Complain And Make It Happen

You Won't Listen

No matter how many times I say

Think positive

Try another way

You go back to all your bad habits

You start cursing then it leads to complaining

Your voice raises and you start believing your old lies

Yes lies

It always happens to me

I can never catch a break

Just once

Everyone else can do it

But no not me

I hate it

I really hate this

This is where I would usually try to say

Stop !

Nicely but with a firm voice

I can see it will do no good

So I let you rant and rave

I think to myself

I am not part of this or ever will be part of negative thinking

It serves no purpose

Except to make everyone feel awful

So I bite my tongue

I let you continue as long as you want

I listen and let you blow off steam

Now when your done

Can I talk

Fifteen minutes of my life has gone by

My wife still goes on and on

She is not done

Why would she be ?

That would make to much sense

It has to be going on a half hour now

I hope she is exausted

I know I am just listening

I would try to list everything she said

She said way too much and talked way too fast

Well the whole point in question

Was she had to let me know she was not happy

Me being her loving husband

Had to shut up and listen

She got her point across

Very clear

I signed up for this

Not exactly

But it's o.k.

I realize that life doesn't always go my way either

When I try to blow off a little steam

She then remembers everything I ever said to her verbatim

So I know part of her brain is listening even now

I wait for silence

It is still too soon

This could be a long, long slow process

I am not going nowhere

All I have is time

This gives me a chance to tell you what this is all about

It all started when we have to meet someone for a business luncheon

We left early and got directions from the internet

We also have a g.p,s. on our phone

The directions on the internet were foolish

Then our phone wouldn't pick up

Just looking for service

So as it may

We have two options and both our not good ones

At this moment

When we get in the area

I don't dare suggest we ask someone or call the restaurant

That would be smart

People have done it for years

All of a sudden we have become dumber

I like to look at it a different way

I like to think we have become numb

Numb to all other choices or options

Well this became such a heated subject

I couldn't and wouldn't dare touch it

I can feel not just the heat

But actual flames

I don't like getting burned

So I will resume this in a few days

I am going to cool off by going out and shovel in the snow

What I do want to let you know

Is we got there on time

With three other obstacles in our way

We met two very nice and charming people

This is what really matters

To be continued.....






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annart 22 months ago from SW England

Yes I know what you mean. We don't get so excitable about wonderful things, do we?!

I often think that we should think about how we used to cope with situations. Remember those things called maps? Love them. I never go anywhere without a back-up map on the back seat of the car.

Great poem.

Ann


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billybuc 22 months ago from Olympia, WA

There are times when the worst prisons in the world are the ones we construct for ourselves. Breaking old habits is a bitch, excuse my language. This poem is filled with angst and frustration and I've been there, done that, and felt every frustrating moment.


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DREAM ON 22 months ago Author

annart I know difficult times are not pleasant. The only way we are going to make it better is by seeing past the problem at hand and using a solution to make things right. Team work and trust in our partner to help us. Then of course when things are to emotional it's better to give a little time to mellow out. billybuc I have had my fair share and I am sure I have said so much worse but I know it only escalates the problem when you continue to the old routine that feels comfortable and safe. Time to breathe and think and say I know I can do this and even if I don't know how I will give it some time and throw my hands up in the air and pray for a hail marry. Thank you both for your interesting comments and support.


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Joy56 22 months ago

I find Prozac a great help...... It shuts everyone out..... Want one .....hugs xxxxxxxxx Brenda


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DREAM ON 22 months ago Author

Joy56 Better leave the bottle. Life is always full of surprises. There is no telling what is going to happen next. We can plan and guess. If we enjoy the good and keep focusing on more good. Even the bad days have a way of tuning around. So nice to see you. Thank you for your lovely comments.


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Joy56 22 months ago

No worries ......


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Michael-Milec 22 months ago

You taught me here something , Michael.

This can't be done if episode take place while siting in a moving car. Still it is possible to call for an emergency stop : " Sorry I have to use a bathroom..." Next is to simulate. . .

Even innocuous moments of negativity are solved effectively. .. After second or third departure to the bathroom a positive impact is usually achieved. ( What do you think of me? I can't win argument without your fueling it...)

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" Long time ago "- In our first year in this country, driving from Detroit to New York City with limited knowledge of this beautiful and difficult English language, a family of four was heading to downtown Manhattan hotel. Only one driver , my wife was reading direction provided by AAA. There wasn't time for argument when at given opportunity : " Say it again please??" No, I said right, you turned left... So we went back where right was right... We arrived few minutes before 10PM , 1/2 of hour early according to the proposed schedule.

A good lesson for husbands has been given to me early after the wedding: God gave to us ( men) two ears to use efficiently: In through the one and out through the other...

Man, you always win when you let your wife to make major decisions...

( I just don't understand why some men in this culture call their wives "honey "!?

Voted useful and interesting.


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DREAM ON 22 months ago Author

Joy56 We all see life from a different view. It doesn't even matter who is right or wrong. The important thing is that we all learn to get along. Find what you love and let the rest go. Practice and more practice. Can turn into a life of endless fun. Thank you for reading and sharing.


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Michael-Milec 22 months ago

At the end of my comment , my vote was useful and interesting...


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Gypsy Rose Lee 22 months ago from Riga, Latvia

I just lay down, close my eyes, blast my favorite music and the world goes far, far away.


