Going to Town ( A Non-Fiction Free Write)

Kingaroy Shopping World
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Kingaroy Library Forecourt | Source

Going to Town.

by John Hansen (c) 2015

For most people, especially those living in town, shopping day is quite straight forward and often an eagerly anticipated outing (at least for the ladies). However it isn't that way for everyone. I know that most men don't really enjoy shopping either, and I am one of them, but that's not exactly what this is about.

For my wife, Kathleen, and I the trip to town is usually postponed for as long as possible, until food stocks are running low or there is a doctor's appointment to obtain prescriptions for much needed drugs.

Ballogie Rural Fire Shed
Ballogie Rural Fire Shed | Source

Location, Location, Location

Firstly, a little about where we live. We chose to make our home in a quite rural community called approximately 54 km or 45 minute drive from the major town of Kingaroy. Ballogie, where we live, has no stores or services other than a local fire brigade and a CWA (Country Women's Asociation). The nearest small towns are Durong with a convenience store, church, school and bowls club; and Tingoora with just one school and hotel (no stores). Both these towns or villages are about a 30 minute drive.

For access to suitable shopping facilities, banks, and doctor etc we have to drive to Kingaroy, a trip we undertake usually once a fortnight. On the first and third Thursdays each month we also drive to the town of Murgon for Kathy to attend her Spinning and Weaving craft group. If we have forgotten to purchase something on shopping day, we can buy it then.

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My Wife's Medical Condition

Due to Kathy's medical condition, which includes sleep apnea and fibromyalgia, she has to be woken at least three hours prior to leaving the house. To make a doctor's appointment for 11am for instance I have to wake her with a cup of tea and her morning medication at 7am, with the hope of leaving around 10am. This may be difficult for most people to imagine but it is honestly how long it takes her to be fully awake and mobile.

Kathy also has a chronic back condition called 'scoliosis' or curvature of the spine which requires her to wear a slow release morphine patch for the constant pain. She cannot walk far or stand for long periods and her condition has been slowly deteriorating. Though she is proud of the fact that she has been able to avoid being wheelchair bound, something doctors predicted that should have occurred 10 years ago.

Recently we purchased a mobility scooter which allows her to be more mobile and not in constant pain trying to walk around the shopping centre etc. The only disadvantage of the scooter is the time it takes to set up ramps and to get it in and out of the car. This is just something I have to accept as the norm and get used to doing.


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Mobility Scooter hoonLoading mobility scooter into car via ramps
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Loading mobility scooter into car via ramps
Loading mobility scooter into car via ramps | Source
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Public refuse transfer station
Fine dining at the Burke and Wis Motor Inn, Kingaroy
Fine dining at the Burke and Wis Motor Inn, Kingaroy | Source
Our son Jared and grandsons Jordan and Dylan
Our son Jared and grandsons Jordan and Dylan | Source
Worlds best scrambled eggs
Worlds best scrambled eggs | Source

Regular Shopping Day Routine

Where we live there is no rubbish/trash collection service so once a month on our trip to town we stop at the Home Creek Refuse Tip to dump our waste. We do try to recycle as much as we can but it still builds up. This is usually our only stop on the 45 minute commute to Kingaroy.

On arriving in town our general routine is:

  • Stop at the bank/atm
  • Attend doctor's appointment
  • Drop prescriptions at the chemist/drug store for filling
  • Go for lunch at our favourite Chinese Restaurant, cafe, or hotel (a welcome interlude)
  • Supermarket/ apartment store to shop for groceries and other necessities
  • Produce store for poultry food
  • Fill the car with fuel
  • Visit our son Jared and his family (always great to see the grandkids)
  • Return home

We usually leave home around 10am and arrive back home around 5pm all going well. This includes 90 minutes total driving to and from town. A long day, especially for my wife. By the time we arrive home she is exhausted and in pain (though the scooter has helped relieve that somewhat). We are greeted by hungry cats and dogs who demand feeding before we can unload the car.

