Just Like You

Domestic Abuse happens everywhere... We just don't always notice what we should see.

Just another street
Just another street | Source
On an ordinary day...
On an ordinary day... | Source
when the clouds rolled in over head
when the clouds rolled in over head | Source
and gave her no time to be saved
and gave her no time to be saved | Source
Now we meet to remember her-
Now we meet to remember her- | Source
for she was lost when she entered his world...
for she was lost when she entered his world... | Source
The regret-the pain-we hold with us, wishing we would have taken more time to notice her.
The regret-the pain-we hold with us, wishing we would have taken more time to notice her. | Source

Just like you-to cause such abuse

It is just like you

To make me feel less than me

You take away what I think and make me believe

I don’t believe in me-I am supposed to believe in you

I become wrong as I am shown how to lose

It is just like you to make me see less of me

Replace what I wanted for what you say you need

Pretty soon I become a less important version of what I can never be

Struggle to see more-Struggle for a chance

Give up a dream-and realize what I never had

It is just like you

To make me feel less than me

You become more right- as I am shown how to bleed

Left in the corner- to figure out the truth

The truth doesn’t matter-when it comes down to me and you

I’m not much like me

The more I’m with you

I am less than my worth-bothered before bruised

I forgot what I wished for when I wished on a star

Now I am lost- and can’t tell where you are

It can’t be more like us-when I couldn’t remember how to breathe

Now you are whispering as I walk to leave

You explain to me in a calm collected way

How crazy I am, and owe you who I’ve become today

For a moment I pause-and hesitate my next move

Before an insult meets your lips- I hear the sound and know I lose

Nothing within the words-means love or grace

Nothing within your gestures-replaces the lack of care upon your face

It is exactly like you

To make me believe

That everything which is wrong

Is my own disease

I must be crazy- I am a fool

But it is no longer me-

And I lost my place in your world.

Swept up, kept up-

Lost from what I found

I am not prepared to lose

As I make a journey to figure myself out

Even if I can’t make it,

At least I will fall on my own

Something I needed to do from the beginning and all along

It is exactly like you

To laugh at me

To take away my credit and degenerate by belief

Every opportunity you have had to hurt what I feel

Every single moment you found to blame me for what is not real

I should have seen this was just like you

Never caring about me as the world revolved around you

But just like me

I wanted to believe

That there was some sort of truth even if I couldn’t see.

Now it is time to face the truth,

Regardless of what I feel or how it hurts as I focus on you

I must become a me-that can stand on my own two feet

Because I need to know I don’t need you to lean on

After all…all you ever showed me is how to take the defeat every time you won.

Abusive Relationship and Domestic Violence...and the harm it causes

Domestic Abuse and various form of domestic violence are unfortunately apart of our history and world. Many woman have suffered through various forms of Domestic Abuse , including verbal abuse, physical abuse, mental abuse that causes poor self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence as well as the emotional abuse that is so easy to misplace and easy to manipulate around. Domestic Abuse is wrong, Domestic Abuse and Domestic Violence cause more than just visible scars. It is often the unseen scars that are not so easily healed that are the real danger that is associated with Domestic Violence. The unseen scars are often associated more so with Verbal Abuse, because verbal abuse is more so personal and disintegrate one’s Self Image and diminish one’s self confidence. Verbal Abuse and the poor self-esteem that is associated with it can be considered the silent way to do damage without the physical abuse and Domestic Violence within non healthy relationships. Abusive relationships always harm and rarely change.

Abuse happens to, too many and many stay because they believe they deserve what they receive. They do not, you do not. Abusive relationships come in all forms, and effect each of the victims in their own unique ways and manners. An abusive relationship has no love, no heart but only the emotional abuse that can give poor self-esteem and decrease in self-confidence.

No one deserves an abusive relationship or this kind of pain or struggles. You are as good and deserve as much as you want. Each person deserves to be someone’s special, and to be someone whom is loved and respected, not hurt for who they are and what they dream for, hope for and dedicate their time to.

I wrote this poem many years ago when I found myself in an abusive relationship that was toxic to the extent that I was kept from being me, from being able to become who I am today. Although my abusive relationship and experience has ended, it was a situation that I am sure many people find themselves in today. To realize that you are not loved by someone you believed you were in love with is a heart crushing moment. But as you walk away from such a poison, you start to feel your soul once again. Every moment after the end comes, is more enjoyable than the one before.

Love should not be hurtful, cruel or make you feel as if you are less than deserving of the very best. As hard as it is and as much as it hurts to walk from a false love- the alternative is to slowly let yourself drift away from your potential of being who you should be and what you were made to be. There is more awaiting you after the end-you just have to get there to truly see it.

Recommendations for you I found on Amazon...

The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself (Fawcett Book)
The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself (Fawcett Book)

There is struggle that continues even after an abusive relationship. Don't ignore the pain that remains, or it will continue or happen again. Here is a little affordable self help recommendation to assist on your travels towards recovery

 
The Complete Women's Psychotherapy Treatment Planner
The Complete Women's Psychotherapy Treatment Planner

Planning your future when you are feeling a little lost, helps. Take the time to do this, because you deserve it. Make healing as easy as you can-for your sake...

 

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Comments 31 comments

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mckbirdbks 5 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

You are such a pillar of strength. What a great role model. You poem was beautiful. I knew a person once who told me it wasn’t the years that you traveled, it was the distance you’ve come. You young lady have come a long distance.


coffeesnob 5 years ago

God bless you HC

This touches heart and soul


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

mckbirdbks- thank you for such a kind comment. The distance traveled has brought me to a place I wish I could have found with more ease...but here I still stand, and basically in one piece... Thanks again for such kindness

hc


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

coffeesnob

Thank you- I am very glad that you enjoyed this poem :) Thanks for reading...


