Choose Your Day's Colors

CXXVI.



Color Wheel

Inner Light

Unquenchable

Glows and variegates

Into beautiful

Free patterns

Painted upon

The screen of life

In vivid, powerful

Colors

Between what's real

And known.


______© Nellieanna H. Hay




We all are surely aware of the effects of our homes' interior rooms' wall colors on our mood, our state of mind, our perspective - even on our appetite and ability to fall asleep easily! Certainly advertisers are keenly aware anduse color creatively to condition our minds to accept or want their wares!


For instance, the 'cool colors' - blue, green, lavender and even cool white or pearl gray - are restful and beneficial for bedrooms and sitting rooms. The warm colors, especially reds, are 'eat-y' - they stimulate our taste buds to prepare for pleasant eating and drinking, so they work well in dining and recreation rooms. How many restaurants have you noticed that incorporate this mind-effect? I venture to say you know of some which do! I vividly recall some of New Orleans' French Quarter posh eateries which do!

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"Earth tones", - the browns, taupes, beiges, ivory - are excellent for no-nonsense rooms such as home offices and computer rooms. Activity rooms, such as kitchens, exercise rooms, play rooms, may call for bright yellow or orange, as they stimulate muscular responses - and so on and so on. We accept these bits of knowledge as usable, valid facts which can be adjusted to our individual tastes and preferences and incorporated into our home decorating schemes.

Are you with me so far?




Let's consider a more ubiquitous color-power we exert over our own daily lives.



You see, what may be less understood is: that room color is only an external part of the role color plays in our lives and on our psyches! What is special about these other areas of applicability is how subtle or even insidious they can be and yet how ever-present and 'on the job' they are, wherever we are, wherever we go and whenever we are awake and cognizant, - perhaps even when we are not fully cognizant, in fact! Even the light and darkness of at the same colors produce different effects on our perceptions, looking out from our inner selves. We project the colors of our mood on what is out there, so that we literally 'see' it so, regardless of its actual color, mood or neutrality!

The advantage is that it requires no paint, brushes, ladders or any other paraphernalia to change our colors of perception when we choose to do so!



Either way, we literally color our own thoughts, emotions and responses with mood-altering hues, tints and shades we unconsciously paint across our perceptions, setting ourselves up to see "out" of our own pre-consciousness the perceived world around us in whatever very effective mind-directing colors we've chosen to set in place! It needn't be at an upper conscious level, which renders its effects all the more insidiously effective and convincing!


But it can as well be a willful choice, though in making it, we surely don't fully realize that we're literally choosing its effects and how we're setting up our ability to respond (response-ability!) to external events.


In essence, when we become aware of our potent power over our perspectives, we can get to decide and choose how we will be perceiving our experiences! We needn't be tossed about upon them. We are constantly drawing to ourselves what we are expecting; perhaps not all the actual things and events themselves, though there is a domino effect from attitude over even those. But the vital effects upon our responses, we are always determining: namely how the external events will impact our awareness and how they'll stimulate and affect our responses, which in turn, produce tangible results which reverberate throughout our experiences and affect our health and happiness for better or for worse. It's an awesome response-ability! And it's ours to claim!

In retrospect, we often realize that we could have chosen to react differently to the same stimulus to which we acted detrimentally. Why didn't we, we wonder? Were we powerless?

No, we were simply unaware (or skeptical) of where and how we have choices determining the impact and effects on us and our well-being which ensue. These are ours, mainly requiring only our choice. They do not rest upon the external vicissitudes, which are inevitable because this is LIFE and life consists of 'ups and downs'. It's a fact. The responses are ours and under our own jurisdiction.

Though we may have stockpiled damaging negative mood-changing expectations and pre-determinants which rise to block more reasonable successful responses, realizing that those factors originated within our own attitudes, are changeable and products of our own choice is the opening opportunity to change the pattern. This doesn't happen by itself in the past or in the present. The good news is that we can learn to begin choosing how we are internally preparing to see the inevitable 'good' and 'bad" things when they occur in our journey along life's paths, as they surely will; - and therefore how we'll be able to respond under pressure. It's among our finer aptitudes as human being and if we believe in a higher power, it's the very least we can contribute to our own welfare! ;-)

So, yes . . . it is part of our personal response-ability!



I remembered the little family incident I'm about to share which illustrates it in quite simple terms. You be the judge. We've nothing to lose by considering how we might take charge of our own driver's seat rather than being helplessly tossed about by our emotions which may be purely arbitrary and not in the least 'ordained' or inevitable! It's a nice feeling to choose, even if our choice might be to let the wild emotions rule and reign over us at various times! It is our choice, either way, whether or not we realize it. Knowing that is liberating!

A real-life example

When visiting my daughter and the three little daughters she then had in 1988, my husband and I took our RV and parked it in her front driveway. Space was limited in the house, so we slept in the RV duriing the visit. My daughter needed to leave for work before her 1st-grader’s school bus came to pick her up, so Kasey came out and stayed in the RV with us to wait for it after Dyane left for work.

Out came Kasey scowling, quite upset that her mother hadn’t let her wear what she wanted to school. She was clouded with pouts and much too angry to eat anything offered her. There were crayons in the RV, with which she launched a violent 'painting' in angry black shapes furiously filling the paper. It was emotion in fierce, gloomy, dismal color. It might be proposed that it released her anger; possibly, but at a cost to her innards, the mood of her entire day and patterns for her disposition and its effects on others. Besides, it's unnecessary. Every time we choose that route, we damage ourselves somewhat. To a 6-year old, the immediate physical damage may be negligible, but the pattern set can last a lifetime when the damages and their effects intensify.














