Are You A Shy Introvert? Take This Quiz And Find Out

Are You An Introvert?

Introverts tend to be reserved people. They prefer solitude. They like reading, writing, and their computers. They enjoy time alone, and usually have few friends. They think before they speak. They prefer their own company rather than the company of others. They are mistakenly labeled as snobs or people who think they are superior to others. Nothing could be further than the truth.

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My Son Is An Introvert

I have a 16 year old son who is definitely an introvert. He prefers to be alone. He hates to go to eat in a crowded restaurant, but would rather stay home and eat a PB&J than go out to dinner with the family. He has always been this way. I worried about him when he was a baby. He was so quiet. He seldom cried. I just thought he was a “good” baby. He never went through the terrible 2’s. I secretly worried that maybe he was “slow”. He learned to do all the things normal babies do as far as development. As he grew older and went to school he was still quiet. His grades were excellent, so I knew he was a good learner. I was relieved. I read a lot about personalities in children, and I was reassured that he was a normal child. He was what psychologists call an introvert. I was told that I should not try to change him, but to accept him for the person he is.

I Understand My Son, The Introvert

His teachers always remarked what a wonderful student he is. Teachers welcome students who are not disruptive; the ones who do their work, and don’t bother them with questions. One of the problem with students like him is they won’t speak up and ask questions. He will find the answers on his own rather than ask. His mind is like a sponge. If he is in a crowd you get the idea that he isn’t listening to the conversation because he doesn’t interact. Afterwards you realize that he heard every word that was said. He is an excellent listener as most introverts are. These are the kids that are bullied at school because they won't stick up for themselves. You see, I understand my son all too well because I am an introvert, too.

Being An Introvert Can Be Difficult

Being an introvert in a world where most people are just the opposite can be difficult. In school it’s the extroverted kid who gets all the attention from teachers. It’s the quiet child who gets overlooked and “falls between the cracks”. I know from personal experience what it is like to be an introvert. I was painfully shy when I was a child. I made excellent grades in school. I learned to read at an early age, and when we had guests at our house my Mother wanted me to read for everyone because she was so proud of me. I could have died. My parents would have been more pleased with me if I had been more assertive; more outgoing.

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Growing Up As An Introvert

Growing up I was painfully shy. I had very few friends. The friends I did have had personalities like mine. We would read together or play together in our quiet games. I never wanted to eat in public for fear everyone was looking at me. I remember in High School I really wanted to be like the cheerleaders who were all bubbly and cute. How I envied them. I didn’t do sports because I didn’t want people looking at me. I just knew if I fell down or made a big blunder, I would absolutely die! There was always the fear of getting hurt. We introverts are very cautious people. We tend to think twice before doing anything that might cause injury. I would sit on the sidelines and watch instead of participate.

I Am Easily Recognized As An Introvert

Even now I am easily recognized as an introvert. I avoid parties and crowds. As Greta Garbo once said, “I want to be alone.” I don’t like to chat on the telephone. I say what is necessary and that is all. I am a good listener as most introverts are. I am a deep thinker. When I have to make a big decision I go to a quiet place and think. I enjoy my company. I don’t have to have people around me to entertain me. I like me. I am uncomfortable at parties, so I avoid them. We introverts sometimes play a role that is really not us. When we are forced into a situation where we have to be outgoing we can rise to the occasion. I sold cars for a while, and was good at that, but that was not the real me.

A lot of writers, music composers and entertainers are introverts. We tend to be creative people. We are always thinking of things to create: a painting, crafts or a story to write. Some politicians are introverted until the time comes that they have to perform by speaking in public to secure votes. The comedian hides his shyness behind a mask of humor. Johnny Carson is a good example. He was an introvert, believe it or not!

When I met the man who would later become my husband I could see right away he was an extrovert. He loved crowds, and loved to be the center of attention. I liked him a lot, and I wanted him to like me. It didn’t seem to bother him that I was shy. I made an effort to be more outgoing just to please him, but I just couldn’t pull it off. He accepted me the way I was. Sometimes we introverts can change to please others, but it is difficult, and probably not mentally healthy. Thankfully, he loved me the way I was.

Take The Quiz To See If You Are An Introvert

I no longer apologize for being an introvert. I am mistaken at times for being a snob. That is very common for us. Just because we don’t laugh and talk a lot, people believe we think we are superior to them. That is just not true. Don’t judge a person like me when you first meet us. We are not snobs. We are introverts.

Are you an introvert?

  • Do you express yourself best by writing?
  • Do you like solitude?
  • Do people say you are soft spoken and mellow.
  • Do you hate conflict?
  • Do you dislike talking on the phone?
  • Do you let phone calls go to voice mail?
  • Do you do your best work alone?
  • Are you known to be a good listener?
  • Are you a cautious person who never takes chances?
  • Do you think before you speak?
  • Do you prefer your own company more than the company of others?

If you answered Yes to those questions you are an introvert, and don’t ever apologize for that! There are a lot of worse things you could be.

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centp002 4 years ago

Great hub. Very interesting.


