MILLIONAIRE - The Dating Club
Let's Be Real.....
I really don't know where to start, but I think I will first talk about a man I know who is extremely wealthy and in his fifties. I first knew him when he was married to someone else and our kids were close at one time quite a few years ago in my hometown. When I returned from my year long stay in England in 2008, he was one of the new men in the "divorce club" and the drama and lashing out to his ex-wife was horrible. She said even worse things about him and in a small town this was not a very good thing. I do not really understand how two people can be so in love, have children together, share many years together and then be so crazy and hateful towards eachother. Especially when there are children involved. It still floors me.
The only reason I was sort of privy to this information is that he was very established in the music industry and we were working in the studio on some projects. This is where is gets a bit strange and this is why I'm writing this article. When I really got to know him I realized that he had been married four times and had been taken to the cleaners by atleast three of these women. But, the strange thing was that he did not really care at all. He did try to pursue me and he knew my situation and family. After his attempts failed, he then went to sign up with a "Millionaire Dating Service" in Beverly Hills where he paid something like $10,000 to interview many girls. When he explained how many girls he interviewed and how many were eager to get to the bedroom (I overheard these conversations in the studio), I could not help but think "what is the difference between a dating service and a pimp?" Part of me wants to protect women I know from meeting men through these services because these men end up interviewing and sleeping with many women before they ever settle. That is "if they ever settle." I don't want to judge these women, but I don't know what to think either? I know quite a few women who have done this and I'm still friends with them. Afterall it does not effect my life, this is their life and how they choose to live it.
The sad part is the desperation in SOME of the girls that go to these services because I truly don't think they know what is really going on. Maybe they do and they just want to have fun or date someone who spoils them with a lot of money, but what they must realize is that they are just wasting more and more time meeting a decent guy and they are not getting any younger. And besides a lot of these men do not spend a lot of money and that is why they are wealthy! Eventually they will be doing the same thing ten years on and they will be older and less desirable to younger men if this is what they want. Sorry to say this is true because I know many women in their forties who are now dating guys in their sixties and older. This industry friend told me that he would not date anyone from the service who was more then forty two years old and he eventually moved a young, British girl with three kids into his house (one of his houses). When I saw him at my kids school the other day six months later he was aggressive about having coffee and already seemed fed up with the situation. Someone got paid ten grand to find him someone and he went through many and now he wants more.
Well, I don't know what can be worse then chicks or dudes asking for money on the internet especially from people they do not really know. If you ask for help from friends that you actually know, that would be best depending on your relationship. Social sites have provided easy access to wealthy men and women who are seeking a new love or just a little comfort or back and forth. The stories I have heard are truly shocking. The lengths that women will go in e-mails and texting, excessive phone calls and eventually in person is extremely frightning to me. I often wonder if any of these women really understand what the eventual outcome will be by doing this? The bottom line is if you "hook up for money," you will eventually "pay for it." That's if he does not marry you or moves onto someone else or makes you sign a pre-nup. Basically trying to hook up with a young wealthy guy for good who likes to date many women and travels the world is like playing the lottery for someone that is not in a stable financial existence. I have dated very wealthy men in my youth and frankly I did not like any of them enough to take it further. Most of them were boring to say the least because life had become so easy for them. There were the one's that ofcourse adored life and were kind and fun.
Most of these men and dates were set up through friends I knew in the industry and I had no idea of their financial business until my friends mentioned stuff after I decided to move on. Things like, "well he is like worth a few million you know."
I mean isn't it even sad that wealthy people have to be put in the "millionaire" cataegory especially in these so called "matchmaker" clubs? What makes a millionaire anyway these days? Some people look good on paper and some people who are fortunate have access to lots of cash? A lot of people are full of it and lie. I don't think people realize that. People do lie you know.
A lot of people who know me and my past also know that I was married in my early twenties to someone who was in a wealthy family. Most people do not realize that the one that I married had no money and worked at a pizza place when we met. He was eventually successful, but after we had been together for many crazy years. It was nice having a nice life and going to various places and getting more attention from strangers. It was NOT nice having a lot of people asking for money and things, dropping off scripts at our home (which we had to return unopened for legal reasons) trying to entangle us in legal situations so they can sue us or find a way to. Taking property on loan and then never giving it back. In the end when I left the relationship and it was for my "sanity." I did not take any money, support or property from the relationship. I left with my pride and the hope for a more "normal" future. In other words, I left being "real." Most of the time if I helped someone financially I thought of it "as a gift" because I knew that I would never see it returned. It just never happened.
An added note to this "virtual frenzy" on various social sites. Please ask yourself these questions.
Do you really know this person from a long time ago? Did you even care about him or her before you knew about their wealth? What are you doing this all for? Can't you see that there are many others doing the same thing? You should really look at your behavior and ask yourself if this is what you are about. Are you willing to change your life for someone you hardly know? If it is for friendship and you are part of a rare group who have friends from all over the world and truly love to talk to them because of a deep core connection, so be it. I myself love talking to people from all walks of life and all over the world and it inspires me on all levels. Even if it helps me pursue my career and makes me think about my future and where I want to be. Cool.
For Men And Women
I have never claimed to be an expert in love and relationships, but I have lived a fortunate life but have never had an easy ride. Some by circumstances out of my control and some by choice. I had a very difficult and tragic childhood and we were not wealthy. Eventually we moved to a nicer neighborhood and over the years things got better financially for our family. Afterall I was raised by a single parent whose wife died when I was young and who never remarried. I have never taken the easy road and I do believe in "love" because of the person and NOT just what they have.
Michelle OBama never married a wealthy man in the beginning, now did she? Things worked out for them, but they did it together. Ofcourse if you just happen to fall in love with someone who is wealthy, hopefully you have found a wonderful and great person inside and out.
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