How to Deal with a Drama Queen or King

Drama King or Queen...

Regardless of whether we invite drama into our lives or not, it's bound to make an appearance. Nobody truly likes drama, but some people are prone to it. It's similar to the common cold, it enters your life when you least expect it and exits when it's darn good and ready.

Dramatics have no sexual preference, which is why we have Drama Queens and Kings. Queens and Kings come in assorted shapes and sizes. There is no age or skin color discrepancy. Drama effects us all.

We all have our own baggage and loads to carry. Nobody is immune to drama. Whether it's our own or someone else's, it's a part of life.

It's how we handle dramatic situations that count. We can allow the drama to stress us out or we can just try our best to ignore it. Chances are, most of the time we just can't ignore those uneventful moments, so we basically stress out.

Over time we get accustomed to who or what brings the unnecessary drama into our lives and we try to avoid it. That's not always easy. So, in a nutshell we need to teach ourselves on how to deal with drama and it's pitfalls.

Save the Drama for Yo' Mama

My regime in dealing with drama is basic and simple:

1. Listen to the drama (to a point)
2. Offer assistance (to a point)
3. Deal with the stress (to a point)
4. Cry less (if needed, to a point)
5. Laugh often (it greatly reduces stress)
6. Heal (it benefits your sanity)
7. Repeat the process (drama always returns)

A drama queen in the making...

A dramatic scenario...

Here is a typical situation of a queen or king who create their drama naturally.

Before (the eye before the storm)
Should I? Shouldn't I? I need advice! Hmmm, did you say something? Yes, I heard you, what did you say? Ok, so like I was saying.....

During (the storm)
Why does this always happen to me!? My life is like a bad movie! It feels like my life is falling apart! I'm so unhappy. I'm tired. WHY WON'T ANYONE LISTEN TO ME? Hellooooooo I'm speaking to you! Oh, you heard me...really? Ok, so what about me?

After (the aftermath)
Why doesn't anyone listen to me?! UGH! I really need to be heard! No one ever really hears me! I wonder why? Could I be doing something wrong?! (YA THINK)

Are you a Drama King or Queen?

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© 2011 Linda Bilyeu

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Dramatic comments are always welcome :) 43 comments

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Terishere 5 years ago

Good hub! I hate drama and do my best to keep it to a minimal.

Terri


Jill 5 years ago

Thank you for the pointers I'll be sure to use them :)

Maybe just about now !!! Help LOL She's not my mommy Good one !!


Arlene V. Poma 5 years ago

Ain't that the truth, Sunshine? Your Hub just blew me away. I will bookmark this and read it the next time I get my panties in a knot. Which isn't very often. But these past two weeks, I kinda got sucked into these young and dumb girls' drama stories. But I turned it around and got some Hubs out of those. Who knows where you can get inspiration from these days? Voted up all across the board. Thank you, thank you thank you for your insights.


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fpherj48 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

OH....interesting, Sunshine....So you know some of the same people I know? hmmmm, that's weird, since you live in Fl & I live in NY.....WHAT??!! Shut UP!! There are DRAMA Queens (&Kings) in Orlando too??

Voted UP! way UP!


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Rastamermaid 5 years ago from Universe

Awesome hub Sunshine625!

I don't do drama,I cut it off,too much negavitity is harmful to the karma.

I live in a good light and I allow it to shine,fortunately it has brought more positivity and love to my life.

Blessings!


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Rastamermaid that's an excellent way to live your life. Drama is time consuming and such a waste of brain cells. Why emit negative energy when positive energy is so much more beneficial? :))

By the way the above You Tube video with the Drama Queen in the making is a MUST SEE for a good laugh!

Thank you for sharing your thoughts!


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fpherj48 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

OK...I'll follow her. If she has a sense of humor like mine...she'll need all the friends she can get! I'll thank you NOW if you don't mind! Have a little respect for my AGE..sunshine! Now, What were we talking about?


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

fpherj...You are very welcome...about the follow...just in case you forgot what I was talking about! :)))


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Rastamermaid 5 years ago from Universe

Sunshine I watched the clip and I laughed,but it reminded me of a trip to the Dr's when I was younger maybe 4yr old,I had fallen from a chair and being light skinned the bruising looked horrible. Well the nurse said what happened,and I replied "Mommy beat me". They called the cops on my mom that instant. My mother didn't hit me at all, didn't get my first whipping til 10.

We laugh about it now,but my mom wasn't laughing then,guess I was a little drama queen!


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Oh my Rastermermaid Oh my!!!!! I imagined your scenario unfolding and I pictured your mother's face trying to explain to the cops that she didn't beat you!!! What a funny story (now)! Thank you for sharing :))


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fpherj48 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Little Whipper-snapper...snot!


Arlene V. Poma 5 years ago

Sunshine! Are you gonna take that crap from fpherj48 after you sent her my waaaaaaaayyyy??? The nerve! If you accept her potty mouth and drama, let me whip out my violin and play you a tune! Hahahahahahahaha.


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Arlene...I accept fpherj anyway and everyway she comes. She's a heck of a package deal! I'd rather have a friend call me a Little Whipper-snapper not then an enemy cause I'd to hurt them instead of LOL!! You and Paula will enjoy following each other, trust me :)


Arlene V. Poma 5 years ago

Just between you, me and the lamp post, I don't know about her, Sunshine. It's been a few decades since anyone has called me a snot!


