Mom . . . still can't believe you are gone

July 22, 1924 - January 13, 2013


A coalminer's daughter
without the warm memories,
A single mother of three
before it was in vogue,
A landed islander's lady
and "GreatGran" to a horde,
Some thought for sure
they knew her,
Some wondered
if they ever would.


In a corner of my heart
she'll fill an empty space,
since that quiet Sunday evening
when she saw her Pilot's face.

Grandchildren's Tribute:

Lovely. But nobody sang it like Mom.

Dedicated to my Mother - on Amazon

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Ghaelach 3 years ago

Hi Kathleen.

My condolences to you and your family Kathleen.

I'm sure you have many wonderful memories of your mother.

Take care and I hope the days aren't to lonely without your mother.

LOL Ghaelach


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europewalker 3 years ago

Beautiful poem for your lovely mother. My condolences. I lost my mom three years ago (Jan.9, 2010) she was 81 years old. She had alzheimers. I miss her everyday and wish that the end of her life had been a happier one.


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xstatic 3 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

Our thoughts are with you Kathleen on th loss of your mother. She sounds like she was an interesting and enigmatic woman.


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grand old lady 3 years ago from Philippines

I'm sorry for your loss. This is a beautiful poem and the photo of your mother is very much appreciated. I'm amazed at how with so few words you managed to tell the story of an entire lifetime. Your mother sounds like she was a beautiful soul. Thank you for sharing your memories of her.


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Kathleen Cochran 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

I appreciate all the kinds words from you thooughtful people. You think you're ready . . .


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dallaswriter 3 years ago from North Carolina

What a wonderful way to honor your sweet mother and introduce her to a hub family who did not know her! Your words are beautiful and your loss, one many of us can relate too....may you find some solace here in writing and heal a little along the way! God bless..


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always exploring 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

Oh my. How i can relate. Thank you for sharing..Many blessings to you...


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Kathleen Cochran 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

always exploring: And for you as well.


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Gawth 3 years ago from Millboro, Virginia

A fitting tribute. Sorry for your loss.


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Irenevosburgh 3 years ago from Philadelphia, PA

So very sorry for your loss. Your love lives on in your poem.


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phdast7 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Dear Kathleen - I had wondered if you would share this with the HP community. I am so glad you did. These are very hard times for you and yours.

It will get easier to think of her and your life together primarily with joy and gratitude, rather than the knife edge of loss, but it will take a long time.

Be sure and give yourself lots of time, we are all different. There is no one right way or time limit for grieving. Blessings. Theresa


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Kathleen Cochran 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

I've said many times, death at the end of a long, fulfilled life is no tragedy. A friend of ours lost his son in Afghanistan just after New Years. That is a tragedy. But still, I grieve my Mother's passing. Thanks for your encouragement. In time I know I will get back to regular life.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York

No one ever takes our mother's place. I am so sorry for your loss but know she will live on in your heart and memory. This is a beautiful tribute to your mother, peace be with you.

Voted up, awesome, and beautiful.


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JayeWisdom 3 years ago from Deep South, USA

I am so sorry for your loss, Kathleen. This is a lovely tribute to your mother. Our mothers are special in our hearts, as they should be.

My own mom lived the last three years of her life with me and passed away four years ago, yet I miss her still. It is a blessing that, after the fresh pain of grief dims, we become able to access the memories of our loved ones and enjoy thinking of them, remembering the times we spent together.

I never walk past a framed photograph of my mom without a smile coming to my face, and I feel confident that will happen to you in time. She will always be alive in your heart. Bless you and your family...Jaye


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Kathleen Cochran 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Thank you good friends.


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teaches12345 3 years ago

So sorry, Kathleen, for your great loss. I know how much a mother means in ones life. I lost mine over twenty years ago and I still hold her memory dear and close to my heart. Prayers and hugs sent your way.


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Kathleen Cochran 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

teaches12345: You've been a good friend. Thank you for your sympathies.


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Peggy W 3 years ago from Houston, Texas

Hi Kathleen,

Please accept my condolences on the death of your mother. I lost mine just 3 years ago also in January. My mother was born in 1925. You will have just started your grieving. Please know that others understand and care. You said much about her in few words. Thanks for showing us her sweet picture.


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RTalloni 3 years ago from the short journey

Your memorial poem is succinct, yet so big--and precious. Thank you for sharing it with us. May the compassion expressed by friends continue to be a part of your comfort and strength as the days go by.


Joanne M Olivieri 3 years ago

What a beautiful poem and tribute to your Mom. She was beautiful.


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phdast7 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

I am so very sorry...and I know you already know that. And I know his choices make it so much worse. If I were in charge, things would be ....

