HE IS CRAZY - Control Freaks

Why?!!!!...Hmmmmm?

Look, I'm certainly NOT a psychologist or some sort of therapy counselor but from what I gather, there are quite a few "control freaks" roaming this earth at this present moment! They are everywhere! The main point is we need to find out in the beginning before they slowly torture us AFTER they get what they want! Come on, you know atleast one person who always wants their way...right? I mean maybe it is a family member that drives you to the brink?!!! Or someone else that you have found yourself enamored by. Hell, you may not even think it is happening!!!! Let's put it this way...I have come across it a lot this year! WE MUST STOP THEM!!!!! ha I have also known women like this too, but my title here mentions "HE" so let's move on!

A close friend once told me that I always seem to be around men that are "self centered" or are used to the world revolving around them. CHECK! True!....I think the initial connection starts with their intensity and then slowly moves to full force psychotic episodes!!! I have experienced this in both my personal and professional life and it is NOT entertaining. I have often asked myself "Why?" and "What is it about them that makes me even bother!" I guess the main point is that I grew up with a man that got a lot of attention all the time because he demanded it. His personality was addicting to many and he was also very talented so people gravitated to him like bees to honey. Put that together with the fact that he was from another generation and thought women should be taken care of and then you may understand why I have gravitated to similiar personalities with the addition of "control issues." I think the most toxic situations I have come in contact with at one point seemed to start with some sort of initial deception. Especially in business ventures and relationships. It starts out slow and relaxed and then slowly progresses to CHAOS! In some form or another, if you stand up to a control freak in anyway...prepare yourself!!!!! They do not like it when they do NOT get their way. TRUST ME!

Some Control Freaks can be overt or subtle. The main point is that you need to see through the deception right away. Some can control by force and some can be subtle and play the "guilt card." Either way is NOT good. I hope that this article gives you clarity on a current personal or professional relationship that is not healthy for you.


Characteristics of a Control Freak

1-Described by most people as "picky and critical"

2-Implies that you are wrong or inadequate when you don't agree

3-Tells you who you are and what you think

4-Doesn't seem to really see or hear you

5-Feels attacked when questioned

6-His or her controlling ways make other people feel anxious, if not alienated

7-Snoops around where he or she doesn't belong

8-Feels most comfortable when in charge

9-Winning an argument is more important then finding the best solution

10-Not getting what she or he wants is met with anger (some become abusive)

So.....

Control freaks are quite comfortable in what they do, will deny that they are doing it, and will get very mad at you for attempting to point the fact that they are control freaks! It will never be their fault. EVER. So stop trying and walk away for your own sanity. This will save you a lot of headaches!

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Leptirela 5 years ago from I don't know half the time

heheh Brilliant traits of characters there

good hub :)

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Leptirela 5 years ago from I don't know half the time

heheh Brilliant traits of characters there

good hub :)

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prasetio30 5 years ago from malang-indonesia

Thank you very much for letting me know more about control freak. I always learn something new from you. Gina, you are the best among your busy activity as a career woman (sorry..wonder woman). Have a nice weekend!

Love and peace, Prasetio


marc 5 years ago

very insightful! Thanks!


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IslandVoice 5 years ago from Hawaii

Hi G! It's hard for me to say this, but, i know exactly what it means to be controlled because it happened to me. It's wrong, but when you're deep in this kind of relationship, part of the problem is you can't get out of it, for various insane reasons. Precisely, you are controlled. I'm only glad my situation ended, and i feel liberated in my 'new life'. Good job on this subject.


Lovey 5 years ago

Control is hegemonic in as much as people allow themselves to be controlled to a considerable extent. Allowing them to dictate the rules and accepting them without question only delays the day when you are the one who makes the rules and re-draw the boundaries in order to get the a-hole out of your life.

Mantra: I know your rules but I will no longer obey them.

SAY IT OVER AND OVER!

I have one thing to ask of the very learned right honourable control freak - "thrill me with your superior intellect and give me one crystal clear, blindingly obvious, perfectly reasoned cogent argument that will make me and every right thinking person on the planet believe 'it's for my own good' once and for all before I run out of the courteous patience I have compassionately granted you for all these years" - oh... what's that I hear? Silence. Exactly.

To paraphrase Lemmy - 'just coz u got the power doesn't mean you've got the right'.

MANTRA: I know the rules of the game you play and I'm no longer being emotionally obedient to them.

SAY IT OVER AND OVER!


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viryabo 5 years ago

Its amazing that reading this had clarified what control freaks are really like, and how they think and reason.

Hmm. I know one or two people like that. And they are nasty to be around.

Nice article G.

GodBless.


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

Leptirela....thanx for stopping in and leaving your comment! GPAGE


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

HEY PRASETIO! Always nice to see you my friend!!! Remember, they always come in many different forms! Choose your friends wisely ; Glad you learned something from this....I hope you had a lovely weekend! Blessings your way!!!! Always! G


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

Thanx Marc! Nice to see you here! G


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

IV..I think we connected in such a big way because we have quite a lot in common when it comes to life experiences....Especially when it comes to "love" and relationships...I always appreciate and respect your honesty. Thank you always for your support here!!!.....Best, G


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

LOVEY, my m..very nice comment my dear.

MANTRA: I know the rules of the game you play and I'm no longer being emotionally obedient to them.

I think this says it all.....GX


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

viryabo..I have known many like the person I describe in this article and it has been extremely stressful being in their presence. If I knew sooner, I would have gotten rid of the chaos. But sometimes it takes something shocking to make you notice what the actual manipulation is....SOME people are VERY good at it...Always nice seeing you here! G


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James A Watkins 5 years ago from Chicago

Hey! I hope you are no longer under the influence of any control freaks, G. That's no good for you. You need to be loved and appreciated for who you are, and certainly not told what to feel.

Thanks for the good read.

J


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

HEY JAMES! Let's just say it has been a "difficult journey." I'm hoping that I will see through the manipulations sooner in the future.......it has taken me a long time to get here....

I feel good....I feel strong.....I am free......x

Thank you for your caring and loving words J.......G


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Big Brother 5 years ago from Earth

I'm Happy and I feel strong too... Great Hub G.

Take care

Alexander


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Pamela99 5 years ago from United States

Its definitely time to find some gentle caring non-controlling guy for you that is if you are looking.

I have been down the same path and it isn't fun. The characteristics of the control freak are very similar to a book I am reading about borderline personalities. It is really eye opening to me as I am reading about my first husband.

I'm glad you feel good and free. Life should be enjoyed.


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Deni Edwards 5 years ago from california

"So stop trying and walk away for your own sanity."

I would have to agree with you. I had the worst headache yesterday that lasted for hours. But this was due to a she, not a he.

Great hub, G! Your pictures are absolutely perfect, too!


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

Big Brother....thanks for being here. So glad you liked it. Good to know that you are feeling good. Best, G


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

Thank you pamela....Like you, I have had bad experiences....It is time to be loved and enjoyed....life is too short. Always lovely to see you here! G


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

Deni...So nice to see you here. I'm glad you agree with me. We must free ourselves of "chaos causers!" Glad you liked this and the pics! Best. G

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