Kathy stores away the groceries (as much as she can) while I unload the car, and then I take over so she can lie down. With an hour or so rest she is usually recovered enough to prepare dinner. If not I will cook (maybe my world famous scrambled eggs).

And the next day they rested. (It takes Kathy at least 24 hours to recover from "going to town.")

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Unforeseen Circumstances

Today, when we were on time and ready for town, we climbed in them car and I turned on the key..a feeble "whirrr..whirrr..whirr" and then nothing. The battery was dead. A few curse words were said before I lifted the hood and placed it on the charger, then back inside for another hour while the battery recharged enough to drive to town. Lucky today we didn't have a doctor's appointment.

One of the major disadvantages in living out of town is if your car breaks down, you are stranded. There is no public transport and a taxicab will cost you in excess of $150 to get to town. Unless you have a second vehicle, or friends who happen to be going to town the same day, then you have no choice but to sit at home until you can have the car repaired.

Fortunately, after an hour, the car started and we drove to town. We were a little behind schedule but that wasn't a big deal. First stop had to be the car parts store to buy a new battery however, an unwelcome but necessary $150 expense.

Epilogue

So you see the simple act of going to town isn't as easy for everyone. I have no doubt that there are many people for whom it is even more difficult and stressful than it is for Kathy and I, and I feel for them. At least we can still get around and do what we have to. Some people are housebound due to age, Ill health or numerous other reasons. I have learn't never to take anything for granted. Appreciate what you have, while you have it.

"Going to town" really is, a big deal!

A Poem

I just thought, as it is poetry month, I would add a poem. I hadn't written one for a few days. This is my fourth for April. I hope you enjoy.

We're Going to Town, and Life Just Seems Funny

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© 2015 John Hansen

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cam8510 20 months ago from Columbus, Georgia until the end of November 2016.

John, this is a helpful glimpse into your day to day world. This should cure my whining attitude for a little while. Don't you just love free writing?


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Hi Chris, sometimes you just need to write down what's going on in your life, get things off your chest, and you feel better. A free write lets you do that. It hanks for being the first to read this personal account.


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Jackie Lynnley 20 months ago from The Beautiful South

Thanks for sharing this personal story and experience. Life is full of surprises isn't it and usually not good ones! We just have to work around it as I can see you do.

My husband has the sciatic nerve condition but he does an exercise to relieve the pain that works pretty good for him. Pulling each knee up while lying down and then moving it over to opposite side. Due for my one month check-up from my surgery and I am doing so well and glad I decided to have it.

Things do seem a bit more expensive there. Last time I took a taxi it cost me $10 but then I am in a country town and we only have one taxi! lol

Have a great week-end John! Again; thanks for sharing. ^+


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billybuc 20 months ago from Olympia, WA

John, I'm exhausted reading about your day. I lived in rural Alaska for a year, and what you described reminded me of that experience. Nothing is convenient when you live out in the country....but man alive, the rewards are worth it.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Jackie, thanks for reading and for sharing your own personal situation. Life is certainly full of surprises to test us out, but you deal with it as best you can. Glad your surgery went well and you are happy with the result. Sciatica is debilitating and I feel for your husband too. Have a great weekend too.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

You are so right Bill, living in the country is full of challenges but it does make you more resilient. Alaska would have been extreme. Despite all the difficulties I still much prefer living here than in the city..peace and quiet and nature's beauty makes it all worthwhile.


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Becky Katz 20 months ago from Hereford, AZ

I enjoyed your story. It is unfortunate what we have to do to get things done when we live in the boonies and are getting older. My husband has an electric chair for permanent use now. We have an electric lift that carries the chair around on the back of our van. Just takes a few minutes to get it up there and it is all electric. Luckily he is not in pain from his problems. We live about half an hour from the grocery but it isn't as bad. I go about once a week, or whenever I am in town for an appointment. Right now, I am in town twice a day, four days a week taking my daughter to college. Hopefully she will get the courage soon to get her license. We have a car for her to use and I use it when my husband doesn't go. Much better gas mileage. It also works in an emergency if the vehicle breaks.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thank you for reading Becky and for sharing your own personal story. Yes we do what we must. When my son was living at home I used to drive him an hour into town to attend college every day as he didn't have a licence. At another time we let a different on borrow our car to drive to work. He was on an early shift, it was dark and he river was flooded. He drove into the flood water covering the bridge and wrote our car off. That's life. Glad you enjoyed this.


