Love; I Just Don’t Seem To Know You Anymore: An Essential Poem About Finding Love and Self Doubt.

Sometimes we are lost to it!

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Sometimes we are lost in love.

‘Love; I Just Don’t Seem To Know You Anymore’ is a poem about the first impressions one has of their lover and how, for whatever reason, we allow self doubt to undermine those first impressions.

When we first met a potential lover, friend or partner, we tend to be attracted by a variety of attributes seen within that person. There are two sayings (‘First impressions count!’ and ‘Love at first sight!’) that sum up the fraction of a second that it takes to find those attributes in another that we subconsciously seek. Often, initially we don’t even realize what it is that first attracted them to us and perhaps that factor alone, is the very reason for why we provide a growing platform for self doubt.

If you consider that in many respects ‘Confidence’ is the nemesis of Self Doubt, then you will understand the effects are generally opposite to those benefits that a confident person can reasonably expect to experience. Self doubt is triggered by a range of various reasons, or warnings, or justifications for not acting in the way the other person, or our positive self would likely expect us to.

Self doubt is in essence based on insecurity or fear, often referred to as ‘baggage’ that has never been dealt with, or removed from a person’s character, even though it may only be ‘perceived’ and not actually real. Self doubt also tends to often become subconsciously redirected away from the person who is ‘in doubt’ and more consciously leveled at that significant other. In this mode, it quickly develops into a negative process that grows beyond insecurity or fear of change, to finding faults in that person, which becomes criticism, then anger built on the faults found, then in extreme cases, abuse or worse.

Self doubt effectively becomes ‘the’ highly significant other, demanding an end to anything that could, or would (in the absence of self doubt) make us great, or change us beyond the ways that we have been comfortable with prior to the entrance of an opportunity to excel, or the entrance of the other significant other lover to embrace! In short, ‘things that I like about you’ become ‘things that I don’t like about you!’ Eventually and sadly, those who chose to embrace and inwardly worship self doubt, generally end up with that highly destructive, negative attribute as their ‘Only Significant Other!’ Wouldn't it just be easier and better for others if those parties simply committed to developing some Self Esteem instead?

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The Mindscape of one battling with Self Doubt...

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Oh.. By the way....

This poem was written confidently by Pearldiver so therefore, it also has other purpose and interpretation beyond that which one may initially consider it to represent.

Perhaps the poet is not writing specifically about Self Doubt, perhaps it is merely a demonstration of how a poet or writer can, create uncertainty within others, based entirely on the depth of their interpretation! Perhaps this poem: ‘Love; I Just Don’t Seem to Know You Anymore’ just isn’t that deep? You choose and please don’t doubt your own ability to do so! Please endorse your interpretation of this poem by entering your perceptive interpretation into the survey poll below:

But, most importantly just enjoy this poem. It may take more than one reading to fully appreciate what really lies between the lines. Thank you for taking the time to look.

* Pearldiver *

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I can't believe the change.

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I Don't Seem To Know You.

'Love; I Just Don’t Seem To Know You Anymore'


Wow, look at you, you haven’t changed

Still beautiful, as you’ve always been

Really like your hair; you really suit that style

You can’t imagine how much I’ve missed you

I can’t believe how much my pulse roars

How my arms cry out for me, to embrace you

To touch your heart, to hold your love

To just enjoy your subtle fragrance

Perhaps feel the power of your smile

And now it seems like I can walk again

I’m just so mesmerized by your eyes

And how I realize that I still love you

But I remember, those revolving doors

They just open up all of my emotions

And leave them scattered across the floor


Wow, look at you, how much you’ve changed

Beautiful, but faded more than I could say

Can’t imagine how much I’ve missed you

But my broken poems and broken dreams

Seem to haunt me, to call me inward ever more

I can’t believe how much my pulse cries out

Can’t believe the reoccurring, spinning doors

Can’t believe that you left me; please don’t boast

I’ve not forgotten the pain within your eyes

And how they flashed so much, when I was near

Though I never knew what they really said

I wish that I had listened, long enough to hear

Those few words, oh how important they would be

Now in this broken state, I really can’t be sure

Which one of us needs such a love, the most?

Love, it’s so lonely here without you

And I have to know, if it was you, or was it me?

Hopelessly reaching out, as past lovers do

When sadly they find their true love

Lost, washed up, on the coast.

* Pearldiver *

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Lost, washed up on the coast.

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From your first impression (After Reading), What do you believe this poem was really about?

