5 Personality Traits to Avoid like Plague

We meet a lot of people. Some we like, some we don't. You don't get to choose everyone who surrounds you, neither can you choose relatives, nor all your colleagues. But whenever you have the choice, try to stay away or spend as less time as possible with people which exhibit any of these 5 characteristics. Check out the serious advice hidden in the funny descriptions. And run away fast from people who feature any of these ~

Constantly Sad (Thanks to my mom for the sketch)
Constantly Sad (Thanks to my mom for the sketch)

1. Dullness Personified

This one is the worst of all. It becomes difficult to breathe around people who are too slow and dull. It is as if they don't know even the iota of liveliness. This kind of people sit with generally a frown/sad expression to pass their time, thinking of all kind of nonsense their head will allow. When you don't have a choice, but to stay with such people, try to make them smile - could be tough - depends on the intensity of this characteristic they exhibit.

These people typically have no hobbies, no interests to pursue, to talk about - so they lack topics of general conversation. They tend to repeat themselves if forced to establish a conversation, their topics would generally include criticizing the neighbours relatives etc. over and over again for same things. It could be a young neighbour who has put on weight too early after marriage, or it could be a relative who is not a great cook. Most often the poor people who are being criticized or their horrible habits have got nothing to do with our dullness personified guys/gals. But as I said, to compensate for the lack of topics, they will go on and on and on about nonsensical stuff which has got nothing to do with them. So don't allow any sympathies to be wasted with an assumption that they are just sharing their sorrows.

They won't have recent favorite songs or poetry to share. They generally are either not creative at all, or they don't give heed to their creativity more than the dullness which surrounds them, which they seem to have fallen in love with.

If you spend little too much time with these people, you will start feeling the impact of negativity caused by the cloud of dullness. In any case, futile inane criticism, which doesn't even make anyone laugh, is hyper wastage of a priceless, limited resource - Time.

2. Show Off is a Compulsion

This is terrible too. Irony is, even the sensible kind of people fall in the trap of this category when they spend too much time with people for whom Show Off is a Compulsion. The peer pressure is quite effective here.

One would think, that such people would show off and talk boastfully about their assets - starting from land, cars & money to jewels, designer or expensive clothes, latest gadgets etc. Sometimes such show off could be interesting, it could bring upon some interesting discussion which might prove to be knowledge enhancing, irrespective of the initial motive of initiation of the topic.

But hang on, that's not it. Our showy chaps can also boast about the people they are related to or even people they are acquainted with! It would be challenge to keep a straight face when someone proudly tells about a relative who has used flight as a medium of travel instead of train or road (as if flying gave them actual wings), or about number of people working under an acquaintance, about whose work they would know nothing at all.

After you spend some time with the fake glitter of show off - check it out - you might catch yourself bragging about something you know wasn't a big deal at all. So be aware - don't be a victim to their trap of false glamour.

3. Illogical but convinced they Know it all

This kind of characters are very difficult to talk to - even if you want to have polite conversations with them out of respect. They are absolutely illogical but they are thoroughly convinced that they know it all. And if you are attempting to convince them otherwise, you are in bad need of immense amount of patience and sheer good luck.

Okay, so as an example, such people are capable of this - you share a news of jerks in an airplane while landing - they will compare it to a scooter which is bumping due to lack of petrol. You read it correct. They can also blame mutual funds to be cheats after having suffered a loss, and if you try to remind them about the risks that they had accepted, then you've had it.

The know it all's are often offensive. Rather they become offending while defending themselves. And they somehow feel the need of defending themselves all the time. They are on a continuous lookout for potential offenses. They could be living nightmares for people who are straightforward and honest.

Do you know someone with any of above?

Any of these ring a bell? Do you attempt to avoid them?

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4. Too Worried, Too Negative

While they might not mean harm, these people are definitely not the ones you would want to go with a problem, or a bad news. They will give you rather intense reactions, and make the impact of your bad news worse. They might say, "Oh God! Now what?" They won't be able to get over the suspicion and scepticism of situations being awful and out of hand - while they might not be all the bad.

Instead of uplifting you, they'll increase the problems by the almost constant flow of horrendous vibes of worry and negativity. They are unable to come up with any possible situations, remedies - they just don't react in a fruitful manner - to quote from "Big Bang Theory" - they are "constitutionally incapable" of solving problems, they can only enhance them.

5. Can't Appreciate Logically

This is an ironical trait - quite complex and not easily perceived. Just look out for the following - if someone has the tendency to appreciate the weak looking - and won't appreciate the same quality in someone who looks capable enough - the moment of running has come.

These people are actually rather frustrated in life, although they might not apparently accept it. They want to appreciate apparently harmless weak people, as they don't feel threatened by them. Anyone who actually deserve words of praise will straight away go to their black books. This is because, generally, they have a feeling that they are incapable of achieving the same skills/goals etc. Since they can not, the threat is potent enough to increase the level of insecurity.