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peachpurple 20 months ago from Home Sweet Home

Wow, you are living in some sort of a valley? Discarding waste after a month, i just can't imagine the fish intestines rot by then. Thanks for yr hub, allowing me to know more


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Haha peachpurple, thanks for reading. We don't buy fresh fish that aren't already cleaned and filleted or catch our own so don't have to worry about their intestines rotting :) and we actually live at the top of a mountain range, so not in a valley either. Glad you enjoyed this hub however.


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lambservant 20 months ago from Pacific Northwest

Oh John, I so relate to your story. I too live in a rural area. On a peninsula actually. I live 3/4 down the peninsula so just to get to the nearest big city is 40 minutes. I am lucky though that we do have an area about midway with some businesses. We have a store with very high prices, a rinky dink tiny hardware store with very high prices, a small medical practice that is nearly impossible to get into and their services are very limited, a Mexican restaurant, a bar, liquor store, smoke shop, pot shop (we have six on this peninsula) a little bank, a library and volunteer fire department. This sounds like a metropolis compared to what you have. But really, most of my needs can be met in town. The medical centers in town have more services, practitioners, and there are many pharmacies. Grocery stores of course are main line and have plenty of selection and much better prices.

I have lived here for 25 years and all that we have in our mid-way area was not there when we first moved there. Only a few of those places. Going anywhere is a drive, and like you, when we go to town it is an all day event because you want to do as much as possible to prevent other trips.

I am sorry to hear of your wife's struggles. You are a good husband and very patient. God bless.


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MsDora 20 months ago from The Caribbean

I appreciate this article for the spin it puts on going to town--something many take for granted. Having agreed that it is not as easy for you and you dear wife as it is for most, it seems that you have a once a month visit to look forward to. Thanks for the reminder to "appreciate what you have, while you have it."


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Larry Rankin 20 months ago from Oklahoma

Great article.


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MizBejabbers 20 months ago

John, it seems like when we get older, the more struggles we face in life. I'm sorry to hear about your wife's condition. It sounds very similar to mine, but I have reflex sympathetic dystrophy (RSD) from a bus accident in 2006. My condition hasn't deteriorated to the point of a wheelchair yet, but it's on its way. I'm sitting here in my office eating lunch with a heating pad on my back.

Your place to live sounds very desirable, though. We came from the rural and we would like to go back, but the lack of medical facilities keeps us in the city. Mr. B has a bad heart, and neatly died last year from a gall bladder infection, but he keeps me going. He wakes me every morning with a cup of coffee. He makes my lunch and breakfast and carries my bag up the 20 steps to the car every morning or I wouldn't still be working. I go to work and take my medication when I eat breakfast at my desk. If I take it on an empty stomach at home, I get too stoned to drive. So you good husbands are worth a million.

Your son and grandchildren are priceless. Good luck to you and Kathy. I will keep you in my healing prayers.


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drbj 20 months ago from south Florida

Now that's what I call a trip to town. Wow! But the great part is your grands are adorable and your wife is lucky to have you. You can tell her I said so. :)


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Hi Lori, yes the situation of where you live does seem similar to my own. At least you have some facilities not too far away if you need them desperately though prices are inflated. Tingoora which is one of the closest small towns used to have a corner store and a service station but business wasn't good enough so they closed down. I wish someone would reopen them now. Thanks for the concerns for my wife too.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thank you MsDora, we try to stay positive mostly and yes we have the once a month visit which is good.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thanks for reading Larry. Glad you liked this hub. I've written a poem that I may add to it as well..we'll see.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Hi MizB, it does sound as though our situations are similar, at least my wife's and yours. I don't have any serious health problems that I know of (touch wood). The time may come when we may have to move closer to town.. 10 minutes away on five acres would suit us fine. your hubby is a good one for doing all he can to help you despite his own condition. You do what you have to. Thanks for your kind words and well wishes.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Yes some trip drbj, but you do what you must..and yeah the grands are cute. I'd love to tel my wife what you said but I am too chicken. She'd say I was just blowing my own trumpet. :)


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Michael-Milec 20 months ago

Hello John.