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Charlotte B Plum 4 years ago

Hey Mary615,

I totally connect with all that you have said in this hub, as I am a fellow introvert too, drawing energy from the times that I am alone. Thank you for writing this, it is definitely helpful for those who feel like misfits in our society that is so much more oriented to those who are extroverts.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada

I enjoyed the read! Reading about myself is always fun (lol). Yup, I'm a big-time introvert: for the most part alone and sometimes even when I am in public I am alone - I can zone-out fairly good from anything around me.

I don't mind it but I guess it doesn't go so well with others when I pull no-shows at parties, events, etc. I just don't enjoy crowds, unless it's demonstrations or political rallies (that's odd ...). I also don't mind crowds if I am speaking to the crowd, as in a presentation or what not ...

And yes, I am looked at as a snob too, many times. Like: "He's too good for us, that's why he woun't join us ...". Ohh well ... can't make everyone happy lol

Thanks for the write. Cheers! : )


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Loi-Renee 4 years ago from Jamaica

I am definitely an introvert, I've known that all my life. It does get hard at times.

I am not as much of an introvert as you described yourself to be. Our family was well known in the area so I got used to being put on the spot and expecting to take the lead. I was a student leader on the honor roll at all my schools and president of almost all the clubs I joined. I was even a cheerleader once.

But it was as if they were all an act. Everyone expected me to do those things so I did them and I excelled at everyone of them. I hate going out and if I do have to buy food at a restaurant I will just take it home and eat in private. I avoid conflicts and confrontations at all cost.

I remember in high school my friends and I used to take turns buying lunch for everyone and we would all find somewhere quiet and lonely to eat.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi cent002, thanks for reading about introverts, and for the nice compliment. Regards, Mary


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Charlotte, thanks for reading about we introverts. I see you can identify with the problem of being an introvert. Hey, we are creative and like to write,don't we? I have a daughter who is a true extrovert! She is so different from my son! Hope you have a wonderful day.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Mr. Happy, nice to see you today! Your being reluctant to speaking to crowds, but you will if necessary is so familiar to me. I will if I have to, but I would choose NOT to. Thanks for reading about being an introvert. I'm so glad you enjoyed the read.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Loi-Renee, sounds like you were a good actress just like I have always been. We are capable of assuming a role that is not really us, but we can do it if we have to. Your story is interesting to me: I'd rather order my food to take out and enjoy it at home, too. It's tough being an introvert sometimes, right?


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Movie Master 4 years ago from United Kingdom

Hi Mary, how interesting that you wrote 'we are always thinking of things to create' your hub has convinced me I am an introvert, it describes me so well!

An excellent hub thank you and voted up.

Best wishes Lesley


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teaches12345 4 years ago

Introverts are wonderful people, my husband is one of them. It is difficult to believe, but Harrison Ford is an introvert. He admits this himself. I saw him on a talk show and the host had to do most of talking and pull Ford out of his shell. It was done well but you could tell that Ford was uncomfortable.

It's ok though, we all have our strengths in spite of being quiet or loud. Great read, Mary, and very interesting. Voted up.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Lesley, I don't know you personally, but I do know you are extremely creative. Maybe you are a member of the introvert club!~ Nothing wrong with that. Thanks for reading and commenting, and for the vote. I appreciate that. Goodnight.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi teaches12345, I hadn't thought of Harrison Ford being an introvert, but now that you mention him, I can see that plainly in his personality. So glad you found my Hub a good read and interesting. Thanks so much for the vote, too. See you again soon, I hope.


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Barnsey 4 years ago from Happy Hunting Grounds

So...very...very...true! Great Hub!


Sueswan 4 years ago

Hi Mary,

I too am an introvert. I didn't take the quiz because I have taken the Myers Briggs Personality test through my employer.

A colleague of mine who recently retired was a subject matter expert on the Myers Briggs Personality test.

Many think that all introverts are shy. There are shy introverts and shy extroverts.

Introverts get their energy from within. Extroverts get their energy from others and external sources.

Voted up and away!

Have a good evening. :)


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Barnsey, Thanks for reading my Hub on introverts and for the nice compliment. Goodnight, Mary


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Sue, thanks for reading and for your thoughtful comment on whether or not you are an introvert. I am not familiar with the personality test you speak of. I'm going to look that up now. Thanks and goodnight.


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Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Thanks for this great and informative hub Mary. Yes, I'm an introvert. Always wondered why I hated unpleasantness now I know for sure. My comp and I are best friends.It's OK though cause I love to write and through that I can connect.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Good Morning, Gypsy. So nice to see you today! Thanks for reading my Hub about introverts. I think we writers are introverts at heart. We can express our feelings better than talking. Hope everything is great with you.


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drbj 4 years ago from south Florida

Thanks for the valuable, easy-to-understand information about being an introvert, mary, that should relieve the stigma perceived by those who feel being an introvert is less desirable than being an extrovert. Both preferences are equally valuable and worthy.

The Myers-Briggs Personality Preference Index is widely used by many corporations as a pre-hire assessment. It is a valuable instrument that I have administered hundreds of times. But there is a caveat. The problem often lies with the person who explains the results. I'm thinking about writing a hub with a short form of the M-B Inventory. Perhaps.


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Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

Thank you so much for this one mary;I loved it.

I can tell you that I am an 'Introvert';I can't say that I am surprised at all though plus I am quite happy being in this class!!

Thanks for this one mary;so original and fun.