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DREAM ON 22 months ago Author

Michael-Milec After careful thought and consideration for both parties involved I wanted to give enough time to pass and digest the situation. Trying to be non biased. I could start out being more understanding when such a problem comes to light. Taking in her feelings and stress. Some people express themselves in different ways. It is important to arrive on time for a meeting. We hit normal rush hour traffic which we expected and left early for but not early enough.The weather added to the stress when we got to the public parking lot and went to pay the ticket machine that was not working and it was poorly shoveled out. We seen other people who couldn't find a place to park. Since we got the last open spot. A couple couldn't make their way through the snow turned around and headed back to their car. We could of taken a test run to see where the place is. About a 45 minutes from where we live. Now reasons not to get mad. Losing our temper never helps any situation and only makes people say things they shouldn't. It is only a business meeting and we could of cancelled. We found out later that another was held a week before where only four people showed up. We can keep trying until we find a way. We have no real problem except the unnecessary pressure we put on ourselves. We are not going to lose any money if we don't show. We have to work together like we have in the past to reach our destination. There is a good chance we will still make it on time. Maybe they will cancel. In the end it all worked out fine. The food was great and we got to meet some interesting people. My wife dropped the whole subject faster than a hot potato. She looked at me like what? Everyone gets mad it is common and accepted. My final thoughts is we are not everyone else. We are two intelligent adults who can find better ways to handle the problem at hand. What would you of done in a real emergency? I appreciate your interesting situation that gives me emotional comfort and makes me understand I am not the only one that this happens to. Some things are meant to happen for reasons beyond my comprehension. That is the reason why we are given two ears and two eyes to watch and listen more. I like to think it is not a big deal. Then my wife thinks I am not understanding her. Thank you for reading and your comment. I constantly call my wife honey instead of her name as a more affectionate way to show endearment and love. Like the words sweetheart and luv.


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Michael-Milec 22 months ago

Wooow , DREAM-ON.

Your answer is worthy of HP article spot, signifying our humanness will lead us at our will.Life's testing territory presents chances to quit or continue. We might be in hurry pressed by appointment time schedule, while missing more urgent character study. Is it me or is it her- the two " would become one" - proverbially only. A man will never comprehend woman's emotion and vice versa which means good.

Your "final thoughts is we are not everyone else"- profound - suggests much broader implication... An example: :"my wife thinks I am not understanding her." And you dont! I dont understand my wife either. She is a woman . The man is standing by his woman in and 'awe'- a feeling of respect mixed with dread and wonder, often inspired by something powerful. She is worth of admiration and we are not affraid to confront her. ( We think we are in hurry to finish what we have started now- while missing opportunity to grow in knowlege, learnig to know each other .) Isnt it true when we realize - in your words " Some things are meant to happen for reason beyond my comprehensin..." Those " things" are open opportunity to sit down for good cup of coffee togeether and in soft loving voice to say - darling ,( honey ) we were not born the same day, our charismatic ability will differ for sometime now...


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DREAM ON 22 months ago Author

Michael-Milec I appreciate all your time and effort reading and sharing your comments and support. It gives me one more reason to keep writing. Gypsy Rose Lee Music works well. I will try your method more. To find and enjoy the things we love and go back to them when life hits a snag. Michael-Milec Life is wonderful and so inspirational when we look at all the good people in the world and what they have accomplished. Just the way our body functions and keeps us alive and well is reason enough to let all the smaller insignificant problems in life go. I continue to learn and find ways to understand life the way it is and the way it could be. Thank you all for your comments and your thoughtfulness.


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Joy56 22 months ago

I wrote a hub yesterday ....would be so happy if you take a look


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DREAM ON 22 months ago Author

Joy56 I love to read your hubs and will be by to relax a bit on a knitted sweater. So colorful and warm. I can curl into a ball and fall asleep.Thank you so much for reading.


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Joy56 22 months ago

Ha ha..... Last year was hard for me, and I learned to crochet too. A life long ambition...... I am just getting a bit tired of the knitting and come back to writing. I always spend more time reading other peoples hubs...... That is what I do best......... I like to connect and communicate. Too much effort to get my writing skills up to the standard I would like them to be. I rejoice in other peoples achievements..... You take care. Keep writing. Has the snow melted?????


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DREAM ON 22 months ago Author

Joy56 Very busy here shoveling every day. Leaving earlier for work cuts into my time to read and write. Monday we are suppose to get twelve to fourteen inches. As long as we are safe while driving the snow is nice. I get exercise shoveling and like being outside in the fresh air. Please stay around for awhile we have a lot of catching up to do. I also feel we learn so much from other people more than we can ever know. Thank you for sharing your laughter and Joy. Have a beautiful Sunday.


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Mel Carriere 22 months ago from San Diego California

To be continued...That part is at least for certain. You are certainly not alone in the daily beat down from the wife. My wife blames me for everything from the California drought to the explosion of the space shuttle Challenger. It's just the hormones talking, my friend, keep your head up and don't take it personally. Great hub!


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Joy56 22 months ago

Never seen that much snow....... Always looking at the positive side ..... Well done


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DREAM ON 22 months ago Author

Mel Carriere I like to think how boring my life would be without an interesting view from my wife. I read her all my hubs. She cringes and says if it wasn't for me you wouldn't have any stories. She definitely keeps me on my toes and gives me a lot to think about. In the end the love that brought us together is alive and well. Joy56 I get all my exercise and work up a great appetite. Thank you both for reading and commenting.

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