"Are You A Personal Caterer Of The Heart"

"Are You A Personal Caterer Of The Heart"

In being a personal caterer of the heart we sometimes give more than needed.
In being a personal caterer of the heart we sometimes give more than needed.
Some women are born  personal caterers of the heart and don't mind keeping her husband or man happy.
Some women are born personal caterers of the heart and don't mind keeping her husband or man happy.
Being a personal caterer of the heart can be a painful experience if you have an ungrateful,  and unloving man in your life that you're catering too.
Being a personal caterer of the heart can be a painful experience if you have an ungrateful, and unloving man in your life that you're catering too.

"Are You A Personal Caterer Of The Heart"

Caterers normally provide food or entertainment for someone or indulge the wishes of another person. I became a personal caterer when I got married to my husband at eighteen. Since I'm from a religious background. I believed when you marry, it's was for keeps, but that was unfortunate for me. Since everyone you marry might not necessarily be the husband or the wife that God has for you. I was then and now a person that love to please her mate and since he was my first, I wanted everything to be perfect and I wanted to make him happy. Sometimes, when we go out our way trying to make someone else happy, we sometimes forget about ourselves in the process. We do have to except the fact that we can't make some people happy no matter what we do. I had to learn that lesson the hard way. I tried to do things that I thought would make him happy or at least content.

I catered to his every desire and whim, not knowing that I was digging myself further in a hole. I didn't have any experience in the relationship department. I only had my parents as role models and they seemed to be happy with each other My situation was totally different because I had a butt for a husband. I was married to my husband ten years and that was because I was trying to make my marriage work. I finally excepted the fact that it was over. When he had two outside children on me and misused and abused me. So, I left with a broken heart. I think I learned a lot in my ten years of catering to my husband. Now, I know that doing personal catering to your husband or wife, man or woman is not a good thing.Unless you're blessed with a very caring man or women that will appreciate you and your efforts. A relationship is suppose to be a two way deal, where both parties get something back and not just special perks for one person.

Although, When I was doing my personal catering, I truly enjoyed it, but if the people don't appreciate the goodness you're giving them form the bottom of your heart. It's a useless service to render. Personal catering is just like your regular catering services you do a good service and get paid a good fee for services rendered. The only difference between the two is in personal catering...your fees are emotional feedback of love, gratitude, and appreciation from the person you're catering too. I had to learn that just because you trying to make things better for someone you love. It doesn't mean that they will appreciate you or your effort. Some people think you suppose to do these things. They don't have enough sense to realize that these are fringe benefits. The down side of being a personal catering is you're giving your love, your body and soul to a person that treat you like their personal possession and they owns you. In being a personal caterer, your feelings will be hurt over and over again until you put a stop to your pain.

If a person is getting good treatment for you. He or she isn't going to stop you from giving them good service, what fool would? We have to learn that enough is enough and move forward with your life. Personal caterers have to learn how to make their ownselves happy and content. Since our man or women want always oblige us. When a personal caterers has given their all and nothing is returned back to him or her. Then we feel a lost of self worth and most of all misunderstood, misused and abused. I have learned that giving to much of yourself to the wrong person is a detriment to us. Especially, if we're giving to takers or losers. If you're involved in a relationship where you're giving everything and taking care of everything. It's time to catch another bus, because this one is on empty. Since he's or she is on empty,what on earth can he or she give you except heartache and pain.

I know there are men and women that are in the same type of relationships and if this is the case the same advice apply to you. If we spend all our lives tied to a loser or a user, there's no room for the right person to come into our lives. We have to clean up our house and that means getting rid of your handicaps, and finding the person that's going to work with you to achieve happiness and contentment for the both of you. if we're involved in a relationship where the person is all about me and I. They're all about self and what you can do for them so it's time to hurry up and free your self from the emotional leech. That's sucking the life out of you. We all can do bad by ourselves and we don't need any help to starve to death. So, if you're in a personal caterer of the heart business, it's time to find yourself another lucrative business profession. Close down your personal catering business because you can't find the right customers and your business is going out of business.

Wouldn't it be nice to meet someone real that can cater to you for a change and give you some of the benefits and treats that you have been giving out for so long. We have to remember that through God all things are possible .. only if you believe it within your heart.

