Divorcée and happy with me -- My Words of Self Appreciation

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Now that the Nordegreens, kardashians and Moores and JLo's are free, how would we, could we, should we!... put their words in a piece of creativity from their own point of view?

I don't think they would be in the mood to write a poem or an ode to their exe's, but we can try and measure up their feelings.

Now we are going to condense their own say and give you an excerpt of their fury and cry... here we go:

DIVORCEE AND HAPPY WITH ME


Divorcee and happy with me

all along he was the one who pretended to be

to be the one forever until death do us apart

not worth the car and the house I got..so far



separated since last March

I was waiting for him to come

he chose to stay away and harden my heart

Miserable man, so far I will keep the Car


free to be myself and opening the door to Life

was so blind, that I cursed my mom with all my might

shame on me for causing her deep pain

no wonder on our wedding date it poured...it rain!


Waking up all alone, was a different challenge to be on my own

Mister right was gone and I still hold the keys to this home

Was so wrong to show me love and then left me in the cold

all along was behaving like I was almost next to none


As a new woman in single mode

won't have to worry to set that clock

will need sometime to revamp my expectations

seems that I will have to struggle with bolder egos

nastier women, that will challenge my self esteem

Only quality men will find the woman within


this time i'm not in the mood to date

who wants to be controlled at all times

Men are out there just to have fun

overlooking what we women have inside


rather be alone and not inventing anymore

was tired of apologizing for my coming late to his door

like I was a piece of his cake for his pervert games

that he could taste without mentioning my name


divorcée and getting used to it

Me and my girls playing our hide and seek

no need of men, when we cannot fulfill their needs

nasty needs that make us look so cheap


Now you see, I'm pleading to you all newlyweds

don't rush, dont run for the sake of happiness

experience is between these lines

take your time and if you think he is the one

you can make up your mind



All I need is a good job to take care of me

to the heck with this society that condemn me

you don't need to depend on their saying

you just make a move like I did with my marriage

throw away the bouquet of common sense

and listen to yourself, who will find love inside with no end.

starting to love ourselves before start all over again


divorcée and free of this cheating kind

not willing to commit when time is short as the memory of our minds

to end up making the same mistakes,

the same errors that blew the little love left in our own hearts...


Now you see, listen to me

who all along was looking for real answers

that don't fall from greenish trees

what you really need is to join me

in Occupying this place called, 'divorcée and happy with me'


Now who laughs last?

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Comments 38 comments

Sunnie Day 5 years ago

Good Morning lord,

Great thoughts here and so many ring true. There are benefits after the divorce and healing begins...finding self, becoming a stronger person, not having to subject ones self to infidelity or the worries that go on after..Learning to love self is most important of all..

Have a blessed day,

Sunnie


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Lord De Cross 5 years ago Author

Hello Sunny!

Glad you are the first to read us!

Hopefully Demi Moore will read it..ha-ha-ha!

Take care my friend!

LORD


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Ania L 5 years ago from United Kingdom

Great poem @lord :) I like your motto - being 'divorcee and happy with me', I follow it myself.

I can't say the divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me but in fact it was much better for my grow and learning as a person than the wedding itself.


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justateacher 5 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz...

Great writing - love your perspective.

My divorce was the best thing for me - it helped to grow in so many ways. It also led me to meet one of the greatest men in my life - my husband. My new husband isn't perfect, nor do I expect him to be. But he loves me and treats me right and would do anything in the world for me. He also loves and respects my grown daughters and accepts "my" grandchildren as his...


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mary615 5 years ago from Florida

I just love it when you read in some magazine about this wonderful couple who have a perfect marriage, etc.etc.;then the next week they are plastered all over the media about them breaking up! I enjoyed reading this and the video.


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raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

divorcing someone means you have outgrown that kind of relationship especially if it's not a healthy one...two strangers met...got married and of course realized too late that they had lots of unresolved issues...demons unfaced...lots of stuff...

great hub...


Sunnie Day 5 years ago

Hi lord,

I was saddened by Demi's divorce..I dont know why but they looked so happy and just seemed like they could beat the odds..maybe they still will..who knows..

thanks again,

Sunnie


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Lord De Cross 5 years ago Author

Hi There Ania!

Oh my god ladies. Well you are making sense then, This poem was done, after hearing complaint, whining and relaying on us very unique experiences. Your comment from the heart confirms many issues related to the subject, a woman needs to learn to value herself. Society instill in you ladies the marriage sweet ending and parents, som parents push you into that final option, which could be a falacy from the start if Love, real love is not found. Thanks Ania L. You look happier even in your pic!

