"I Think Being Bald Is Beautiful"

"I Think Being Bald Is Beautiful"

This is a before picture of how I look before, I put on my wig.
This is a before picture of how I look before, I put on my wig.
This is after I put my wig on, I still look decent, you might even say, I look nice.
This is after I put my wig on, I still look decent, you might even say, I look nice.

"I Think Being Bald Is Beautiful"

I thought long and hard about this particular hub and I felt like if I can help any women going through what I went through with my hair.Then it would be worth me putting myself out on front street. I'm writing this hub to maybe help those women that might have lost quite a bit of their hair from some form of alopecia or hereditary hair lost problem. I fit into this category unfortunately. I am true women, and beautiful in my own rites but unfortunate for me the glory that I'm suppose to have no longer exist. I suffered from deep depression for many years and didn't know at the time that it causes hair lost. Then after going through menopause. I realized I had lost more hair.Then to top it all off, my mother's father side of the family had a hereditary hair lost problem. So, I was batting one thousand hits. If I had known all the information that I now have access too I would have done many things differently with my hair. I wouldn't have gotten it cut off at the barber as many times as I did or even used to many chemicals on my hair. The damages has been done and it's to late to cry over losing my glory.

This is not funny but one day I Looked up and after the hair cutting episodes, the chemicals, the depression and menopause./ I realized my hair had left town without notice. I was hurt and I didn't understand the reasons for it. I realized I that I had lost my hair and not my life. So I did a quick regroup and went out and bought me some human hair wigs and went on to live my life without my hair. I had noticed that some men with baldness, or hair lost problems opt to shave their heads and one day the idea came to me to do the same. Shaving my head became an obsession. I thought about it a lot and on day, I got up enough courage to ask my husband how would he feel about me shaving my head. Since he already knew I didn't like the way my hair was on my head. He told me that he didn't have a problem with it, but I should wait until after winter. That day I loved my husband even more. You see, having a patchwork hair style was embarrassing to me. I wore a do rag on my head most of the time but the thought of having my hair shave off evenly made me feel comfortable.

I did it and I was able to be bald, be comfortable and not be embarrassed anymore. I learned that hair doesn't make you who you are. It just add to the complete package. So, for my husbands sake, and when I want to be prim and proper I bought up an assortment of wigs in different colors and styles. If there is anyone out there that is suffering from this hair problem I understand the problem very well and I'm happily dealing with it... the best I know how. I don't want you to feel sorry for me because I have a wonderful husband and a family that loves me, even with my bald head.

Benny Faye Douglass (c) copyright 2010


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank ahostagesituation, for leaving your comment and feedback. I truly appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago

Creativeone, I loved this, and I do believe your husband telling you that he was fine with you shaving your head but that you should wait until after winter is among the cutest things I have ever heard. I'm still smiling at that. He's a keeper. Thanks for writing this!


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Trademelove, for stopping by and leaving you comment and feedback, I really appreciate you. I write what I feel from the heart and I try to write about truth. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Trademelove 6 years ago

Your special - I'm telling you that because I have nothing else to say... This hub is the only hub I have ever read and actually got stuck in the story told, wonderful writing - A true story teller.

I'm off to go read others - bye!


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you so much dl53acy, for stopping by my hubs, I appreciate you and your visit. Thank you also for your positive input and thank you for caring. Godspeed. creativeone59


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dl53acy 6 years ago from East Texas

I loved this story creativeone59, and you are right, hair doesn't make who you are but its just one of those human assessories that some women have. It's what's inside that person that counts. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and you have demonstrated your beauty in so many ways. Thanks for just being you...and that's real. Enjoyed this hub and thanks for sharing.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Jen, I don't think that the hair make the person, although it does help if you have hair, but if you don't, you still human with feelings. It only matters whats on the inside anyway. Thank you for your comment and your feedback. blessings to you. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Myriad for visiting my hub and leaving your very valuable comment and feedback. I want to tell you something, your hair doesn 't really matter, if you can find someone that will love you for you and not for your hair. If you have a true and honest heart that's all that matters, and ask to God to send you a special lady just for you and be proud of yourself. Thanks again. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Jen's Solitude 6 years ago from Delaware

creativeone59, I totally agree with you! I had a dear friend who loss her hair from cancer treatments. Before she passed away, she stopped worrying about her baldness and appeared in public in her natural state. She was still just as beautiful in my eyes and more importantly she was still the same person in her own eyes!


