MOMMY LOVES YOU - Being The Best Mom That You Can
We All Do Our Best......
So this week both of my young children went to new schools and the main thing is that they are not so "young" anymore. My oldest started his first year in middle school and is the first of my kids to leave elementary school behind. To put it simply, this was a very exciting and an emotionally challenging week for me in so many ways. When I dropped my son off in front of his middle school and looked at all of the teens standing around in groups, so many memories flashed through my mind like one big "slide show." I thought of many familiar faces at certain moments in time.....I still see some of these faces now on a social site but we are all a lot older. I think of little snippets in time.....a great smile, the joker, the t-shirt that said "Save The Whales," the delicious cinnamon buns at the school, the "around the field run for PE everyday." I still remember the fact that no one ever cleaned their gym clothes! How all the excuses got old and I ran out of them after a while and so did everyone else. I mean how many times can you play "sick" when teachers saw you look happy and fine in the classes before PE?
The first thing I thought of when I first dropped my son off was "did all of the kids at my middle school in the 80's" look so damn messy?" ha..... Did I look that messy and wear stuff that looks like it hasn't been washed in a week?! I don't think so, but my memory isn't exactly perfect after about thirty something years! ha ha...Oh how easy it is to forget things "way back when!" I do remember hearing older folks commenting about all of the bracelets I had on my arms at one time. Yes, it definitely was "overkill" but that was the trendy thing to do at the time! I mean every time I see young men with their pants falling down on purpose, I shake my head and go "eeeewww!" I think to myself...how does a young girl find that attractive?! I say bring on the preppy look again....PLEASE! Or atleast a great pair of good fitting Levi's and a Lacoste shirt with a collar! Even a nice pair of beige preppy pants and a button down will do! ha...Man at this point I just wish they would wear a clean t-shirt and cool shorts! ha ha.....I mean what will they be wearing in about six years when my daughter becomes a teenager?!!! A skirt?!!!!!
Hormones and The "Cool" Factor...
OK, so when I drop my son off in the morning now I must NOT give him a hug in front of his "posse" I mean friends. So I smile and tell him to have a good day and then drive off and swallow my heart. I think of what the Principal said at my son's 6th Grade Graduation....She said "Your children are no longer DOGS. They are on their way to becoming CATS. They will eventually be DOGS again but not for a while. They will no longer wag their tails when they see you or happily talk about their day. They will now disappear into their own world and only come out when they are "hungry" or need to go somewhere. Just realize that this is just a phase." So I have come to realize that this is part of the hormones, puberty and finding their own social status among their peers. It is so UNCOOL to hug mom before you walk to your friends in the morning. It is even LESS cool if you park away from the school to make it easy to avoid the pick up traffic and meet your son at the crosswalk and talk to other parents. And the worse thing you can do is cross the street, talk to parents and ALSO the lady with the crossing sign! Even if you know her and she use to work at your son's elementary school! OK! I GET IT! I REALLY DO!! HA......Just call me TAXI MOMMA! Leave my tip at the door PLEASE!
My Butterfly Is Still Little....Well Sort Of!
So my youngest started a new private school this week and she is very happy. She is in a great class with lots of fantastic kids that she grew up with in our local town. I can tell that her spirit is flying on the second day and I'm really pleased. Since she went to different private schools with some of the other kids when she was younger, she feels like she is with familiar faces and in a safe environment. Since switching schools I recently found out about several lawsuits at the school she attended last year through parents I have spoken too. Obviously the issues have been going on there for quite a while. I DO NOT miss the place at all! I am blessed that I can make her experiences during the academic year much better at such a great school. I'm looking forward to see how she blossoms this year with nicer kids and a much healthier and creative environment.
The Language Of Mom....
So to sum it up I have gone through the ringer when it comes to raising my children. It has not been easy especially when they are both very strong willed and extremely bright. Since they are almost three years apart, they tend to "power argue" now which means that they are both asserting their power. The way they go at it sometimes, I flash forward to the future and wonder "who they will become." My son expressed to me how important it is for him to really do well this year and I was "touched." He sat down today and typed his first essay next to me, used my wireless printer and then handed it to me to read. I was really impressed and proud of him. It is hard to gage how you are doing sometimes when you do so much for your kids and I have given up quite a few career opportunities to be here for them. But like an older mom once told me, "If you don't stay around for them during these formative years, you pay later." I know she is right and giving advice but frankly I would never have it any other way.
I decided to have children so I could be a mother, not a woman that never sees them while I climb the corporate ladder. I guess you can call me one of those rare mom's that really does not fit into a lot of "mom groups." With a production office at home and also in Los Angeles and a singing career there is not much I can do except juggle my life on a daily basis and be here to take and pick up my kids from school almost every day (except for when I travel for business once a year). But I know deep down in my heart that the best thing I could have done was be there for my kids like I am all of the time. And even though I have many deadlines in the next few weeks I'm still here writing about "Who and what is most important and the priority in my life."
So I will "go with the flow" and take a wave or two while they are off on yet another new journey. I will be there for them whenever they need me and I will always let them know that I would never want or have it any other way.
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