  • I think this poem is really about Self Doubt.
  • I think this poem is really about Splitting Up.
  • I think this poem is really about Dying.
  • I think this poem is really about Being a Ghost
  • I think this poem is really about Confusing Us.
  • I think the author is the Confused One!
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A Little Bit of Feedback...

I appreciate that you have taken the time to read this article and poem. I hope that you have gained at least a basic understanding of the dangers and potential negative influences of Self Doubt.

As a firm believer in the power of Intuition, I find that it is very sad that so many do not know how to Not Self Doubt, even though initially their intuitive mind may have actually provided them with solid positive information.

When it comes down to relationships, one should always listen to the intuitive prompts that they receive when first meeting their partner. As a writer, I like to always create thought provoking articles, poetry or images, simply because so many often never take the time to consider the real depth of the subjects which good writers write about, often from more than one fixed perspective. Life is not a journey that should be approached, or embarked upon with only a single fixed perspective in mind. Love is the same.

I hope you appreciate the ambiguity that I try to instill within my writing. If so, then your feedback is most important as it helps support those efforts... take care.

* Pearldiver *

Copyright © 2011 - 2012 Pearldiver nzpol with all rights reserved

Was it you or was it me? Or was it just about drowning?

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Thank you for leaving your Comment here.. 25 comments

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always exploring 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

This was sad and hauntedly reminiscent of an event in my life. Enjoyed..Beautifully written..


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Barry Wah Lee 4 years ago from Auckland

DIVINE-TOGETHER-RETURN-RESTORE


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capricornrising 4 years ago from Wilmington, NC

PD, after reading several of your poetry hubs, I realize that I've been swaying a bit in my chair each time. Your use of imagery, language, and repeated motifs make me instinctively sense a song lyricist in your poetic sensibility. Do you write songs?


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hi there Ruby, cheers for reading this and your comment. I find your comment interesting as it seems that you have picked up on one of the less obvious paths within the poem. I'm glad that you enjoyed it from that perspective. Thanks for taking the time Ruby.. you take care and have a good festive period.


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hi there Barry, thank you for your comment and for reading this piece. Maybe I should just answer your words with Yes-Yes-No-No. The clues are built into the intro and in one of the lines in the poem.. It is quite deep, if yo are seeking interpretation. Cheers mate.. you take care.


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hi Cat, thanks for taking the time to read and comment. I'm sorry to hear that my poetry makes you sway mate.. I hope you weren't eating at the time and found yourself having to chase your fork.. I'm pleased you found the pulse of the poetry though.. I would really enjoy writing song lyrics, however I don't read music and don't have access to the ability to collaborate. There are a couple of poems in my pile that should be put to music.. perhaps in time.. But I do appreciate you finding that Cat.. it is rather a good attribute to have within one's poetry list.. Cheers.. you take care.


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prettydarkhorse 4 years ago from US

Your poetry just make me look at myself, travel to the past, make me remember that "love". You are a loving person.

Beautiful!


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hi Maita, thank you for that, yes I am and if my poetry can make you do that, then so are you! I am glad that you enjoy my words. You take care and enjoy the holidays.


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Marcy Goodfleisch 4 years ago from Planet Earth

Very touching poem - I think anyone who has let a good one slip by, or lost one who meant something, can relate to your words here. Voted up and beautiful.


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hi Marcy, thank you for reading this and your kind words. I'm glad that you enjoyed this work and like your interpretation of the poetry, as yes it is about loss and losing touch with the one you love because of not dealing with the influence of self doubt. Cheers for voting it, take care.


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Barry Wah Lee 4 years ago from Auckland

It was good and enjoyable to look at the poem today, many weeks on, with many weeks odd, and many weeks Om.


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hi Barry, thanks again for reading this poem and your comments. I'm glad you like this and hope your weeks have been good ones. Be well my friend.. take care.


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Minnetonka Twin 4 years ago from Minnesota

I really love that you write to make people think and dig within. I feel this poem is about self doubt which leads to a break off of a relationship that could've been great. The person is seconding guessing what was there and what could have been great but the doubt won out and the relationship could not grow and thus died. Now one is left lonely and sad and wishing he/she had trusted the initial instincts. The person here sabotaged what could have been wonderful love.


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hi Linda, thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment on this work. Yes, that is exactly one of the key messages in this piece. There is at least one other perspective within it, that is masked by the interpretation that you have taken from it. There is also a dark side to this piece that can be taken from it if death is considered.

And yes, I enjoy making people delve deeper into themselves... as we all have abilities that we doubt can ever take root and we as people tend not to back our intuitive self.

I'm glad you enjoyed this and I appreciate your comment so much, that I would like to use it as the article summary, if you don't mind. You take care out there and be well.