I ventured a suggestion that she gets to pick her colors for her day, as well as their shapes. She paused enough to allow it to be heard, gradually beginning to process the new idea, because even at 6, she was bright enough to hear a calm, sensible message with which she had no facts to quarrel. So she, herself, decided to file the dark painting and start a new one, trying some brighter, more upbeat colors to draw more organized images with happier expressions. She began to smile and feel better. Her anger issue was virtually forgotten, though she wasn't wearing the dress she'd preferred to wear.

She wore a pretty countenance.

She began to draw with enthusiasm and even asked for some toast. She boarded her school bus skipping and in a cheery frame of mind, the reverse of her earlier mood.

What makes this story resonant is that Kasey was no 'easy' child who bought into whatever she was told. She could be a 'handful', but she also gave ideas due consideration. It's gratifying that she's grown into a determined, independent woman who meets her challenges with courage and self-application. Quite an amazing gal!

Nothing had changed that day but her own perspective reset by her own choices.


Now she’s a mother, has earned a college degree and is working on an advanced degree while expecting another baby. She has learned and applied valuable lessons in life. We smile about “Choose your colors” and she fully realizes the value of uplifting her sites from dark and negative to focus on bright and positive around her all along.

Kasey is my second eldest grandchild, with a sister 6 years older; Izzy is my youngest great grandchild, with cousins in their upper teens.  Where does time go?
Kasey is my second eldest grandchild, with a sister 6 years older; Izzy is my youngest great grandchild, with cousins in their upper teens. Where does time go?

"I Choose My Day's Colors" is an excellent mindset for any of us, any time, any age, knowing that one's mental perspective will determine one's images of what is “out there” and will enable one to see their colors accordingly.

Expecting negatives stimulates negative impressions in the mind by steering its focus to the ubiquitous shadows which are the underside of the light. Expecting positives stirs attention to notice positive impressions as it highlights the brightness which is always present and lingering, just awaiting notice.

The 'colors' we see are our own perceptions which are directed by our expectations. Then as we accept what they are, we build upon them accordingly.




Some of the prettiest days

Are painted in grays.

They soothe and soften

Harshness

And never fade away.


______© Nellieanna H. Hay












Incisive

Yellow

Sun

Cuts away

A choking smog

And penetrates

Dense curtains

Of my mind,

Gives certainty

In direction.


______© Nellieanna H. Hay



I am a rainbow.

If red blinds you,

Look for blue.

The wave-lengths

Go beyond

The naked eye.


______© Nellieanna H. Hay

An afterthought addition. . .

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Mhatter99 4 years ago from San Francisco

Thank you for sharing your insight. My favorite color is green. But on women it is black and red. I like to wear pink. Point... read your excellent hub.


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Hello, Mhatter - thank you for being my first visitor to this hub! I appreciate that you read it!

My favorite color is green as well. Growing up in a semi-arid part of Texas, though in a town with a natural gushing spring, the St. Augustine grass was always such a wonderful contrast to the surrounding dry countryside. So I was sure that heaven must be a green place! :-)


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sandrabusby 4 years ago from Tuscaloosa, Alabama, USA

Beautiful reminder. Love your poems. Thanks for sharing.


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girishpuri 4 years ago from NCR , INDIA

very interesting hub, my favorite color is white, which symbols peace. thank you so much


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Sandra - thank you. I truly appreciate your support and that you love my poetry! BTW, all the poems used here (except the one on the 'blackboard') were written in 1972 during a time of great duress when the self-reminder was greatly needed.

Most of my readers hardly need the reminder, but it's been my own adage and practice for almost 80 years & still, reminder is beneficial. Many of our scribblings are primarily letters to ourselves and, - if worthwhile,- we may see fit to share them. It poured forth from many years of valuable experience when, at times, it's been the major factor going for me was to remember that I'm author and enactor of my own feelings and responses. Most of us have 'been there, done that' - or wished we had so done it! We learn from those times, too! ;-)


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Gurishpuri, - Ah, yes! - White is not only a lovely color, it's actually the total of all colors (in the light spectrum) and it symbolizes many virtues. Also it 'goes well' with every other color in everyday use. I love it. My bed things are all white and I think it helps promote my peaceful sleep!

What I've hoped is that people's favorites and choices of other colors for their lives do literally help their everyday moods, perceptions, responses and help improve relationships with ongoing, (sometimes difficult), factors of living, since that's the message and theme of this hub and why it was written.

At the same time, I certainly find it interesting and helpful to know people's favorites and reasons for them, as you've explained. I feel I know you that much better & I'm learning from the facts mentioned; always a bonus for me!

Thank you so much for visiting and leaving your excellent comment! I value it. And I wish you much peace and joy!


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JayeWisdom 4 years ago from Deep South, USA

Thank you for introducing this intriguing concept, which seems applicable to anyone, at any age. Although I surround myself with peaceful colors (greens and blues) and work in a taupe-painted home office, I've never considered how choosing my colors for the day might translate to my moods and perspective.

This concept may be especially helpful during this pre-election period when reading the news (or forum posts) can "color" emotions high if they aren't preset to a calmer hue. Very interesting. I'll have to give this a try!

Voted Up++++

Jaye


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Dearest Jaye - I so love your perceptive comments! Thank you! I'm glad it came across as intended. Color is mostly the vehicle for the message, though an applicable one.

Yes - during times of expected stress, being prepared with the most soothing colors & pleasantly colored outlook is especially valuable! Sometimes it's surely wise to turn off the coverage as well. Too bad one can't turn off the phone & mail solicitations for the candidates!