Will we be seeing any more by you in the near future; I hope so!!

Take care and enjoy your day.

Eddy.


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picklesandrufus 4 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

very interestingtopic. I do believe life is a little harder for introverts. Really enjoyed reading your hub. I took the Myers Briggs personality test once and found I am borderline ...prefer solitude, but can come alive if need be. Vote up!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi drbj, thanks for reading my Hub about being an introvert. I looked up that test on the net, and it is long. I didn't finish it because I know I'm an introvert. I've taken many tests for employment, but not that one. Yes, I think you should write a Hub about the test especially with your background. I'm sure sure it would be very informative. See you again soon....


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Eddy, good to see you! Thanks for reading and commenting on my Hub about being an introvert. I'm not surprised to learn you are an introvert because of your creativity. I have stopped writing poetry on HubPages. I'm now concentrating on informative Hubs. I do love your writings though, keep them coming, OK? Love, Mary


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi picklesandrufus, thanks for reading and commenting. You sound like me...I'm an introvert, but if and when I'm called upon to be an extrovert, I can be quite animated! I am uncomfortable in that role, though. Thanks for the vote, too. See you again, Mary


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AudreyHowitt 4 years ago from California

Very cool! Have you ever taken the Myers Briggs ---there are a number of sites online where you can take it--and it measures a number of traits including introversion and extroversion--you might really enjoy taking a look---Really well thought out hub--I enjoyed it!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Audrey, I started taking that test, but didn't finish it because I know for a fact that I am an introvert! I'm glad you enjoyed my Hub; thanks for reading and commenting.


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AudreyHowitt 4 years ago from California

I am always surprised at the number of introverts that I meet! Wonderful hub Mary!


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Fuggy 4 years ago

I am an introvert through and through. I have a hard time at work and at church. My wife is an extrovert by nature. She sometimes cannot understand why I prefer to be alone and avoid social events.

I keep a small network of friends. I also prefer deep conversations about science, philosphy, and history. I feel people out before I open myself up to them. I cannot simply be open or the life of the party.

This is a great article because I am reminded that I am not alone in this way of life.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Fuggy. How nice to see you! Thanks for reading and commenting on my Hub about being an introvert. Yes, it's hard for extroverts to understand us sometimes. No, you are not alone. Some of the greatest thinkers of all time were introverts, so be proud of it! You are not alone.


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Rochelle Frank 4 years ago from California Gold Country

I enjoy being around people, I can give a workshop presentation in front of a group of people, I love to laugh with others-- but I answered yes to every one of your questions.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Rochelle Frank. Thanks for reading about being an introvert. There are people who have the ability of be extroverted even though they are truly introverted. Sounds like you have that capabiity. I'm an introvert for sure, but I can be extroverted when the occasion calls for it. Regards, Mary


girltalksshop 4 years ago

I can totally relate to your hub, Mary. I too was painfully shy all through my youth. I do not like conflict, or gatherings as I usually don't feel as if I fit in. I always am in need of my own space to re-group from a hectic day. You are right...most introverts are misread and thought of as snobs or unfriendly. I guess we can't all be extraverts, now can we? It would make for a very dull world. : ) Voted up and interesting. I really liked this hub!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, girltalksshop. I'm happy to see you today! Thanks for reading about being an introvert, and expressing your feelings. I have a daughter who is an extrovert,and she teases me about my shyness. I wish I could be more like her, but that's not me. Thanks so much for the vote. I appreciate that so much.


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago

Geez! Mary I failed..dang! I wasn't aware I was an introvert, until now. I guess is in our favor. Excellent Hub. Hope your son takes advantage of that state of mind.

LORD


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Lord, thanks for reading my Hub about being an introvert. I would have guessed you are truly an introvert because you are so intelligent and creative. Seems that most writers are. I can be an extrovert if I have to, but I'm uncomfortable. It is an interesting subject though, right? Goodnight.


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago

Have a good night Mary!


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Om Paramapoonya 4 years ago

Yep, me too! I am happily introverted! I do enjoy the company of my friends and like to hang out with them once a week or so, but not more often than that, because I also cherish having some quiet time with myself. Sometimes I think some people assume that introverts just have no social skills. In fact, I think we do but we just tend to feel more comfortable being in smaller groups of people and don't feel the need to socialize all the time.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi there, Om Paramapoonya. Nice to see you today! Thanks for reading about being an introvert. I agree with you 100%: People think we have no social skills, but we do! Like I said in my Hub: I like me and I don't feel the need to mingle with others too much. Regards, mary


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

I believe I am halfway in between extrovert and introvert. I love writing and being in a quite space. I do like talking on the phone, but I don't like drama. I enjoy going out with friends, but I am glad when its over. I was quit shy when I was a child. Anyway enough about me. lol!

I enjoyed the hub and the information on being an introvert. Now you are making me think. Thumbs up a and shared.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, AEvans. I am pleased that you took the time to read and comment on my Hub on being an introvert. Yes, it sounds like you are on the cusp on being either an introvert or an extrovert! I'm glad you enjoyed the read, and I thank you for the vote and the share! Have a wonderful day.....


