My Mom is My Best Friend: For Mom

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It's Just Me for Mom

Hello, my name is Ardie and I am a weeper. Yes, I freely admit that I cry at everything. And I do mean everything . Some say it's just my hormones (but then I get that old stupid joke - how do you make a whore moan?) and others say it's just because I am too sensitive. I prefer to say I am overflowing with emotions of all kinds.

I cry when I am sad, obviously. I can cry so long and so hard that my eyes swell shut and I look like one of those mole-men all squinty eyed, nose wrinkled up to smell around since I cannot see. I also cry when I laugh too hard. My kids love this show because then they know they've done something really fantastically funny. I hate it because it means I am not only crying but I am also laughing so hard I feel like I will wet my pants...ah the joys of having given birth. Speaking of giving birth, I also cry at any and all birth scenes when the proud parents get to hear the baby cry for the first time. And when the expectant mama hears her baby's heartbeat echo in a tiny exam room. I cry when I am happy, exuberantly overjoyed. If someone comes to visit after being gone for a long time I will cry when I finally see that person again. If my daughter makes me some prefab poem at school out of her hand print I cry. So my point is that I cry.

Well, I cried again today. But it was a weird cry - one I don't think I've ever experienced before. And trust me, that's saying a lot with my track record. I cried when I received an email from my mom basically telling me how proud she is of me. I read the email and I sat at my computer and I sobbed like a 3 year old, shoulders hitching and all. I'm sure I looked quite mad but I couldn't help it. After a crappy week the sweet words hit me and I couldn't control my emotions.

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My Best Friend

See, my mom is my best friend. For the longest time it was just me and her - looking out for one another and spending time together. She was a single mom and she raised me along. I remember sleeping in her bed with her for quite some time. Heck, I probably still would if she'd let me! I was (and still am) a true blue mama's girl. I followed her everywhere and I wanted to be just like her. As I grew I learned more about my mom and I realized what kind of life she'd had before me. It was horrible. Definitely not something I could've lived through and still come out normal. But she lived through it and went on to raise happy, successful children who think she rules the planet. My mom is the strongest woman I have ever known. I won't go into details here about her past because that is her personal story. But trust me, it takes a lot to impress me now that I've known what my mother dealt with.

Having said all that I must admit I talk to my mom every single day - at length. Well, at least I did until I got all wrapped up in my writing. And today when I got the email from my number 1 fan I realized I was neglecting the best relationship I've ever known. So I cried again. Yes, my mom reads everything I write and she's even commented on some of my stuff - she's my biggest fan and my strongest support. My mom has been there for me from day 1, literally, and I know she always will be there for me. And this is my thank you to her.

Thank you mom - I love you!! I am your number 1 fan.

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Cagsil 4 years ago from USA or America

Very nicely written Ardie. My mother is my best friend also. She is my strongest supporter and always has been. It's too bad that not everyone realizes and I certainly hope that anyone who reads this hub will contact their mother/mom and just talk. It's not a connection I would ever want to go away and many of my relationships have ended because I am unable to move out on my own. I'm glad to hear you have an awesome relationship with your mother. It's great! Voted up! Awesome and Beautiful. :)


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

I love this hub, Ardie, and I can relate. My mom has been my best friend, even growing up. She was the one I always turned to. My, mom, too, went through a tough background and amazingly survived to be a positive, inspirational woman. I'll never be the woman she is. I can relate to your hub. I love it. Many votes on this one!


Sunnie Day 4 years ago

Ahhh Ardie,, I bet this made your mom cry too..How beautiful..I am sure she is so proud of you and how wonderful to be so close..I am with my girls and would not trade it for anything..Oh and by the way..I am a weeper too...sniff sniff..now I have to go find some Kleenex..

Wonderful hub,

Hugs,

Sunnie


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Christoph Reilly 4 years ago from St. Louis

You are such a good daughter, Ardie, and I'll bet your kids are YOU'RE number 1 fans! And no wonder your mom's so proud.


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Feline Prophet 4 years ago from India

It's always nice to see someone acknowledge the role their mother plays in their life. :)


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FloraBreenRobison 4 years ago

My mom is my best friend too. There is a many a thing that I will let go if it is just me but that I will not let pass if it relates to her. Diss me all you want (and lots of people do) but it is war if you diss her.