Whew! Fortunately - or unfortunately in ways, I'm registered for one of the parties I've long supported but to whom I'm not committed with my more current votes, preferring to arm myself with facts as much as possible rather than going for the habitual party slate. The result, though, is that I'm getting only their solicitation mail & phone calls. So I miss the balancing propaganda from the other side which might be helpful in sizing up each campaign and - er - tacky attacks. haha

I'm very sure of one thing, and that is that I'll make up my own mind and vote accordingly. I don't appreciate underhanded attempts to sway votes with deception by either side nor what I can only call unsportsmanlike responses when one 'team' has fairly won or begun to lead & it's treated as if it was not won, with support withheld and opposition continuing. Very UnAmerican in my view. The professional sports folks would penalize and make examples of such behavior! Do these folks think we're all idiots? (er - yeah, so it seems, and that seems to be no monopoly on either side!)

I appreciate your votes!

ps - can't wait to respond to your emails and catch up on everything!


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arb 4 years ago from oregon

Hello butterfly! Color played such an intricate role in my recent visit to Canada. Your poetry illuminated the feelings which returned with me. Color is part of my morning walk and every moment which confronts me throughout the day. Color is the evidence that there is a garden where and when we choose.


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

OH Thank you and how well said, Alan! Indeed it is our own garden wherever we go! Speaking of which, I'm to be picked up shortly to go to the Dallas Arboretum where there's to be a gorgeous color and light show of Dale Chihuly's breathtaking glass sculptures! I'm so excited. The wife of my treasured financial advisor, who is also helping me on the ranch, and their two adorable little girls invited me to accompany them. It may promote a hub, too, though it would not be even in the same category as yours, which I've been recommending!


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Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

Incisive

Yellow

Sun

Cuts away

A choking smog

And penetrates

Dense curtains

Of my mind,

Gives certainty

In direction.

Brilliant words from you Nellieanna my friend but just what I have come to expect and you never disappoint. Lots of love from my little corner of Wales. have a wonderful day my dear friend.

Eddy.


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arb 4 years ago from oregon

I am trying to picture your excitement. No that isn't true. I'm trying to picture you unexcited. I can not!


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Eddy, dear friend, thank you! I'm so happy that you find my words worhy. Your approval means much to me. And one day I'd love to visit your little corner of Wales! All I know of it is that it's rich in natural beauty and history!


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Movie Master 4 years ago from United Kingdom

Hi Nellieanna, the picture of Kasey and Izzy is so lovely.

My favourite colour has always been blue.

I do like to be surrounded by soft, peaceful colours.

I love this time of year and the colours of autumn, so much to enjoy!

A wonderful read, thank you I thoroughly enjoyed and voted up.

Best wishes Lesley


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Lesley - I'm so pleased with your visit here! Thank you for commenting on Kasey and Izzy. She is quite a gal. Her other grown sisters have children and she'd tried so long to get pregnant, going through many procedures without success. She'd pretty much resigned herself to being childless, so Izzy is like a miracle, a very cherished one. Now she's expecting again!

I love peaceful colors, and blue is a lovely color. But I'd been sure it wasn't "my" color except in certain of its manifestations, such as robin's egg, electric blue, green-blue and navy. My blue-eyed friends always seemed to glow in all the true blues - like royal and sky-blue, which did nothing for me! haha. Now with my present coloring, a gift of age, all blues and I are close friends, along with many other previously 'iffy' colors. I was diagnosed as a "Spring" in those seasonal color-associations that went around for awhile. And sure enough, its pastel greens, yellows, oranges, peaches and ivory were among my most becoming and enjoyable colors for my person and decor. Those still like me though the best of them then, ivory, is a bit too washed out with my silver hair. I wore gold jewelry then, never silver - and now silver is my best and favorite. I suppose there are even cosmetic rewards for living a long life! :-)

I've always loved autumn's colors and vice versa, too. And the season itself is my most favorite! Ours is slowly slipping in and is so welcome! As you may know, Texas is known for lengthy HOT summers. Autumn comes as a balm and relief!

I so appreciate your visit and sharing your love of color and its manifestations, Lesley!


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

My dear Alan. I'm honored that you picture me! I confess that I picture you doing things you share either directly or 'between the lines' of your poetry & prose, infused and tempered with your humility, depth of faith, feeling, commitment, honor & amazing inherent wisdom. I'm well aware that my perceptions are inconclusive, but I do picture & appreciate your nature and character accordingly!

Possibly you may or may not perceive that my excitement, while an ongoing characteristic zest for life, is less from a rambunctious and more from a rather quiet nature, not 'mood' but trait of 'me', like my overall joyousness, each intrinsically imbedded in my generally laid-back, serene disposition, where it grew from shy little seeds to blossom into what might simply be called 'peace of mind' - with benefits. :-) It's surely the essence of my faith which is 'of me' & simply non-negotiable.

So you can't go wrong to picture me just as I am in any state of excitement and joy, including when at rest! This may be more than you want or needed to know or to picture about me but it's how it is! I'm peripheral at most, but no mystery! I'm an open book with ample clues to how it is, whether in relatively unexcited state doing 'tooly' routine stuff for which no excitement is required or associated, or just coasting along feeling generally good about life, or when specifically turned on by something beautiful, significant, deeply felt, - or enormously amazing I've seen, read or experienced - it's perpetually just 'me' in those pictures!

The Chihuly exhibit I was privileged last evening to wander through as it's displayed embedded among several miles of incredible natural beauty at the Dallas Arboretum was such an experienced excitement! I must try to share it , and soon, while it's fresh on my senses. I took bunches of pix, but I gathered up my stuff hurredly, forgetting my camera. Sotook pix with my iPhone; no telling how they'll be.

