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And in between these Basic Four and Five letter words we stand, ready to go out into the World all Shiny and New, without a Care in the World. Most of us have been raised to do our Best, Work hard in School, Grow Up half way Normal, and finally, be able to take care of ourselves. Our Parents Love us, but want us to succeed on our own...Have a good Job, take a Mate, and Marry, and of course, make them Grandparents!

Now in a Perfect World this does Happy for many of us... We do Marry... or have a "Significant Other"...Someone who Loves us Unconditionally...Mmm, well maybe Most of the Time. We in turn Love them back, most of the time... and try our best to do all the rest, on the Treadmill of Life...Most of the time.

So we have the child, or children...continue to work, find that OUR "Play Time" is a thing of the past... restricted to the Children, and we are now the Hard Working Adults...Buying a Home, setting up "College Funds" for the Future, and praying that our patience will sustain us...And as a Couple, we will last, and grow old together...And our Sex Lives will stay "On Hold" for just awhile longer...Because we are so Tired...And there is so Much to do and get done and the day and night are just not LONG enough. It wasn't like that in the beginning when we were so HOT and heavy for one another. But that sadly was then, and this is now, our Reality.

Some of us make it through those years, and some, Sadly, do not...We divorce in record number... If there are children involved, they live in "two homes"...and their parents, work even harder, as they wonder who they are...And why the Dreams they shared changed. They are still Parents, most of them working Parents, but suddenly they make the TIME for "other things"...Like playtime for themselves, which means they date, sometimes just "sleep around" and go through their "crazy times". The Children sometimes have to fend for themselves, and in some cases, THEY become the parent to their Parents!

Thank goodness the time passes quickly as some Marry again, adding the word "Normal" back into their lives...Some are good Marriages blending two Families, while others are Mistakes, that will not last...And some find Comfort for whatever the reasons, and just live together in a way that works well for them.

The Children grow up, leave home, take off for College, the Service, or sometimes points unknown...and those questions are not answered...The World is a different place. Meanwhile the Grandparents, some of them in need of help, for they can no longer take care of themselves and too proud to ask. Some grown children do take their Parents in...some don't... Times once again have become hard. And so instead, some Parents go to Nursing Homes and eventually death comes to claim them. While others go to Assisted Living, where they sit alone and wonder if they have failed somewhere along the way. They won't talk about it, but they know, that the idea of giving up any of their Space... is something their children just won't do...As these parents did for their parents. But this Generation feels no Guilt...Life is Hard...It's a Four Letter Word.

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jami l. pereira 5 years ago

I loved this Hub , it is creatively and brilliantly written and so adequately expressed ! amazing! i voted up ,useful,awesome and interesting , because it is! oh! and i can think of Alot of four letter words , that you left out due to their graphic nature and intent lol :) Thanks for the read , i so enjoyed it! :) have a blessed afternoon :)

Cheryl Kapelner-Champ 5 years ago

Very heavy duty, very good, & very real.

Yes, life is no picnic in the park all of the time, but sometimes, it is, & that should be enough, but what is enough we may wonder...

In my mind the mistake our society makes is brain washing us into thinking all the "I ought toos.." when in actuality we need to teach our children to follow their hearts, to be good to themselves & one another, & to be patient & kind as they are striving...

We've all seen many a senior "alone" in their old age, it does make us question "what is wrong w/ that picture.."

"And in the end, the love u* take is equel to the love u* make.."- The Beatles

& that is what they composed when they were in their 20's, no less. My, my they were so wise, & timeless..

An*excellent piece of writing, B. Malin you've definitely tapped upon quite the topic!

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drbj 5 years ago from south Florida

Creative and fun, b.M, and the significant otter at the beginning of your clever hub made my day. Thank you.

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Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

Hi, I never thought of it like that, so many four/ five letter words, that mean everything, rated up! amazing!

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Old Poolman 5 years ago from Rural Arizona

Truly outstanding and food for more thought. Very clever and well written.

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Believe me Jami, I know, I struggled with how to write this one...and this is what I came up with. I didn't want people to think this was me and my problems...This is EVERYONE out there and the times we live in. Thanks for all your Thoughts and Votes my Friend

Hi Cheryl, I loved all your Thoughts and Comments on my Hub Subject. Always Loved the Beatles, who were so ahead of their time...Thank you for your Compliments as well my Friend.