Poem perfect ! It just came forth, "everything will be fine"...

Cool. Quite pleasantly composed article.You've kept me all excited while I was following you all the way keeping well occupied. I would do the trip to Town more often to maintain youthfulness and vitality... ( So help me God.) [I am refusing "getting older" term and reality...] It works well with prayer, believing and speaking " to the mountains ." (( Sounds wearied, but that's me...))

Voted up, interesting.


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AliciaC 20 months ago from British Columbia, Canada

This is an interesting essay, Jodah. I enjoyed learning more about your life, but I'm sorry about your wife's health problems. My sister has fibromyalgia and associated problems. I can relate very much to the idea of getting up at 7 to hopefully leave the house at 10 because my sister experiences the same situation.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thanks for reading my hub Michael, I always appreciate your comments. We go out more often to visit friends and see things where we don't have to walk too far or run to a time limit. I love trekking/bush walking but my wife isn't up to it so I am looking for places she ca access with a scooter so we can do it together. Stay young and speak to the mountains...I like that.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thanks ou Alicia for reading and also your concern for my wife's condition. Sorry to Hearn that your sister also has fibromyalgia. It does have a lot of associated problems unfortunately. Have a great weekend.


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mary615 20 months ago from Florida

Your life reminds me of when I was growing up in the country (many years ago). We lived 30 miles from the nearest town. Every Sat. was spent driving into town for necessary shopping, etc.

I have a daughter who has fibromyalgia and takes several meds for it.

I enjoyed reading about your day, but I'm sorry life is such a struggle for you both. You are a good hubby!


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thank you Mary for the kind comment. Glad you can relate to this and sorry to hear your daughter has fibro. Have a good weekend.


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bravewarrior 20 months ago from Central Florida

I see the only downside to living in the area you do, is having to travel so far for things you don't provide for yourselves. Kathy's a real trouper, though, sticking it out no matter how she feels.

Personally, I hate shopping. I don't mind going to the grocery store, but if I have to spend hours on a shopping excursion it wears me out.

I love your poem, John. Your love for Kathy is very strong.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thanks for the kind comment Shauna. Glad to find a woman who doesn't enjoy shopping. Glad you liked the poem too.


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Jo_Goldsmith11 20 months ago

Jodah!

I can so relate to being in a rural area. By foot it takes 30 minutes to get to town. And it isn't good when it's raining, to take this hike. I really enjoyed the poem. And I send blessings for you and the Mrs.

I am glad you were able to get the car fixed, with a new battery.

And hugs for you both as you are inspirationally strong folks dealing with the health issues. Shared and Up she goes.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thank you Jo, I am glad you can relate to living in a rural area and its challenges. Thanks also for the kind blessings, great fully received.


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mckbirdbks 20 months ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

I use to be impressed by the likes of Daniel Boone and Davy Crockett but not anymore. Now there are too many stories of people going about their lives overcoming the daily obstacles to compare to the old heroes. Your wife is lucky to have you. You are lucky to have your wife.


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Faith Reaper 20 months ago from southern USA

Whew, John, what an ordeal to get to town! I am no longer going to gripe about having to go to the grocery store, which is convenient here, although we do live in a small town. In the next town over, there is a large grocery store. Plus, with my hour commute each day into the city for work, I have several options of stopping in other cities for whatever I need before I go home.

I could not imagine a once a month garbage trip ...

You are a good husband to care for your wife and have such great patience.

I love your poem for it tells about life, which indeed can be funny.

My husband has sleep apnea, and used to have a time waking up fully, but since he has stopped taking so much meds, he pops right up in the mornings. However, he does not have to deal with fibromyalgia.