I'm considering rejoining the Arboretum, which is close to home & has a lovely view of WhiteRock Lake, which wouldn't be a safe place for me to wander about alone. The Arboretum is like a fairyland & so easily accessible & safe. It's incredibly beautiful in all seasons, & features special displays for holidays & seasonal changes. A beautiful marriage of God's natural beauties & man's loving care. So, not a bad alternative to being 'next door' to Canadian Rockies & your own beautiful Cascades & other local beauty!

BTW, my interview at Marcourjor's site will be published tomorrow, the 10th. hehe. I've been following the others (19 other amazing gals). It's introducing me to several & refreshing acquaintances with others. Fun! Give it a peek if you've time! :-) It may give you a smile - or a hearty laugh! ;-)

Of course - thank you for your treasured comments, Alan!!


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Hi Dear Nellieanna,

I love the concept of choosing your day's colors... funny, I am also a blue-eyed gal drawn to all shades of blue and green in decor, clothing, most everything.

I just mentioned your name at snakelane's place... funny, Mike did before me.

I read a few hubs becoming familiar with Chihuly...speaking of vibrant and opulent colors. I will eagerly await your sharing of pictures.

Now I need a few hours of shut-eye...I am showcasing the most amazing lady mid morning. Love, Maria


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Dear Maria! You do me such honor! My eyes appear to be brown, but in fact, they're green in the centers. But I have always loved blue eyes - on others and coveted them for myself! When I was young I used to stare at the Texas blue skies and almost felt like the color was transferring to my eyes! haha. That was one thing I couldn't manage, though. Have I shared with you my mother's little piece of sage advice:

If her eyes are blue, make sure yours are true.

If her eyes are brown, make sure yours don't fall down.

If her eyes are green, whip her with a switch that's keen.

If her eyes are black - give her room and lots of slack!

My eldest sister's were pure green and Mother's and my second eldest sister's were coal black. haha.


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Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Voted up and delightfully and colorfully beautiful. Love this. My birth color is blue, in my teens I preferred pink and purple now I'm into orange. Great pics and video. Passing this on.


Vincent Moore 4 years ago

What a colorful hub. My favorite colors have always been BLUE and GREEN as a young man, now they have faded to grays and blacks. Most of my wardrobe is dark colors except for a few colorful shirts and white tees. It's strange that I mostly dress in dark colors, yet I enjoy the outdoor bright colors and the blue skies and colors of the spectrum. I suppose my mood has a lot to do with the colors I choose to wear. Oh well it is what it is. I loved how Casey was introduced to colors to change her morning moods. Look at her now and the lesson it taught her. Your so correct about how things in our young lives can have a huge bearing on our future as adults. Well done my friend, voted up and all buttons pressed.


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Pamela99 4 years ago from United States

I love the way you tied colors into virtually everything about our lives. Our moods and reactions certainly may be of our choosing. Your 6 year old grand daughter understood the message, even at that age. This truths of this hub are so true, and we can shape our day any way we choose. Voted up, useful, awesome and shared. Delightful!


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

I love your Mother's sage advice...thank you for sharing, sweet woman.


IntegrityYes 4 years ago

That is another good one and I voted up for sure.


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Gypsy - Thank you. I love your choices of colors. Orange is a delightful color. I didn't initially decorate my house (my husbands late first wife did) but it has a lot of orange. The living room carpet is orange. My pieces of antique furniture blend well with it. The vibrant, warm color is sprinkled around the other rooms. I've added my touches but it was basically quite nice as it was when I moved into it 26 years ago!

I appreciate your interest!


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Dear Vincent - Color impacts our lives in many ways. Clothing is only one of them. Colors of nature are surely the purest and most soothing or refeshing or invigorating, as the cases may be. What is more gratifying than a spectacular sunset or a flower bed?

I must write about the display I just saw Monday night. A marriage of nature's beauties and colors with man's art and care.

Yes, it works that way, too; - one's mood often chooses the colors. That is the message here, in fact. That and the fact that, while it's not easy to just change one's mood, it is relatively easy to choose different colors around oneself, and they can alter one's mood then. It's kind of like, it's hard to frown and smile at the same time. The main message is that it's largely choice.

Yes, my Kasey is quite a gal. She's a brilliant writer. Maybe one day she'll have time to look into Hubpages. Her and her 4 other sisters' lives have never been very easy. So it's well that she found a foothold for her own 'real' self. Her sister 6 years older than she, Carla, is the mother of my two grown great-grandkids. Her personality is quite different from Kasey's. She's more domestic, I guess one could say, and has had a more tumultuous life. I know her the best of all my granddaughters. In fact, those two are the only ones I really know and I love them dearly.

I'm so pleased that you liked this hub. Hugs. Thank you!


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Hi, Pamela! Thank you! You got it. Colors really do more than symbolize so much about our lives and experiences. When one thinks about it, colors are light's progeny and light is our most significant presence. Without it - well, life really isn't possible. The life-cycles of plants and animals are intrinsically linked to light and to each other's living. Light's absence is - darkness, blackness, which is logically associated with death. In a way - choosing color and light is choosing life over death. So it's reasonable that it exerts much influence over the quality of life we lead, as well. We really can, as you say - shape our day as we choose. I'm glad for your input on this subject!

We had prisms which were used for paperweights when I was a kid. I loved to manipulate them to catch plain white light and see it separate into all the colors of the rainbow. I pondered that a lot, even as a child. Maybe children have an innate understanding of truths that adults either take for granted or choose to ignore!


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Dear Maria - Thank you! Yes, my mother usually taught by example but when she spoke, she had many pithy sayings which were steeped in wisdom, humor and practicality. They would pop up at just the right moments. She could say much in a few words. She was an artist who saw beauty all around her, and was like a streak of lightning when she moved and could accomplish more in the time it would take most of us to think of doing it. I miss her so, though she's been gone 38 years. But if she were alive now, she'd be120. She was ageless, though. If she'd lived to 120, it would still be with zeal and zest. Her light didn't extinguish till she breathed her last breath.


