Gettin' Old

I dared to be happy for so long
Now I'm almost afraid to smile
I wonder if it's time for me to pay
For when I laughed all the while
Nobody told me how to get old
It seems my body knows what to do
My Daddy has the same problems
He's been through all of this too

Now it's my turn

I know hard times are waiting for us
It's something money can't solve
I guess the glory days are in the past
Now it's time to face deaths resolve
I think I'm gonna have to move him in
Soon he won't know who I am
He say's it's my responsibility
Taking care of a parent is part of being a man

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Wayne Brown 5 years ago from Texas

You poem brings out the sad truth of life's consequence...too often more negative than positive. In our youth, we cannot see that train coming then time takes care of the rest. Nicely done...thanks for sharing. WB

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Just Ask Susan 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

I wish I would have had the option of taking my dad in as I would have loved to have him with me rather than where he ended up. I hope that when my train comes in one of my sons will take me in.

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duffsmom 5 years ago from Pacific Northwest, USA

Aging is one of the hardest things I have ever done in life...and unfortunately, I thought I would face it with more dignity and less complaining! You have captured all of this so well - well done!

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Dr.Ope 5 years ago

Great poem - sad but true. All the best.

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WannaB Writer 5 years ago from Templeton, CA

I think our parents teach us by example how to grow old. My mom did. And I'm glad I could help care for her in her last years. My time is coming soon, and I see my husband going almost faster than me. Your poem captures the emotional impact that the young may not be able to feel until their turn comes.

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vrbmft 5 years ago from Yucaipa, California

Hi suburban poet

For me the "moral" of your poetic sharing is to relate to my son in a way that he will gladly want to take me in when and if that day comes. I'm not sure taking in my father as part of being a man quite cuts it! That lines stirs in me almost a kind of hatred: one more time you're going to try to control me and run my life. There seems to be no humility in that line, altho I think that is where some "older" folks live, hanging on to controlling every one in their lives even when they are physically declining and needing to be humbly asking for love instead of continuing to demand it.

Well, obviously, your poem got me going!!



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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Wayne - Thanks for commenting. Yeah this one is a train and it's going way too fast now...

@Susan - Thank you. This is something about the struggle to decide what to do. The decision and the plans are not really in place. I'm projecting to the future. I have a lot of things to juggle including two children who have a future that is quite dependent on me. I am torn...

@duffsmom - Thank you. I'm trying not to complain but it is difficult when the answers are not available.

@Dr. Ope - Thank you for your comment. I appreciate your good wishes.

@WannaB - Thank you. There is a lot of emotion in me about it. I don't always think in a giving and loving manner either. I wonder if my life is about to derail in some ways.

@Vern - No problem ranting and coming out with how you feel. That last line that struck you has a lot more in there than meets the eye and I think maybe you caught some of it. I don't want to say too much but at times I feel the pressure from someone who caused some of their own problems.... but if I become the judge then I still lose...

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Just Ask Susan 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

Sorry, hope my comment above didn't come off as harsh as I didn't mean it that way at all. I'm sure it's a very hard decision for you to make. There's so many things to take into consideration. I'm sure you'll make the right decision that is best for you and your children. All my best.

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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Susan - Not at all... There are many factors involved and I know what I want... I hope I get that... it would be wonderful to be able to care for a parent and go to your grave that you did it the right way. I hope I can do that. I just don't know how it's going to turn out. We all have our pressure points and resources and they are not the same for everyone. I would never judge another on this... and I know you weren't judging me....

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raciniwa 4 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

Everyone is going to that road...i am not spared to that...your poem presents the sad reality of life but awakening...

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The Suburban Poet 4 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Hi raciniaw - Yes we are all on the same road.... the road to forever... or so it seems. Things are sad lately but I still able to smile. Thank you!

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Globetrekkermel 4 years ago from CALIFORNIA

Suburban, I know too well about taking care of our aging parent. I am taking care of my 89 year old mother and really , It is not too bad. I have not have any experience taking care of an elderly prior to taking care of my MOM.It is a continous work in progress but guess what? it is also a learning experience for me. Surprisingly , I love it.My patience has been tested but I learned love,patience and compassion by taking care of my mom a lot better than I could have learned it from somewhere else.What you go through is not as bad as you think .GOOD LUCK TO YOU and I will be praying for you... God bless.

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The Suburban Poet 3 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Globetrekkernel - Thank you for you comment; sorry about the belated acknowledgement. I hope all is well on your end. My Father is in a home now but he is doing well as he has retained his positive nature.

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