Drbj Thank you for seeing my Creativity in this Hub...I'm not sure about it being Fun, but I was trying to say, People out there are living in hard 4 letter times. The Otter Picture was Fun though, and that's the truth!

Hey Nell, Thank You for thinking this Hub Amazing, that Comment makes my Day, as does your Vote! And Vote is a 4 Letter word!

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Cousin Fudd 5 years ago from From the Blue Ridge Mountains of Western North Carolina

Good job and so true in today's world.

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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

Very NICE! I'm impressed with your collection of words that all relate to life. Thank you for the hub :)

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Rosemay50 5 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

Very creative and it just about suns up life.

A very good read

Voted up

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lindsy lohan222 5 years ago from no where

i give you 100 000 000 000 000 000 000% stars for your creation, yesh thank you for the hub

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lindsy lohan222 5 years ago from no where

i vote 1000 000 000 000 000 times up i give you also thumbs up and three cheers ;)

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mckbirdbks 5 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

The circle of life, well, American life. This was nicely done. It describes us well.

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Truckstop Sally 5 years ago

On a practical note when setting a table for dinner -- fork is a four letter word and so is left . . . so you know the fork goes on the left. Knife and spoon are both five letter words like right . . . so you know they go on the right. Embarassed to admit how many times I say that to myself!

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Happyboomernurse 5 years ago from South Carolina

The title drew me in, the four and five letter words made me smile and the in between was life with all the angst and painful, learning and hopefully growing experiences. I'm sure ANYONE reading this will find snapshots of themselves or their children, parents and grandparents.

Powerful, poignant, thought-provoking hub and I see from the comments that it has touched a nerve.

Thanks for sharing it. So true to life with all it's many twists and turns and challenges at every stage.

Voted up across the board including funny because of the clever saying on the otter picture!

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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia

You are so creative and such a talent. I love this theme. When it comes to being unique, you take the cake for sure. Votes up.

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Movie Master 5 years ago from United Kingdom

Hi b.Malin, a very creative and clever hub, really enjoyed reading this and so, so true to life.

thanks for sharing and voting up.

Best wishes MM

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d.william 5 years ago from Somewhere in the south

Good job as usual. Working for years as a nurse i saw those who were abandoned, neglected and ignored by their families who were just too busy with their own lives to even visit. Many sad old people die alone. What ever happened to those days when the elderly and grand parents especially were revered, honored and cared for at home?

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Hi Cousin Fudd, thank You so much for your Comments. They are so appreciated.

Hi Sunshine625, I'm so glad you Enjoyed my Hub and I'm so glad you were impressed.

Hey Poolman, Thank You so much for your Comments and Thoughts, and Compliments, so appreciated.

RoseMay, Yes, that's Life, a four letter word that means so much. Glad you Enjoyed.

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Hi Lindsy, Thanks for all your cheers and Votes.

Mckbirdks, The Circle of Life contains a lot of 4 Letter words...and the longer we live the more we know! Thanks for Reading and Commenting.

Hey Thanks Truckstop Sally, I didn't know that little ditty...Thank YOU for sharing!

Thanks so much for all your Thoughtful Comments on my Hub, Happyboomernurse. I was trying to show all that... and yes, somewhere in Life, the longer we live, we all face many of these 4 Letter Words...Or know someone who is going through a Tough time.

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saddlerider1 5 years ago

b.Malin you just wrote a short version of my life, I tried them all, some worked most didn't. The marriages were total disasters, 3 of my 4 children don't talk to or see me and all for simply divorcing their mother. What a hell of a price to pay for raising children and divorcing their mother, I paid big time.

I have lived on the edge of life most of it,ups and downs a plenty. Yet I have no regrets other than I never married to divorce. Now I am single and have been for 12 years, I enjoy my alone time, writing and thinking. I will never fully understand life, it's meaning or direction for us all.

But heck, I'm sure happy to have come into my own. This was a fantastic scribe you left us here, I voted it UP and Awesome...

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Oh Thank You Lyricwriter, what can I say, you truly humbled me with your Wonderful Comments...and your Vote my Friend.

Movie Master, Life is Stranger than Fiction, and the Longer I live, the more I know this to be True. Thanks so much for your Compliments, they are so appreciated.

D. Williams, I don't know what happened...we live in such Fast times...And sadly what you have described is so TRUE...Thank You for all your Heartfelt Comments.