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Integrity - so good to see you! Thank you for coming by and for contributing your nice comment and votes!


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

wow Now I realize I have read your work before. and I have to apologize I have missed out on your poetry.. I will look for your work and make sure I read .. it is beautiful and wonderfully done..

I read where you were a Mary Kay Director at age 50.. so was I.. I won a car. well not won I worked my butt off..lol Are you still a director?

I still sell Mary Kay Love the product.

Blessings to you

Debbie


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Thank you again, Debbie! I greatly appreciate your kind words.

Yes, I left an excellent job as Asst. Supervisor of the Engineering Dept. of a building company and went full time with Mary Kay in1980 as a consultant and earned Directorship in 1982, my 50th year.

I'm so surprised to run into another Director. I drove a pink car which I earned the right to purchase. I was at a major crossroads, whether or if to go on for more in Mary Kay (which I was capable to do) when George and I married Dec. 1985. . . . I had a house to make into our home & was suddenly the full owner of a ranch I inherited in far Southwest Texas which first involved litigation, followed by much hands-on management for the next couple of decades, all prompting me to set my sights in different directions not involving Mary Kay. So. . .

I value my time & experience in Mary Kay and learned much. It drew me further out of my bookworm's shell, giving much good insight into that business and expanding my horizons.


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b. Malin 4 years ago

Wonderful Hub, on Choosing your Day Colors, Nellie, I LOVE Earthy Tones myself. This was a Clever read as well. Your Grandchild is Adorable...and the Beat goes on...As well as the Learning Experiences.

I was an "AVON" Team Leader in my late 30's, early 40's...It was Fun, and I got some Wonderful Gifts of Appreciation...They didn't Give Cars.


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Dear b.Malin - I'm pleased that you came by my hub. Earthy tones are warm and real. I always have them in my back pocket and if in doubt - they're usually a great choice.

The baby is my great-grandchild, of course. Kasey- at 6 and now at 30 is my next-to-eldest grandchild. As you say - the Beat goes on - and on!! haha.

I've no doubt that being an Avon Team Leader provided much of the same valuable experience and exposure as being a Mary Kay Sales Director, though the organization was somewhat different. One's sales unit was an independent entity for which one was fully responsible. MInor difference, probably.

It was a most educational experience. I'd planned to go back to SMU for an MBA, had already passed the GRE and was about to register when I was invited to a Mary Kay demonstration and was impressed with what seemed to be an opportunity to learn about business 'OTJ' with my own independent consultantship that could lead to independent directorship and a unit of consultants. It may or may not have been a best choice, but it provided benefits I would not have found in graduate school and possibly never in use of an MBA. I'll never regret going full-time and fully committed. Other factors arose which turned my attention elsewhere, but not before I'd learned invaluable things in the five years in it. To be honest, I decided against going for the 'top' echelon of directorship, at the same time other avenues opened up. I'll never regret changing course, either.

I've had and still have a few lovely Avon bottles which are generally regarded as collector's items. I was a bottle collector as a kid so these were special treasures to me!


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

Oh, Nellieanna, I am quite overwhelmed by that meaningful and heart-touching experience you've had with 6-year old Kasey. Oh, and all the colors in here! I literally feel like sliding down a rainbow.

I would so much like to base a hub of my own on this one of yours, to extend this rainbow of yours, and maybe encourage many others to write about their relationship with colors.

In the '80's I was a beauty-consultant. (Can you believe it?) Determining the correct colors for one's wardrobe according to the undertone of the skin, was highly in fashion and I've analyzed hundreds of ladies AND men according to 'the book'. Learned a lot and still believe in all of that. Although interior design is in a league of its own, the colors that make us look more beautiful also make us feel more at home and happier.

I am bookmarking this hub of yours as a basis - instigator - for a future hub of mine.

Have a wonderful weekend, my dear Nellieanna!


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Aha! Dear CD (cyber daughter) Martie! The coincidence is that I was a Mary Kay Beauty Consultant & became a Sales Director in the 80s, when that 'find your colors' emphasis was in vogue! I was analyzed and was identified as a "Spring" - which fit me perfectly. I love all colors but the ones that loved me most were those! I still have some of the material about finding one's colors somewhere in my archives (not cyber archives, but actual! :-)

Why don't you go ahead & build a hub on the subject?- You'd do it so well! You can refer to or tie it in to mine if it helps! I doubt if you need any help, but I thank you for the compliment!


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

My goodness, Nellieaana, what a coincidence. I was a group manager for Avroy Shlain for about 8 years - a very successful cosmetic company in my country, but also doing business in some other countries. Ahead in rejuvenating serums galore..... although I could not afford those 'vanity-traps' - and still can't. Geezzzzz! The prices of those capsules and what-more are absolutely ridiculous and I honestly don't see any of the miracles they are supposed to cause. Maybe it, too, is all in the mind.

But I also did a lot of other things while I was employed by A S. Such as training - business skills, financial management, telephone sales etiquette, marketing, and then in between the skin-care and wardrobe planning. I was absolutely crazy - and I am still, but not as bad as then - always too many balls in the air. But I had my reasons.... and objectives...

I am Winter and I still stick to the suggested colors, although I sometimes fall for brown (with black). For some reason, since I was a kid, I just like to combine black and brown, and especially when I want a bit of a dramatic appearance. Otherwise for smart occasions I stick to midnight-blue, royal-blue, blue-red and royal-purple or/and black. Always black! Nowadays I also like to combine blueish grey with red.

I still have the book 'Color me Beautiful'. For a long time now it is on my list 'to-be-hubbed'.

I feel inspired now.

