I'm Letting My Hair Go Gray

My Natural Gray

I'm Letting My Hair Go Gray by Jackie Dove-Miller

I’m letting my hair go gray.

I awoke one day

and just said,

“Hey, it’s about time

for a shift

in the hair color paradigm .”

Time to see one more

Aspect of the true me-

To live with the notion

That a free woman

Can be just as ok

Gray as she can red,

Or auburn,

Or brown.

In decade five

I’m too grateful to be alive

To hold on to the vanity

Of the color of the day.

I admit it-- It’s gray!

Now that the color is gone

I wonder if I had thought

I’d bought more time

By keeping it dark brown.

Did I believe that

The wisdom of age

Was less important than

The illusion of youth?

Did I fool anyone?

Why did I try?

Why perpetuate the hair-color lie?

In youth, I watched

Blue-haired, old ladies

Spry and hearty

Strive for prim and proper,

But fail.

Instead they seemed brittle and frail,

Unable to see the unnaturalness

Of a blue hue

In hair.

Misled, by my growing dread,

At 30, I chose red.

The Truth

The blue-haired biddies

Saw my lie and

Did not even try to hide

Their knowing smile.

They knew my years of

Color bondage yet to come:

Red, auburn, medium brown,

My glory’s crown-- in charge.

But now, I’m ready to

Take back control.

Am ready to re-mold my thinking

To reflect the natural me

My relationship with Miss Clairol

Was not about what others thought

It was about my not being bold enough

To see myself as old

Not willing to let go of

The illusion of youth.

But in truth

The red, auburn, brown

Could not belie the breakdown

Of my body,

Could not deny the decreased energy

Could not muffle the cries from

Each new ache and pain.

I concede:

My hair couldn’t color those key things

That remind me that time is passing

More quickly than my mind can grasp.

So, here I stand, gray hair exposed.

Ready to disclose what everyone else

Already knows.

Ready to let go of the brown-hair scam

And embrace Chirst’s pronouncement:

“I am that I am.”

I’m letting my hair go gray because

In that big old boxing ring of life,

Gray was winning each round of every fight.

Copyright: 2009

More by this Author


Comments 13 comments

ahorseback profile image

ahorseback 6 years ago

I agree , but for me , {male pattern baldness], Iv'e been buzzing my head , ah to hell with them!Ha Ha.....


ahorseback profile image

ahorseback 6 years ago

Bye the way , you look very nice......


Lady_E profile image

Lady_E 6 years ago from London, UK

Lovely Poem - Everytime, I look at your photo, you exude warmth. I mean that and your hair style is lovely. I'm happy you feel comfortable with who you are and how you look. I've always been one for looking beyond looks. It's the heart that matters.

If anyone complains about gray hair again, I will send this Hub to them.

Best Wishes and thanks for sharing these wise words. Elena x.


FloBe profile image

FloBe 6 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

Bravo! Good for you. I got married this year and of course had to color my hair because I wanted to recapture youth I suppose...we somehow imagine that if we don't look like we did at 20 something that we're just not our best. I salute your decision to be the best that you are now!


DonnaCSmith profile image

DonnaCSmith 6 years ago from Central North Carolina

I love that poem!!! And I love my gray hair.


Dorothe Orr profile image

Dorothe Orr 6 years ago from North Carolina

For some strange reason I have no gray yet. I AM hiding my dark blonde hair with RED.... For some reason the red makes me more proactive in my life than the mousy blonde did... At least that's what I've been telling myself for a few years. Thanks for making me think on it:)


denise mohan profile image

denise mohan 6 years ago from California

Awesome. Been battling with when I should really let it go. I love Jamie Lee Curtis's look but I don't have her cute little face. thnx for all ur thought provocing hubs. For me anyway...


Dee aka Nonna profile image

Dee aka Nonna 5 years ago

It's called freedom...I'm also letting my go grey. I will upload a new picture soon.


jagandelight profile image

jagandelight 5 years ago from Florida

beautiful poem.

my hair is salt and pepper , I am hoping that it will grow to be white instead of silver, I love that white hair on older women.

Your hair very much compliment your face, you look so sophisticated and elegant. You wear gray very well, God bless you.


SunnyJay 5 years ago

Hello, I love it !!

What a beautiful poem as are you. I'm 71 and my hair is not gray, just a touch here and their now. I actually put a lighter brown color in my hair when I was younger because my hair was a dark brown and my features are harsh so the lighter brown color softened my face.

My Mom's hair was the same, dark brown and I guess I inherited that from her.

awesome, beautiful


moonlake profile image

moonlake 4 years ago from America

Your gray hair is so pretty. I just can't do it yet, my gray is not pretty.

Enjoyed your poem.


Gracefulwriter profile image

Gracefulwriter 4 years ago from Northern Virginia

Oh, J-Dove, you & I are so alike. I began to awaken to my deep desire to experience being myself in the 40s, but it took until the 5th decade to truly embrace it. I, too, let my hair go-gray around 49 or 50. I had waist-length dreads 'til Nov. 2011. Now I'm crowned by my white-spledor. You're a poet, you're a beautiful African-American woman & the 1st hubber that I'm actually excited to follow. Thank you for letting who you are show.


JDove-Miller profile image

JDove-Miller 4 years ago from YOUNGSVILLE Author

Thank you, Graceful... and welcome to Hubpages. I read your profile, and--you're right-- we do have some things in common. Good luck with the grand children!

    Sign in or sign up and post using a HubPages Network account.

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No HTML is allowed in comments, but URLs will be hyperlinked. Comments are not for promoting your articles or other sites.


    Click to Rate This Article
    working