BEING A REAL MOTHER....

" A Mother, is the essence of life. We were chosen to carry out the most important task of bearing life.

Many do not understand the above quote.....simply because it takes two to make an baby. The male's sperm and the female's eggs. This is merely biology; nothing more. A woman gives life to an child.....period. Most men (not all) are what I call the ex-factor; once they contribute the sperm....let's be honest.....his contribution to the life of the child "stops" there. The woman carries and nourishes the developing child during the pregnancy. After the birth of the child she's left with the late night feedings, illnesses, upbringing, care and financial needs of said child. The mother's life is on hold basically for the next 18 years; not, considering if she has more children. A man can go and come as he pleases and most decide after an given length of time to move on with new families or just simply be bachelors. How convenient for them. Now in an effort to be fair, all men are not this way. There are some father's (real men) who play very active roles in their children lives; but, they are "rare" to come by. I commend these father's for their dedication. This article is not about them! This article is directed toward the men that use excuses to walk out and remain out of their children's lives. HOW DARE YOU?! If you were man enough to create an life, then, you should be man enough to remain in their lives regardless if you are not with the mother's or against the efforts of her who would seperate you and your children. There is no excuse!

Don't get me wrong; there are many women out there who are sad excuses for mothers and along with the no excuse for an father destroy the lives of their kids.

BLATANT ABANDONMENT!! These poor children could acquire families that love them to no ends; but, if they have full knowledge of the parent's that left them behind....they are filled with hopelessness, anger and no self worth. They are haunted by imaginations of what could have been and the feeling of not being loved by parents who in fact were not worthy of their love. Had they been, they would have taken on their responsibilities of loving and caring for their own children. I hear these stories of how, many were just children themselves and could not care for an child, blah, blah, blah. Are you kidding me?! This is just the excuse for weak selfish cowards who could care less what happens to the child they brought into this evil world. Every story of adoption does not end up being an happy ending. They are tortured beginnings and tragic endings. Police arrested and charged Raymond and Vanessa Jackson with 28 counts of child endangerment and aggravated assault. They prohibited their 4 adoptive sons from going to school and even from walking outside alone. The children spent their days in a basement or on a stairwell. They were beaten with brooms, belt buckles, rulers and sticks as well as starved. Although, this story did not end tragically; these children will be forever scarred.

Police said Nubia Barahona, 10, died from blunt-force trauma. Jorge and Carmen Barahona each face charges of first-degree murder, aggravated child abuse and neglect in the case. Her twin Victor found unsconcious doused in chemicals and suffering with convulsions while his twin laid dead in the back cab of the truck along side the road with one of their abusers. These people would beat and cage these children in a bathtub!

I could go and on with these unfortunated endings of children lives; but, I am simply making a point. Real Mothers are the ones who take on their responsibilities as the sole provider for their children. HOW COULD YOU NOT?! These are children that grew inside of you; that, are apart of you! Regardless of her circumstances in life, it is her responsibility to take the best care of her children rather than put them in the care of others who would bring them harm. Take notice I typed "REAL MOTHERS"!! If your situation goes from bad to worse, ask a family member or friend to help with the children until you get things back to better. Do not and I stress DO NOT, bring in a stranger (man) you know nothing about to play father. I know the extra income is of great need; but not at the cost of risking the lives of your children. STOP, THINK AND PAY ATTENTION do not be lead my false advertising when chosing an mate.

~ Paedams

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kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

I am not quite sure what made me read your article.

I am not the one to answer your questions. I would rather suggest to study psychology and sociology to figure out WHAT people do and WHY they do it.

However, on the subject of REAL people. All people are real. They are not artificial.

I will give you only one example - war. Two pilots dropped nuclear bombs on Hiroshima and Nagasaki. No judgment.

How many lives? How many children? Vietnam?

Were those bad people? I doubt it. Who gave the order? A bad person? An artificial one?

Maybe asking questions is a good beginning, but you have to be ready for very unsettling answer.


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SweetMocha-Monroe 5 years ago Author

Thanks for reading kallin2010. Your point is taken on the REAL; real as in being about your business is what my point is. Although, I admire these people for giving their children what they consider an better life. The reality is........many of these children die at the hands of individuals not fit to raise frogs so how would they be appropriate for an child. The bombs and all those other issues, simply put is WAR; not my subject. This life is unsettling and I deal with it daily. These children want and need answers to these questions whether they are unsettling or not. They would rather know why they where given up as opposed to nothing. They at least owe them an answer.

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