LORD


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Lord De Cross 5 years ago Author

JUSATEACHER,

Hello sweetheart! was reading you 2 or 3 times in order to measure up your feelings and I'm happy for you. Remember that the man in shining armor was already sold out. All you can find is a Football fan and if lucky a hard worker, but you are right; there is no perfect mate anymore. We all I admit it.. even myself

have some ways set already. At times we need to be reminded of our own faults, but dont get me wrong, they are some guys out there that if you just start talking with certain psychology, you will find a new world from them..not sure about your new hubby but probably something different atracted you to him. Happy for you and those beautiful grandchildren of yours.

LORD


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Lord De Cross 5 years ago Author

Hi Mary615,

You are right on this one. The media and magazines have to make money somehow and we keep feeding them with or frenzy gossiping... have a nice day my friend. Hope to read you again soon!

LORD


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Lord De Cross 5 years ago Author

Raciniwa! the real you finally came out? your words are so deep, that make me wonder if you went through a lot of things and probably divorced as well. The funny thing is that relationships go through the same path and stages in a relationship, regardless of nationality. I know that in Philipinnes for centuries women were considered low class for any matter... and you will agree that new generations are going against the stigma of seeing you married and be part of society. Thanks for your stopping by Raciniwa. Have a nice one.

LORD


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Lord De Cross 5 years ago Author

Hello Sunny!

As of yesterday, 22 yrs old assistant to the couple, declared that she was the other woman. She came out due to Ashton freshness and retarded behavoir in not telling the truth. Actually, what in the world can glue a couple that is sixteen years apart? Love and sex?

LORD


Sunnie Day 5 years ago

..I did not realize their age was that far apart however it has been done..but I guess he really messed up..Maybe it was love and sex..but looks like the sex is out now..lol

Is Bruce remarried?


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PurvisBobbi44 5 years ago from Florida

Lord,

I am sad about Demi, because she really loved her husband, and I believe he loved her, until he didn't.

Divorce is not just a personal failure, it is a second chance in life. But the journey to the second chance sometimes bruises the spirit.

I am amazed that you can see this from a woman's point of view. I am still learning from the best. Very good hub.

Thanks,

Bobbi


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Terishere 5 years ago

Very good Lord!! People really need to take the time to get to know each other before marriage..and heck, I'd rather be alone than in a bad relationship...

Great hub!

Terri


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Lord De Cross 5 years ago Author

Okay Bobbi, here is why I know so well about the issue. I was raised by a single mom, and throught the years I saw her pain and together, HER and sister and brother, we made it to safe harbour. I know..and is in my poetry, life is learned through experiences and well... hubpages has given us a chance to put all these into 'paper'

Thanks Bobbi dear!

LORD


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Lord De Cross 5 years ago Author

Hello girl! Terry!

Glad to see you coming back. I thought you said you would be back in a week. Nevermind. Yep! relationships grow as our trees, you need to nurture your side of the deal. Not everything comes to you perfectly. Seen so many friends avoiding their women on Superbowl day and you know what I mean. Actually my ex, threw that TV down the steps, when her ex was busy watching the game and not even paying any attention.... to her nice see through negligee; byee TV!! thanks sweety, and happy to see you back!

LORD


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PurvisBobbi44 5 years ago from Florida

Lord,

My parents were divorced also, my mother was a single parent with two little girls, and my father was in the Navy. My sister was oldest, by 12 months. And I know something about pain as she died from burns she suffered in a fire on my grandparents farm. This is one reason I love to write about children--as I still miss her. She was a beautiful little girl, with blonde hair and big blue trusting eyes.

Everyone, has their own cross to bear, and we all handle it in different ways.

Writing a hub on this might help our inter wounds. Just a thought.I hope your mother found someone great to love her, and made her happy.

Thanks,

Bobbi


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Lord De Cross 5 years ago Author

You've said it all Bobbi!

Great to have you as a friend. You really touched Lord's heart. Your sister is well, I know, is not the same but we heal from these situations. Just one example: july 5th 2001, ex wife 8 moths and half pregnant thinks the baby is due anytime: nope! The baby was kicking for his life..since MRS. placenta detached... slowly, as you can imagine..., the link with the world(umbilical chord) denied his coming into this unfair Life. And that was it! BABY Quentin fought his biggest battle to...just hold to the end. I'm okay, yes, we are still here dear...Have a nice one!