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Saddlerider, that drives me Crazy when kids take sides, or one parent talks badly about the other in front of the kids...So Unfair. But, life is short, and hopefully those children will come around. You are such a Wonderful writer, have you ever thought of telling them how you feel about them...with written words?

You sound like you have come into your own, and that's so Important, we need to like ourselves, before we can like and fall in Love with someone else. Thank You for all your Thoughts and Compliment my Friend.

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JinnyMarte 5 years ago

You are so right! Times do change and this is a very different world indeed. This is a very well written and very interesting hub b.Malin. The way you use your very unique technique to describe the steps of us as individuals is really delightful.

Unique Technique... Lol I kinda like the sound of that!

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Rosemay50 5 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

Heehee 'click' is a 5 letter word and I just clicked to unfollow one of your old hubs but accidentally unfollowed you. so don't be surprised to receive an email saying that I am following you again. Lol

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Hear Me 5 years ago from Somewhere in Florida

Awesome! I love how you have changed the meaning of a 4 letter word for me. I will show this to my son!! Great read.

shobis 5 years ago

Very well crafted

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Genna East 5 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

Yes, life certainly can be a four-letter word; with al the ups and downs of roller coaster. I loved the candor and creativity of this hubs, B. It is sooo refreshing. Your points about the elderly especially hit home. I took care of my mother when she fell into a depression after my father died; a nursing home was, to me, unthinkable. But this philosophy is sadly disappearing. I was shocked to see many of our elderly live alone and lost, and their children rarely contact them. It is soo sad to see.

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Hi Jinny, Thanks so much for your Thoughts on my Hub...Yes, the Times keep changing, and sometimes, it's NOT always for the best. "Unique Technique" yes, I like the sound of that too! Thank You!

Oh Rosemay, you are too Funny...But you are still a Follower...Right? RIGHT! Thanks for letting me know...LOL to you too!

Oh "Hear Me" i am flattered that you would show this Hub to your Son. Of course my title does have a "double meaning" does Life in it's self. Thanks so much for the Awesome comment!

Shobis, and a simple, but humble Thank You to you!

Your Words, Genna, really hit home as well...But I guess until we've walked in someone else's shoes...I hate to judge them. Thank you so much for your Candor, as well as your Compliments which are always appreciated.

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AliciaC 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

This is an interesting, thoughtful and meaningful piece of writing, b. Malin - and ends with a sad description of the way in which elderly people are often treated. Thank you for sharing your thoughts - and for the great photo!

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attemptedhumour 5 years ago from Australia

Hi B, once again you have demonstrated the art of creative writing where you start with such an original idea and progress on with it. Life can be hard and finding a life partner is a hit or miss affair. I'm one of the lucky ones, and the harder I work at it the luckier I seem to get. Life is a roller coaster ride and the car can so easily come of the rails. Inspiring stuff and very interesting to read. Cheers

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PhoenixV 5 years ago from USA

You write very well. I wish I had your talent.

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

I too Loved this Photo Alicia, but somehow my mind wanted to be more serious with this Hub and so as a Writer, I just let it flow. Thanks for all your Thoughtful and Wonderful Comments as well my friend.

Hi Phoenix V, Thank you so much for that Wonderful Comment, it's one no write ever gets tired of Hearing. I'll be by to visit your Hubs as well.

Talk about Inspiring TemptedHumor, all your Comments were so from the Heart and so Wonderful to my Friend are also an Inspiration to all of us. Thank YOU!

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PDXKaraokeGuy 5 years ago from Juneau, Alaska

Wow, really interesting, Creative. Not what I was expecting. Voted up. Bravo!

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Hi Karaoke Guy, so glad you came by and read my Hub and thought it Interesting. A special Thanks for the Vote & Bravo. I'm now coming by to visit you.

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alocsin 5 years ago from Orange County, CA

How about "hope," "wait" and "dine." Voting this Up and Awesome.

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Yes, Yes, and Yes! Thanks for the suggestions Alocsin, and once again a BIG thank you for your UP and Awesome my Friend.

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PDXKaraokeGuy 5 years ago from Juneau, Alaska

Thanks for the visit, b.

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Thanks for your Visit as well KaraokeGuy.

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ubanichijioke 5 years ago from Lagos

These are words true and meaningful.

Excellent, sweet and beautiful.

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Yes sadly Ubanichljoke, they are so true...Times have changed, people are so stressed just trying to get by and Earn a living, and raise a Family. Thanks for the Compliments, my Friend.