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cloverleaffarm 4 years ago from The Hamlet of Effingham

Great hub Mary. I was once an introvert, but over the years came out of my shell...sort to speak. Thanks for sharing all the great information.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi there, cloverleaffarm, nice to see you today. Thanks for reading and commenting on my Hub about being an introvert. I'm so glad you liked it; thanks for the compiment. It seems that some people can change like yourself. I have tried over the years to change, and I can put up a good front if I have to, but I remain an introvert! Have a great day.


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annescripts 4 years ago from Gilbert, AZ

I'm a huge introvert, and my husband is an extrovert. I believe we had a recent conversation that went something like this:

Husband to me: You're always watching basketball.

Me to husband: Well, YOU'RE always talking on the phone.

We disintegrated into laughter as we heard how ridiculous this sounded coming from our designated genders. Then we realized that I was thrilled to be sitting all alone in my living room keeping track of my brackets for March Madness, and he was as happy as a little clam calling person after person on a Saturday to simply chat. Weird, but it works for us. Thanks for helping extroverts hopefully not think we're total crazies for being like we are! I can't imagine being any other way.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, annescripts. Nice to see you this morning! They say that opposites attract, and it seems like that your two different personalities work great for you! I think most writers and creative people in general are introverts like US! Thanks for reading and commenting.


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cloverleaffarm 4 years ago from The Hamlet of Effingham

mary, can you be both? I am outgoing when I am with friends, and family, but I am really kind of a homebody? Just wondering what you thought. I think I am part cat...lol.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, cloverleaffarm, I just checked my poll and 20% of the people that responded said they are not sure whether they are introverted or extroverted. You are not alone! Sounds like you are an introvert, but when you need to be you can be outgoing. That's the way I am. If I'm forced into a situation where I need to be friendly and outgoing, I can do that. I am just uncomfortable in that role. Thanks so much for reading and commenting. It's always nice to see you!~


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cloverleaffarm 4 years ago from The Hamlet of Effingham

I don't know. I have been part of several committees over the years, and people always tell me that I am outgoing and very animated. I don't see an introvert doing that, but I guess it doesn't matter. I am, who I am. I just like time alone to think and create. I create better when I'm in my "zone"...lol. Always nice to chat with you too. Have a great day. By the way, you can call me Kathy.


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BlossomSB 4 years ago from Victoria, Australia

A very interesting hub. I think I started off life as an introvert, but my Mother had other ideas! She taught me to play 'verbal ping-pong.' So now I think I'm a bit of each, but I still like to have time to myself. How can you create in a crowd?


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Good Morning, BlossomSB. Nice to see you today! I'm glad you found my Hub on being an introvert interesting. I've never heard of "verbal ping-pong". I'd like to know more about that. You are right: you can't create in a crowd. Thanks for taking the time to read and comment. See you again, soon....


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Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

I always thought I'm an invert, but when I began writing online, I began to explore my inner feelings, and now I'm quite an extrovert.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

I hope you got my response. I'm not sure my comment went through. I just wanted to say thanks for reading, and I really enjoy reading your work. Have a great day!


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Mrs. Menagerie 4 years ago from The Zoo

This is awesome Mary! Yup, I'm definitely an introvert.:)


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Mrs. Menagerie, thanks for reading and commenting on my Hub about being an introvert. I think most creative people are, don't you? Thanks for the compliment on my Hub. Hope you have a wonderful day!


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DzyMsLizzy 4 years ago from Oakley, CA

Ah, how your childhood sounds like mine. Although, with one difference--I do enjoy parties--at least, the family parties we used to have when I was a kid--we'd end up with someone playing the piano--someone goofing off--or sitting around the record player with "sing-along with Mitch" sheets. I loved that...but I could never replicate the experience in my own home when I grew up. Apparently, I missed something along the way about how to be a hostess...or maybe it was bad vibes from my ex-husband...not only was he an introvert, he actively hated people, and was a virtual hermit.

So I think I am this mix of introvert and extrovet. Parts of me, at times, are very wild and outgoing (my comedy improv experience, for one), and other times, I just want to clam up. But, I do NOT enjoy being alone..I feel lonely all by myself. As an only child, I always longed for a sibling. To this day, I enjoy doing things WITH at least one other person, for a hike in the woods is SO much more enjoyable with someone to share with, "would you LOOK at that beautiful ...(bird, waterfall, etc)... "

Voted up and shared.


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California

Hi Marry615...what a great article. Thank you for taking the time to share this with your readers. I consider myself a "partial" introvert in that I DO love being alone, writing, reading and doing other things which are considered 'creative.' I don't like "small talk" and have never really been good at it...or "chit chat" because it is difficult to be enthusiastic about casting about words just for the sake of doing so. I love deeper "in depth" discussions and real concern, questions, opinions...even if they might be controversial. I've never liked it when one refrains from speaking their true feelings for fear of being ostracized or outcast. I love solitude and the freedom of it. Conversely, I can 'perform' socially and do enjoy a lighthearted gathering...just not all the time or as the norm in terms of communicating. Writing is a great form of expression and fulfillment as well as a fabulous form of communication. Again, thank you for a great hub which certainly stirred my interest. Interesting, UP, Awesome and useful as well as beautiful for the freedom it allows both the writer as well as the reader.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, DzyMsLizzy, thanks for reading and commenting on my Hub about being an introvert. There is a name for people who are both, and I cannot remember what it is for the life of me! There truly are people who are about half and half. I am a true introvert, but I can "put on an act" if I have to. I prefer to be alone. Thanks so much for the vote and for sharing my Hub. I really appreciate that. Have a wonderful evening.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Lucky Cats, thanks so much for the very meaningful comment on my Hub about being an introvert. Thanks for the nice compliment on my Hub and for the vote. I appreciate that so much. See you again soon, I hope. Goodnight.


