I remember when 30 seemed so OLD

Mom - before she was "old".
Mom - before she was "old".

I remember when 30 was old

As a child, when I imagined gettting old, I pictured myself in a life similar to where my own parents were at the time. Turning 30. Maybe I would have a job, my own car, a husband, and a couple of babies. Oh! And I'd make my own rules. Noone could tell me what to do, because I'd be a grown-up, right?

I find it humorous (now) that even at age twenty one, married and pregnant with my first child, thirty still seemed so far away and "old". Those first years of marriage and then finding myself with a full-time job, two car notes, rent, and two children in diapers, well, those years seem like a lifetime ago to me now. They were hard, but they were fun. They were new beginnings.

When you first start out on this journey, family and friends, (and sometimes complete strangers) have advice to give. So much so, that it's overwhelming. From colicky babies, to the strain on the marriage because of sleepness nights, financial woes, and always smelling of spit-up and poop. But I don't recall any piece of advice that ventured past the first few years of motherhood. No one really tells you what to do when those babies become people. No one tells you what to do after 30!

I find myself in a place where I have accomplished some goals. No, I'm not a famous actress, I did not become a published author, or a veterinarian as I dreamed as a child. Those were dreams. All I ever wanted was to have a family of my own. And I do. Now, I just want to know where the wisdom comes in. I thought with age, that the answers I've needed for so long, would come together and life would start to make sense by now. I have a new understanding of the term "mid-life crisis". I can see how people reach a certain age.

My kids tell me I'm not old, I'm just middle aged. That is until my daughter saw my drivers license. We were in the doctor's waiting room and she's like, "You were born in 1981? That makes you SO OLD, Mom." I said, "I thought you said I was just middle aged?" She told me that was before she knew I was born so long ago.

I no longer think 30 is old, of course. I don't even think that you can pick an age when we can consider ourselves, 'all grown up'. I believe that even thirty more years from now I will still be GROWING UP. There is so much more to learn.


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TIMETRAVELER2 4 years ago

This was so interesting for me. 30 was the worst birthday I ever had, but because I turned thirty it made me realize I actually was growing older and if I wanted a better life, I'd need to make some changes. I did...and it paid off. Now I'm 69, but 30 was still the very worst birthday I ever had. Enjoyed this hub very much.


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EuroNinila 4 years ago from NYC BABY

Very cute and funny! I always thought 30 was old but now that I'm getting closer and closer to that age, I don't think so anymore! LOL Great hub!


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dwachira 4 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

I get to realize the more we get old the more we think early years were better and fun. Thanks for sharing this, voted up and shared.


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PDXKaraokeGuy 4 years ago from Portland, Oregon

dementia is not funny! ;-)


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KellyPittman 4 years ago from Walker, LA Author

@PDX LOL Too Funny


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PDXKaraokeGuy 4 years ago from Portland, Oregon

crap. did i say i was thirty? I'm losing my mind. I'm 31


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KellyPittman 5 years ago from Walker, LA Author

@ PDX. You got that right. It's a whole new adventure. =)

Thanks for reading.


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PDXKaraokeGuy 5 years ago from Portland, Oregon

Kelly, we should slow down. Life is short. What's the point of not slowing down and enjoying it? Now that I'm thirty, I feel like I'm starting to figure myself out. Life is becoming clearer


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Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

I have not contemplated about how I felt when I was 30. (It was a year ago). Thanks for sharing your thoughts.


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KellyPittman 5 years ago from Walker, LA Author

Thanks everyone! Turning 30 wasn't as difficult as I thought it would be. It more like, "Wow. That decade went by really fast". So I'm going to slow down and enjoy the next 30.


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PDXKaraokeGuy 5 years ago from Portland, Oregon

I remember when 30 was old too. My dad is turning 60 this year. I don't even think of that as old anymore. I wrote a HUB called "Did Ponce De Leon Ever Find That Fountain" that covers similar subject matter. Good hub!


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WD Curry 111 5 years ago from Space Coast

Nice. I remember when 50 was old. Keep up the clever writing.


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icciev 5 years ago from Kuwait

well said, we can always learn each day so we never grow up. thanks for sharing this and voted up.


Ghaelach 5 years ago

Morning Kelly.

I love this hub, not because it's beautiful but be cause i can relate to it.

If you where born in 1981 then Kelly you've not even reached middle age yet and if you think you don't understand everything yet don't let it worry you because when you get to 60 you know a lot more but no one understands you.

The cross-over from middle age to being old will hit you in your 50's when you start to notice aching muscles that you never new you had and when you start forgetting things.

Growing up has it's ups and downs, but that's life and when you do get old life becomes very interesting although it takes a little longer to get things done.

Kelly "don't worry, be happy", because all of a sudden you'll be saying hell where did all those years go to.

Take care Kelly and have a nice day. Up/A/B/I/F

LOL Ghaelach


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thebookmom 5 years ago from Nebraska

Very true. Well written too!

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