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Really? I'm sorry to hear that Arlene. Would it help if someone called you a snot :) Consider it a term of endearment :)


Arlene V. Poma 5 years ago

Ay yi yi.


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Wishing y'all a drama free day :-))


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Mentalist acer 5 years ago from A Voice in your Mind!

I Spend A Good Deal Of Effort To Eliminate Drama And Have An Allergy Towards Drama Driven Disciples.;)


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fpherj48 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Goodness Arlene....my words WERE terms of endearment...since Little Miss Sunshine is near-young enough to be my daughter....but I prefer her as friend, cause she's a RIP-ROARIN Good time...speaking of "being a long time since..." I haven't heard "Ay yi yi," since I dated Pedro in the 70's....I love it!! You are another GEM!


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Cloverleaf 5 years ago from Calgary, AB, Canada

Hi Sunshine, I know a few drama queens myself LOL.

LOVED the first YouTube video, being from UK I relate very well to the good old British humour haha!

Cloverleaf.


Mich S 5 years ago

That mini drama queen video was funny! I liked her smirk at the end :)


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carriethomson 5 years ago from United Kingdom

:) loved that video its gr8!! i know a few such queens and kings as well ;) i guess i can handle them now.

carrie


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you @carriethomson, @mich, @cloverleaf for the visit and the comments! I didn't see the end of that video coming! It's superb!!


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden

We need all the help we can get with the drama queens and kings in this world! If we let them be drama queens or kings for a while they will hopefully feel better! The problem is that the receiver will not feel so good:)) Maybe it is better to ignore them! Great regimes, on an always topical subject. I enjoyed this one!

Tina


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Movie Master 5 years ago from United Kingdom

Loved the hub and the first video, so funny, drama kings and queens are definitely best ignored!

Thanks for sharing.


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Cogerson 5 years ago from Virginia

Very nicely done....I think people that make a drama out of every possible thing....drives the people around them crazy....one of the guys I used to work with was so bad we called him Jimmy Drama...and boy did the name fit him....

Awesome selection of videos and cartoons....you have yourself another winning hub....voted up and awesome...BER


marellen 5 years ago

Hi Sunshine...there are some people who love drama because they get attention this way. There is always that small grey cloud that follows them every where. Knowing how to afford them and not get caught up in it can be challenging.


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Sharyn's Slant 5 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

Fun read Sunshine! And videos and pics too! I have consciously been working on less drama in my life. I can't stand those that feel everything is always about them. Big pet peeve! Hope you have a great weekend!

Sharyn


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Heather McMillan 5 years ago from Hampton, VA

Loved reading this Sunshine. I laughed at the first video and I personally love the song by Toby Keith so enjoyed listening to it again. I try to keep drama out of my life, and love the pointers you gave! Rated up.


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Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma

Dramatic people get on my nerves and I avoid them as much as I can. They don't seem to realize that they bring it on themselves by the people they choose to be with and the decisions they make.


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Frank Atanacio 5 years ago from Shelton

a very good hub Sunshine :) Frank


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geegee77 5 years ago from The Lone Star State!!

How did I miss this one?? Oh well glad I found it better late than never!! Loved it Ive had so much drama it's unreal. But as we get older we wise up (or some of us do lol) and treat it as Garfield does:) great hub sunshine:) ge


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Ok - this is it for sure! LMAO Laurel is home for lunch and three of us are sitting here watching the video and laughing hysterically (her BF's mom is a school bus driver) she wants me to send her the link so she can forward! Hilarious - she just said, "PLEASE email that to me at work - she has to show it off:) SWEET!


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

The video of that little girl is a RIOT!!! :))


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

It is! We rotf! I like that kid:) lol


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tammyswallow 4 years ago from North Carolina

Great idea and a great hub! I can think of a few people to dedicate this hub too.. LOL!!!


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri

This is so good!! As a high school teacher, I see DRAMA every day. It is really sad when I see the same immature drama in adults. I could NEVER be a DRAMA QUEEN!! Everyone just naturally loves me and gives me my way. TEHEHEHE!! or BAHAHAHA!! GREAT HUB!! Up and across!


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Ian Dabasori Hetr 4 years ago from Papua New Guinea

This is a good one. reading it makes me feel oldie No I'm not! I'm an energetic young man for some reason love to be in it. I love the fun of seeing people in drama. Especially the old ones. I have to say I enjoyed the video. Great. The hub is well written. Voted up.


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PDXKaraokeGuy 4 years ago from Portland, Oregon

drama is stupid and anyone who causes drama is stupid and I don't care if this creates drama (this, from a drama king)


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Vinaya Ghimire 3 years ago from Nepal

When I was in teens, I tried to become a drama king myself. LOL.


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Nell Rose 22 months ago from England

Oh I know so many drama queens I could send em to the palace in london to live with the real Queen! lol! funny stuff! voted and shared, nell


lovedoctor926 22 months ago

Great hub Sunshine. A must read for everyone.


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ChitrangadaSharan 22 months ago from New Delhi, India

Great hub, enjoyable and humorous!

I agree, there are too many drama kings/ queens around. A very interesting read indeed. Thanks!

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