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Myriad 6 years ago from the bottom of your heart .. ie chennai!

I think it was very courageous post this one ! and it helps people like me with hair problem ! it s almost traumatic and you tend to think about it too much , Then you realise that , people who are important for you and who are worth giving your time , will need to live with your baldness , my baldness ! So I gave up caring much about my hairlessness . I do have to say quite some girls .. whom I thought were worth pursuing , simply ..stopped feeling attractive or responsive to me ! may be cos of other reasons , Hair being one of them ! It does affect my self confidance .But its nothing I can do about it ..other than perhaps change my attitude ! towards hairloss !

I always loved what T N Sheshan told about hairloss

God created some people beautiful - Others he just covered with hair !


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you again Moulik Mistry, for your support, comment, and feedback. Blessings. creativeone59


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Moulik Mistry 6 years ago from Burdwan, West Bengal, India

So lovely - being bald is beautiful, I do agree with you...


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Sage for your compliment on my eyes and on my hair. I just wrote a poem called The Eyes Arew The wibndows Of The Soul, because that's what I believe. Thank you for your comment and feedback. Blessings to you beautiful lady. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Kind LadyJane for your positve compliment , comment and feedback. God bless you. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you sweet fastfreta, for all of your encourging words, compliment, comment and feedback. I appreciate you stopping by. Blessings to you. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you,and thank you Micky Dee, your comment and feedback means a lot to me. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Revlady for an extroadinary comment and precious feedback. you know you made my day. May God continue to bless you. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank ytou Hello, thanks for your compliment, comment and feedback, I sure appreciate you. Blessings. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank pmccray for your suppoort, compliment and your feedback, I truly appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Jisblessed, I appreciate your compliment anf your precious words of wisdom and also your comment and feedback. Blessings. creativeone59


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Veronica Allen 6 years ago from Georgia

Creativeone, you are a really brave woman to share your personal story with us. I agree, bald is beautiful, hair doesn't make the person.


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Sage Williams 6 years ago

Creativeone - A really terrific hub, I admire your strength and courage. I have always thought that bald is beautiful as well. I have seen women lose their hair through chemotherapy and they were more beautiful than ever.

Your inner beauty outwardly shines. The eyes are the windows to the soul. You have truly amazing eyes!

Great Job!

Sage


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas

Great hub and great courage. I applaud you for being brave and you look great with or without hair. Having been a hairdresser for so long I undestand about chemicals and stress believe me I deal with hair loss all the time of my own and I am very careful with what I still have. Great job.


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Jisblessed 6 years ago

Well, if I had to choose which of the 2 pics you looked better on, I would have to honestly say is the one without hair. But as we've heard and know some beauty is only skin deep. But in the kingdom of God knowing what real beauty is really about; you got it percious woman of God! Your story though will bless and help a lot of people. God bless you for your courage and showing your wounds; they do bring glory to God's name and comfort others. Stay blessed


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you sweet lady, you always make my day. Thank you so much for your comment and feedback, I really apprecaite you.God bless you. creativeone59


ivori 6 years ago

You, truly, are an exceptional woman, Faye. Your beauty shines through with or without covering. Hair does not make the person; you are all woman. Thank you for sharing your story.


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California

Creativeone, I applaud you for your courage to reveal yourself to the world in all your glory. I agree with all of the comments, as is said "beauty is as beauty does." So keep doing beautiful things and let your beauty shine through. Thank you for sharing this and for the encouragement it will bring to others in similar situations.