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alocsin 4 years ago from Orange County, CA

Definite introvert here. U.S. society definitely values extroversion more, though some other cultures, such as Japan, prefer introversion. I just had to learn and develop different strategies for coping with people. Voting this Up and Interesting.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Good Morning, alocsin. Nice to see you! I'm like you: I have had to learn how to cope with people by "putting on a little act", I suppose. Thanks for reading, and for the votes. I hope you have a wonderfuld day.


SusieQ42 4 years ago

Hi again, Mary. Yes, I am an introvert! I took your quiz and saw that 78% of the people who took it are also introverts. Funny, they are all writers. I was painfully shy too and still prefer to be alone. I cherish the hours when I'm by myself. My husband goes fishing on weekends and I love it when he's gone. This is "my" time...


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi SusieQ42. I agree, I think most writers are introverts. We like to be alone (so we can think and write). Thanks for the link to your interesting Hub! See you again, soon, I hope.


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Ruchi Urvashi 4 years ago from Singapore

Good quiz. I am an introvert too. Enjoyed reading your experience.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Ruchi, thanks for reading about an introvert and the quiz. I'm so glad you enjoyed the read. It is an interesting subject, isn't it? I do think most writers are introverts....

Hope you have a wonderful day.


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Peggy W 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

Definite introvert here. I was painfully shy as a kid. Have gotten much better but still prefer being with people I know verses a party scene filled with loads of people I do not know. My husband is an extrovert, so if we go out together he carries the ball with regard to conversation with others. Works well for us. Up votes and sharing.


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JKenny 4 years ago from Birmingham, England

My god, I just took your quiz and your questions more or less described my personality. 100% introvert...don't say it too loudly though hehe! Great hub.


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Sherry Hewins 4 years ago from Sierra Foothills, CA

The older I get the more my introverted side comes out. I prefer a job where I can work alone, and on weekends I rarely leave the house. Thanks for letting me know that there are plenty of others like me.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Peggy W. How nice to see you today! I'm like you, definitely an introvert. You and your hubby make a perfect pair, I'd say. My husband was the same way! I'd try and pretend to be extroverted when we were together.

Thanks for reading and commenting, the votes, and the share.

My best, Mary


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi JKenny, no I won't tell soul that you are an introvert! Don't you think most writers are??

I'm so glad you liked my Hub, Mary


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Sherry. You sound a lot like me. If I don't absolutely have to go out, I won't. I prefer staying home! It's good that we like our own company, right?

Thanks for reading and commenting, Mary


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AudreyHowitt 4 years ago from California

Interesting hub--the Myers Briggs test is a fairly consistent test over time--and a surprising number of people are introverts on that scale


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Audrey. Yes, I have taken the Myers Briggs test and I am definitely an introvert! I think a lot of writers are, don't you???

Thanks for reading and commenting, Mary


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AudreyHowitt 4 years ago from California

Probably most, I would venture to say!


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Peggy W 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

Hi Mary,

The HP button still doesn't work as far as sharing, so tweeted instead. Am sure that many people will find this interesting.


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dghbrh 4 years ago from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!!

Dear, a very practical and nice hub....I know out and out that I am an introvert which actually I enjoy being one. But for work I need to interact which I do out of compulsion only and that can be done artificially well enough as i just love my job. Your hub is a useful one.

Thanks...votes all up and sharing as well:-)


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HouseBuyersUS 4 years ago from Centreville, Virginia, USA

Hello mary615...

Whatever you have mentioned about introvert in this hub is so true. Actually I am also an introvert, I always have that kind of fear like If someone see me in public than what will be their reaction. I always have stage fear. I like hanging with my friends but only close ones. Suppose someone new suddenly come to join with us then I prefer not to go. I often think that whether I am normal or not! After reading your hub now I feel that this kind of behaviors exists in many people...thanks a lot...up


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Good Morning, Peggy. Thanks for coming back. I had problems yesterday with the "share" button, too. Thanks for giving me a tweet!

I hope you have a wonderful day, Mary


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi dghbrh, it looks like by the poll that most of us are introverts. Isn't that interesting. I'm like you...when I was in the work world, I had to make myself be outgoing, but that was not the real me.

Thanks so much for the votes and the share, Mary


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, HouseBuyersUS. Thanks for reading and for your interesting comment. Seems like all of us are a little on the introverted side.

Thanks for the votes, too.

My best, Mary


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vwriter 4 years ago from US

I found your article rather interesting. Yes, I'm an introvert. I am a deep thinker and good listener. And, I do not like talking on the phone much. I say what I have to say, and I am done. Thank God, there are others like me in that area. However, over the years, I've tried to pull myself out of my introverted nature, because being comfortable with yourself is fine, but everyone needs some human interaction. Great Article.