Up ++++ tweeting, pinning, G+ and sharing

Keep fighting that good fight of faith.

God bless you and your wife.


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Phyllis Doyle 20 months ago from High desert of Nevada.

My gosh, Jodah, you and Kathy sure are spiritually strong. The hassles you have to overcome (and I must say you do it so well) are things that would slow down or stop a weaker spirit. However, I believe that living so far out in the country has given you both the peace and bonding needed to make it all worth it. The love and dedication you each have for each and your marriage clearly shows when I read your words.

I really enjoyed reading the very interesting account of what it is like for the two of you to "go to town".

Up, u,a,b,i and H+


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suzettenaples 20 months ago from Taos, NM

Wow! What an ordeal. I feel for your wife with all her ills. I, too, suffer from a chronic illness and it is no fun, painful, and causes large medical bills so I can relate. You deserve husband of the year award for helping her and getting her shopping.


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brakel2 20 months ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

Hi Jodah - You and Kathy sound so much in love and full of a desire to make a good life. Going to town sounds like fun and also a challenge. You gave such a thorough description that one could see you on your journey. It is a good idea for her to rest, so you do plan for everything. Pinning and good luck and health. Blessings, Audrey


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Hello Mike, good to see you. I don't know if I could compare myself to Daniel Boone or Davy Crockett but I like the hero tag :) I remember the tv show and movie wit Fess Parker. Life has it's challenges but these just make us stronger, right? Yes, I think we are lucky to have each other.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Hi Theresa, thank you for your caring comments, vote up etc. you deal with whatever life throws at you. We chose to live where we do and love it here so I can't complain. Glad you liked the poem too. I had to smile at your comment about your husband "he pops right up in the mornings" :) Good for him. Thanks for the blessings and back at you.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thank you Phyllis, you are very kind. I didn't mean this hub to be a pity party and have people feeling sorry for me. I hope it didn't come over like that. I agree living in the country has probably given us a peace and bonding we wouldn't have had in the city. Thanks for the vote up and share.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thank you Suzette, I know as a sufferer of chronic illness yourself you can relate to my wife's situation. Whatever I go through, it is worse for her. Thank you for your encouragement.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Hello Audrey, you are right, although difficult, our trips to town give us time to do something together and get out of the house. Yes we do love each other. Thanks for pinning and for your blessing.


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AudreyHowitt 20 months ago from California

It was great to see this slice of life John--I love that your wife spins--I love spinning although i am terrible at it--and it sound as though Kathy and you manage her medical condition really well, she is blessed to have you


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Hello Audrey, yes Kathy loves spinning. She has about 5 spinning wheels and numerous spindles. Because she can't Walk around much spinning helps her keep active and gives her exercise. It does take practice and helps to join a group of other spinners.


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Suzanne Day 20 months ago from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

This sounds like a very rough trip being so rural and having all reliance on the car! I agree, I'm not a shopping person either unless I have $$$ to play with, otherwise it's in and out with the minimum fuss possible. I'm glad you're both organised for shopping trips, sounds like you need to be in your situation! Voted interesting, and well done on achieving decades of grocery shopping like this...


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Hi Suzanne, our shopping trips sure are interesting. It has only been one decade though, we did live in town before that :) thanks for the vote up though.


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tillsontitan 20 months ago from New York

John this was an emotional read. So many things we take for granted. The love you have for your wife shines through in every word. Convenience is something many of us especially take for granted. Wishing you both the best and hoping your wife can keep her health issues under control. God bless.

Voted all but funny.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Hi Mary, tanks for reading this and for your well wishes. We al take thing for granted at times and there are always people doing it tougher than us. Thanks for the vote up.


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Phyllis Doyle 20 months ago from High desert of Nevada.

Hi again, Jodah. It did not come across as wanting people to feel sorry for you - on the contrary, it shows the enthusiasm you have for life and your love for Kathy. I see it as a journal of a very happy and contented man who flows confidently with life - like a river that carves out the way and can change course when necessary. Oh! awesome poem that would make!