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

Creativeone- I'm a man and I'm always curious how if God knows every hair on my head- then what a sense of humor He must have. The hair is growing too long on my ears and eyebrows and it's leaving on top and in front.

You are lovely and you and your husband are lucky people. Thanks


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RevLady 6 years ago from Lantana, Florida

Thank you Creativeone for sharing this very important perspective as it is sorely needed.

I think it is time, particularly for the body of Christ, to move beyond appearances. We have allowed our selves to get caught up in the world's definition of beauty which is sad.

prettydarkhorse, wrote a hub about baldness and has several pictures showing beautiful bald women. I also remember reading an article about several women doctors who shaved their heads intentionally to relate more sensitively to their terminally ill patients (children).

In both pictures you look beautiful and it has less to do with physical features as it does the spirit that emanates from within you. The beauty within radiates without.

I am hopeful that as more and more women demonstrate the courage to be proud of their baldness and walk with their "head" up high, the world will become accustomed to and accept the bald look as it does most everything else. In time, it will lose the negativity currently associated with it.

I applaud you Creativeone, for being a model and inspiration for all women. God bless you.

Forever His,


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

You are so great and courages to deal with it in such a perfect way. I agree with, that hub is is so great because we can let go and share all our problems and hopefully help others. God blessed your in many other ways.


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pmccray 6 years ago from Utah

What a brave hub. You're already beautiful inside and out and girl that hair is awesome on you and you look exostic with out it. You go creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you dear heart, I appreciate you and your blessed compliment. thank also for your comment and feedback. Gods blessings to you. creativeone59


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Alya rose 6 years ago from From beyond the reeds

You are beautiful and very inspirational,many people will look up to you and your courage.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you dear Putz,a compliment,comment and feedback coming from a man is a high honor, Thank you so much. God bless. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you tim-tim, for stopping by and leaving me your wonderful compliment, comment and feedback and your uplifting words made my day. I appreciate you an your support. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Rochelle, also for your compliment,comment and feedback. I appreciate your support. I have a daughter name Rochelle ,same as you. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank so much msoresson, for your compliment, comment and feeback. your kind words help me keep my head held high. Gods blessings to you. creativeone59


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msorensson 6 years ago

This is amazing..I was looking at my hair today..and I was thinking..wow..it used to be so thick...and now not anymore...and it was fine.

Thank you for sharing.

You look beautiful with or without hair.


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Rochelle Frank 6 years ago from California Gold Country

I have never been very good at "fixing" my hair. Often I have thought that life would be a lot simpler without it-- especially if everyone were that way.

I guess the problem lies in the fact that we think we should fit into the ordinary expectations. I'm glad you can be extraordinary, and yes, I think you will help people by showing you are beautiful just the way you are.

Cheers!


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Putz Ballard 6 years ago

You go girl! some told me God mad only a few perfect heads and put hair on the rest and someone also told me a bald pate ios a sign of wisdom, said it's in the good book, I think i looked it up one time and it is in the OT but can't give chapter and verse. Congrats on a great hub.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois

creativeone59, you are truely beautiful! I am so glad that you share you personal story with me! I lost a lot of hair too through stress and everything else. I always think that one day, if I am bald, I can have whatever hair style I want everyday and i don't care what other people say! Thanks, I am so touched:)


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you sweet BK, for your support, comment and feedback. You're right hubpages is a great place to let your hair down. LOL. It took a while before I finally decided to write this hub, because when you come out to your peers , you are naked. But I hope it will help someone else. Godspeed. creativeone59


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BkCreative 6 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

I just looooove how we can share so much here on hub pages. Is this not a great writing community or what?

You know I wrote a hub about hair loss and diet, well, I know you know that and I was surprised at all the women that wrote in. And even when I shared it with friends I was surprised at how many women I knew were losing their hair but were wearing wigs or some kind of hair piece - and getting on with their lives.

Isn't this one of the nice things about getting older - we know what is really important and its not the hair on top of our head.

Great hub - thanks for sharing so much!

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