What Makes Your House a Home

What is the difference between and house and a home?


The other day in class I thought I would see, just for fun, if the children had any idea of the difference between a house and a home. Big surprise, they didn't. First I asked "What is a house?". I received various answers such as : "Its where you live." It's where you go when you get out of school." "It's where you go to do your homework." (I suspect that this answer can about because of a discussion we had all had about why homework is called homework. - I guess you can surmise how that went.) and finally I heard "It's where you eat."

I then asked the class To describe what a home is. Guess what, I received the same answers. I kept saying "are you sure there is not a difference?" They would think for a minute but not one thought there was any difference between a house and a home. Not of them seemed to have an emotional, comforting feel for the home. To them they were one in the same.

I thought to myself - it must be me. Maybe I'm not explaining it to them correctly. So, I set about telling them that they all gave some really good descriptions about what a house is. What I really wanted them to do is take a few minutes to get it straight in their heads about what a home means to them. They all looked at me like I had grown another head. But I'm the authority figure and they must obey. So they sat silently staring around the room.

I thought to myself, maybe if I give them a few hints it would help. So , I said "To me home means that there is always someone there who understands what you mean and what you are going through. A home is where you feel safe and protected. A home is where you feel you are surrounded by love. A home is where you always feel welcome."

I told them to think about my little list and then make their own. They sat for a few minutes then began to write a little down. When they all seemed ready I said "OK why doesn't everyone read one thing from their list. Remember we are taking about what home means to you."

The first response was "It's where I live."OK, maybe he still didn't understand. Surely the next student would have one that seemed more like a description of a home. He stood up and said, "It's where I go to bed at night." AGGGGH! They weren't getting it. I thought , one more and I quit. OK Honey, stand up and tell us all what home means to you. "That's where my mom and dad and sister are." Yes, a she's got it. "What do you mean by that?" I ask cautiously. "Well it means that everybody I love is there. HALLALUAH.

I furthered explained that a house is a roof and four walls. A home is what contains the people you love, security, and understanding. It was like pulling teeth but I believe they all understand what I mean by it.

I have found out that there are many children who do have a house but not a home as we know it. There are a lot of them going home to an empty house that is often times still empty when they go to bed. They are left to scrounge around the house to make themselves a dinner. These are not sitting down at a dinner table with a family laughing and chatting. They are putting themselves to bed, they have no one there to say good night to. When they get up in the morning there may be someone else in the house but they are still asleep, not up helping the child get ready for school.

I better understand why there is a problem understanding what the difference is between a house and a home. I'm sure many of them don't think there is a difference. A home is more than just a roof over the head, it is what happens under the roof that really matters.


Home Quotes and Sayings

  • Home is not where you live but where they understand you. - Christian Morgenstern
  • Home is a place you grow up wanting to leave, and grow old wanting to get back to. - John Ed Pearce
  • Where we love is home - home that our feet may leave, but not our hearts. - Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.
  • A man travels the world over in search of what he needs and returns home to find it. - George Moore
  • A house is made of walls and beams; a home is built with love and dreams. Author Unknown
  • Home is the place where, when you have to go there, they have to take you in. - Robert Frost
  • One's home is like a delicious piece of pie you order in a reataurant on a country road one cozy evening - the best piece of pie you have ever eaten in your life - and can never find again. After you leave home, you may find yourself feeling homesick, even if you have a new home that has nicer wallpaper and a more efficient dishwasher than the home you grew up in. - Lemony Snicket
  • Home is where you can say anything you please, because nobody pays any attention to you anyway. - Joe Moore
  • I am grateful for the lawn that needs mowing, windows that need cleaning, and floors that need waxing because it means I have a dhome. - Author Unknown
  • It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home. - Author Unknown
  • Home is the one place in the world where hearts are sure of each other. It is the place of confidence. It is that place where we tear off that mask of guarded and suspicious coldness which the world forces us to wear in self defense, and where we pour out the unreserved communications of full and confiding hearts. It is the spot where expressions of tenderness gush out without any sensation of awkardness and without any dread of ridicule. - Frederick W. Robertson
  • Home sweet home. This is the place to find happiness. If one doesn't find it here, one doesn't find it anywhere. - M. K. Soni
  • Home is a shelter from storms - all sorts of storms. - William J. Bennett
  • A good home must be made, not bought. - Joyce Maynard
  • My the roof above us never fall in and may we good companions beneath it never fall out. - Irish Blessing


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Om Paramapoonya 5 years ago

Lovely hub! I like John Ed Pearce's quote: "Home is a place you grow up wanting to leave, and grow old wanting to get back to." So true. :)


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dahoglund 5 years ago from Wisconsin Rapids

A house is a physical place whereas a home is spiritual or psychological.