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sgbrown 4 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

I am an introvert. I was terribly shy as a child all the way up to my young adulthood. After my family moved away from where I grew up, I went back for a visit and some friends of my friends told me they thought I was a snob. Oh how opposite that was! I didn't talk much as I was afraid I would say something stupid.

I don't know when things changed, I guess I attained more self-confidence as I got older. I still prefer my small group of friends, but I have learned to be more outgoing. I have actually been in some sort of sales over the last 15 years and done very well.

Great hub, with very useful information. There is nothing wrong with being an introvert, but I am glad I have come out of it somewhat. Voted up and interesting. Have a wonderful day! :)


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi vwriter. It's interesting that almost all of us here on HP seem to be introverts! Maybe because most writers are!

I grew up very shy, but I have improved with age,

thanks for reading and commenting, Mary


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, sgbrown. Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment on my Hub about being an introvert. I also was thought of as being a snob when I was growing up. I'm sure being in sales has helped you a lot. My career in sales (among other things) certainly helped me.

Thanks so much for the votes, Mary


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FullOfLoveSites 4 years ago from United States

Many of the world's famous personalities are introverts, even actors and actresses, writers, artists and world figures. In front of the cameras and of people, they seem commanding but in real life, they're actually shy and uneasy. Thanks for the interesting hub, I like it. :)


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

HI, FullOfLoveSites, thanks for reading and commenting on my Hub about being an introvert. You are so right. Many entertainers are true introverts.

I'm so glad you like my Hub, Mary


Ghost32 4 years ago

I've long been intrigued by the quirks of human personality, including of course my own--which explains my psych degree, duh. But for me, there's never been a clear answer because:

1. I can FAKE being a hardcore extrovert really, really well.

2. Although I do truly detest confrontation, I've learned to handle it like a pro when I must.

3. However, at my core, I prefer the introvertive route.

I doubt even most of my closest family members--right down to my siblings--would ever think of applying the "introvert" label to me. But yeah, I express myself best through writing (and lately through photography), work best alone--THAT one's my MANTRA--and could be perfectly content living in 99% solitude, just coming to town for groceries a couple of times a year....

Voted Up Plus....


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Ghost32. I'm so pleased you read and commented on my Hub about introverts. I love your #1: I am the very same, I can fake it when I have to. I can relate to your #2, too. I definitely agree with your #3! I prefer the introvertive route.

I enjoy solitude, too. Thanks for the votes, I appreciate that.

Regards, Mary


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Crissylite 4 years ago

I loved the article! I am very much so an introvert. I have become more social, but I have come a looong way. & It's something because my husband is the opposite too! I think we balance each other.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Crissyite. Thanks for reading my hub about being an introvert. You are certainly not alone! It's good you and your hubby sort of balance each other. Mary


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

im an introvert myself and what you have written describing your son is like reading my own childhood. prefers to be alone, don't want to eat on a crowded resto or be talkative at school. my grades were excellent though..just want to be a small group of people.. :)

weird thing, all my close and special friends are all extroverts.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, unknown spy. My son is definitely an introvert, and like you, he makes good grades in school. His problem is he is so shy, he won't ask the teacher if he does't understand a problem!

Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment, Mary


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midget38 4 years ago from Singapore

Took the quiz! Definitely an extrovert. But I love writing! I wonder what it makes me, an extra-introvert? A very interesting hub, Mary!! I share and tweet.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, midget38. I envy people like yourself who are extroverts! I wish I could be more like that. A lot of people say they are sort of half and half.

Thanks for reading, the shares and the tweet. I appreciate that! Mary


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phoenix2327 4 years ago from United Kingdom

Finally, someone who understands. Thanks for writing this.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, phoenix2327. Sounds like you might be "one of us"! Oh, yes, I do understand what it is like to be an introvert.

Thanks for reading and commenting, Mary


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phoenix2327 4 years ago from United Kingdom

No might be about it. I answered 'Yes' to all the questions apart from the ones about conflict and caution. I've always been this way and someone has always tried to get me out of my 'shell'. I know they thought they were doing me a favour, but it would have been nice if they had asked me if I wanted to come out. To which I would have replied 'No thank you but it's nice of you to ask.'


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, phoenix2327. Don't you just hate it when someone thinks they are doing you a favor by "helping you get out of your shell" when you love it there??? I'm the same way. My grandson is, too. I understand him now that I have accepted the fact that he truly is an introvert.

I'm like you: I like me and I enjoy my company.

My best, Mary


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phoenix2327 4 years ago from United Kingdom

I suppose it works both ways. They don't understand our preference for solitude and we don't understand their need to constant company. But that's what makes the world go round, doesn't it.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Yes, phoenix2327, your are so right!


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CakeyCakey 4 years ago

I liked the section titled "Am I Easily Recognized As An Introvert"? I think that there are plenty of folks who come across as outgoing or "bubbly" (as you referred to the cheerleaders), when they are actually fairly shy but have learned to project that image. I wonder if there is a difference between the two???


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

HI, CakeyCakey. Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment on my Hub about being an Introvert. Oh, I think it's very true that shy people act all outgoing when they are really very shy and just cover it up. A lot of entertainers seem to fall into that group.

