How do I love thee too?

Let me count the ways

Whenever I am in Rome, I like to find a nice noisy street suitable for my purpose and to sit there for hours looking at the architecture. Quiet spots are just not available in Rome, so it has to be a noisy street.

If one chooses with some care, one can see buildings on the same street, next to each other, that were designed and erected at different centuries, from Before Christ, through the intervening centuries, to today. And they are just leaning against each other in a comfort and a familiarity which is captivating.

I look at those structures and I know that I love you and I am proud of you. Yes, you. Because you have designed and built these structures yourself. To be more specific, WE have designed and built them. Some of the streets of Rome are an actual map of the progress we have made through the centuries as human beings and I get a feeling of pride at what we humans have been able to achieve and at what we are capable of.

Yes, I know, we have also seriously screwed up through the centuries as well and we have been cruel and unjust to each other. We have found ways and means to hurt each other and to persecute each other with a cruelty that is so shameful we want to hide from it and to forget. But let’s not do that. Let us remember our weaknesses as well; no matter how shameful they may be, because they also contribute to our understanding of how good we can really be and how much better we can be with each other.

Even the cruelty being perpetrated today in some parts of Africa, where armed groups mutilate and murder in horrendous fashion, is our own cruelty and our own responsibility, even though we like to pretend that we have nothing to do with it and that we are superior to such base acts. We feel this detachment because we forget that we have raped and stolen from Africa indiscriminately for centuries, without really giving anything back that we were not forced to give.

While stealing their wealth, had we but taken the trouble to invest even a little of the stolen booty to educate our African brethren, how many more Mandela’s might we not now have?

Ah…, Mandela. How can you not feel proud to be related somehow to that man? Because we are all related to each other you know. We are related factually, not theoretically.


I have recently had my Y-chromosome (male line) DNA analysed and the results held some real surprises for me. My paternal grandfather was born in an isolated mountainous village of Cyprus, so what the fuck were the Danes doing there? I am apparently related to one in every 615 Danes. I don’t feel Danish and I don’t want to be Danish, but my Haplogroup is R1b1b2 (also known as M269+ ) and that is where my most recent male line is from (10,000-12,000 years ago).

Haplogroup R1b1b2 (or M269+ )

According to “Family Tree DNA” who did the test, we all started out form East Africa and the spot is imaginatively marked as “Adam”. You can see on the map how our original ancestors gradually colonised various parts of the world and how our “R” strain mutated into what has become the European strain of R1, which in turn mutated into R1a for Scandinavia and R1b for the rest of Europe. Our R2 ancestors turned right and became the God-like Gandhi and when I say that name tears come to my eyes at how it is possible to be related to THAT man!


World-wide Haplogroup connections

Now those of us who are from Europe and to our shame have tried to convince the rest of the world that we are better than they, look at how related we are to those people, as shown in the map above.

I love thee freely, as men strive for right

Albert Schweitzer, who was also an R1b, understood very well what John Donne meant by "Any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in Mankind; And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee." And it is not only other men’s deaths that diminish us, it is their suffering too and more so.

I recently visited a Victorian poor house in the UK and I came out of it Angry and Furious and I use the capital letters advisedly. I was angry at the system which allowed human beings to be treated with so much contempt at a time when Britain was at the height of its power and its wealth. How could that bloated, well fed German queen have so little love and respect for her “subjects”? With so much wealth acquired from controlling about a fifth of the world’s resources, how could it be possible to allow so much degradation to take place on an official level?

And here the Royalists of course rise up in arms to defend their Queen. They are the same ones ready not to die for their families their homes and their country, but for Queen and Country, God bless their poor brainwashed hearts.


I love thee by sun and candle-light

So whether I am sitting in a street of Rome admiring the achievements we have made as a species, or a street in Binondo, China Town, Manila admiring the passion, the energy and the love that motivates our brave Filipino brethren to sacrifice themselves for the sake of their families (and not for some gluttonous monarch who does not want to know them), or reading a poem by the Immortal Rizal, I feel an all encompassing love to the depth and heights of possibility.

I feel so impressed when I read the efforts of people trying to contribute SOMETHING, anything to the overall good. It is this desire to contribute which pushes us forward as a species and produces one success after another. We cannot all be Einstein, but we can participate in his visions and be proud that we are related to him, because we really are, even though to some he posed a threat because he was a Jew. We are closely related, possibly even brothers. So when the Nazis were doing their killings, they were not just committing murder, they were in reality committing fratricide.


I love thee with a love I seemed to lose

Every man’s library should include a copy of Walt Whitman’s poem “Song of Myself”, because it just about says it all:

I CELEBRATE myself, and sing myself,
And what I assume you shall assume,
For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you.


