Giving Up Something We Love

Changing Our Habits

When we have done something for awhile

It becomes part of our routine

I like to buy books

So I look for bargains and deals

Yard sales and flea markets in the past

Fun to go on Sundays

Then a Good Will opened near us

A Salvation Army near work

A Savers down the street

Not just once a week

Soon a quick stop in

A daily routine

Walking in use to be a treat

Over time it became a habit

That started out good and now it has become quite much

I look at the savings

What the book would of cost at Barnes And Noble

I usually pay two or three dollars per book

I have such a wide range of topics and interests

It is very easy to spend five to ten dollars in one day

Then I read a few chapters and put the book down

Another book catches my interest

So the story goes

Day one no books or bargains

I use to walk in and take pictures of all the good buys

The temptation became to great

We can use the money for other things

Time to reevaluate my choices

Spending more time enjoying what I have

Time to save

To build up our savings and our rainy day fund

I had a lot of fun

One small step

Going without not that bad

Feeling better already



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ValKaras 6 months ago from Canada

Dream On - I like the poem, it reminds me a lot of my past when I was trimming down my habits and started living consciously.


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shanmarie 6 months ago from Texas

You'll really feel good when you see how fast that rainy day fund grows! ;) It's all in moderation, my friend


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DREAM ON 6 months ago Author

ValKaras It is funny how our mind works.I will keep you informed of my good days and the ones that make me squirm like a worm. We all have a history and as we share and learn we can help other people as well as ourselves. Thank you so much for your comment. If you get the time I would love to hear more about your plan ? What worked for you. You have gone through what is new to me. Thank you for sharing and caring.


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DREAM ON 6 months ago Author

Shanmarie I have high hopes and dreams and I keep on thinking it will all work out. Busy with work and daily activities help me slowly. I have visions that are just beginning to take shape. Putting it all to action takes time and patience. Watching the world around me spin in a different direction. Thank you for all your comments and support. Have an awesome day.


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ChitrangadaSharan 6 months ago from New Delhi, India

Nice expressions in this poem!

I was attracted by the title of your poem since I am experiencing something similar these days. It is difficult really ----to give up something we love--.

But change is the only constant thing ---, they say and situations do change.

Thanks for sharing this!


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DDE 6 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Hmm giving up something we love i s always hard and to be the same again from that is another feeling overall. It makes me think about me.


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DREAM ON 6 months ago Author

DDE I think it is easy to buy many books because their are so many wonderful books published. I could go to the local library and save my money. They may or may not have the book of interest. I like to write the date in my books where I read and left off. Thank you so much for sharing. Have a very beautiful night.


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Gypsy Rose Lee 6 months ago from Riga, Latvia

We've lately had to really tighten our belts and this summer looks like it's going to be very lean. Good thing we've planted tomatoes and cucumbers but believe me the moment that I get to sink my teeth into a burger again will be an awesome moment indeed.


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DREAM ON 6 months ago Author

Gypsy Rose Lee There are things we need and things we like it is good to watch our spending just incase emergencies come up. Thank you for sharing.


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Nellieanna 6 months ago from TEXAS

My response is in two parts because there is an overall outlook to this hub and a real-life challenge to it.

The first part is that this hub is both a practical and an uplifting look at handling life's ups and downs, Michael. About 99% of what makes life up or down, and to what degree, is in one's attitude about it and perspective of it. Yours always finds its balance in the more positive attitudes.

But attitude is behind why some people live in the light and some seem to wander around in dim light. Light must shine from within, for the most part. Seeking and depending on it to somehow descend on them sets them up for crippling disappointment - and, too often, for awful tumbles. It sometimes takes many tries to 'get it'. Sometimes it takes that for some people to realize. REALize. That's the key.

I call myself an optimistic realist and a realistic optimist. One eventually realizes that life IS change and that change, by definition, is sometimes for the better, sometimes, not. Being aware and alert to this, & having confidence in being able to deal with it in both kinds of situations is one’s best protection and guarantee of success in living.

But we've all seen people 'with everything' material & all opportunities to 'have it all' in the personal sense, as well, - who are among the grumpiest, most miserable grouches walking around, spreading gloom. They’re ever-ready to lash out at other people because they expected to get ‘it' - the verve and the joy - from externals so much that they fail to recognize 'it' when they see 'it' or even if they felt it., They expect a constant supply from externals. So, of course, they’re often sad and disappointed when their own things don't satisfy and they don't find it supplied from others. They often have influence to spread negativity around, too, making it all the sadder.

Then there are other people with good intentions, but who still seem to walk around casting their own shadows on their perspectives by their own fears, negative expectations or tendencies to blame either themselves or others for shadows, most of which are of their own creation, control &/or futile viewpoints about so much which is not their own prerogatives that it is silly to focus on them, but that is just what they seem to do.

This tendency is fed by so much in the media and even words to popular music. I recall current songs in my own youth which were saying, in essence, that the singers 'needed' and expected someone or something or someone else in order for them to be happy, even to be alive, & to lift the shadows for them. It took time to recognize those messages as being subversive. Nowadays, these are almost the main underlying themes in much of the music.

As a youngster in any era, one tends to absorb such attitudes easily, - but hopefully,- experience, self-examination & realistic self-awareness will eventually reveal to a person that the source of happiness and successful living STARTS within oneself and projects OUT to others, instead of vice-versa. You seem to have caught on to that truth very well, Michael! You always express it in your various ways & your honest reports about your life experiences!