What is wrong with the tried and true concept of a "decent interval?"


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sunilkunnoth2012 3 years ago from Calicut (Kozhikode, South India)

A thing of beauty is a joy forever. You have expressed things well with less words. It is a magic and deserves great appreciation. See the number of comments, it certify my views well. I share your pain.


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Kathleen Cochran 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

sunilkunnoth2012: Thank you for the poet's reference and for sharing my pain. I'm glad someone found this one this week. The first Mother's Day is not going to be easy. Are they ever easy after the loss?


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Born2care2001 3 years ago from Asheville NC

Hi Kathleen,

I was impressed by several aspects of this beautifully concise and poetic view of the most important relationship in a human being's life. One was your mother's smile. Tragedy and loss impale us with arrows simultaneously known and mysterious, yet in her smile is a confidence that exudes the reality that she accomplished what she was sent here to do.

The second is a bit more obscure and one would have to go to your profile to see it. I do not know to what you attribute your success, but I do know this; though mighty oaks are produced by acorns, acorns are produced by mighty oaks. In the cycle of life we can all be grateful for our experiences (good and bad) and your poetic view of your mother is a treasure that could only have been produced by love.

Thank you for the insight and I share this mothers day with you knowing that you too, are accomplishing what you were sent here to do!

May peace, love and joy walk with you each step of the way!

Bruce


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JayeWisdom 3 years ago from Deep South, USA

A gentle Mothers Day wish for you on this first such day after losing your dear mother. Yes, the first one after the loss is difficult, but even after the pain lessens, you'll miss that special woman on the day we set aside to honor mothers. Fortunately, humans seem to be hardwired to remember with joy the special people in our lives, even while feeling sadness. That is what I wish for you on this Mothers Day 2013--the joy of wonderful memories.

Jaye


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Kathleen Cochran 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Bruce and Jaye: It's 8:57 p.m. and reading your posts is the first time I've cried today. I'm overwhelmed by your generous support. Thank you dear friends that I wouldn't know if it were not for HubPages. What a wonderful gift.


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phdast7 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Bruce and Jay - Kathleen and I have been friends for many years and I cried when I read your comments. So kind and thoughtful of you to write as you did. Blessings! Theresa


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phdast7 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Kathleen - I wondered if today would be a really hard day and I imagined it might be. As we discussed no Friday, I think you may find more ideas for essays and hubs in the coming weeks and months that are related to your mother and your childhood.

As for me, Ben and Rachel took me to dinner this evening and I showed them the mock-up for the cover of my book and regaled them with stories of your tenacity; how you ventured forth into publishing, crossing all the treacherous publication mountains ahead of me, and finally arrived at CreateSpace.

Then I told them how in spite of all my logical reasons and rationalizations, I came home Friday afternoon and in spite of my self, took a peek at CreateSpace. I spent most of the weekend re-formatting my work, but I am feeling hopeful.. Ben and Rachel thank you, and I thank you. Theresa


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Kathleen Cochran 2 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Borntocare2001: How did I not reply to your beautiful comment? You are right about my Mom's smile. So many people actually said she didn't look right in her casket because she wasn't smiling!

"Thank you for the insight and I share this mothers day with you knowing that you too, are accomplishing what you were sent here to do!"

From your mouth to God's ears. Thank you.


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glassvisage 23 months ago from Northern California

A lovely poem for a lovely lady - wishing you the best :)


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Kathleen Cochran 23 months ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

glassvisage: Thank you.


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AudreyHowitt 23 months ago from California

A wonderful tribute --you show so much love for her in this piece!


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Kathleen Cochran 23 months ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Audrey: She was so proud to have a daughter who was a writer. I'll never have a better PR person! Thanks for commenting.


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Kathleen Cochran 23 months ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

As Diana Gabaldon wrote: "When I look in a mirror, my mother's eyes look back at me . . . By blood and by choice, we make our ghosts; we haunt ourselves . . . But a breeze passing in a still room stirs my hair now and then in soft affection . . . I think it is my mother."


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ahorseback 23 months ago

I swear it Moms that hold this very world together ! I mean watch them raise a child , multi- task everything ! And continue to smile and enjoy life ! Yup it's Mom's that have my vote . You have a gorgeous Mom !


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Kathleen Cochran 23 months ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

It was her smile. Thank you for your comments - especially today. I lost her two years ago exactly. I have friends who have lost parents decades ago who tell me, no matter how long it's been, this is how it feels.


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truthfornow 10 months ago from New Orleans, LA

Very sweet tribute.


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Kathleen Cochran 10 months ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

truthfornow: Thank you.

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