Dimitris Mita

De Greek

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Nellieanna 6 years ago from TEXAS

Oh my! What can I say, my friend? It's a masterpiece you've written. So full of passion and compassion, so well expressed! I commend you with all my heart. I'll read it again and again.

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Feline Prophet 6 years ago from India

You do introspection as well as you do humour, DG. Alas, it will be a long while before people across the world admit that essentially we are all one.

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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author

The I take it that you concur with my position on Gandhi? :-)))

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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author

Nellieanna, many will not agree with you..:-)

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De Cuz 6 years ago from Portsmouth

Thank you for reminding us that we are all inter related and although we as a species continually act in ways intended to disprove this, there is no doubt we must be related through our various DNA strains. We as nations talk of working together to save the world from global warming, global financial implosion, yet we never hear of talks on working together globally for the betterment of mankind.

Your comment on your position on Gandhi brought a smile to my face. I have always felt very strongly about the man. His strength of will, his visionary ideals mark him as a man apart. I am an admirer! This of course has nothing to do with the fact that Gandhi died the year I was born, and many people believe in reincarnation..:-)

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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author

De Cuz, and I thought that I was the one with delusions of greatness! :-))

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Green Lotus 6 years ago from Atlanta, GA

You have just reaffirmed the 6 degrees of separation theory. And how cool to have your DNA tested in such a way! All that fun stuff aside, I am one who lives with the perfect knowledge that we are all one;-all brothers swimming sometimes madly within the quantum soup. You, my friend are a tasty morsel within that ocean. I truly enjoyed this read.

Oh, next time you're in Rome, if you haven't already done so, do visit the neighborhood of the Borghese gardens and perhaps the Lord Byron hotel for a quite afternoon of reflection.

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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author

Green Lotus, I am an Excelsior Hotel man myself (on via Vento), when I am in funds and damn the expense. :-)

I have some interesting stories about staying at that hotel :-))

Again, you have managed to make me feel good. Thank you.

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Nellieanna 6 years ago from TEXAS

De Greek - have you ever known me to sweat it if I'm out of step with the concensus? I stand by my first impression!


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lisadpreston 6 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

Of course you are right. Glad to see that you "Get It". I wish others would as well.

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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author

Nellieanna, youcertainly sooth THIS savage beast with your kind words.

Lisa my love, I am glad you are in agreement :-)

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_cheryl_ 6 years ago from California

I very much agree with your perspective and appreciation of what we, as a human species have learned to accomplish. Human life has become so unbelievably complicated, that the more one can allow himself to be at awe of the beauty in the simplicities around us (especially those which we create), the more our hearts open up to becoming a more fulfilled, more inspired soul. In turn, we become a better person living our lives for not just ourselves and our families, but for those who share the same love. That proud sense leads to the desire to teach and share the same knowledge to others. What a great insight from you! Being filipina, I know for a fact that my roots run deep in many directions. Whether anyone wants to see human relation in that way or not, there is definitely in many, a shared sense of desire to contribute to the improvement of ourselves. Loved reading this De Greek! Thanks.

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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author

Hi Cheryl.. I understand that you are born and bred in the US. If you see the way Filipinos work to provide for their families under the most difficult conditions and how they CHEERFULLY give the little they earn to their families (including cousins!!!), then you see the best of humanity in action and you cannot help being proud at being a member of that group and you cannot help loving the Filipino in particular.

Every day, most Filipinos lives are a hymn to love. I looooove the Philippines..:D

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Cris A 6 years ago from Manila, Philippines

The distance between us is a distance we choose to create and we measure it not by hours nor by the breadth of the seas that separate but by bigotry, intolerance and prejudice - geography and color have nothing to do with humanity.

My dear sir, you took me on a time-warping intercontinental ride which left me humbled but aware and lachrymosely celebratory. If you can no longer resist the pull to revisit the Philippines, mi casa es su casa.

This hub is one of my favorite hubs already...ever ever ever :D

PS I would love to share a link to this hub on my FB account, can I? Please?

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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author

Cris, how kind you are to say such nice things. And re-think the invitation, because once I tell my wife, you are a gonner, there is no going back.,.:-))

I don't know what an FB account is and what a link there means, but you are welcome to do it :-))

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Cris A 6 years ago from Manila, Philippines

I shall do no such thing. Maybe you should re-read what I said :D

Oh FB is Facebook. Well a link there means more readers coming to this page, and this should be read.

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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author

Oh, I see. Great I shall be happy to "be linked" :-)))

And you tought me a new word today: Lachrymosely :D

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JamaGenee 6 years ago from Central Oklahoma

DG, this is absolutely beautiful. And sooo true. It boggles the mind that the species that can create the breath taking architecture you like to ponder in Rome (and I in London) can brutalize, torture and kill others of the same species for the sheer "pleasure" of doing so. Humans are the only animal who does this.