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Ericdierker 20 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Thank you for sharing this with us. It is always interesting to get a look into another's day to day. I guess I will not complain as much the next time my wife asks me to run to the store.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thank you Phyllis, it's sweet of you to say that and yeah sounds like a good theme for a poem :) I am contented most of the time and happy to go with the flow. Sometimes that stream has to meander between the rocks. Cheers.


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Good to get a comment from you Eric, yes we all live different lives don't we? Believe me my wife has asked me to run to the store..but not often thank goodness. If it's urgent I will do it but usually combine it with some other jobs on the way so it's not a 90 minute drive to town and back for one thing.


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lawrence01 20 months ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

Jodah

We live in town but we can identify with much of what you say. We've battled illness (the wife suffers from chronic fatigue syndrome. Some days are good and some well let's just say a challenge!)

Be prayingfor you folks

Lawrence


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Hi Lawrence, I know you can relate to where I am coming from. Chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia are similar if not the same. Certainly a challenge for all involved.


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Frank Atanacio 20 months ago from Shelton

thank you for taking us to town, or downtown with you.. the poem as the added bonue.. great hub my friend good share :)


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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thanks for reading this part of my life on going to town Frank. Have a great day.


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Dana Tate 19 months ago from LOS ANGELES

Sometimes we all have to remember how good we have it in life. We take things for granted when we should appreciate everything. Sometimes I have to remind myself, when I'm at my lowest, to thank God I woke up in my right mind. May I add that your wife is lucky to have such a wonderful and supportive husband; for better or for worst. Some people will never achiever "real love" in this lifetime.


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Jodah 19 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

You are so right in everything you say Dana. How do you define "real love" not sure, and we have our ups and downs but it's pretty special. Thanks for your great comment.


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lawrence01 19 months ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

Jodah

I think you summed things up well when you said 'take each day as it comes and be thankful for the good times '


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FlourishAnyway 19 months ago from USA

There is little that cannot be made better by a loved one's hug. Your wife and you are fortunate to have such close companionship even through the troubles that life may bring.


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Jodah 19 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Yes we are lucky Flourish, a hug can cure a lot of ills.


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Vellur 19 months ago from Dubai

Thank you for sharing your day of going to town. Seeing your son and grandchildren would have energized you both! It is tough living where there are no stores or services but living in the countryside is great.


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Jodah 19 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thank youVellur. It is our choice to live where we do. It isn't without its advantages.


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Jeannieinabottle 19 months ago from Baltimore, MD

Wow, I imagine it must be very peaceful where you live, but it has to be difficult sometimes. Thanks for sharing your story. Voted up!


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Jodah 19 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Yes Jeannie, it is both peaceful and difficult at various times. We do love it though.


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Billrrrr 19 months ago from Cape Cod

This work is both sad and fascinating. I'm sorry to read about your wife's illness. It is lucky for both of you that her inner strength is more powerful than her infirmities. I envy you for where you live. I always had a dream of building a cabin far away from everything. I realized my hopes in my brain only. Though I am in a town of more than 14,000 people, when I pack a little lunch and take my bicycle on the trail, it morphs into a trusted horse that carries me through thick woods to a hidden kettle pond that nobody else knows about. Vacationing in my mind has held me in good stead for many years. Keep 'em coming John, your work is good for everyone's mind.


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Jodah 19 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thank you for the kind words Bill. The mind is a wonderful thing and can take you many places that your physical body often can't. It sounds like a wonderful scene...riding a horse to that little secret kettle pond. I travel to many marvelous places in my mind too, and some quite disturbing as well.


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Sara Sarwar Riaz 19 months ago from Michigan, USA

A very fascinating snippet from your everyday life transformed into an inspiring piece of writing. Bless you for being not just a great writer, but a devoted husband and compassionate human being. The challenges of health and old age are real. Some break in the face of such adversity, while others muster the strength and courage to make the best of what life brings their way. You certainly are of the latter lineage. It takes a beautiful soul to extend their love and appreciation for life to others, in the form of a service.