Amazing! The two of us did experience a lot of similar 'deserts' and 'paradises'. The best, I guess, was playing the piano as if we were living in a perfect world....

Hugs galore to you, my dear CM :)))


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Genna East 4 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

While I was researching some material for a mystery I was writing, I learned that modern interview/interrogation rooms are painted in pastel blue colors. This is intended to have a calming effect; to present an environment that is more soothing and positive rather than that a police station; and to help stave off the expectation of something negative, as well as highly charged emotions. Using reds is understandably a huge “no-no” in this regard.

I thought of this when reading this wonderful introspective, and how the ‘colors’ we see reflect our own expectations and perceptions. Whatever we bring to the table, and to the color wheel, is ours to choose. Some may not like the color gray. But I wholeheartedly agree with your poetry, “Some of the prettiest days are painted in grays. They soothe and soften harshness and never fade away.”

I enjoyed your story about Kasey, and how she reset her perspectives by using her own choices in how to react to certain situations.

Whenever some asks me about my favorite color, I say green because to me, it is a living color, and represents growth, hopes and dreams. Whenever I “see red,” I try to remember this, although not always successfully.

Fascinating hub, Nellieanna, thank you!


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Darling Martie! Yes, it truly is a coincidence! . . . If more thorough response to your comments here are in order, I'd prefer to write in email rather than here. Suffice it to say here that I'm delighted to find yet another of our commonalities, all the more amazing, considering the disparity between our locations on the Earth! Sort of proves that things are more homogenous over the Earth than might be apparent!

I must share that I was curious (normal for me) so I looked up Avroy Shlain, which I've never heard of before. The fascinating information:

"Avroy Shlain products are researched and developed in high-tech laboratories in South Africa, using stringent testing techniques. As part of Tupperware Brands, Avroy Shlain has access to an extensive international resource network. Working in collaboration with independent laboratories in Switzerland and The Hague has resulted in leading edge product innovation, ensuring Avroy Shlain products can be purchased with confidence."

I also found that under the Tupperware umbrella are several other very successful direct sales companies, whose existence I just discovered!

My own experience with Tupperware was when it was first introduced out of Florida in the 50s, I was a young bride and was an enthusiastic consumer! I earned a reputation of being a major Tupperware user. Someone laughingly said I would be buried in a Tupperware casket if they made them by then! I still have some of my initial set of their products, in fact. They're probably collectors' items now! haha.

Of course it's obvious that their direct selling style set up that format for so many other businesses which hopped on the band wagon, though I was priorly unaware of most of them which are directly under their umbrella!

I've had peripheral connections with various early setups of direct sales businesses, all of which didn't work out well for the companies or their agents. In my hub titled "My Tale Is Told" is a tragic story of a dear friend who was hurt by one such company, a mink-oil based cosmetic outfit. After she & her husband lost everything and his expertise was out of vogue, they had to move to where he could find any kind of work - happened to be Colorado, where she was marooned in a snowstorm with out her diabetes meds, had an insulin shock attack and died before he could get to her with her meds. It's such a tragic & poignant story. I was hesitant to get into Mary Kay due to that.

But by the time Mary Kay started in the mid-60s, as a one-woman show, the field was open to go either way. She managed well and created a successful direct sales business for her cosmetics which was set up to benefit the women who came into it to sell & recruit. When I got into it in 1980, it was still a fairly new company, she was still at the head of it and it was based right here in Dallas, an advantage for me, actually. I knew her! It was her spirit which infused the business. As I mentioned in an above reply to a comment from bMalin, I made the choice to do it rather than go for my MBA. It worked well for me in many ways. The other side of the coin, I may share with you privately. Not that it matters, really.

In our case, your words "deserts' and 'paradises' seem especially to fit so many of our experiences! Most human experiences are mixtures of both - haha. My Mary Kay was such a case.

As far as living in a perfect world - - well, I tend to think that the 'world' is basically neutral and it's individuals, one by one and in groups, who determine its trends toward perfection and imperfection! Each of us lends our personal contribution to that balance either direction! :-) And each of our choices are always unique to the moment and time in which they must be made.

What's most important is to make the best possible choices based on what one knows at the time, one's other demands & what is available at the time; then to do it to the best of one's ability, keeping aware and alert tabs on its rate of success or failure in its process and to be ready to make adjustments as needed. Perfection is seldom among the choices or available adjustments, but one's ability to find the best that IS available determines largely how the experience 'plays' on one's consciousness, fits one's life circumstances & lingers in one's memory!

That's basically a general outline for my Mary Kay experience! Perhaps I'll tell you more about it, though it's not really critical information. ;-) I've a clear sense,though, that everyone reading my hub and comment thread may not find it all that interesting and it's a lengthy 'story'. hehe


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Great comment, Genna! More perfect examples of the effects of colors on emotions and perspectives. Thank you!

As I think back on my early years, I realize how much influence color played. Mother was an artist, and had degrees from Univ. of Chicago & the Chicago Art Institute. Her paintings from those years tended to be dark and even a little foreboding. But having studied with the famous Texas landscape and longhorn steer (when they roamed free) artist, Frank Reaugh after becoming a Texan, her palette became the soft, light, rather muted colors of the Southwest Texas semi-desert. Of course her paintings hung all over our house.

The horizon of this actual landscape which I always viewed was forever the magnificent line of distant mountains in Mexico, which changed with atmospheric conditions and time of day from pale blue or lavender tints to more vivid shades of those same colors, against a very blue sky or one with shades of gray of approaching storms, always welcome in the dry climate.