I am a weeper too. I read about a hubber who lost her cat just tonight and I was sobbing all evening. It's interesting how people see weepers sometimes. You are often told to just snap out of it like it is something you can control. Ummm. No. Other people will simply say avoid sad stories, but that just ignores part of the human existence.


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Haunty 4 years ago from Hungary

Ardie, I adore your mom for raising such a perfect daughter. Not a lot of people can say that they talk to their mom almost every day even after moving out, so this is very telling about your relationship. I wish your loving friendship to last forever and may you find joy in it every day. :)


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A.A. Zavala 4 years ago from Texas

I don't speak to my mom as much as I should. I'm a terrible son.

I was very close to her, and could be called a mommas boy. I wasn't weak, just appreciated the love and nurturing. Beautiful hub...


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tarajeyaram 4 years ago from Wonderland

ahhh... I am in tears as I read your hub. Thank you for writing a beautiful hub. Moms should rule the world or I mean the universe.


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

Since I've met you, Ardie, I FEEL close to you... or at least on the same wave... or dimension of intensity. I, too, easily cry whether I am sad or happy. But I hide myself perfectly in a harness of steel. Only a few people manage to find an opening in the harness... and once in the inside... I just can't get them out again. So just know you are inside...

My daughter and I are also best friends, but only to a certain extend. I can share her entire life with her, because I know what it is all about, but she cannot share mine as she has no clue of the phases of life she still have to discover while growing older. One cannot understand what he has not yet experienced.... he/she can only imagine how they will or will not handle it....

I look forward to read all 30 of your hubs in this challenge asap...


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schoolgirlforreal 4 years ago from USA

I used to have a relationship like that with my mother until she became more and more bitter. With the past 5 years, and the last 3 of my dad dying, she is now very cold. I try my best to be kind to her but sometimes she just pushes me away far too much and it's forced me to become even more independent which is good but it's hard because I loved her company before she was this way.


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schoolgirlforreal 4 years ago from USA

I wrote a hub last night, partly about my mother, I was remembering the good things which are still there just clouded by past/present events. :(


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cclitgirl 4 years ago from Western NC

Awww, Ardie. Your hub almost made me cry. Now I've got to go call my mama. I live far away and I wish I was closer to her. I only get to see her once or twice a year. :'( But, this post could be in appreciation of moms everywhere! I just love your hubs and I loved reading about you in the newsletter!!!!


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Ardie,

Today I was sitting here with swollen eyes, wishing Mom was here to discuss something, yet feeling her presence as I do every day.

This article has freely released my tears and I want to tell you how beautiful this is in every way. I can perfectly relate as I believe Mom reads my work from heaven. I know you are blessed to have her every day and are amazingly strong and lovely you are because of her reflection in you.

Voted UP & Beautiful-- this will make your Momma's day!

Love, Maria


ExoticHippieQueen 4 years ago

Well, Ardie. Your story made me cry. I'm a crier, too. And I cry whenever someone else is crying. I always do. I feel great empathy for anyone who is in misery. Or giving birth, or saying goodbye, and sometimes even hello. I cry when I read things on Hubpages all the time. Your story is so very beautiful and speaks of your loving heart. I can see why your mom is so proud of you! Cherish her every day............


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Go Ardie Go! Lol. I do speak to my mom daily, maybe evn several times! Dave kinda gets annoyed about it, lol. I don't cry very often - hardly ever. I don't cry about sad movies or stuff like that - but if I see a news story about a child that got hurt or abused - that would make me cry. I always got yelled at for crying!

My mom commented on one of my articles before - I was so shocked and amazed:) lol. That is really cool Ardie I'm now thinking of that Tom Perty song "she's a good girl - loves her mama, loves Jesus and her boyfriend too" lol.


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epigramman 4 years ago

......well my mum was my best friend too so naturally I am moved and touched by your sentiments here - your beautiful heartfelt words ..... will see you on my Facebook page with a posting and a direct link back here and sending you my warm wishes and good thoughts at lake erie time 11:28am where winter has made a traditional return.


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Hellooo Cagsil, thanks for the kind words. If I can get one other person to call mom and chat from this then I will be a happy mom myself! Its too bad about your relationships not understanding about mom. Perhaps you just need to find a significant other who loves mom just as much and wants to live with her too! If it came down to my mom needing me to live with her I would do it in a heartbeat :) Thanks for the votes!