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Just Ask Susan 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

Home is where the heart is :) A house is just a house. Great Hub up and awesome!


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Mrs. J. B. 5 years ago from Southern California

I just absolutely love love love your hubs!!! I could read them all day long! Voted Up across the board!


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Om, it's such a true quote. I love the way some of these quotes go right to the heart of the matter.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

dahoglund, I would have loved to be able to explain it to them that way but I needed to tone it down to a simplier explanation. Thanks for reading.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Just Ask Susan, thanks for the rating and thank you so much for reading. Home is truly where the heart is.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Mrs. J. B. You are too kind. Thank you for your ratings and comments. I am so glad I bring you pleasure.


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smcopywrite 5 years ago from all over the web

nice to know that young minds are being shaped by someone like you. beautiful.


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Stacie L 5 years ago

a nice lesson for the students..got them thinking...more adults should try that.

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acaetnna 5 years ago from Guildford

Ah, a totally great read!


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myi4u 5 years ago from United Kingdom

nice hub! A house is never complete without a home. Sadly, even some adults don't even understand the meaning of home! That's why the world is never peaceful.


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Jean Bakula 5 years ago from New Jersey

It does seem that in our society today, families can be in the house and not interacting at all. Some don't have regular meals, sitting at the same table. Some young people are in a stage where they are trying to break away from overbearing or critical parents. There is so much divorce, I have asked some children, "Would you rather be at Dad's or Mom's?" I get the same "You have two heads look." And the saddest of all, when the answer to my question is, "I don't want to be with either." Some parents are dismal failures.


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attemptedhumour 5 years ago from Australia

A house is a home when it's the opposite of a prison, perhaps? Often teaching is finding the right way to ask the question as you go along. I love discussing uni assignments with my eldest daughter, as the answer to the question usually arrives at the end of it.

Cheers


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Movie Master 5 years ago from United Kingdom

I agree with just ask susan, home is where the heart is and there is no place like home, a great class for the children and a great read for us, thank you!


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Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

A great read from begining to end and here's to many more to share.

Take care

Eiddwen.


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Cloverleaf 5 years ago from Calgary, AB, Canada

Lovely hub, KKG! My favorite quote is "It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home" - how true :-)


marellen 5 years ago

KKG....lets just hope your kids are to young to realize the differnece between a house and a home but you certainly gave them food for thought.


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dearabbysmom 5 years ago from Indiana

I agree with smcopywrite...glad you are teaching, our children need you. Great hub, and I love the quote by Lemony Snicket (and the fact that you used it!). Up and awesome


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MellyMoo 5 years ago from Australia

We have a sign outside our front door that reads "Home is where the heart is". Lovely hub!


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Pinkchic18 5 years ago from Minnesota

Great hub, and a valuable lesson :)


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Thank you so much smcopywrite. I appreciate the comment.

I have to agree with you there Stacie L. If more people did think about house vs home more children would understand the difference.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

acatenna, thank you. I'm glad you enjoyed it.

myi4u, it really is a shame to not understand the difference between a house and a home. Living in just a house is so cold and lonely.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Jean Bakula, it is sad. It seems to be more the norm now that a family is so fractured. I don't know whats going to happen to our childrens family.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

attemptedhumor, sometimes the best part of an answer is the discussion you have along the way. Thanks for the comment.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Movie Master, thanks for you kind comment.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Eiddwen, thanks for reading. I am glad you enjoyed it.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Cloverleaf, how true that is. Without a heart in the equation it will never be a home.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

marellen, they are middle school students. It is unfortunate that they really did not know the difference. Thanks for reading.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Thanks you so much dearabbysmom. I love teaching. I thought the Lemony Snicket quote was too good to be left out.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

MellyMoo, home truly is where the heart is. Thanks for reaading and the comment.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Pinkchic, thanks for the comment.


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drpastorcarlotta 5 years ago from BREAKOUT MINISTRIES, INC. KC

Love, love your Home Quotes and Sayings. Voted-UP! Bless you! GREAT HUB!!


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Thanks drpastorcarlotta. I appreciate your comment and rating.


rorshak sobchak 5 years ago

Another great write up Koffee Keep up the great work!!

rorshak sobchak


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

rorshak, thanks for the comment.


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carriethomson 5 years ago from United Kingdom

Absolutely true.. A home is where your heart is!!.. lovely hub,, enjoyed reading it.. thanx


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

carriethomson, I'mm so glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for the comment.


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randomcreative 5 years ago from Milwaukee, Wisconsin

Interesting topic for a hub! I definitely agree about the distinction.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

randomcreative, thanks for the comment. It can be hard to make swome of the children understand the difference.


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sihl shgl 3 years ago

The house is the warmth of love and affection and cooperation


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 3 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

sihl shgl, a home is always filled with love.

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