Mother encouraged me to look into the distance for the sake of my eye weaknesses. I loved to do so and honestly figured that everyone has a horizon of blue or purple mountains on which to feast their eyes! Then periodically would come the burst of color of the purple sage after a blessing rain when the whole landscape was a sea of lovely color. There was the annual blooming of cactus with their vivid yellow, red and coral blossoms and fairly bright green thorny "leaves', especially the prickly pear. But what was most rationed in this world was bright green! Most greens that were there on that land were the muted jades, which nature provides to protect succulent plants from the fierce direct sun.

But we also had residence in Del Rio during the school year, which, though also in the same semi-desert area, is amply watered with a lush natural spring whose abundance is routed by canals all over the town & its immediate vicinity (even a grape farm and wine factory) and keeps everything vividly green. So my perspective was that green is extra special, like overflow from heaven! It's always been my favorite color, like yours and for some of the same reasons!

But Mother, whose personal coloring was vivid dark brunette with black eyes and very white skin (from her British background with its early Moorish invasion effects), loved all colors and wore them flamboyantly - (sometime to my conservative red-headed Germanic father's dismay!) She often said that she loved any color just so it was red! Purple was another of her favorites. Dramatic colors were her forte, along with dramatic patterns. She may have been a soul mate of Georgia O'Keefe! haha. But her paintings are soft, muted, pastel colors. She was taught to use the natural and give it a very subtle impressionistic character. She used all media but her favorite was pastels that Mr. Reaugh created specifically for the natural landscapes of West Texas. Her rare ventures into the 'modern' or highly flamboyant in painting were disastrous. haha.

I was not so good wearing her colors. My coloring was more like Dad's. But she taught me about color and its effects, its spectrum and its use. It's always fascinated me. What I love about using color with computer programs and seeing it on TV is that it's composed of light itself. It is so much clearer and more true than color created by pigment on a canvas or page so it appeals to me to use it creatively.

Color is almost spiritual. It actually exists only as it it perceived by the eye and brain. I wonder if animals see all colors the way we do. Maybe. Do insects? hm. I wonder. But that each human being receives the light-colors into our own preceptors and interprets them within our own brains and emotions - - no wonder they've such an effect and impact on how we 'see' our world! It's a 'no brainer' really! Doesn't matter how consciously aware of it we are, it is in constant effect going on.

Red, to me, actually is a pleasant impression - reminds me of Mother and of those great restaurants who realize that it is an appetite stimulating color. I'm not very prone to bursts of temper (at least not since I've been an adult), so I lack the association with personal anger. I do associate it with strength, determination and effectiveness. But, of course, not with relaxation. It's simply not relaxing, but stimulating. And - there are times when I welcome stimulation! I'm rather naturally laid-back and serene. Part of me takes in new things with a kind of cool analytical response. That's not always the most appropriate! So I benefit from a 'kicker' to stimulate that other part of me sometimes! ;-) haha!

Thank you for your impression and sharing it! Hugs!


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Genna East 4 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

Just one quick comment, Nell, to add after your comment. I simply adore Georgia O’Keefe. She maintained her indendpence as a great artist despite the trends of her day. I don’t know how she created her colors, but they were miraculous. When looking at one of her flower paintings, one cannot help but be pulled into the beautiful abyss and phenomenon of the living world.

Thank you, and have a great weekend. :-)


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

How true!! She was a wonder! I so admire someone who is fully who she/he IS and simply does it without apology or wavering!

My eldest sister lived in New Mexico at one time and while there, she learned dye secrets from the local native Americans. She made jewelry from various types of small macaroni, dying them these glorious colors, stringing them in wondrous combinations, sometimes braiding the strands, putting little chamois ties on them to make necklaces. She sold these designs to Neiman Marcus and earned enough to buy some things she wanted, one being a Singer Featherweight sewing machine, on which she created other amazing things from practically nothing to sell!

Perhaps Georgia O'Keefe had some native American color secrets in her paint-box!


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

Nellie, you are even poetic in your prose. What an exceptional wordsmith you are. I have never seen the word "variegates" used in a hub, and it's been decades since I have seen it used anywhere. Beautiful images in your poetry, and a very interesting article. Well done my friend!


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Thank you, Billy! I'm honored. I love the word 'variegate, variegates, variegated' - in all its variegations! hehe. Such an expressive, useful word. I'd not realized it was becoming antiquated. But then, so am I, in ways.

Thank you for the lovely compliments for my hub!


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Petra Vlah 4 years ago from Los Angeles

Our own colors and their many nuances make the soul come alive and give life a perfect meaning for a specific day. Children know instinctively the power of colors and will select the ones that matches their mood. My granddaughter will only wear different color socks, but the colors are always complimentary. At 3 and a half years of age, she is giving us a clue.

I love the first poem and "the screen of life"


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Thank you, Petra!

Ah! I love that your granddaughter has an instinctive color sense and the spirit to express it! You're right that children have that with easy access.

I've bought my great-granddaughter, Izzy, (granddaughter Kasey's daughter) a stuffed 'monkey' whose body and its parts are a wonderful array of colors, with different colored ears, its two feet are different colors, as are the hands, plus the two arms and legs are differently striped with colors complimentary to the hands and feet! Its body is green with white polka-dots and, since it's a female monkey, it wears a cute little orange ruffled headgear. Now to part with it! I considered getting another one for me! I'm a sucker for stuffed animals.

I made a (very amateur) video with it.

It's on tube: http://youtu.be/I1GboSPnFmw


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Petra Vlah 4 years ago from Los Angeles

The video is "private" and they won't let me see it - I would have loved to see it - this stuffed animal sounds wonderful.


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

OOPs - well - I just went to u-tube and changed its setting to "public"; - so try it again. :-) Thanks for letting me know! I should add it to this hub, perhaps. Well - sure! I just added it! So you can view it right here!

You've inspired me!

By the way: - Little monkey's green & white polka-dot tail is tipped in orange, too.