Hi Victoria Lynn, isn’t it amazing what our moms went through? Do you think it had to do with society of the time or is it just coincidental? Either way, how lucky are we to have such strong women to look up to? I can only hope my daughters think as highly of me as I do my own mom.

Sunnie Day, I didn’t mean to make you cry – sorry! But at least it’s the happy cry, right? I can see you being close with your girls, you are such a sweetie and I bet your raised nothing other than little sweeties!

Hello Christoph, I love seeing your name here still. I can only hope my kids are my number one (two and three) fans! They’d be the cutest little fans in the world, right? Thanks for always being so great :)

Feline Prophet! Moms deserve the recognition! Too many times they are the silent supporters in the background. I hope my own mom makes an appearance on her very own Hub here. Come out, come out where ever you are…

Flora! I remember reading about your mom before and WOW you have so much to stand up for and be proud of as a daughter (and by seeing your work the feeling HAS to be mutual from her). I cried when I read a poem about a cat here too, My Sweet Blackette I think it was called. I will have to look it up again. Maybe it was Victoria Lynn? Anyways, I will never stop being sensitive! I used to hide it more but now I just embrace it and I am much happier for expressing it. Come on and cry with me :D

Hello Haunty, you are always so stinking sweet! I bet you still talk to your mom often too. Come on and admit it, you are a mama’s boy. I appreciate your wonderful wishes. I treasure my time with my mom and I will not take a single second for granted.

Hello AA, I bet your mom understands more than you think. Sometimes we (as children) just get busy and the days fly by – before you realize it a week has gone. I would never call a mama’s boy weak! I think if more men embraced a nurturing nature and love the world would be a kinder place. Im glad you found the time to stop in.

Tarajeyaram, here – have a tissue with lotion in it…I keep them on hand so my nose doesn’t turn red :) Imagine the progress we’d make if mom’s ruled the world!!!

Aaw Martie, you’re so kind ALWAYS. I feel close to you too. I don’t know if it’s the chats or reading each others work or both but I adore you and I always appreciate the fact that you visit me. I am glad you brought the ‘mom perspective’ into this. I understand your point completely…I can’t fully know my mom’s life and reasoning because I haven’t lived up to her point yet. But I still try :D I see the learning as just another way for her and I to grow closer. Thank YOU for all your support too.

Schoolgirlforreal, what a shame that mom can’t focus enough on what she still has in order to be loving and kind towards you. Sadly it’s probably a coping mechanism when she pushed you away. If she doesn’t let you too close then she won’t be as broken hearted if something happens to you. Or she thinks she is protecting you from the heartache of losing another parent. Either way I feel for you and I hope you can find some peace of mind knowing you ARE more than good enough. I know this because I’ve talked to you!! I will go and read your Hub now!

Cclitgirl, don’t cry! Im running out of tissues over here hahah I don’t know what I would do if my mama lived far away from me. I know it would take A LOT to make me move away from my mom – just because I need her that much! And of course this is in appreciation of mom’s everywhere – especially those watching from Heaven.

Marcoujor, you made me cry now. I have friends who have lost their moms early and I know what they have gone through in the struggle to accept that mom is in another place. As a mom myself I KNOW all the moms in Heaven are watching over their babies forever. Thank you for such sweet, sweet words. {{hug}}

EHQ, hello! THAT’S the word I was looking for all night – empathy. I also have great empathy. I take someone else’s hurt and make it my own…like with Mary above. I just ache for her and want to hug her SO bad. I wonder if it really is “a woman thing” like I’ve heard so many people say. Even if it is I don’t mind. I have learned to love my tears!

RHW, I do the several times a day calls too! It drives my stepdad bonkers :) But my mom takes my calls anyways. I try not to make them too frequent so I don’t cause turmoil. My husband wouldn’t care if I talked to my mom ALL day – he’d just be right there trying to make comments from the background hahah I will have to look through your articles closely and see if I can find your mom.

Epi! Thank you so much for reading this. It means a lot to me coming from such a talent as you. I saw the link you made on Facebook and I appreciate it so much :) Stay warm in all this snow and give that sweet cat a cuddle from me!


