How Do I Love You? By Loving Me First!

"Charity begins at home. "

We must love ourselves before we can love anyone else. But how does one just love oneself out of the blue? Especially if they were not loved by their parents or did not feel loved by them. Of course, this is not the case with me. I was loved by my father who is now passed....I think. And I am loved by my mother...in her own ways of thoughtfulness. Yes, I also feel I was loved growing up and it was a good feeling. Lately, I don't feel as loved as much as I want, because I feel that times have been tough for a very long time, but I know time has a way of changing!


For the broken hearted


How do I love you?

I must love myself first.

And because you left me abandoned and alone

I was hard to fend for myself on my own.


I am now beginning to learn how to value

I am now beginning to love myself more and as a result others too.

Accepting my life situations and the way I have become is important too.



For those who have been sick


I hope you have found some compassion

Some kindred spirits who have shown you love

They are everywhere

You just have to seek them out

And receive


For the perfectionist


Perhaps you felt you had to be perfect

to satisfy the parents/people in your life

You don't

You are okay just as you are

For the complicated


You are complex and uniquely designed

You are special and talented

You are wonderful

For myself


I love you

you have always been a cute kid

And loved by all!

Teased, yes

Mistreated at times, yes we all have/were

You are strong and have made it along so far, this far

And you can keep on going

Everyday your love stronger is showing!

You are peaceful at heart and serene

Stay good

and solid

Be you

and let the world see your inner beauty shine forth!

Be a beacon of light for those around you who may be in distress

As they have been for you as well

You are smart and precocious, young at heart!


For you


There is good in you

As there is good in all of us!

Be brave!

Don't let discouragement keep you down!

Smile and let the world know you


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Gypsy Rose Lee 2 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Voted up and beautiful. Wonderful poetic words and music.


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blondey 2 years ago Author

Thank you very much Rasma, it's so important to love ourselves and learn how to get by with just that so that when we meet the other half so to speak, we will be able to give.

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