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SomewayOuttaHere 4 years ago from TheGreatGigInTheSky

i missed this one PD...life got in the way...i luv reading what you write...luv feeling your words...

"Love; I Just Don’t Seem To Know You Anymore"

"But my broken poems and broken dreams

Seem to haunt me, to call me inward ever more"

"Lost, washed up, on the coast."

you are inspiring me to write sumthin'...it's coming...soon

thanks for your words....


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hi Someway, thanks for your nice words. I find it really interesting that you read this today, as I noticed that you hadn't earlier, when I responded to Linda above. How strange, you must have seen it on your feed.

I have put up some really good questions to answer in article form, if you are thinking about writing.. you might win in the comp if you write some answers mate. It is worthwhile and it is overdue.. soooo be inspired!

Cheers for reading this one... it is intentionally, really deep. Get writing and hey thanks for feeling my words.. hahaha.. ('O' vision of squeezing a 'W' between an R and a D..) Take care out there.


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Minnetonka Twin 4 years ago from Minnesota

I would be honored for you to use my comment as the summary. That's a really nice compliment. Happy Hubbing my friend.


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Thank you very much Linda, I have now changed my summary over to include your words.. And I appreciate that opportunity.. cheers.. you take care


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LaThing 3 years ago from From a World Within, USA

Well, I found something that is totally different from what others see in this poem, and even what you, the poet, wrote about! As you said each of us can get our own understanding from this, right? Ok, this is what I see, returning feelings of Love. The poet didn't realize that he/she could be in love again. And all that feelings that a person go through while they are in love, comes back to him/her! simple as that! :) Now you should retread your poem with that in mind...... Great work! Voting up.


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Pearldiver 3 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hi LaThing, nice one but can you be sure about that?... hahaha.. the poet (me) wasn't in love and self doubting or second guessing at the time I wrote this piece... however, what you say could certainly have been the case and provided such an outcome... Well done on that, as your interpretation could fly with this poem.

Factually, this was tragically written about two friends... they were 'meant' to be together... but he self doubted himself so badly that he broke off their relationship and shortly afterwards, committed suicide throwing away his life and the love they shared, which sadly was the one thing that would have got him through his darkness. His g/f told me that she still felt him there in his room when she visited his home (parents)... that's the second stanza (meeting again)... he didn't know that only he was a ghost... strangely, he thought that she had died also and would follow him in death... (washed up on the coast)(he chose to OD on pills and drowning)... I left clues... very subtle ones, but I did mention the ghost in the poem...

So now I have given away the explanation, but not the memory of my friends or the loss. I appreciate your excellent review here and now that you can read this poem from this perspective, I hope it hasn't lost anything to interpretation... cheers.. you take care and thanks again... PD


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LaThing 3 years ago from From a World Within, USA

Now that you mention the whole story, I re-read the poem and see your point..... Sad story though. I can't imagine living with that image! Very beautifully written.


lovedoctor926 3 years ago

"Wow, look at you, you haven’t changed

Still beautiful, as you’ve always been,"

Too much time has gone by. The poet doesn't seem to know her anymore. He is in awe! Old feelings are starting to come back. The poet had to face his own emptiness to realize that he really did miss her. I agree with L.A Thing. He probably never expected to fall in love again. Self-doubt, insecurities and fear will always be present at least at the beginning, but you must learn to move beyond that otherwise if you don't, you might wake up one day and realize that you've lost a diamond while you were too busy collecting stones. I

believe in the power of intuition too. Voted up awesome! Loved the two poems. Thank you for making me think out of the box.


lovedoctor926 3 years ago

outside the box (correction)


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Pearldiver 3 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hi LaThing, cheers, I wasn't trying to shoot you down on your original interpretation, as it was a good one and certainly could have been read that way. Yes, it is a sad one and I had to write this in such a way that it did not negatively affect someone... Glad you saw that in the poem, it was quite subtle... ghostlike images etc. Thanks for taking the time to work out the twists and turns of this... take care.. PD


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Pearldiver 3 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hi lovedoctor926, thank you for reading and commenting on this unusual poem.. I really like your review and in many respects you have found the flow of the piece... however, it has still a twist that you didn't see, a substantial reason why he is so taken with seeing her again and his realization that he still loves her... it is referred to only very subtly...

Everything that you have posted is a perfect interpretation, but can not apply if the whole story is told of this real couple and the scenario that factually occurred... if you get a chance to find the clues, you will really appreciate this piece and it's outside the box perspective... Cheers for your good positive input... take care... PD

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