Hi, How Are You?

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Photo by Lush.i.ous on Flickr

I’m fine, and you?


They say they saw you with a girl

At once I’m elated and sad

A forgiving heart remembers joy

Forgets the eggshells my daily tread

At the ring encircling me, I stare

I notice yours is no longer there


I’m fine and you?


Have you talked to our advisor

Have you figured out what to do 

A second job, lose the house

Is it written down a kind of plan

Doesn’t seem fair the way it was drawn

How much, how bad, how long


I’m fine and you?


Your daughter cried again today

And no he didn’t miss you

Its Daddy’s turn he said

They want to stay another night

Lots of sugar cereal and all day tv

Its all rules and vegetables with me


I’m fine and you?


They are back there biding their time

Lapping at the top of the dam

Waiting for the drop that sends it over

I heard about your Dad, its really serious

Have you seen him, he’s the color of this paint

But I’m ok with it either way, live or die


Will you excuse me please, I need to cry.

Comments 52 comments

ralwus 7 years ago

oh what sorrow it is. makes me cry it does as I recall mine also. I just about died. Take care dear and cry yer eyes out til it's all gone. This too shall pass.


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Christoph Reilly 7 years ago from St. Louis

I love it Randy. It says so much, really tells the story. It's crummy to be the one with the rules and the vegetables. You should be proud of this!


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alekhouse 7 years ago from Louisville, Kentucky

Very nice and very sad. Been there also. Can relate. Thanks, Randy


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Frieda Babbley 7 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

Beautifully written. I wonder if my mom felt that way. I suppose she must have, but there wouldn't have been conversation, and we had vegetables at my dad's house too.


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trooper22 7 years ago from Chicago

From pain there is art, from art there is life, and from life their is pain...again. What a life we live; the one within, and the one without. "I am fine, how are you?" *Screaming inside* I love this Randy.


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Randy Behavior 7 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

ralwus, Maybe that's my problem I'm a tear fighter. If I would just cry my eyes out, I'd be done with it? I'm glad you're still with us.

Thanks Chris. I kept trying to avoid writing this one but it all kinda came to a head today. I had to get it out of my head, ya know?

alekhouse thanks for reading. I guess these feelings are universal, although I wouldn't wish them on anyone.


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Randy Behavior 7 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Frieda, thanks for commenting. I think all parents feel they are judged against each other.

Trooper, Admittedly some of the best poetry comes from pain, but other extreme emotions produce great pieces too. Like lust and love. I'd like to write from the perspective of falling in love for a change.

Screamin' on the inside is right.


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shamelabboush 7 years ago

This is so sad and frustrating Randy :( You made almost react...


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Randy Behavior 7 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Shamel, what do you mean? React how?


\Brenda Scully 7 years ago

aw I feel for you...... nicely written I have to say..... you have talent, maybe I already said that, but it is true.....


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Randy Behavior 7 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Thanks for the lovely compliment Brenda.


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

You've covered a difficult and painful topic very well. Well done!


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Randy Behavior 7 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Thanks Cindy! Thanks for reading.


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shamelabboush 7 years ago

Sorry for the late reply. You almost pulled a tear from me. This is a tragic one which forced a sigh out of me.


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Candie V 7 years ago from Whereever there's wolves!! And Bikers!! Cummon Flash, We need an adventure!

A daughter (7 years old) of a friend had to do a story on "my parents" in school. She wrote "My daddy is my favorite toy. My mommy cleans the toilets." Kids will always take the "toy" over the chores. Be the "toy" for a while.. the veggies can wait.


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Randy Behavior 7 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Shamel, almost? I'll try harder next time. Like the new avatar :)

Hi Candie, now that summer is here I'm more the fun Mom. But still, I want to be the favorite all the time... selfish.


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Hawkesdream 7 years ago from Cornwall

As they grow, they will know, Randy.. its just a game to them,


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Randy Behavior 7 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Thanks Hawkes. Ya, they think its camping.


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marcofratelli 7 years ago from Australia

Aw Randy... I agree with Cindy. This covers a difficult and painful topic really well. (I'm fine thanks, you?)


