Joanne Wonders Why She Stays

Joanne wonders why she got married.

Joanne did not think saying "I do" would mean she had to give up thinking for herself.

She did not think she would have to give up on her dreams and goals.

Joanne wanted to be a partner not his puppet.

She did not realize being a wife meant treading on eggshells afraid with every move she makes.

Joanne cannot believe she has to give up friends and social activities to be married to this man.

Joanne did not understand becoming a wife meant becoming a punching bag.

Joanne did not know being married meant becoming a second class citizen.

Joanne did not know being married would be so lonely.

She did not understand she was now supposed to be the answer for his insecurities.

Joanne wonders why she stays married.

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JThomp42 3 years ago

Wow. I must say I wonder as well. Powerful words.


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James-wolve 3 years ago from Morocco

Some abused women tend to rationalize the behavior of their abusers with their emotions:

He loves me so much he doesn't want me to work, he's so jealous he doesn't want me to wear short skirts anymore, he gets angry if I'm not home when he gets home because he thinks someone else is going to steal me away, etc. Because he was so affectionate and kind initially she believes he loves her, and justifies the abuse.


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AnnaCia 3 years ago

I left the comment on the other page. Great job. I am glad I came here and read your words.


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kidscrafts 3 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

So many are women in an abusive situation and a lot of them blame themselves for it. It's like being cought in a vortex and they don't know how to get out of it and it's a pity.


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blupoison 3 years ago

i sometimes wonder if we honestly ever will be able to identify abuse unless it becomes too obvious...i think we women need to stop rationalizing behavior that seems a little off and start looking at it really as it is...


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lcbenefield 3 years ago from Georgia Author

Jthomp, James, Anna, Kids, Blu; Thank you all for reading. It is easier for a woman to rationalize this kind of behavior than to leave or stand up and refuse to be treated like this. A lot of the time, it has to do with the fact that the abuse has gone on for so long that the abused feels worthless and deserving of such poor treatment. No one deserves to suffer like this.


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Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

Very powerful poem here depicting the truth as to this sad scenario that happens everyday all around us, and we may not even be aware that someone close to us is suffering, as they often do so in silence and it is hid from the world. I am linking this one.

Love that video too. It is perfect with your great poem.

Voted up +++ and sharing

God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper


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lcbenefield 3 years ago from Georgia Author

Faith, Thanks so much for being my cheerleader. I appreciate all you do for me. Many people we know live in an abusive situation except as you said, we may not know it. The power of love and friendliness to all we meet goes a long way. We may be the only words of encouragement or love these people know. We don't know who we talk to when in line at the grocery, etc.

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