You do so everyday… with your devotion to your ailing wife, and by sharing the wealth of your writings with the world.


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Jodah 19 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Wow Sara, that kind comment actually had me brushing away a tear. You don't haven a lot of control over what life throws at you but you do get to choose how you deal with it. Embrace it and make the best of it you can or put it in the too hard basket and walk away. I choose the former. I'm certainly no superman and just try to do what is best for my wife and I. When things start to get me down I try to take some time to sit down and write. That helps make the world a better place. Thank you for ours support.


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Kristen Howe 18 months ago from Northeast Ohio

John, this was a great essay on your family and shared us about your trip to town with your wife. Lovely pics of your family and food with a great poem. BTW, I had Scoliosis when I was 12 and had back surgery and a metal rod in my back for 27 years now. Thus, that's when I had back pain two years ago, due to wear and tear of the spine and had therapy and now gym activities to prevent a future flare-up. Voted up!


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Jodah 18 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thanks for reading about my trip to town Kristen. My wife was given the option of an operation 25 years ago...but the odds of the operation being successful was 60/40 between improvement or ending up in a wheelchair. Thanks for the vote up.


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aviannovice 17 months ago from Stillwater, OK

I do miss the country life, but I am in a suburban area, right across from the lake. Life is good, and overall, I cannot complain. Luckily, I don't require a car.


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Jodah 17 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

That sounds like a perfect place to live Deb, right across from a lake. Perfect for your bird photos.


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CrisSp 14 months ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

Must have been very hard for you and your wife-I mean to travel back and forth. But, hey you have each other and that is rather important, eh? At least you don't get snow in the winter time. Imagine, if you do.

I love the country side though, in fact, my dream house (if I could) is to retire in a farm house just like Nicole Kidman's place. :)

I love your devotion and dedication to your wife (and family) and this hub is a statement of "to hold and behold". And yes, the poem...certainly put a smile on my face.

I wish you and your wife happiness and good health.

Thank you. I enjoyed this!

Love from the sky~


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Jodah 14 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thanks Cris. You are always very kind and generous with your comments. We all have to make the best of the cards we are dealt, and I have many things to be thankful for. Glad you enjoyed this hub. Love from the block/cackleberry farm.


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Eric Flynn 14 months ago from Providence, Rhode Island

An interesting read about your life John; adding to the respect that I already had for a personage such as yours.

EWF


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Jodah 14 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thank you Eric, I appreciate that comment. You humble me.


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sujaya venkatesh 14 months ago

great experience nice couple


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Jodah 14 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thank you Sujaya, much appreciated.


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Surabhi Kaura 14 months ago from Toronto, Canada

Jodah,

Isn't it ecstatic to live on mountain! I am sorry to hear about your wife's medical condition, but no doubt, she is fortunate to have a husband like you. Beautiful write up!

Please do write a ficiton someday. I had read one of your fictions and it was pleasing for eyes. Keep writing :)


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Jodah 14 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thank you for the kind comment Surabhi. My wife has been doing a little better recently also. As for fiction, thank you for your encouragement. I have written quite a bit of fiction recently if you check my hubs. Most of them are a result of challenges but a few stories like "The Blue Gum Gang", "The Right Advice", Ding Dong!Avon Calling" etc are of my own initiative so to speak.


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ChitrangadaSharan 10 months ago from New Delhi, India

Great hub and thanks for sharing your personal story. It must be difficult for you and your wife, 'going to town .' I am especially concerned to read about her medical condition. Wish her good health.

I love the countryside and its greenery but there can be some positives and negatives anywhere. Where I live it is a mega city where everything is available at the doorstep or a phone call away. Nowadays home deliveries are also quite in practice. But I do prefer to walk down to the supermarkets to choose my stuff. In big cities one faces some other problems like traffic etc.

I enjoyed reading your hub and interesting poem.

Thank you for sharing!


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Jodah 10 months ago from Queensland Australia Author

Thank you for reading this Chitrangada and for your kind comment in regard to my wife. You learn to make the most of the situation you find yourself in. Take care.

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