you

Daddy,i still remember what you said about grandpa, how he was hawking the coconut with his machete when you came to ask for mom's hand for marriage, you said that he was cutting the coconut like it was his enemy...

Funny you dad.

I still remember all we did together, the way you carried me and how you treated everyone of us, you were mom's god.It was heartbroken when we got the call about the accident,i know that i am not of age but i knew at once that something was wrong,i felt it in mom's actions.

Someone called and said that you were involved in an accident though he didn't specify how bad it was but within me,i knew that it was bad because i remembered what you told me sometime...

"Good things don't last"


It is a tragedy for me and everyone

Daddy you were the best for us

I still cannot understand why you

I saw you mashed under the tires

Though i didn't believe that it was you


O God why did you allow my Dad to be there

He was on his way back from saving a soul

Why didn't you save him for our sake


I told my Dad to take me along with him

Maybe i should have died instead of him

Now my world is shattered forever



He was drunk and didn't see you on time.

How fatal? He knocked you under the wheel of a truck...
How fatal? He knocked you under the wheel of a truck...

No one will understand the pains in my heart

Not even an Angel will understand that i am lost

Why did it happen that way and that day


I have no more tears left in my life

I have cried all for you my daddy

There is no more joy to embrace


O you are gone! you are gone forever

You died while helping someone else

I still have your bicycle with broken spokes


Euology...

Words are not enough to express how i am feeling right now, time alone cannot heal this pain but like daddy normally said
Words are not enough to express how i am feeling right now, time alone cannot heal this pain but like daddy normally said

“what will be will be”.

Daddy was a kind man who was always there for his family, he found strength in us and always counted us first in everything he did.

I believe that he is happy wherever he is now but for those of you who could not see the other side of him which i saw, i will simply say, you missed out.

Almost all of you knew dad, yes you all knew him as Ralph, a good friend and someone you can count on but none of you knew him as the best father. Daddy was a generous man and a father who cared for his family, i know that majority of us here today benefited in one way or the other from his service, those he helped with school fees, house rents, medical bills and in so many other ways.

Daddy stood for what he believe and will always say. “Do not allow anyone tell you otherwise”. I learned so much from him though he was sometimes strict but it was all for my own good, if not him, i wouldn’t be modeled into what i am though he may never have said it but i know that he is proud of me, it showed in his smiles.

You all know him as the man with the solution, always there to lend a helping hand and give the best advice, most of you will say that he never screwed up but one time he didn’t listen to me was on that fateful day, i told him not to go out but he already have plans to go and treat Wilson, he has malaria and his parents could not afford taking him to the hospital.

My Dad died while doing what he does best.”Helping others”.

He was not a proud person but very humble and each time he helped someone out, he simply considered it HELP, that is something he thought me and he will always say, “It is profitable in every sense to help a fellow man”.

Dad was never tired and though he never asked anyone for help yet he never wanted to be acknowledged for anything he did, he was strong until his last hour. Daddy is a special father, there was not a time i could not talk to him, and he was always there for me that was why i said earlier, that most of you do not know him the way i did. He was a great man.

A man who made sure that

His family is taken care of

A man who opens his doors

For anyone that came knocking

He was such a great man

I know that i cannot fit into his shoes but i intend to carry on from where he stopped, it will be difficult but with your general support, Ralph’s foundation for youth empowerment will see the day light. Let us all be happy that daddy has gone back to his maker and always remember him with the good he did and the lives he saved.

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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa

This is such a powerful Hub. The pain left behind by such a senseless death is palpable. The evil of drinking and driving needs to be dealt with very firmly. The wrongness of it should be told constantly.

Thanks for sharing this story.

Love and peace

Tony


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Rossimobis 6 years ago from Biafra Author

Thank you sir,i appreciate your support and to be honest,this issue has to be taken serious by the authority.If ever i am chosen to head my own corner,i will implement life imprisonment for any death related to drink driving then six years without fine for any driver caught driving under influence.Sir,i have seen the damages of this issue in life and in the hub.

Thanks once again.

One love...