LORD


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Ivona Poyntz 5 years ago from UK

A potent message that its OK to be alone: in fact, its empowering. I don't know why but it reminded me of the song 'I will survive'


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Terishere 5 years ago

Hi Lord.. So much was going on in my life...one was being stalked... :) Then my father passed away last week..and this darn "hug" still hanging on... It was all just a bit much...

In your comment above, I can understand the woman's frustration. You don't get married to be ignored...which is sadly what happens in most cases. It really takes work with both partners to make sure we don't take each other for granted and do our part to make the other one feel special..and to always show respect..

Being alone is easy.. you don't have to worry about someone else :) And, it is a nice break...

Terri


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Lord De Cross 5 years ago Author

Ivona, your comments mean a lot coming froma woman indeed! Sometimes I wonder why I'm a guy with so many feelings that can relate with you ladies. Of course I'm not gay...not yet! lol! But my feminine side flourishes like the rose on an drizzling afternoon of early April. Thanks for your stopping by Ivona.

LORD


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Lord De Cross 5 years ago Author

TERISHERE,

Stalked? that's sonething nowadays, like there are not enough women out there, but I guess you are fine and ready for the next hub..for your friend. Yes! rather be alone that being asked asked where were you 5 minutes before. Is ridiculous! Wait a minute...how many guys have stopped in here so far? OH geez! I need back up guys!!..being stalked by the HP ladies!!

LORD


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Terishere 5 years ago

Yeah Lord, my controlling ex was stalking me online. Hopefully it has stopped....

Ugh..yes, the questioning!!! I can't stand it! It usually comes from insecure people.. My ex did that too! lol

Hmmm I don't think any men have stopped here? Unless I missed some...

LOL I'm sure you don't mind us HP ladies stalking you :)


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Lord De Cross 5 years ago Author

Ha-ha-ha! You can stalk me anytime Terri...but just a friendly stalk here and there... let's have fun in hubland!!


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Terishere 5 years ago

LOL... Friendly stalking is ok... hmmm I wonder if that is a real term? lol I'll only stalk you on HP lol


Aka Professor M 5 years ago

@Lord de Cross: I will keep this brief as I appear to be the odd one out in this comment thread, Lord! I believe that Marriage isn't the real problem in society as much as the unrealistic expectations of those who enter into it.

Is this wide World that we live in Idylic, Perfect and Serene, People? No! It is stress filled, ever changing and demanding, so why my friends would we expect that marriage should be any different!

We are all human and as such have flaws that need to be addressed. It takes hard work to make a go of the new relationship for both persons. It is then that they really discover themselves and grow to where each sees the other as they really are.

This is where they learn to accept the person they took for better or worse and in turn are accepted by them in the same way as well! This is where the real meaning of love and mutual respect for each other as persons really begins.

I'm sorry that your mother was a single mom, Lord! I was never in that situation, myself, Sir. However, in my case, as my father died when I was seventeen, I have experienced the rest of the suddenly missing parent scene, only from a more permanent format.

The type of strength required from the surviving parent was perhaps more demanding, emotionally worse and forty plus years ago, froth with a social stigma that brought out the gossips looking for anything to feed on!

Regardless women do have a hard time. As a man who has been married to the same woman for 28 years and whom I've known for almost 35 years, I still believe that it is the only way that honest people who really love each other, prove it! Commitment gives each of them that real security that they both are committed to making it last.

Your prose is intense and it did what it was meant to do, my friend! I respect your point of view and now you have mine, Sir! On its literary merits I vote it up! Philosophically I reserve my judgement to what I have place before our peers.

Regards Mike (Aka Professor M!) ;D


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picklesandrufus 5 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

like your words and point of view. Very well written! vote up


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Lord De Cross 5 years ago Author

Aka Professor M,

Your points of view are valid and I congratulate your commitment toward your Wife... and I'm glad you both survived this 28 years plus together. We are humans, and of course we make mistakes. We can agree that our fellow hubber ladies in here relate to the fact that they didn't have enough luck to keep love forever like it was supposed to be. I accept these ladies' comments in their enterity, because they tell it like it is. We all are unique and have faced different problems, that requiered different solutions ranging from separation, divorce and whatever means necessary in order to keep on going that hope that dwells deep in our heart. I appreciate and value your phylosophical point of view and I commend your wise words Sir AKA.

lord


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Lord De Cross 5 years ago Author

picklesandrufus,

Thanks so much for commenting and have your own say in this matter. Glad you relate with our creativity. Have a nice night!