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Wulf0123 5 years ago from Colorado

I love your poem. It was absolutely amazing and beautiful.

But what I love most about this article is how you talk about it. This subject is one of many that is just too hush-hush in our society. All we ever see is the scare tactics. It's nice to see it laid out in real terms. You are right about love, it should be nothing more then grand, what makes you feel that you are the best.


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Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

A very touching hub, thanks for sharing.

Take care

Eiddwen.


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Seafarer Mama 5 years ago from New England

Enjoyed reading this hub. Reminded me of a past relationship before I met my husband. Glad I walked away before that guy did (and he would have eventually). Your hubs are so important to those who need to see and hear them so that they can save the rest of their lives from the hell they are in. Rated up and awesome.


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Wulf0123-thank you for the comment and I am glad you liked the poem. There are many articles on this subject-but many of them are sugar coated or described in a round about way- I try to be as truthful as I can when I decide to write on it....


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Eiddwen-thank you-thank you! I appreciate the feedback :)


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Seafarer Mama- thank you, i hope they are of importance- they are meant to give encouragement and to help build up strength-and fight fear. Thanks for the rate up and rank up :)


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QudsiaP1 5 years ago

Beautifully written, your words do justice to all the unjust that is out there, bravo.


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

QudsiaP1- thank you for your comment... I hope you are right :)


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Daddy's Princess 5 years ago from Texas

A wonderful poem and important information! Thanks for posting this! Great work!


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Paradise7 5 years ago from Upstate New York

You have come a long way. You express what is most difficult to express--how an abused person feels.


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tammybarnette 5 years ago

you are so amazing, this is so sad and beautiful and breaks my heart. I have been in my share of bad relationships and now I am watching one of my daughters, I spoke to you about her before, go through one as well, I will be sharing this and so many others of yours with her. Thank you for your beautiful honesty


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Daddy's Princess- thanks for the comment...Glad you liked it... :)


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Paradise7- I appreciate all your support over the past year, you are always so encouraging and kind with your comments, which makes sharing something difficult, worth while and worth the effort- Thank you...


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

tammybarnette-

I truly hope that your daughter is okay, and that she finds her way soon. I can see that your heart hurts for her, and you worry endlessly for who she is and where her life is taking her. Thank you for your comment, I appreciate each and every one of them, and am glad that you are able to connect to my writing :) Prayers to you and your daughter...


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tHErEDpILL 5 years ago from New York

Wow!


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Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

If I may Quote Branka Babic - "Moral is based ON OWNERSHIP and CONTROL. Human psyche develops delusive SADISTIC (owner's) or MASOCHISTIC (owned) experience. All techniques based on LAW OF ATTRACTION could eat your endless time, enabling you eventually placebo effects."

being open and honest looking at yourself is the answer to freedom from this chain. You are obviously open and looking at yourself in a manner of growth - well done - keep on growing.


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

tHErEDpILL= Thanks, great comment !


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Neil Sperling- I am always doing just that. I am always looking for more understanding, more reason, and more knowledge of the world, life and why we are who we are... Thanks for the comment and I am glad you liked my poem :)


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Aeriel_ALN 5 years ago from Lindenwood University

H.C, once again a great hub! You truly are such a beautiful writer and such a wonderful woman. I cannot thank you enough for the words that you have written here-- you have reminded me that I am not the person I see in my abuser's eyes, but my own person capable of getting back up, moving on, and finding as well as embracing my potential to be truly me. Thank you so much-- AMAZING hub!


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Aeriel_ALN

I think once we realize our reflection when it is shown through our abusers eyes, is not really who we are, only who they have forced us to become, is the point that our strength begins to return, and we are seen through our eyes. Thanks for the comment and for the compliment, I appreciate it and am humbled with what you say


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Aeriel_ALN 5 years ago from Lindenwood University

What you say is so true, H.C. It is truly then that we find our strength and can begin to build on it. It is the journey after that strength is found that we rediscover who we are, who we can be, and what potentials the world has to offer.


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Aeriel_ALN - I am so glad you are enjoying my work... I love that you are able to pull direction and meaning from the words in my poetry. Thank you for following me


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Aeriel_ALN 5 years ago from Lindenwood University

It is from your wonderful words and talent that I am pulling direction, H.C, do not deny yourself that huge compliment. You truly are a wonderful writer who knows how to speak to the heart. It is with great pleasure that I follow you and your amazing work.


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sonia05 5 years ago from india

Dear H.C.Porter! You are an incredible woman! Your words can move mountains,melt hearts and bring light in someone's dark life! Overcoming an abusive relationship is a tough task but you have done it! Your words feel like a balm which accelerates the healing process.May you find peace,happiness and love! Have a nice day!


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

sonia05, thank you thank you! I do appreciate the words, and I hope that my words may someday be able to move a mountain, or perhaps assist a woman in walking away from a bad situation... as for a healing process... I hope so, but if nothing else writing helps me heal. Thanks again for the comment, I appreciate your kindness :)


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

This is a very good useful hub...very interesting...abusive relationships are so terrible...I have wrote about this several times....very good I voted way up..debbie


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H.C Porter 4 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Deborah Brooks -thanks for commenting. I too have written about abuse in a great deal of my poetry on HubPages. It is a great community to share such insight and maybe help some people that find themselves stuck where we once were.

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