My best, Mary


oceansider 4 years ago

Hi Mary,

I really like your article, and it got me thinking about whether I am an introvert or not..... Being alone when I want to read or write is very important to me, and I don't like crowds too much. I do like being with my family and friends....but I prefer being with one or two people when I do things, rather than a large group.....Talking on the phone is something I do regularly with my closest friends and with my four grown children......so I know that I am in the middle there somewhere...I am not completely an introvert, but not completely an extrovert either.....Sometimes I really love being alone when I walk at the beach, but then other times, I love walking with a friend.

Thanks for your article, it was well done!.....Voted up & shared too.

Take care, Helen


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gail641 4 years ago from Mason City

Very interesting hub! I have always been shy and introverted. Its difficult to be introverted, but its okay, too. It was hard for me in school. I agree with your hub 100%. I know that persons who are shy are not snobs and definety don't think that they're better than anyone else. Great hub on Introverts, too! Very informative and thoughtful!


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cclitgirl 4 years ago from Western NC

Mary! I love this hub! I'm TOTALLY an introvert. I figured out how to put on the "extroverted" act growing up because I was an introvert in a family of extroverts. My mom and I would go round and round about how I wanted to stay home and she said I needed to get out of the house. When she made me go, I usually enjoyed myself, but I could never wait to get home. I love my space, my time, my computer, books, reading, art, crafts, you name it! I am following my bliss that way! I always think that because I don't like to go out much, that the world is passing me by. I also understand that because of my introversion, people either like me or dislike me - there's not much of an in-between. It took me a long time to come to terms with the fact that I'm the sort of person who has maybe 5 close friends (many of whom I've had since I was young) and yes, I have acquaintances, but I really only interact with my close circle of friends. Apparently I have one of the rarest personality types, too: INFJ. Until I figured that out about myself, I could never figure out why I wasn't popular or didn't have many friends. I wanted to be well-liked in school so badly. I was well-liked all right: by my teachers. I actually loved it when they'd invite me to their offices or classrooms for lunch. Then, the pressure to be a teenager who has to "fit-in" wore off. Knowing what I know now, I totally see why I wasn't popular: I was too busy being quiet, listening and fumbling my way through social relationships.

This article will be helpful for so many, and was so refreshing to read. :)


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K9keystrokes 4 years ago from Northern, California

Without all of the different people on this big beautiful globe, it would be a pretty boring place to exist! Introverts have a ton to say, but you must listen closely. ;)

Great look at personality types, Mary!

HubHugs~


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Helen. you sound pretty much like me. There are times when I want to be alone, and other times, I enjoy the company of others.

Thanks for the nice compliment on my Hub, for the votes and the share. I do appreciate that, Mary


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, gail641. Nice to meet you today~! Thanks for reading and commenting on my Hub about introverts. I was very shy in shool, and people thought I was a snob, but I wasn't a snob.

My best, Mary


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi cclitgirl. Thanks for reading and for your thoughtful comment. You sound so much like my 17yr old son. I wish I could make him more outgoing, and to have more personality, but he is who he is. He is very intelligent, makes good grades and the teachers all love him.

Regards, Mary


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi K9keystrokes. Thanks for reading and commenting on my Hub about being an introvert. I do believe most writers are introverts.

My best, Mary


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gail641 4 years ago from Mason City

I was very shy in school, too. I have always loved the song, "Mr. Lonely." I remember it from many years ago in the 1960s. Great song.


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Magdaleine 4 years ago

Hi Mary, your article is like my own autobiography... haha.. when I was about 3 years old, my grandmother was wondering whether I could speak or not, I was too shy to speak to her.


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Ana Louis 4 years ago from Louisiana

I enjoyed this hub very much. As a fellow introvert I appreciate your words. I too was considered a snob, and I was always surprised by that. The thought that I felt superior to anyone was absusrd - just the opposite was true.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Magdaleine. I thought the same thing as your Grandmother about my 17yr. old son. When he was a little boy, I was worried that he might "be slow", but actually he is a genius! I know what it's like to be shy, cause I'm an introvert, too. Hey, there's nothing wrong with that!

Thanks for taking the time to read and comment. Mary


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Ana Louis. Nice to see you today. Isn't it awful to be thought of as being a snob, when you are just an introvert???? We are so misunderstood.

Thanks for reading and commenting on my Hub about being an introvert.

My best to you, Mary


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b. Malin 4 years ago

First off, I have to tell you Mary, that I used to have that Famous Statue, "The Thinker"...I Think one of my Sons, when they were little, broke it by accident.

Wonderful Hub, A Fun, Educational, and Enjoyable read. And I've got to tell you, after looking at the test, I must be an Introvert! That is Except for talking on the Phone, which I like, and I never let it go to Voice Mail, it could be a Friend, who just needs to talk.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

HI, b.Malin. Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment. I'm glad you liked my Hub on being an introvert. I'm glad you enjoyed it. I hate talking on the phone. When my phone rings, I say a bad word!

I do think most writers are introverts.