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Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Awesome and beautiful Ardie. My dad died when I was 10 and that left my mom and me. At that time we lived in N.Y.C. Mom became the center of my being. The downside was that my mom was one of the many Latvians who had to escape from their homeland during WW II so mom and I have at least a two generation difference. It took some doing to get us on the same wave lengths but when I got older we would spend Saturday evening listening to mom's favorite Latvian records, have some wine and do some impromtu dancing to the music. In other words like two girlfriends. I miss her so much. In fact her 100th birthday has already come and gone and if you'd like you can take a look at the poem I wrote in her honor To Mom - My Queen. Cherish the time you have with your mom and keep telling her you love her. I know my mom is with me still and always will be especially when I look up into a starry sky.


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carter06 4 years ago from Cronulla NSW

Hi Ardie, I loved this hub, thanks so much for writing and sharing it with us. My girls and I are close and we often get together for girls nights.I am so thankful for the relationship we have and your hub has inspired me to write a hub about family relationships, particularly mums and daughters. Thank you again and look forward to more of your wonderful hubs!


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poshcoffeeco 4 years ago from Cambridgeshire

Ardie you are not alone, Tracey speaks with her mom everyday too. We moved away with my job 13 years ago and she only sees her 3 to 4 times a year. Needless to say the kleenex is out whenever they meet up. I think we do get more emotional as we get older. A great tribute to your mom. Good for you.


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca

Awe... that was really touching. I wish I could say that I had that relationship with my mom, but I don't. I am glad your mom is your number 1 fan. That is the way it should be! I am the number 1 fan of all my kids no matter how mad they make me at times... and for them... I hope they feel the same way about me! Awesome hub!


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Just Ask Susan 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

This is a really nice hub about you and your mom. I never really knew my mom but as a bonus I got the best mother in law a girl could ever want. Her and I are pretty close.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

Awwww Ardie, I didn't know you cry so easily! I'm going to have to make you laugh more BUT then you'll need to wash laundry more often! Haha!

My mom was my best friend also:) Enjoy making memories with your awesome mom who obviously raised an amazing daughter. Ok, go dry your tears. Fab hub!:)


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Thank you Gypsy Rose :) Im sorry to hear about your dad but thankfully you had mom – even if she was a might bit older. I can just imagine the two of you listening to records and dancing in the living room…sorta like the dance parties I have with my own daughters! So much fun. I will always tell my mom I love her – just as you will always know your mom is with you. 100…wow. If you would, please send me an email with the link to your poem and I will stick it in this Hub!!

Carter06, hello. I cant wait to do girls nights with my daughters. They’re still a little young for it so we just have “camp outs” now where we all pile onto the living room floor with hundreds of blankets and pillows. Then we shoo daddy upstairs :D

Heya PCC, I often wonder how I would handle it if my husband’s job required we move…would I go? It would be one of the hardest decisions of my life! I would surely need the tissues like dear Tracey!

Barbergirl, hello! Im sorry you don’t have that relationship with your mom. But I bet there is someone else in your life that you share that same bond with…whether it’s your sister or your husband’s mom or someone else. And I hear ya about the kids…there are days hahah

JAS – hello :) You are so lucky to have the bond with your mother in law! Believe it or not my mother in law and I were great friends before I ever even met her son (my husband). Lucky lucky us!

Sunshine, I’m a hysterical mess most days :) I swear I’m not bipolar, just very emotional! I appreciate the laughs – I always keep extra laundry on hand hahah gross


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schoolgirlforreal 4 years ago from USA

Thanks Ardi-girl :)

I love your pic btw. so cute.:)!


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writer20 4 years ago from Southern Nevada

My mother never was a goodfriend she rely kissed us or said anything nice. Oh well, she's 92 now and still very much alive.

Your tribute to your Mom is great. Voted up and awesome


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

My mom was always my best friend. I lost her in July.. She had been sick for so long.. excellent writing here.. I love love this hub.

i voted way up

debie


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nataliejs 4 years ago from Farmersville, CA

That's awesome that you can look up to your mom proudly. That's why it's so important for a parent to always strive to be a positive role model for their children :)


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States

Wow...such a heart rendering tribute for mom!

You sure made it sound so simple yet, difficult.

written beautifully, indeed!

Voted up as awesome!!