Everyone likes appreciation, and let's face it, logical people like logical appreciation - even if it doesn't concern them directly. A lot of illogical praise can be as annoying and irritating as someone being wrongly put down because of a stupid insecurity. If you have a short temper, this trait is your ultimate cue to run.

Running can be Virtual

Sometimes the bond you share with people having any of the above characteristic traits is stronger than your desire to run. In such cases, avoid the specific topics which bring out the worst in them. Take the threads of conversations in your hands. Keep it light and simple. And you will be successful in the virtual run.

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gmwilliams 5 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

I like this hub. Sadly, I have encountered these types of people. Ugh! They give me an intense migraine. These "people" are truly lost souls.


Giselle Maine 5 years ago

Hi Anusha, a great hub. Yes, what frustrates me most about the "dullness" type of people is that they often complain that they don't get to meet people easily, but they are often totally resistant to getting involved in hobbies or community groups! A very interesting hub.

By the way, I was so impressed with the sketch "Constantly Sad" - I saw on the caption that your mom drew it. She is really talented and it comes through in her work - this piece of art is beautiful and thought-provoking all at once.


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anusha15 5 years ago from Delhi, India Author

@ gmwillams - I completely understand your migraine, it's sad and worst is they don't want to change :( Lost souls don't want to be found out. Thanks so much for commenting.

@ Giselle - Hey, thanks so much for the encouragement for my mom's sketch, I told her and she was delighted. She made this one on my iPad. I'm planning to publish her sketches on my website under an Artist's Gallery :)

And yes, you're so correct, with no efforts at all from their side, they still have heart to complain. Cribbing, complaining and frustration takes up all the space and little is left for the sheer joy of life. :(


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

A good hub Anusha15.

I agree with ya on the above...such traits of people are such a pain but I guess to have such people around makes us feel diversified and help us be a better person ;)


Ashish 5 years ago

Intresting stuff


Giselle Maine 5 years ago

Anusha - I was fascinated to hear that your mom's sketch was on an iPad. Looking at it, I had simply assumed it was ink pen on paper. I have no idea how she managed to create something so 'organic-looking' while using a device which is anything but! - and am really impresed with her skills. Has your mom ever thought about selling some of her work (work that is on paper or other hard media, I mean)? e.g. on Etsy.com? (I'm not sure if that's easy or hard to do though - I've never had experience in that. Fellow hubber randomcreative has sold on Etsy & hubbed about it, but not paintings/drawings). But if the idea of selling her art stresses your mom out then she needn't do that, because art should be enjoyable for the artist & not be fraught with too much stress! Anyhow just an idea. And if she happened to be interested in it in the future, the selling of her sketches needn't be an either/or compared to your Artist's Gallery, it can be in addition to your website. And by the way I think your idea of having her artwork displayed in your Artist's Gallery is a really good one.


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anusha15 5 years ago from Delhi, India Author

@ Ruchira, I won't disagree with you completely, but neither do I fully support the notion of feeling diversified because of presence of such people around. They kind of spread dullness - Too much exposure in fact affects my productivity. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. :)

Ashish, I'm glad you liked the hub. Thanks for commenting.

Giselle, it was great to see you back on this hub. Well when I tell my mom about this, she would be very excited and happy. I'll check Etsy.com, in fact I want my mom to take her talent seriously. In my opinion, she is wasting a lot of her time and talent in mundane tasks. So thanks a ton for the idea.

Since you like the 'organic looking' art, just check this out http://mrdoob.com/projects/harmony/ My iPad has a similar app, which mom used to draw. I'm sure you'll like it. Thank you so much for your encouragement for mom's sketch once again.


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divacratus 4 years ago from India

Interesting list! What turns me off the most is negativity. I can't stand to be around negative people. The moment someone starts whining or complaining, I run for my life.


Lena 3 years ago

I have an aunt that is negative and complains constantly. I don't see her often so when we cross paths, I take a moment to sit with her. She always listens to me and acts interested in how I am doing, so I show her the same respect by listening to her. Unfortunately, her discussions always turn to lengthy descriptions of minor inconveniences. After 20 minutes with her, I start to feel exhausted. At that point, I have to either change the subject to something positive or make up an excuse to get away from her. Her life has been difficult, so I assume that is why she has grown so bitter. Do you think she could ever change?


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anusha15 3 years ago from Delhi, India Author

She can't... or may be she can, if people around her would want her to. How close you are to her? May be you can encourage her to take a long forgotten hobby. What else? Old people often love to share their experiences from their youth, via this they relive their youth. May be you could direct the conversation to more happy things - from her youth, to some jokes, to her past achievements, to your achievements. And then, may be gradually she'll unconsciously realize that she is far more happy person when she discusses happy things... Preaching in such cases is futile, in my opinion :) You could definitely give it a try, main reason for that being, as you said, she listens... that's as rare as it is good, specially with old people who love to discuss minor inconveniences at length :D

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