"How Can Family Members Be So Cruel to Their own Children"

''How Can Family Members Be So Cruel ToTheir Own Children"

Try to love your children with all your heart and protect them from all harm.
Try to love your children with all your heart and protect them from all harm.

How Can Family Members Be So Cruel To Their Own"In

In my travel here and there, I'm learning how cruel and hurtful family members can be to their young children. My daughter in-law, would never come to our family gatherings, or outings at all and we found out the reason why? My son would always come by himself. We later learned that she came from a shady family background. Where her family members,were unloving, back stabbers and they raped and molested their children. So, naturally she thought all families were dysfunctional like hers. Once she finally came to one of our family gatherings by the prompting of my son. She learned that there are loving and caring families in the world and not all of them aren't like her family. She and her kids enjoyed being around the family so much until now, they trying to move to Texas where everyone is. My daughter in law, didn't think anyone lived like us because of the horrible life style that she and her sister had lived. She now realize that we're a family that have cook outs, and family gatherings all the time, eating, playing games and enjoying being with each other and learning about God.

This is our life style, it started when my children were young, I would barbecue on the grill and make baked beans and potato salad and a dessert and I play games with my children. Now, they're all grown up now, and they do the same family gatherings a lot. It's a life style for them because they rotate from house to house. My daughter in law understands that we welcome anyone into our homes and share food, drinks, games, clean fun and laughter with each other, until the next time. I guess you can say we have our own kind of soul food among each other. Now she knows why my son always wants to come home for the holidays because of the love, the food and hospitality he's shown each time that he comes. I listened to my daughter in law. she told me what an awful time she and her sisters had growing up in a household. Where the mom didn't care if they were raped or molested by their biological father and later their step father. She had eight brothers and after seeing the father's taking advantage of the her and her two sisters. The brothers thought it was okay to try the same thing with their sisters. I listen to her with a sadden heart because her mother didn't have any love to give her daughter, or to try and keep them safe from the men in their home.

My heart really hurt for my daughter in law and the other children involved. We go out of our way to show them the love they never had from her family, because they needed. They need to know that God loves them and want good things for them. I told her she or her kids never have to worry about being misuse and abused because we want to let them know, how it feel to be genuinely loved in our homes. Our family is all about spreading love and cheer to anyone that grace our homes. We're godly people that believe in southern hospitality shown to anyone that comes to our homes, because we love people and God said to love our neighbors.

Benny Faye Douglass (C)Copyright 2010

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creativeone59 3 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Hopeful312 and the same blessings back to you and your family, through out the holidays. Thanks for your visit and comment. Godspeed, creativeone59


Hopeful312 3 years ago

God Bless You


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creativeone59 4 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you modester5for your visit and comment, I appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59


modester5 4 years ago

hello my dear

I am Modester by name good day. i just went to your profile this time true this site (hubpages.com) and i got your detail and your explanation in fact the way you explain your self shows me that you are innocent and maturity and also understand person i decided to have a contact with you so that we can explain to our self each other because God great everyone to make a friend with each other and from that we know that we are from thism planet God great for us ok my dear please try and reach me through my email address (modester4life4@yahoo.com) so that i can send you my picture true your reply we can know each other ok have a nice day and God bless you yours Modester


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

That's true, and maybe make up for some the pain and horror others have suffered. Thank you again Micky, I appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

We have to reach out a little harder sometimes! Thank you Faye!


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

We try to be a real blessing to her because we want her to feel genuine love. Thank you Veronica,for your comment and feedback, plus your continue suport. God bless you. creativeone59


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Veronica Allen 6 years ago from Georgia

I hate that innocent children are victimized - and mostly by the ones they think they can trust. With all that she has been through and seen, it is no wonder that your daughter-in-law has such a hard time trusting anyone.

You and your family are a real blessing to her.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you so much aoiffe, for your kind comment and feedback, and I believe what you said is true. Thank you for caring. Godspeed. creativ eone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you always exploring, for you comment and feedback, I appreciate you. What you said was true, they truly needed God in their lives. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Audrey, for your visit, and for your comment and feedback. What you say is true, if you have a loving family backing you, you can get over anything. God bless. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Hello, and you're welcome for the story, I thought,this story would help someone else that might have suffered the same situation. Thank you for your con tinual support, you never left me. God bless you. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you ek ellis,for stopping by and leaving your comment and feedback.It helps if you have a caring family holding you up. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you ek ellis,for stopping by and leaving your comment and feedback.It helps if you have a caring family holding you up. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you fastfreta,for stopping by my hubs and leaving your comment and feedback, I really appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59


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aoiffe379 6 years ago

Often, it takes one good family to turn the tide for those who came from a dysfunctional family. However, if the person from a dysfunctional family marries a person from a dysfunctional, that can be a serious problem. Sometimes the couple know that they have to work hard. At times the 'loving' families who have get togethers are simply socially oriented; and sometimes they dysfunction and surprise everyone. The main ingredient is genuine love and making each person aware and comfortable.Trust has to develop.


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always exploring 6 years ago from Southern Illinois

What a horrible shame that people have not been taught to love one another, i feel for your daughter-in-law, but also for her family, they need help and God in their life. There is a healing, if we only ask.

GOD BLESS YOU AND YOURS


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akirchner 6 years ago from Central Oregon

It is a lifestyle though as you say, Faye. It is really hard for people who have not grown up in a loving, open family style like it sounds yours is to comprehend or even accept such love once in a while but from personal experience, if you let it wash over you, you've found heaven.

It's wonderful that your family is there for her and they can be her 'better' family. That is a rare gift you are giving her and a chance to heal!


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

Thank you for sharing your heartbreaking story. It must so dramatic. At least she found you all and couldn't find a better mother- and father-in-law.


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ek ellis 6 years ago

It is so very sad when you can't feel safe or loved within ones own family. Your daughter-in-law is very fortunate to have you and your family to give her that love and reassurance that all families are not like the one she grew up in.


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California

Very sad for your daughter-in-law, however it's wonderful that she landed in a good family. I'm sure she appreciates that. Thank creativeone, for sharing a little of your life with us.

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