Benny Faye Douglass

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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

A lot of people think a women is suppose to cater to their every need, but it's more to us than that, but finding someone to appreciate us just for who were are, is a great blessing. thank you for stopping by and leaving your comment and feedback. God bless you. creativeone59


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pmccray 6 years ago from Utah

LOL LOL...I heard that. I love that phrase "time to take another bus" this hub is so true. I think all young women start out as personal caters especially our generation, it was almost what a female was suppose to do. But I learned and learned my lesson well, so much truth in "loving yourself" before you can give love to another. Thank you for the great hub and blessings to you and yours.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

I know it's not often, but would be exra nic, if God blesses you with some one just as giving as you are. Thank you so much for stopping by my hubs. I really apreciate you and your visit. Thank you for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

I know it's not often, but would be extra nice, if God blesses you with some one just as giving as you are. Thank you so much for stopping by my hubs. I really apreciate you and your visit. Thank you for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Pollyannalana 6 years ago from US

It isn't often a perfect couple get together, there always seems to be a giver and a taker. My husband's father and my mother would have been a perfect match...but then we would have been brother and sister...lol. Oh..and that probably would have worked out better by the way! Good hub.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Bk, you hit the nail on the head, it is the takers that look for the givers, and unfortunately the takers always finds us, but what most important is you have to care enough for yourself to want better for you. I was ask my mom,why don't all the bad men and women get together and all the good ones get together, she said it didn't work like that, but wouldn't it be a much peaceful and better world if it worked like that. thank you for stopping by and thank you for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Audrey for your words of encourahement for others that's going through. thank you for your visit and your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you dahoglund, for stopping by and you're correct, each party deserve the same amount of everything, with making no difference. thank you for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Moulik Misty, It's always good to have hopes because without it, there wouldn't be any thing to look forward too. I thank you so much for stopping by my hub.God blessed you. Godspeed. creeativeone59


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BkCreative 6 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

It is as if the 'takers' look for a 'giver' - and then drain them.

It's cultural too - women have been taught to be responsible for all the free labor in a relationship - despite the fact that she is often solely responsible for all the birth control, and definitely the pregnancy, giving birth (and the US does not believe in paid maternity benefits - so she must take a vow of abject poverty in order to have children), and even working outside the home for a meager salary - it's too much.

Honestly, I don't know how women do it. I'm a woman too but now that my children are grown and I am totally independent and I look at women today - how are they doing all this by themselves? And then taking care of a home, children, and a grown man, earning a salary, and more and more is heaped on her - and still she is not appreciated and expected to do more. It's time to re-evaluate all these archaic and abusive traditions.

Thanks for letting me vent!


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akirchner 6 years ago from Central Oregon

I truly believe in love and am thankful every day for meeting someone who does know how to give back as much as he receives. That is the greatest gift in the world because it makes all the other giving we as women do feel better somehow. I'm adding my hopes and prayers to those above that you find that too because we all deserve love and caretaking. I do believe the key is knowing that we deserve it as I know a lot of folks who 'settle' and settling never ends up being a happy ending in my old lady opinion.


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dahoglund 6 years ago from Wisconsin Rapids

I agree with you that relationships are a two way thing. It's important to have a balance between what you get and what you take.


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Moulik Mistry 6 years ago from Burdwan, West Bengal, India

This is lovely - it leaves my cardiovascular system running high with hope and despair...


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you so much Ghost whisper for your blessings and your kindness, God did bless me with a wonderful husband in 2000, so I write in order to help others along the way. maybe my story will encourage someone, else to stand up for themselves; and take no less than the best. Thank you for your comment and feedback.May God bless you and yours. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Micky Dee for your caring heart, I do appreciate you. Thank you for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Ghost Whisper 77 6 years ago from The U.S. Government protects Nazi War Criminals

Oh these words are so very true. Yes, it is a beautiful thing when we find the man/woman who can reciprocate back the love that is given. I have faith and hope for you, that you will find that man-your heart is good and you are a giver, givers belong with givers. Sometimes it takes us to be with takers for us to see our worthiness to have someone love us back too! Just very profound hub for me to read tonight. Thanks! :)

I have faith in God for this in my life also!


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

thank you Faye for showing your heart. A one way relationship is a one-way dead end street. Thank you for always being "there" for so many of us. Take care. Thanks


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Veronica, we each deserve the same love, respect and happiness as an yone else. thank you for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Veronica Allen 6 years ago from Georgia

So true creativeone. Thanks for helping us to see that those who always cater to others, deserve to be catered to as well.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Hello, I appreciate you dear heart. Thank you for your comment and feedback. Blessings to you. creativeone59


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

That was lovely, really lovely. Thank you.

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