Thoughts Of Friendship

The Gift of a Friend

I didn't set out to befriend you

But there you were offering me your love

And I have to thank the Lord above

For all the magic that comes from knowing you

My Prayer for Friends

~May I in some form always be there

To let you know how much I care

If you're in need, may I try to do all that I can

To lend you a helping hand

And may I never grow tired of letting you lean

Whenever it is that you are feeling weak

Come and cry on my shoulder

Until you become bolder

You don't always have to wear that smile

Because happy, angry, or sad, consider me a friend all the while

Lean on Me (one of my favorite songs)

No idea who this little girl is, but isn't she cute?

Looking back on decades

Some memories of friendship never fade

Certain to warm the heart

Even after several years apart

Becoming a part of everything that we become

Even to be shared with others that we grow to love

It is well that you think of me

I hope that when you do, it's mostly about pleasant things

Because if and when you do

It is only because you choose to

Believe me, I appreciate that you care

But how am I to know if you do not share?

That's What You Call a Friend

If I were to die today

From your memory I would quickly fade

For I've done nothing great to leave my mark

Upon all that many hearts

I do not like a lot of lofty attention and praise

But if sincere it's nice to know I may have made a difference some small way

Still, I often feel practically invisible

Yet if I'm content within myself, I would not call that miserable

It's just that I often wonder

Why we barely take the time to spend with one another

Mostly just exchanging polite pleasantries

That don't create the lasting memories

It's all of life, the laughter and the tears

That live on long after we're no longer here

It's the deeper love that comes from sharing

And the results to be reaped that come from truly caring

Even so, to touch a life like that is rare

So when those connections are made, treasure them like air

Love all your friends, especially those held particularly near and dear

Because, I for one wish that I had more time to know more people that clearly


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Venkatachari M 2 years ago from Hyderabad, India

A good poetry with nicely constructed lines. Friendship is great. Do not ignore or spoil it. Everyone should know this.


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Fiddleman 2 years ago from Zirconia, North Carolina

Excellent write!!! True friendships are rare and to be cheerished. Voted up and sharing.


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Ericdierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

A wonderful tribute to the glory of friendship. May you always be surrounded by friends.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS

It expresses the richness of thoughts and feelings within you, belonging to you, not dependent on anyone else's approval or acceptance. It's life's best gift truly to have and know that.

Having it, it can and should radiate all over your own realm, to bless, to be accepted or not by others as they can and will, within and in light of their own realms.

We never know the full situations and terrain of others' total inner realms. They must 'do themselves' within their own circumstances as they can and will, and it may be contrary to theirs to attempt to explain it or to comply.

So, if we are whole, we should neither take it personally nor as offense, whatever "they" determine that they can and will do, and/or whatever our concept of them and how they relate to ourselves within ourselves.

It can and should be ultimately fulfilling & gratifying to be a glowing beam to others and to be fully whole and true to oneself.


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always exploring 2 years ago from Southern Illinois

I'm listening to ' Lean on me ' as i comment. Beautiful song. Beautiful poem. Friendship is precious. Thank's for sharing...


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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you, Venkatachari. Sometimes it is easier said than done not to ignore it or spoil it.


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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas Author

Yes, Fiddleman, they are rare, but that makes them more worthwhile.


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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you, Eric! I wish the same for you. (Though, if I were to take that literally, I'd not want to ALWAYS be surrounded by friends. hehehe)


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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you, Nellieanna, my thoughts and feelings cannot be anyone else's but my own. It's often a joy and pleasure to find that some of these thoughts and feelings may be similar to someone else's and to have those things in common, but not necessary. We can even take what we learn or know of someone else's thoughts and feelings and use that knowledge to learn further, grow, or change perspectives - maybe even to reevaluate our own reaction to and understanding of another.

I agree that we never know another person completely to that extent. We all do what we can based on many other factors that may or may not include external or internal factors. When it comes to being willing, though, that's another story. Sometimes there are valid reasons for being unwilling. Other times, it's a purely spiteful, selfish, or stubbornness involved. It's more a matter of simply not wanting to and the consequences of not helping when one can just because one doesn't feel like it may not be good. Explanations as to which it was are not required and cannot be expected or forced, but may help others better understand if desired that they do. Complying isn't even necessarily expected or necessary. But, as the song says, no one can fill needs that aren't made known. Sometimes expressing them is a matter of swallowing pride and waiting to see if they can or will be filled, even if the need expressed is for someone to find out what the need is.