My best, Mary


lovedoctor926 4 years ago

A very good hub! I am an extrovert, but after taking this test, I find that there are introvert characteristics in me as well. I like to spend quiet time alone too. I work better alone than as a team because when you work with other people, there is usually too much chit chat and usually there are a few slackers and usually someone ends up doing all of the work while the rest just sit back and take all of the credit. I can express my thoughts better in writing than in person. It all depends what it is that I am trying to convey. I don't mind talking on the phone, but not for long. I don't mind conflict because it opens up the channels of communication. you hear both sides and come to a resolution. outspoken, good listener, both in the company of others and alone. yes, definitely think before I speak.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Good Morning, lovedoctor926. First, thanks for the nice compliment on my Hub about being an introvert. I agree with you about working in a group. I would rather do projects by myself, too. You made a thoughtful comment about conflict; that's a good way of looking at it.

Have a great day. Hope to see you again, soon. Mary


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writinglover 4 years ago from Lost...In Poetry

I liked this hub a lot. Most of the descriptions you give just about suit me to a 'T'. I always liked working by myself in school since, as lovedoctor926 said, there was a lot of chatting and slacking off. However, I have some extrovert characteristics, too, since I work in retail. I think I have an on/off switch on my back! LOL! Thumbs up for an excellent hub!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, writinglover. I'm like you in that I am a true introvert, but I can "turn the switch" off and on if the need arises. When I was in sales, I was a completely different person than I normally am.

Thanks for reading and adding your great comment, and thanks for the thumbs up!

Hope you have a wonderful day, Mary


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Thelma Alberts 3 years ago from Germany

I was introvert before I got married. I can relate to your stories about your son and you. I was too shy when I was in elementary grades, high school and even in college. I was bullied when I was in elementary grades and I hated me for not be able to stand for myself. Time changed when I got married. I had to learn to speak for myself for there was only me in a foreign land. I was not in my comfort zone, my family. Thankfully my hubby helped me to overcome the shyness and taught me how to live surrounded by Germans. Now I´m in between introvert and extrovert.

Thanks for reminding me who I was. I enjoyed reading this hub. Have a great day Mary!


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida Author

Good Morning, Thelma Alberts. I apologize for the delay in responding to your nice comment, but I moved and had no computer for a couple of day.

Thanks for reading. I can't imagine being thrown into a new country like you were and having to live among different people.

I think I am like you are now: sort of in between personalities.

I hope your day goes well for you, too. Mary


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livingsta 3 years ago from United Kingdom

Hi Mary, thank you for this hub. I am smiling. I have often felt really really bad thinking I did not possess the skills other people do, for example take part in social activities and other things. I have many a times been blamed as aperson who would not get anything unless I opened up and shared, which I could not. I was looked upon as crazy for being alone, doing things alone :-) The saddest part is, people just do not want to understand. I am glad to have come across this hub and it clearly states the qualities of introverts. I am happy the way I am now!

Voted up and sharing.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida

Hi Most people who know me think I am an extrovert. But a huge piece of me is really an introvert. It has been problematic for me at times.

Angels are on the way to you this morning. ps


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida Author

Hi livingsta. Thanks for reading. It is a wonderful thing to be happy with yourself! So many people are not.

Thanks for the vote and the share. Have a wonderful day. Mary


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida Author

Hi pstraubie48. I'm an introvert myself. I just try and "put on a show" when the need arises to be extroverted.

It's so nice to see you today, Mary


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL

I am definitely NOT an introvert. I'm to outspoken and opinionated to be. I also enjoy talking to and listening to people...Yet, I do enjoy some quiet time and I do express myself best through my words. Excellent hub! You won't get a confrontation from me! :)


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April Garner 2 years ago from Austin, Texas

Great article! For a lot of my life, I thought I was weird, because I was awkward in social situations when I didn't know the people well. I love to work by myself and really focus on my writing or whatever else I'm doing. I do my best work when no one's home but me. Thanks for writing this and putting the word out about us introverts!


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mary615 2 years ago from Florida Author

Good Morning, Sunshine625 No, you are definitely not an introvert! I wish I had your sunshine attitude and disposition, not to mention your energy!

Thanks for the nice compliment on my Hub, and I hope you have a wonderful day, Mary


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mary615 2 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, April Garner. No, you are not weird! People always thought I was weird, too and also thought I was a big snob!!

I prefer being alone even to this day; even my family don't understand that.

Thanks for reading and commenting, Mary


Margaret 2 years ago

I don't know if I'm an introvert or shy or even both. I do like quiet time where I sit and read. Maybe I'll sit the woods for hours sitting in a tree and listening to the birds and watching the deer and rabbits stroll by. But when I am at school, I am always yearning to talk to people and actually have friends. Sometimes I try to join in but I am brushed aside. I do like being alone; but sometimes I don't and wish I could be more social and talkative. What am I?


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mary615 2 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Margaret I was extremely shy and introverted in my teen years, but I practiced being outgoing. Then it became second nature. So practice being more talkative and surround yourself with fun loving people who like to laugh!


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Nell Rose 2 years ago from England

I think I am a bit of both to be honest, when I am out I am a huge extrovert, but when I need to be indoors and away from people then yes definitely an introvert, I was terrible in my school years, but changed as I got older, interesting stuff mary, thanks, nell


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mary615 2 years ago from Florida Author

I am pretty much the same way, Nell Rose. I had to really learn to come out of my shell to be in the work world, but I prefer to be alone, honestly.

Thanks for reading and commenting. My best, Mary

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