Don't Get Your Love On False Pretense"

"Don't Get Your Love On False Pretense"

In any relationship always make sure you don't start anything you can't keep going.
In any relationship always make sure you don't start anything you can't keep going.

"Don't Get Your Love On False Pretense"

We live in a world , where a person word doesn't mean a whole lot anymore. in the world of dating and trying to find a mate to love and be happy with, sometimes people stretch the truth on their behalf and just tell people what they want to hear. Doing this is not an option, because in the end ; you will have hurt the person you're interested in, and they want believe anything you say again. when you start a new relationship, it's always best to be honest an d upfront with the person you're interested in. A lot of times, we do big things to get these people in our lives; in fact some of us often bend the truth and even bend over backwards to get your love involved with you. We put on air-es and pretend we're someone that we're actually not and we're buying them things and doing a lot of wonderful things for this person; to get them to care about you. This is okay, only if you plan on keeping the charade going. The problem is most times people go out of their way to charm you; and get into your good grace and get you to totally and completely into them, but there is catch to this scenario. These people are guilty of fraud, because they do just enough to get you hooked on the good things they do for you and on how good they treat you, but you Will discover that once you have swallowed the bait and become apart of his or her life, they slowly stop giving and doing all the wonderful things they did to get you in the first place.

This is when you realize you have been taken for a joy ride, and your fairy tale has come to a crashing and abrupt end. I like I had said earlier, it's okay to wine and dine someone and treat them like a king or queen on a pedestal; but you can't stop doing all thse great things when the conquest is over. Remember you must always keep up the routine of what you started off with. If you started a new relation ship on doing and buying, then you will have to keep it up or your love interest will think you  have lost interest and no longer care for them.  You have to keep these people interest in you  through doing and buying because that was what how you started off the relationship.  Most people are incurable romantics, so if you started your relationship b y being a Prince or Princess, you will have to keep up the charade or the person will become disenchanted with you; and think you have into a frog.  If you started your relationship with spending money like your Donald Trump or Oprah Winfrey,and once you egt him or her; you change and start pinching pennies, then they will think you have become a penny pi9nching miser. If you started the relationship with flowers and candy and going on  romantic dates; well Bud, your love interest thinks this is going to last forever. Always remember whatever you started out with in regards to your relationship ; you will have to keep it up, if you want the relationship to last.

So, before you go out there and find your Mr. or Miss Right, you need to ,ponder the idea of what you want to start off with, and what kind of image do you want project to the person you're interested in. Now, you can take them out to dinner or a movie, but if you be honest and tell your love interest, that you're not made of money but sometimes you like to do special things with your loved one but you want be able to spurge all the time. If you will be kind and considerate enough to do this, the person will appreciate it, because you want be giving them false expectations and you will be preventing yourself from being looked at as a big lier. The great thing about this is you will be comfortable with what ever actions you take because your love interest knows what you're about. The most important thing of all is you want feel pressured to do something you can't afford. This will make others care for you as a caring, loving person that is all about truth and honest, someone they can trust and feel secure with.  Trust me, who doesn't want something that's real and lasting in a relationship, instead of the glitz and glamour and no truth to stand on; that's not a strong foundation to build a relationship.

Benny Faye Douglass

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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Micky Dee, you always make my day with your humor and your antics. Thank you for your comment and feeback. blessings to you. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Veronica, you are correct,trying to live a life of petense destroys everything. Thank you coming by and leaving positive feedback and your comment . Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you so much AEvan, for stopping by and leaving your positive feedback and comment, I truly appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59


ivori 6 years ago

First impressions set the stage. Good advice, Faye. Great hub!


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

I must be doing something right. I'm living alone. Wait- maybe I'm doing something wrong. I'm not putting on airs. Maybe I just put on one or two, no? Thanks Creativeone!


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Veronica Allen 6 years ago from Georgia

Great advice creativeone. Once you begin a relationship with false pretenses, it just makes any thing good that has been done or said obsolete.


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AEvans 6 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

I have had a wonderful and honest marriage for the past 15 years but I have seen some of my divorced or single friends hurt the other person's feelings with dishonesty. This hub is straight up and gives the truth and facts! Well written you go girl! :)


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Hello, The truth is the light. Thank you for stopping by and leaving your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

You really hit the nail on the head. You must have met my Ex hahaha


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you loveofnight, I use the same saying because it's also true. thank you for your comment and feedb ack. I appreciate you. Godspeed.creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you for your comment and feedback msorensson, I love your little saying because it make such good sense. Thank you for sharing it. Godspeed. creativeone59


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loveofnight 6 years ago from Baltimore, Maryland

some very good advice, i always tell people don't start what you can't finish because you can't change up on me latter.......


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msorensson 6 years ago

This is so true, creativeone59. Once a pattern has been formed it is rather difficult to change.

One has to remember that one who loves truly has no expectation of the other person. Like I have said before to someone:

I love you, fat or thin

I love you glad or mad

I love you rich or poor

And even when you don't love me back, I love you anyway.

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