So meanwhile, some people who seem to 'have' nothing going for them either materially or psychologically - (or both seem lacking - walk around spreading light and sunshine and fully enjoying it themselves, for the most part. They don’t ‘have to’ be accepted for their own attitudes, but they’re generous with sharing them. They can be generous with it, because they’re realistic when they're confronted with problems (as everyone is at times), in that they immediately look inside themselves for help and solutions (and, if needed, make adjustments and corrections in there) and they accept help graciously from others if it is offered, without needing or expecting to depend on externals, including other people. They don’t blame others if it’s not offered because they knew it must arises from within all along and they recognize that others are always dealing with their own challenges.


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Nellieanna 6 months ago from TEXAS

Reply part 2:

Being a lifelong bookaholic myself, I truly empathize with that hard choice you’re making. I also find myself in a bit of dilemma, both in deciding about use of limited funds I’d love to spend on acquiring more books, while needing those funds to be available for more pressing expenses now & saving for future needs, — plus I’m running out of space for more books and sometimes I’m not even finding time for reading all the ones I’ve already collected and acquired! haha! It’s an earmark of an obsession, I’m sure. I admit that I’m a compulsive-obsessive by nature! Happily, I’ve also acquired enough awareness & self-discipline so that doesn’t run away with my life. (grinning)

OK, If I might make a suggestion, you don’t need to TOTALLY give up what you love! You can plan to continue shopping the available bargain books, but then limit your choice ONLY to one or two which are especially important and applicable to your overall goals. And you could create a ‘wish list’ for later. By doing either alternative, you’ll be saving the money you’d have spent if you’d bought ALL the ones you found tempting AND still you’ll be satisfying your openness to and your quest for knowledge and exposure to knowledge! You’ll be exerting a REAL choice in how to save for a future rainy day with a large portion of what you’d have spent if you had not disciplined yourself to SELECT only the MOST useful book or books PLUS you'll not be feeling denied, deprived and limited. You'll discover ways to find free sources for knowledge, as well. Libraries. Online. You know, within reach!

While shopping bargains, you can even list prices & later add up the total you would have spent getting all the books you wanted and see how much you’ve saved by limiting yourself to only the one or two, or delaying a few for later. It will create both a specific savings to be put away for the future (and you must actually put away that amount) AND it provides for your present ongoing education and joy. It’s a solution full of light and moving forward out of shadows. Plus it is actively applying some of the wisdom you’re always seeking in this real-life choice you face. It is not just giving up and forgetting all you’ve learned. And it’s providing for rainy days.

But in fact, rainy days are realistically delayed by one’s overall sense of well-being and one’s NOW enjoyment and one’s wise and good use of it! Those are genuine health benefits. Poor health is among the most expensive ongoing expenses which keeps growing in size iin the future to bring deluges, not just rainy days. Defeating that ongoing probability by nourishing your mental and physical health is one way to provide better for future rainy days!

Rainy days can and will come. Today may be rain-free, but there will be rain as long as the days follow each other. Much of the variables are not totally up to one’s own outlook and wise present choices, but include all one’s past choices which have set up conditions which create realistic factors, including the outlooks and personal choices of loved ones for which you have present responsibility. But also remember that being in good health and state-of-mind yourself is essential to be able to ‘be there’ for those others, as well as for yourself.

Example: It’s not to promote selfishness when the airlines tell parents & responsible adults to put on their own life-vests and other saving equipment BEFORE putting any of it on their helpless infants. The helpless must depend on someone who IS alive & able in an emergency.


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DREAM ON 6 months ago Author

Nellieanna I often listen and read your answers many times before responding. I feel your comments have many layers like a huge cake. Every layer a bit different but compliments each other perfectly. You can take the cake apart and dismantle it like a car and have it piece by piece. Take a small bite with it all together. My best is top it off with a little ice cream and cut it in tiny slivers and pass it out to whoever wants a piece. I am so blessed with my good health everything else in life is a bonus. I don't know what it is like to be in chronic pain or can understand deep depression. I do know millions of people suffer from that and much more. All I want to do is help. How I am not sure but I know it's not impossible. So if I can pull a story from my life that happened and let them see how crazy life can be we can all laugh. Even if it's only a quick smile or a chuckle. For that one second the pain was gone. You felt better. Maybe you don't have to understand the mechanic of a car to turn the key and drive. Maybe that one moment you can focus on and say let me see if I can do it again. That wasn't so hard. With practice do it anytime day or night. Living a better life. I know sometimes I think my day is going to go smooth sailing and it better than I expected. Then the next day it's the roughest weather I have ever seen. So I don't have answers to life's problems only simple advice bring a hat ,suntan lotion and sun glasses it might be sunny. Ready to go. We forgot our raincoat we will have to wing it. There is a ninety percent chance we didn't need it. I am glad you came for the ride. Truth is it is so much more fun together. Once again I never owned a boat but allI have to do is close my eyes. I can make my dreams appear. They feel good. They make me explore many options and all it takes is everything I already have. One of my greatest pleasures and treasures I get to keep my imagination. Don't say it to loud or the government might find a way for me to be taxed on it. (Lol) Thank you for your wonderful comments. I appreciate all your effort and thoughtfulness. I am blessed.

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