Is Someone You Love Suffering?
How do you feel?
Feeling Helpless? Handicapped ? Crippled ? not able to make things better for the ones we love. Are you hurting both physically or emotionally We see our loved ones failing in several things, from an illness, from an addiction,from school.and we have no control over what is happening.
We abandon the one we care about if we get so overwhelmed by the feeling helpless that some of us choose to become un-involved, or "waiting it out".Or we may inadverently alienate them or prevent them from owning and dealing with the suffering.We can jeopardize our own welfare, by worrying endlessly.
You feel helpless and someone you love feels helpless...opportunity and challenge are here.. to develop or deepen friendship, to build intimacy and to offer unconditional love.
We need to take the initiative: to write a simple note,say a kind word,a gentle touch and a listening ear can mean a lot to someone in pain. Especially MEN need to share their feelings, fears,touch,and their tears.
People who are in pain and suffering can often be our best teachers. They have a way of showing us the true meaning of patience, compassion and faith.
We need to be aware of what we say about God. when we are not comfortable about feeling helpless, we can make some comments that are not proper about God's will, plan or role in suffering. We need to let suffering people vent their frustration, anger and maybe even hatred of God. Until a sufferer acknowledges despair he or she can not befriend it.
There are available resources to help people who are suffering, support groups,or professionals in the ministry, or counseling and health-care. Good will is sometimes not enough in all situations---special skills which we may lack---are very often needed in many cases and you may need to turn to them. Sometimes if we try to take control of a situation when the suffering person needs to really deal with, we actually hinder them. They need to feel the pain, taking responsibilty for it. We can feel for another, we can be there for them, but we can never suffer for another.
Sometimes the most empowering action we can take is to Listen.. We must beware of our limits and also take care of ourselves.What we give depends on our life's circumstances , our relationships with the person.
When we are helpless we have more questions then answers and our God may seem far away. And we may feel like just forgetting to try anymore. But this is the exact time we need to trust in our faith and our God. In the midst of crisis are further opportunities for loving unconditionally and becoming more fully human. TAKE HEART. G-Ma :o) hugs