How important is Fidelity?

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Statistics of Infidelity

  • 22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives.
  • 14 percent of married women have had affairs at least once during their married lives.
  • 70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did not know of their spouses' extramarital activity.
  • Men feel guiltier following sexual infidelity, while women feel guiltier after emotional transgression.
  • 90 percent of Americans believe adultery is morally wrong.
  • Women say that they'd be more likely to leave if they found out their partner was sleeping with someone else.
  • 17 percent of divorces in the United States are caused by infidelity.
  • Those who divorce because of infidelity rarely marry the person with whom they are having the affair.
  • It is estimated that 53% of all people will have one or more affairs during their lifetime.
  • 74% of men say they would have an affair if they knew they wouldn't get caught.
  • 68% of women say they would have an affair if they knew they wouldn't get caught.
  • 2 to 3 percent of all children are the product of infidelity.

Is Fidelity Important to a Relationship?

Fidelity is complete emotional commitment, trust, and respect between two people. It also means refraining from physical contact with another. The emotional connection is one of the most important aspects of a good relationship. You put your trust, hopes, dreams, and heart in the hands of the other person.

Th effects of infidelity on a relationship can be devastating. Overcoming the feelings of betrayal can be near impossible for some to overcome. For some it means the end of a relationship, the pain is too much to bear. It is one of the primary causes of divorce in the United States.

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Fidelity quotes

  • Nothing is more noble, nothing more venerable than fidelity. Faithfulness and truth are the most sacred excellences and endowments of the human mind. - Marcus Tullius Cicero
  • Fidelity is a gift not a requirement. - Lilli Palmer
  • True hapiness...is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose. - Helen Keller
  • Another of our highly prized virtues is fidelity. We are immensely pleased with ourselves when we are faithful. - Ida Wylie
  • Peace demands the most heroic labor and the most difficult sacrifice. It demands greater heroism than war. It demands greater fidelity to the truth and a much more perfect purity of conscience. - Thomas Merton
  • The lover heals the world not by a vague and abstract love for everybody and everything, but by becoming passionate and vowing fidelity to concrete relationships, persons, institutions, and places. - Sam Keen
  • Fidelity - a virtue peculiar to those who are about to be betrayed. - Ambrose Bierce

Infidelity Quotes

  • Well, if you're suspecting you lover is having an affair, it's definately devastating. It's really a terrible, terrible feeling because you have no control. - Amanda Seyfried
  • It is not difficult to deceive the first time, for the deceived possesses no antibodies; unvaccinated by suspicion, she overlooks lateness, accepts absurd excuses, permits the flimsiest patching to repair great rents in the quotidian. - John Updike
  • Never tell a loved one of an infidelity: you would be badly rewarded for your troubles. Although one dislikes being deceived, one likes even less to be undeceived. - Ninon De Lenclos
  • Those who are faithful know only the trivial side of love: it is the faithless who know love's tragedies. - Oscar Wilde
  • My attitude toward men who mess around is simple: If you find 'em, kill 'em. - Loretta Lynn
  • The heart of a cheater is empty and hollow. - Anonymous

The warning sign of infidelity

  • not being able to look you in the eyes
  • changing physical appearance
  • serious change in moods
  • your sex life has disappeared
  • spending less time at home
  • secrecy with use of phone or computer
  • seems to be more short-tempered
  • avoiding conversations about your relationship
  • when at home seeming to be restless
  • begins hiding credit card charges and cash withdrawals

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How to prevent infidelity

If you are the one tempted:

  • Make your relationship your number one priority.
  • Make a list of the person you are attracted to's annoying habits.
  • Always be honest.
  • Talk positively about your spouse.
  • Introduce your husband to the other person. It makes it harder to cheat when they know each other.
  • Make a list of all of your spouses good points.
  • Talk to your spouse about your marital relationship - make future plans.
  • Never be alone with the other person.

To help keep your spouse from temptation:

  • Make your relationship your number one priority.
  • Plan frequent outings for just the two of you.
  • Dress and look your best.
  • If your spouse is talking about another way to much, make plans to meet them.
  • Don't lend out your husband/wife to help another without you going along.
  • When apart, make sure you talk often.
  • Mark your territory. When with others that may be competition, hold his/her hand, put your arm around them.
  • Make your spouse feel needed and appreciated.
  • Interest yourself in your spouses interests.
  • Maken sure he/she has a couple of fun photos of you and the two of you together.

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Careermommy 3 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

Wow, these statistics are staggering, but sadly infidelity runs rampant in relationships. I like that you offered tips to people on how to help prevent infidelity in marriage. This was very informative, KoffeeKlatch Gals.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 3 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Careermommy, I agree, they are frightening. Thanks for reading.


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drbj 3 years ago from south Florida

Reading your unbelievable statistics regarding infidelity, KK Gals, I get the feeling that to many, fidelity is just another old-fashioned virtue to be dismissed as no longer necessary. How sad.


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kashmir56 3 years ago from Massachusetts

Hi my friend great well written article ! It's a shame that so many are cheating and losing what they had together. Sharing this great information within this informative article may help.

Vote up and more !


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always exploring 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

Wow, I am surprised this happens that much. Great informative tips...Thank's..


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 3 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

drbj, I'm sorry to say but I think you are right. Too many people think of fidelity as a thing of the past. Too baed.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 3 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

kashmir56, it is indeed a shame. The rate of infidelity is staggering. No wonder the divorce rate is so high.


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Patty Inglish, MS 3 years ago from North America

Thanks for sharing this Hub, KKG. I think that for a large part of Americans, marriage is really meaningless - just "being together." That's not enough, and that's too easily dismissed and discarded.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 3 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

always exploring, the statistics surprized me too. Thanks for reading.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 3 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

I agree Patty. Any relationship worth having is worth fighting for. People take marriage3, as you said, too lightly. This appears to have become a thow away, here today gone tomorrow type of world.


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Cheating happens so easily with those weak minded people, they fail to control their emotions and let little things get in their way of their relationships. An excellent article on fidelity.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 3 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

DDE, I think in this throw away world we live in people are less likely to be serious about relationship. They seem to think that there are so many people out there that another one will come along that will be just as good. How sad.

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