I've long been a fan of the Leakeys, and recently learned Max Mallowan, Agatha Christie's husband, preceded them into the Cradle of Human Origin. Therefore it tickles me no end when an "upper crust" white celeb or Southern politician is shocked to learn his DNA goes back to Africa. Well, duh.

I've always known somehow that each of us, one way or another, is related to every other human on the planet, and that we should conduct ourselves accordingly. Sounds like a good start would be adopting the ways of the Filipinos.

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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author

Ah, Jama, you cannot imagine how gratifying it is for me to hear a good word from someone as talented and intelligent as you. I have become a fun of your humour (with a “u” because we don’t cut corners over here) and I have to drag myself away from your stories in order to make them last. Having you agree with me, is the icing on the cake.

You are right about the Filipinos. Sometimes I think that they are an advanced race of human beings ’s who have left the rest of us far behind as to the important things in life and that we a have a long way to go before we can develop to their stage of advancement.

Read about Rizal and his poems!

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Gypsy Willow 6 years ago from Lake Tahoe Nevada USA , Wales UK and Taupo New Zealand

Oh what a multi talented, sentimental human being you are, what insight and feeling. The state of the planet these days is frightening and all man made. I tend not to strike out to make a name for myself these day but I am becoming more introspective and family orientated. My gardens are my refuge and my mind is my plaything. Hence I write and create art. Love this frightening hub. R

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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author

Hi GW, glad you like this. I am firmly convinced that people are inherently good, only some are less strong than others and are more easily manipulated by the few with special interests. At the end of the day if we stand shoulder to shoulder, as human beings loving our fellow man, it is possible to achieve wonderful results, for the sake of our children. For the future we shall never see, in fact. :-)

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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa

DG (which can also stand for Deo gratias, as I'm sure you are aware!) thanks for this wonderful Hub. We are all connected, we are all children of Africa, we are all blessed with the same potential. All we lack is the will to understand, to understand our history, to understand each other.

You have made a great contribution to both in this Hub. Thank you from the depths of my being!

Love and peace


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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author

How kind you are Tony... Thank you

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Pam Roberson 6 years ago from Virginia

Lovely, lovely, lovely! Those Danes really got around didn't they? The real beauty of this hub is how you weaved the whole "man's rise and fall" idea from beginning to end and then wrapped everything up so neatly by saying "We cannot all be Einstein, but we can participate in his visions and be proud that we are related to him, because we really are...We are closely related, possibly even brothers." Nice! :) Nice genes too. ;)

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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author

Pam, it would be no surprise to ME if you were directly related to the Great Man! Thank you :-)

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habee 6 years ago from Georgia

So I see you are an E.B. Browning fan. Wonderful, thoughtful hub. I would say you're definitely a great Dane - I LOVE Great Danes! I have two! lol

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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author

And now you have three, Habee. Can you feed us all though? :-))

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habee 6 years ago from Georgia

You don't look like you eat too much...and have you seen all my cooking hubs?? I'm known as a wonderful cook - that's why I'm fat! An old Southern saying: Never trust a skinny cook! lol

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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author

Never trust a skinny cook! Brilliant:-))

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f_hruz 6 years ago from Toronto, Ontario, Canada

First, let me thank you for your kind comment! It sparkt my interest in your profile and brought me here ... to marvel at this great hub. Congratulations, you are quite a guy :)

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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author

I love flattery :-))

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lisadpreston 6 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

I see that I have been here before. Had to retrack and refresh because of your hub, The Mystery of Friendship. After re reading this hub, it is clear to me why you are my friend. How could anyone not love a man that has written such a beautiful hub?

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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author

Ahhhh... Thank you my love :-)

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Christopher Price 6 years ago from Vermont, USA


Thanks for supplying the link to direct us here. This hub predates my discovering Hubpages and it would have been a shame to have been deprived of this song of our shared humanity.

Schweitzer, Einstein, Gandhi, Mandela, Mita...each a fine representative of our species. After reading this, I find little "Mystery of Friendship" of your readers for you. In your writing your humanity shines through.

You are a "Mensch". What's not to like!?! :{)


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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author


You are pulling my leg again, but nevermind, I forgive you :-)))

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Lita C. Malicdem 6 years ago from Philippines

My goodness, DG! Aren't we somehow related, by the way you talk about us, Filipinos, and our immortal national hero, Dr. Jose P. Rizal? Haha! Never mind that- what's important is "you love Manila and it's people". How do I Love Thee, DG? Welcome to the Philippines.

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De Greek 6 years ago from UK Author


Of course we are related, Lita. All of us are, just look at the map :-)

Does this mean that as a cousin you will cook lechon manok and adobo for me when I arrive? :-))))

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Nellieanna 5 months ago from TEXAS

WOW. Still a good writ.

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De Greek 5 months ago from UK Author

How kind you are Nellieanna ...

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