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htodd 4 years ago from United States

Thanks for the great post..Nice


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radicalmovements 4 years ago from Lost in Hub Pages

Truly a touching hub !!! A heartwarming quote by Mildred B. Vermont "Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs... since the payment is pure love.”

Thanks !!


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Hello writer20, what a shame. Perhaps your mother only parented how she was taught and didn't try to move beyond it to be a more affectionate parent herself. 92...wow

Deborah Brooks - Im so sorry for your loss {{hug}} Mom is still with you because she is a part of you - she will always know what you're up to. Its just a mom thing.

nataliejs, I agree! I try to be a good role model for my daughters - I suppose I will find out in the future how I've done...they're still pretty young :)

Ruchira, thank you! Its wonderful to see you on my Hub. This was actually very easy to write because it came from the heart...the editing not so easy hahah

htodd, thank you! and thank you for reading it :)

radicalmovements, hello there :) I love that quote! I know I love my mom unconditionally so it's true. And it's the salary that never stops. Im old and I STILL need my mama.


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Sharyn's Slant 4 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

Ardie ~ I have read hundreds and hundreds of hubs over the past year and I do not ever remember having to grab the Kleenex as I did just now. I was doing okay but the last paragraph just totally got me. I used to talk to my Mom every single day no matter what. She was the person I trusted the most in this world. She was my number one fan also. I got my creativity from her. And I terribly miss all that we would share. My mom has been gone for over six years now and just about a year ago, I was going through some of her stuff and found this: I used to write for a comic strip. My mom was so excited for me being part of this and would read every one of my ideas (and give me her opinions too). The first comic strip that was published with my writing and name on it, she actually had it laminated and stored in her dresser. I never knew she did this and I was extremely touched when I found it. I know she would be so proud of me today for my writing efforts . . . finally taking the risk of "putting it out there." The relationship you have with your mother sounds extremely special. Cherish every moment!


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Sharyn! You had ME in tears reading this about your Mom. Its the sweet little things they do that we dont know about as daughters that touch us the most when we learn of them. I'm so sorry reading this upset you :( Mom is proud of you and I am proud of you. I love you girl!


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tammyswallow 4 years ago from North Carolina

This is very touching. I am glad you have such a wonderful relationship with your Mom. I wished and wished for that all of my life but I didn't get it. But, I have a daughter of my own and I will always want to have this kind of relationship with her. Great hub!


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Hi Tammy. Im sorry someone wasnt capable of recognizing just how perfect you are! We try all our lives to please our moms...its a rough task. You've done the best possible thing and that is to make sure YOUR daughter benefits from what you wanted and needed the most.


balamurugan 4 years ago

good


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

Damn it Ardie; now you have me crying this morning! What a beautiful tribute to your mother...and I might add to you as well. I was a single father for many years and my son and I have that kind of relationship and it is one of my greatest rewards in life. Thank you for this; it is simply wonderful.


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Helloooooo Bill! I didn't mean to make you cry - here, have a Puffs with lotion :) Better now? Im proud of you for being a single dad and being close with your son. I bet it meant the world to him that you stuck it out.


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emilybee 4 years ago

What a sweet hub! This is just too cute. I'll have to share this hub with my mumma. We only live 25 minutes away but that seems too far sometimes. What a loving hub!!!!


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Thanks Emilybee :) My mom is only about 20-25 minutes away too! Its close enough to visit daily but we still dont. Life gets so busy - I know, poor excuse. BUT I know its close enough that I can visit every day if I want.


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Kamalesh050 4 years ago from Sahaganj, Dist. Hooghly, West Bengal, India

Wonderful hub, so sweet and touching ! Voted Up & Awesome.

Best Wishes, Kamalesh


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Aaw thanks Kamalesh :) I appreciate the comment, the read and the vote!


AudraLeigh 4 years ago

Ardie, This was a lovely tribute to your Mom. You wore your heart on your sleeve as you wrote this. It says a lot for your character; an individual I admire.


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Aaw Audra, you're too sweet :) And thats why I adore YOU! Its funny you should comment on this one at this time. Mom has been my rock through my divorce and move. She has listened to me cry, she helped me carry heavy boxes, she watched my kids for free (still does!) endlessly and goes above and beyond her duties as a mother to an adult child.

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