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I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s 7 years ago

Randy, I can sooo relate to this poem! I have been there. It is truly a cutting time, for sure! ((big hug)). You are an amazing poet! :)


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Randy Behavior 7 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

marco, thanks for coming by and commenting.

Invictus, I thought these were personal trials but it seems they are universal. Thanks for the compliment.


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Russ Baleson 7 years ago from Sandhurst, United Kingdom

Wow, this hurt which just shows how very well you write.


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Randy Behavior 7 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Art from pain Russ.


CabinGirl 7 years ago

(( hugs ))


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R. Blue 7 years ago from Right here

Let me know if you want my advice and perspective....otherwise looks like you have it under control.


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Randy Behavior 7 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Thanks CG.

Thanks Blue, I just needed to get it down on paper, control returns.


Am I dead, yet? 7 years ago

Randy, this one is so sad. I love that I can read about your fierceness in sex and love, bodies and heat...then you completely floor me with something like this one. What are you trying to do to me?

Brilliant!


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Randy Behavior 7 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

AIDY- I had to clean out my closet, so to speak. Hard to write the fun stuff with a bunch of negative crap in my brain.


Am I dead, yet? 7 years ago

you done good, Randy. I enjoyed every word.


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Earthscribe 7 years ago from Tampa, Florida

rated up for expression :)


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Randy Behavior 7 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Well thank you much.


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floeticpoet 7 years ago

What a sad poem,yet its so beautiful because it is filled with such emotion. Keep hanging in there and never stop writing. Also be sure to read some of my poetry when you get a chance.


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Randy Behavior 7 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Real life is often sad... I try not to go there often :)


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Cris A 7 years ago from Manila, Philippines

yeah, off with the excess baggage! :D


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Randy Behavior 7 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Do you find Cris, that if you write about it, it dissipates?


Reflections 5 years ago

Wow... such a raw essence... like the pain follows the lines, transmitting itself, it's news, beyond. Powerful piece.


brian 5 years ago

a very honest write on the feelings when two parents are not on the same page...whether seperated or not...it can really jack the kids up too...great emotion, think i would cry as well...

from the comments, does it dissipate, no...but maybe you are another step down the road of understanding


dustus 5 years ago

"eggshells my daily tread" —novel infusion of popular phrases there. Very honest piece. Nice capture of a powerful disconnect through your words.


Claudia Schönfeld 5 years ago

so sad and such a lot of pain, trying to appear ok on the outside and inside all is burnt...good capture of these feelings randy


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Randy Behavior 5 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Thanks for coming by Reflections. I'll return the favor.

@ Brian-I'm a child of divorce, but watching my children go through as the parent is a hundred times worse.


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Randy Behavior 5 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Hi Dustus. Honest is the only way I know how to write. Thanks for the comment.

Morning Claudia (my morning). You always get me. That is exactly how I felt when I wrote this.


Louise G 5 years ago

This is powerful -- brings back memories of when my daughter's father and I separated.

Beautifully written -- painfully true.


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Randy Behavior 5 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Thanks Louise. I thought it was only mine. Turns out a very universal pain.


kez 5 years ago

Beautifully written ..about heart wrenching pain, the way you presented it makes it very real for the reader something easy to relate too ...I hope it helps if it needs to with your pain. Thank you


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Randy Behavior 5 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Thanks Kez. Poetry is how I deal with all my emotions.


shan 5 years ago

raw and powerful, sun will rise tomorrow, life does go one. Emotional write hun


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Randy Behavior 5 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Greetings Shan... it always does.


Rob Hanson 5 years ago

Thank you. This was stunning... so much emotion conveyed with your words and a simple photo. Well done.


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Randy Behavior 5 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Thank you Rob. I appreciate you commenting. I wrote another for your picture in the comments box over there. You definitely brought back some memories for me.


Glynn 5 years ago

The juxtaposition of the superficial and the real -- you've captured in one poem about 99 percent of human conversations. Good one.


Leah.J.Lynn 5 years ago

That was wonderful. sad and so true for some people.


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Randy Behavior 5 years ago from Near the Ocean Author

Hi Glynn. I'm glad you like it.

Thank you Leah. Many yes, I think divorce is 50-55%, cancer is at 33% and financial hardship... can't hazard a guess.

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