LORD


Aka Professor M 5 years ago

@Lord de Cross:While I too, acknowledge that those lady hubbers, who have responded to this hub thread, have also experienced Divorce and have expressed their own comments with great validity, I respect their opinions and only ask the same courtesy in return, Lord!

Where my dear wife and I am concerned, it was more than just a commitment for us, my friend. Real Love isn't based on just physical attraction, mere infatuation, nor is it to be taken for granted either.

It is my firm belief that Love, Like all Good Things, which are worth having, requires Real Effort and WORK right from day one. What you Really Love, you really Care for, nurture and protect for it is priceless.

There isn't enough wealth and No amount of money which can purchase it. It can't be stolen, coercised or taken forcefully from anyone. It is something that only works when it is freely given, without conditions of any kind, by each party to the other.

Divorce has its place, when the above condtions don't exist, my friend. I do not, nor ever have condoned, physical, mental or emotional abuses by either person of either sex. That being stated, Divorce shouldn't be the first option, if the two have a few differences that a little give and take with some work, could rectify.

People are not perfect, my friends. No they aren't, so then forgiveness, tolerance and mercy will need to be developed, by both sides, if the relationship is to grow stronger through the years.

All of us need to remember that it is two individuals that come into the union together. They will still be those same people but now they will need to adjust to one another in a commited relationship!

Compromise and negotiation are necessary and must be exercised. An uncompromising, inflexible, spoiled brat childish, selfish me first attitude never works.

If that is how certain people in the public eye, expect to behave going in, then they're going to consistently get these rude awakenings of one divorce after another divorce.

Sorry I rambled on here, Lord! It's only because I am so

certain that too often the easy way is taken rather than

learning the life lesson that needed to be learned to make it right! That is not only for marriage but also for life itself. Patience is indeed a virture that we all could benefit from exercising more often.

Regards Mike (Aka Professor M!) ;D


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Lord De Cross 5 years ago Author

Aka Professor M,

What a magnificent and unique thought exppressed from your Heart. My congratulations again in your al most three decades spent around your lucky 'Grand Dame.' May I wish you the best and there is no animosity toward you my admire friend. We are in a free society..and HP follows accordingly. What I can say..and hopefully will keep everybody content... is that we all are different and we all are humans that make mistakes and if someone never found real love is not that they never wanted to be loved. Social intedependency, put..or paint a world that would be confronted with the best we have at the earliest years in our lives. Some find the right person at the right moment and the less lucky meet Mr. okay. We are part of this World and deal with it. Not going against your potentiality as an admire thinker...But the ladies in here, wanted to vent some heat and perhaps needed a let out. Have a Nice weekend and hope to read another wonderful hub from you my most admired philosopher, regards,

LORD


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AEvans 5 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

I couldn't agree with you more. Divorcee' is good! Just getting in touch with me, love you bunches brother! Another great one. :)


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Lord De Cross 5 years ago Author

Hello ther AEvans,

Well, are joining this Club too? Might sound like a cliche, but this Hub was feeding a threading of its own. But is here for everyone to draw their ow conclusion and hopefully the road will be seen a little clear. Thanks Sis.

LORD


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lyns 4 years ago from USA

Excellent lord de cross, very well written with so much truth and reality, thanks for sharing. Happy Holidays my friend, love your writings, always deep. lyns


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

You are touching me with those kind words lyns!

We do the best we can with our mind and our words, you have a nice night and happy holidays!

LORD


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

lord de cross....I am impressed by the way you think and appreciate how you lend advice so well. The vast majority, it seems, reaches the point of dealing with regret/remorse...and unfortunately, beat ourselves up for making "mistakes" and poor decisions/choices..But that isn't truly the case very often, is it? Rather than grieve that our brain must have been dead for a time....couldn't it be that it simply took us a while to get the complicated wiring hooked up properly between the brain and the heart? We all need to be kinder and more understanding with OURSELVES. (PurvisBobbi44, your 2nd comment touched my heart and brought a tear to my eye..sending you a sister-hug)


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Effer,

Yeah Bobbi is a dear friend of us and yours too! You should comment on her hubs. She wanted to quit last week but I told her to calm down and stay and read our work...and she thanked us for that one. This piece was written..thinking and feeling the way both sexes sense this step in life. For some is a solution, for others is a way out. Thanks my friend for these words of appreciation!!

LORD

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