Such fun!


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Petra Vlah 4 years ago from Los Angeles

Thank you for having made public the viewing of this adorable "baby" of yours. I was also glad to see you in person and hear your voice - pretty close to what I have imagined: great job!


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

My sincere pleasure, Petra! Thank you!!

How about that? - You had me figured! :-)


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Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

What a true gem my friend and I especially liked

I am a rainbow.

If red blinds you,

Look for blue.

The wave-lengths

Go beyond

The naked eye.

You always add such positive calm to each of your poems and hubs. Thank you so much for sharing the beauty that is in your heart.

Have a wonderful weekend Nellianna.

Eddy.


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Dear Eddy -- your comment is so sweet and gratifying. Thank you!

The weekend came in like real Autumn. Thursday morning I was wearing shorts and a short-sleeved T. By suppertime, was in sweats! Slept under 2 down comforters (cuddly!) and am now in sweats with an extra layer of sweater over the top. This is IN THE HOUSE!

Haven't yet pulled out my fur-lined boots, but they'll get a workout too, both inside and out. My blood is thinned by a VERY hot summer which has hung around an extra amount of time this fall! Still needing the grass mowed. Even this 'cold front' is not expected to keep the temperatures this chilly next week. But we native Texans know better than to expect consistent weather, other than being changeable!

It's always wonderful, Eddy. I choose it to be! :-)


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btrbell 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

Beautiful hub, great ideas. I loved the story about Kasey! I remember reminding myself to choose my "battles" with the kids when they were small. With that thought in mind, we barely had any. Why? Because each time I wanted to say "No, do this, not that" I'd tell myself that the next thing they'd want to do would be worse! I really love the pick your color of the day idea. This gives a young child control and teaches them how to turn a difficult situation into a fun one! Really loved the pictures, too! Thank you for sharing!


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

Randi, thank you! I appreciate your in-depth comments, which are so in agreement with the ideas I was trying to express and lessons for a person - child or adult - about taking control of one's own driver's seat and choosing one's own path - and realizing that external ups and downs are to be ridden one's own way, either by active choice or by re-active choicelessness!


dreamseeker2 4 years ago

Love your idea of picking a color for your day, Nellieanna. : ) Today, mine would possibly be a pinch of gray and blue. (not feeling well). But, I love bright colors like yellows and pinks. ; ) Cute video and great poems as always! Thanks for sharing it with us and helping me to smile.


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

It's when we're not feelting well that we need to choose the brighter colors we love to help us feel better. I hope you'll be feeling better very soon. I'm following your progress. Hugs.


dreamseeker2 4 years ago

Thanks Nellieanna! : ) You are right...guess I should pick a bright pink to make me feel better. Thank you for following my progress too. Hugs back!


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS Author

It can't hurt, Gwen. And it really can help.

I think I'll visualize you in a pink marabou boa, all fluffy and so nice.

Hugs.


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Kathryn Stratford 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

This is very thought-provoking, and I agree with you whole-heartedly! It's interesting that colors have this effect on us. I have noticed how my mood can change by looking at different colors.

It is glorious to choose how we react to things, and what our mood will be! Sometimes I give in to negative feelings for a bit, and then I think about it, and decide to change my mood. We may not be able to completely control circumstances, but we can control our reactions!

Your own personal example was perfect and simple, and the video is adorable! And, as usual, your poetry is beautiful, and it goes with your message so well. You are not only creative, but a deep thinker, as well! I will definitely look forward to exploring more of your hubs. I can't believe I went so long without coming over to your page!

Voted up and sharing.

Oh, I would like to add a link of this to my hub on happiness, if you don't mind. It has a message that is very relevant to that subject!

Have a great weekend!

~ Kathryn


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Nellieanna 3 years ago from TEXAS Author

Hello, Kathryn, and thank you for the lovely comments!

Of course, we can't - and shouldn't - completely control circumstances and our self-control needs some realistic expectations. We can no more shut down all our own honest emotions than we can shut off all the external "downs". Remember when Lucy of Peanuts would say she wanted "all ups, no downs" - haha. It's a better idle pipe-dream than a realistic objective!

My philosophy is that one must allow the negative emotions during their honest time-frames, which would pass with a newer one, if allowed. Seems we tend to block them in, give them a 'home' and refuse to let them fly back to the universal supply house of negatives from which they occasionally descend. We entertain them so fully and well that they never want to go - - so sometimes, they don't! At the least, they hang around looking for more raisons d'état, once they see us as a good host!

But to attempt to shut them out when they're the honest responses to our life's experiences or inner rumblings at a moment in time would be just to hang onto their warped after-image, which isn't as simple to allow to run its course and move on out. Its only supply-house is in our own minds, so it clings to its mama!

Another effect of denying our 'negative' emotions is that we're unfulfilled. We are whole persons, and need to BE whole. Neither could we or must we be ALWAYS 'up'. It's ok to coast and see what happens.

Thank you for thinking me a deep thinker. I admit that I am, but I'm not a very 'heavy' thinker, if that makes any sense. To be aware of and ready for the new moments as they arrive, one needs a certain amount of 'open' area to which it to relate. I didn't get to be 81 and fully alive by getting too bogged down in the many swamps I've encountered. :-)

Thank you for your support. I appreciate your following me and fully intend to explore your writing, which I know is excellent!

I've never had anyone ask to share one of my hubs, but I'd be honored. I am sure where you share it would 'fit' and be useful to readers! Thank you!

Hope you had a great weekend. To be truthful, mine is - thankfully - over. Was quite ill, which is rare for me. So had a chance to test my theory! Now I'm feeling much more like myself and preparing to get to an important appointment which I'd thought I'd have to postpone.

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