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Storytellersrus 5 years ago from Stepping past clutter

Why must we move away in the middle of vigorous times and live to regret the distance in times of difficulty? I have regrets... Thanks for a loverly hub!

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Pamela99 5 years ago from United States

Outstanding hub and the circle continues. Your words are true and really do make you think about what you have read.

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

I know what you mean Stroyteller...But in this Hectic World and Pace...I guess we do the Best we can. I think we all have Regrets, some we can live with and others...well that's life and times are so different. Thanks for your Thoughts and Comments.

Thank you Pamela for your Words and Compliment. These are such different time...and the next Generation is so overwhelmed...It's more complicated for them...I guess.

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kittythedreamer 5 years ago from the Ether

Voted up and beautiful. Keep 'em coming!

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Hi Kitty, So very Glad you Enjoyed, and I will keep them coming... because I LOVE to WRITE! I'll be by to visit your Hubs as well.

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A.A. Zavala 5 years ago from Texas

Such is life, full of four letter and five letter words. This is sweet, poignant, touching. See, I'm not just about boobies.

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Thanks for Enjoying...and all your Nice Comments. I know that your're just not about the "B" thing. You're a Good Man, A.A. Thanks for being a Friend.

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Dexter Yarbrough 5 years ago from United States

Hi b. Malin! Not only is this hub creative, it is full of raw truth and inspiration. Any comments that I may have will pale in the shadow of what you have already written, so I will just say, voted up, up and away!

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Hey Dexter, I'm so glad you and I have become Hub Friends for I do value what you have to say, for I find your Writings so Creative as well! Thanks for the Vote.

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Frieda Babbley 5 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

Read this yesterday and shared, but I see I failed to comment too. Want to let you know this really stuck with me. Thought about the premise for quite some time; everyone should. Beautiful. And so true. So glad you wrote this.

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Why Thank You Frieda. Times have changed and so have all of us. We take the Good with the Bad, and try not to let it get us down. i'm so glad you got something from this Hub. I look forward to us being Good Hub Friends.

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stylezink 5 years ago from Atlanta, GA.

Wow, this was a wonderful hub. I actually went back and read it twice. So real, and so true. Another great hub b.Malin, I really liked this one. Voted up across the board!

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Hi Stylezink, Thank you so much for actually reading this Hub Twice...It's Life...It is what it is...Sometimes not always what we wanted or expected...And a Humble Thank You for your Vote.

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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia

I had to come back another time and read this great hub.:) Just chillin!lol

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

So Glad your Chillin with my Hub Lyricwriter...Thank You for the Compliment!

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sweethearts2 5 years ago from Northwest Indiana

I don't always appreciate hearing or reading hearing four letter words - but here it was a pleasure. How true, Sadly - things aren't always - rosy.

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Injured lamb 5 years ago

Amazed much for the four and five letters word that made up the life...thanks for sharing with us your unique hub! You have done it so well...

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Thank you Sweethearts2 for stopping by and Commenting on my Hub. Yes, you are so right when you say "Things aren't always-Rosy...but then again, there is always Hope.

Injured Lamb, Thank you...I try to get my Thoughts across, and this is a subject so dear to my Heart, the older I get. I appreciate your Comments as well.

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Sharyn's Slant 5 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

Very unique B! I enjoyed this one very much. The ending was sad for me and not something that I feel, but very true indeed. Great write!


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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Hi Sharyn, I'm so glad you Enjoyed...My Hub Ending is a sad fact of Life...Which I hope none of us ever have to live, ourselves. We took care of my husband's mother, and I would do it all again in a Heartbeat. Thanks for your Thoughts and Compliments.

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Just Ask Susan 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

What can I say that hasn't already been said. Very creative piece.

I expect to be taking care of my mother in law soon and will welcome her into my home as she welcomed me the first time we met.

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Susan you are one Terrific young Woman...It's not an Easy task that you will be taking on. I too, took care of my Mother-in-law for Five years. She had "Mental Problems" so she needed to be in a Nursing Home setting, but I saw her and took her out with Lover Man as much as we could, until the end, when we could not. When we moved out of state, we took her, she was like our child and needed the best of care, and we always found it for her. No Regrets, it was not the "normal" situation...But I Loved her, and I think she knew it.

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leann2800 5 years ago

Very clever. Here is another five letter word for us hubbers "WRITE"

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b. Malin 5 years ago Author

Hi Leann2800, very Clever, and I Thank You! I look forward to reading your Hubs too.

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