As for taking offense, that's a feeling that may or may not be founded. If it is thought to be founded, for whatever reason I feel it to be, I find it best to forgive the hurt rather than to be resentful. If it is unfounded, the feelings and thoughts of it are quickly dismissed because they are recognized as being irrational usually right off the bat. On the other hand, what I feel toward a person or in general is of no consequence to anyone else other than myself unless they care enough to wish it to be. Whether or not I take something personally depends on what is said or done and why it matters to me. For instance, one person actually called me directly on my birthday. Two people talked to me on the phone after my kids called them first. And no one bothered to send a card or a personalized message, though I did get plenty of well wishes on Facebook. I didn't think much about that because I don't do much for my birthday anyway and I know that my family cares. I don't even usually mention when it is my birthday anyway. I even forgot to tell my mother happy birthday one year, not because I forgot her birthday, but because I wasn't aware of the date until after the fact. I just wasn't keeping track of the date because I was so busy with other things. But, I felt terrible because I thought she might be hurt, though it was not an intentional slight. Anyway, the point at which I start to find things offensive is when I feel that things are intentional. At that point, my feelings are what they are and how i react depends on many factors, including how I feel about the person in question. The closer I feel to someone, the harder it is to dismiss my feelings without more reflection on the matter as to why it even matters in the first place, if that makes sense.

And, yes, I 100% agree that it is fulfilling and gratifying to be a beam to others and to make a difference. It is also fulfilling to be whole and true to oneself. But, I would not necessarily call that life's best gift. I think that love is life's best gift and that the other things stem from that. Or perhaps they all go together.


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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas Author

I love that song, Ruby. Have since I was a little girl. Love to sing it, too!


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Jackie Lynnley 2 years ago from The Beautiful South

Another beautiful heart tug from a beautiful heart. ^+


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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas Author

Thanks, Jackie. How sweet of you to say!


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS

We are all, all too human. Isn't it great? :-)


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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas Author

Yes, all human and all alive in every sense because of and in spite of our imperfections and differences. :)


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Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

Beautiful thoughts on friendship. A true friend is hard to find these days, and when we do, we must love them at all times. Love the prayer too.

Up and more and away

Hugs


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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas Author

Hi Theresa! I agree. Well, I guess I do. Haha. So many facets to it all. Friendship on any level is a good thing. It has its own rewards on any level. But, the truly rare friendships are the ones where people become as important to us as our own immediate family members and maybe even some extended family members. The people that become so much a part of our everyday lives, whether they see us or speak to us every day or not, that they see us both at our best and at our worst and still love us to the fullest. They know us intimately and better than most other people do. Those people tend to be lifelong friends and they truly are rare.


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epigramman 2 years ago

...well you have always gifted me as a friend and that is a true thing to cherish in life because good friends are hard to come by.

You would be a natural at writing greeting cards which is an art form in itself and also akin to the roots of poetry.

I love your passion and truthfulness in your writing and you always have a wonderful display on your page(s) of videos and images.

Thank you for the depth of your writing as well which is always thoughtful, profound and deep.

They don't teach your kind of home grown skills at writing school - either one has it or one does not - and you definitely have it - and it's all yours ......

p.s. - I was here the day before but my computer gave out before I was able to 'ink' my comment , lol


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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas Author

Aww, thanks, Epi. Good to see you around here again and thanks for coming back to comment.


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Garimaa 23 months ago from Kathmandu,Nepal

I really enjoyed reading your hubs. It' really good that you write according to what you feel and understand. I don't know what else to tell you except you write amazing and also you've increased a follower not that you'll notice cause your writing itself will increase tons. I'll just be one of them :).

Keep writing!


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shanmarie 23 months ago from Texas Author

I did notice, Garimaa! It came up in my newsfeed shortly after I published a hub. Thank you so much for your kind words and the follow. You are very much appreciated!

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