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50 Caliber 6 years ago from Arizona

Rossi, that is some serious stuff. I worked for a Police contracted wrecker company in Santa Ana California while I was going to college. Friday and Saturday nights was one call after another. A lot of arrests and just tow the car to the impound. Then there were those where dead bodies thrown all over the road and car wiped out looked like tin foil wadded up. Cars wrecking and killing at 100 miles an hour in a 35 zone. I went on one that still stands in my mind. The man had taken his carburetor off his truck and was sitting in his drive way in a chair cleaning it out with a pan of gasoline. He had a 6ft picket fence and a drunk ran off a city street in a 25 zone doing estimated 50, it was much like the truck picture above. He hit the fence turning it down like a flyswatter and killed this man, it was the middle of the day on a Sunday. When I got there I had to pick up the car and fence with the wrecker. His wife just inside didn't hear it and carrying a baby she came out side to see what was going on just as I lifted the fence. I still remember her screaming NO and crying as they placed the body in a bag and loaded it into the coroners hearse. It's things like that should never happen, he wasn't even on the road, a wife and a new born, he was working on his truck to go to work the next day to support them. He had no insurance and was drunk driving on a suspended license for drunk driving. The widow was stuck with a lost loved one and a killer with no insurance. It's just not right, 6 year sentence for manslaughter and out in 3 years. He should have to work and pay the way of this young mother and child the rest of his life.


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pmccray 6 years ago from Utah

This is a riveting and vivid hub. Wonderful remembrances of your father. He is and would be proud. Peace Rossimobis


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Rossimobis 6 years ago from Biafra Author

Meant drunk driving above not drink driving...

Thank you 50 sir for the follow up.I wonder why certain things just happen.

Thank you for your support pmccray


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

you are making me cry hehe, touching, Remembering a father is always emotional, Maita


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Rossimobis 6 years ago from Biafra Author

prettydarkhorse,

O plz don't cry

b/cos you know

it is been a long time

Since he walked that lane

But i will keep his memory alive

By telling his story

This hub reflects the man in him

And all other great fathers

Chorus: Plz don't cry, don't cry pretty and i am saying thank you for coming by.


aikay 6 years ago

This is painful I noticed it's the continuation of a previous lovely ending story well....

Death is going to really find us whether the good or the bad.

Lost 3 in this still young year, buried 1 sang for 2. Adieu.....

I believe I'll sing again not for the dead but for joy

I believe I'll bury again not a corpse but my failures.


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Rossimobis 6 years ago from Biafra Author

Thank you for coming over here...we are the world.


Xtian Lois 6 years ago

We know we shall all die but a death like this is always in the memory and hard to forget. It is quiet painful


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Rossimobis 6 years ago from Biafra Author

Thanks for comingover Xtian Lois,it is always painful to end it this way but fate has its way always.


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

Very heavy My Brother Rossi! Very heavy. We don't get to say good-bye. Thanks!


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Rossimobis 6 years ago from Biafra Author

Hard all the time and all our lives bro...Thanks for coming by.


MARVALLIE BRYAN 6 years ago

THIS IS ONE POWERFUL PIECE YOU GOT HERE.I MYSELF HAVE THE EXPERIENCE OF WHAT IT IS LIKE TO LOSE SOMEONE WHO YOU LOVE DEARLY BY DRINK AND DRIVING.WHILE READING THIS ,IT BRINGS BACK A LOTS OF PAIN AND AGONIES WHICH I THOUGHT I HAVE GOTTEN OVER.I GUESS I WAS FOOLING MYSELF.

THE HARDEST PART IS WHEN YOU DID NOT GET TO SAY GOOD BYE.I LOST MY SPOUSE ON THE 21ST FEBRUARY, 2010, AND I WAS 7 WEEKS PREGNANT AT THE TIME OF HIS DEATH. I WAS PREGNANT WITH A PAIR OF TWINS AT THE TIME OF HIS DEATH AND I LOST THE BABIES ON THE 21ST MAY, 2010. HOW DO I SAY GOODBYE TO TWO TRAGEDIES IN MY LIFE SO SHORT BEHIND ONE ANOTHER? I CANNOT SAY GOOD BYE SO EASILY.

ROSSI, YOU IS ONE GREAT INSPIRATIONAL WRITER, PLEASE CONTINUE TO DO THE GREAT JOB THAT YOU IS DOING. YOU HAVE LIFTED HOW MY SOUL. THANK YOU SO MUCH, AND GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS MY FRIEND.


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Rossimobis 6 years ago from Biafra Author

Marvallie dear, it is so sad and you will get over all your predicaments...love always.


R Sai Srinivas 2 years ago

Liquor should be banned world-wide. Only then this kind of mishaps will stop happening again and again.


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Rossimobis 2 years ago from Biafra Author

Thanks for coming over R Sai...

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