Mother (a poem inspired by Nellieanne H. Hay)

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Nellieanne H. Hay

Nellieanna Hay is the most remarkable women I have ever met in my life. Her outstanding intelligence, wisdom, insight and vision sparkles on the pages of HubPages. Not only in her own hubs of delighting and enlightening poetry, but also in the comment sections of hundreds of hubs, she shines like a brilliant diamond in a piece of jewellery.

Since my arrival in HubPages four years ago, Nellieanne inspired me. Not only to become a better writer, but in particularly a better person more able to handle life with all its ups and downs. Her poems and comments contain vital principles, important guidelines and advice one can blindly take to heart. Sometimes she confirms my own perspectives and philosophies, and sometimes she expands my pattern of thoughts and makes me see/hear what I have never heard/seen before.

Nellieanne is the epitome of endurance. Like all of us she travelled through paradises as well as deserts, but in a very unique way she managed to stay intact - not spoilt by the good or harmed by the bad. Throughout her life she grew from strength to strength, and although I have met her only four years ago, I know she must have been a role model since she was a little girl.

Nellieanne was born on the 2nd of February 1932 and is currently, at the age of 83, still as healthy and energetic as a spring chicken. She is emotionally, physically and mentally independent and always willing to share her philosophies and convictions. One of her most admiring qualities is her ability to support, advice and encourage others without allowing them to become dependent on her guiding.

I see and experience Nellieanne as my mother in cyberspace. In fact, she reminds me of my own mother. The only difference is, my mother, being an introvert, cannot express her thoughts and beliefs the way Nellieanna does hers.

I can go on, praising Nellieanne H. Hay forever and a day. I can suffice it for me to compare her in a poem to the elements of nature.


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Mother

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Like the sand along the shoreline

embellished with pebbles and shells

she urges me to contemplate

her purpose in my life.

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Like a precious stone

set in a bracelet of gold

she holds me in awe

of life and love.

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She is a beacon, a rock,

worthy of my trust -

A piece of fertile soil

for my thoughts to grow.

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Like flames in a fireplace

she keeps me spellbound

Her knowledge and wisdom

expel my ignorance.

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Like a stream of cool water

she quenches my thirst -

the thirst of my soul

for aesthetic delight.

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Like a whiff of fresh air

flavoured with jasmine and roses

her words always enthral -

She's elements of love.

........ © Martie Coetser

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prashant8 5 years ago from delhi

nice yaar


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WillStarr 5 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

Lovely work, and your tribute to our beautiful Nellieanna is spot on.


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Pamela99 5 years ago from United States

This is a lovely tribute to the very special Nellienanna that we all have come to admire and respect. Her enormous talent in writing poetry is truly remarkable.


Kryptowrite 5 years ago

A beautiful tribute to a special lady.


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A.A. Zavala 5 years ago from Texas

Nellieanna is onme of the most prolific, vivacious, intelligent writers here on the hubs. She's been so sweet to me; she's a treasure. Lovely and touching tribute.


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mckbirdbks 5 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

MartieCoetser you have written a very fine Hub regarding a very fine writer. Your acknowledgment of her achievements are worthy of a loving daughter.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

*** prashant8

*** WillStarr

*** Pamela99

*** A.A. Zavala

*** mckbirdbks

Thank you so much for praising Nellieanne with me. She is such a bright star amongst us. Although I know she does not need any recognition and praise – even without it she will be contented and outstanding creative - my admiration for her is now overflowing. Thanks again.


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Nellieanna 5 years ago from TEXAS

I am truly touched and amazed, my dear Martie! I was just checking the list of new posts (which I don't always do, I admit with shame) and this literally almost knocked me off my chair! What an unexpected, warm, loving poem and all the other words from your heart! I hardly know what to say, except that I am humbled and honored by YOUR praise and genuine love, dear Martie.

I suppose we all question ourselves and "what am I doing here?" comes to mind at times. But when someone who is as beloved and respected as you are acknowledges my worth and good influence - the question is answered in full!

So let me thank you - thank you - thank you! This is not the easiest kind of poem to write, either - but you did so with dignity and grace.

Hugs and love.

Nellieanna


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Phil Plasma 5 years ago from Montreal, Quebec

Lovely tribute - that we all could have mothers that are so deserving of a tribute.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Nellieanna – My respect, admiration and love for you are deep and sincere – but you know this, and I am by far not the only one in here who holds you in high esteem. I’m battling to get the poem on a sound track – still have to get on top of the techno. I’ll send you the link as soon as I’ve succeeded. Yes, I know that question: What am I doing here? But then, somehow, we are always at the right time at the right place to do something that should be done, whether it is a wrong or a right. God, Fate, whatever we want to call the power we cannot control, is an autocrat dressed like a democrat. Apparently we make our own choices and bear the consequences, but later, when we look back, we see a specific pattern and realize that life is after all not about us, but about Something we cannot comprehend. Or we can just accept life as totally futile, which I prefer not to accept. Enjoy the rest of your weekend, my dearest HubMamma :))) You are so-so special.


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drbj 5 years ago from south Florida

Every beautiful word you have written, Martie, in praise of our lovely Nellieanna, is absolutely true. She IS a gem and a one-of-a-kind unique personality that we can all hope to emulate in some small way.

And you, m'dear, are very special, too. Trust me.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Phil Plasma – Thanks so much for your comment. It is, indeed, sad that many have to go through this life with the knowledge that their biological mother was/is for some or another reason not able to perform her duties according to expectation. But if we look deeper, we will notice that the role of a mother (and father and all we need) is actually played by somebody and quite often by more than one person. Maybe we should just love each other the best we can, for the receiver to enjoy and appreciate exactly what he/she needs. Imagine the abundance of love in the lap of the receiver?


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

drbj – my favorite professor :)) The embrio of a poem inspired by you is busy to grow rapidly in my mind. I wonder what its going to look like? Thanks so much for confirming Nellieanne’s worth in this community, and thank you for the lovely compliment. I do trust you.


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Nellieanna 5 years ago from TEXAS

Dear Martie, yes, I know. We've demonstrated our mutual caring & esteem when it matters, haven't we? There's no doubt about it to me!

Oh yes, so right that we are somehow where we need to be to do something we are meant to do for someone else; even for ourselves. There seems to be plan and a force in charge of that. But I suspect that making our choices and taking our responsibility is also a big part of the plan. We don't get off scot-free. :-) Whatever and what-all it is, life is definitely not a futile thing!

Y'know, SaddleRider and several other respected writers are using an online service called SoundCloud to record their poetry in their own voices. http://soundcloud.com/ He has links on some of his latest poems to hear them, has mentioned it to me to try. I haven't as yet, but I'm interested and it might work for you to avoid those techno problems you've encountered. Apparently it's a simple enough procedure.

I'm truly awed and humbled by the comments here saying lovely thngs about me. Talk about "warm fuzzes"! It's all that and more. I can't begin to express my appreciation and love for my dear friends here. Hugs and kisses.


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BobbiRant 5 years ago from New York

Very nice poem. I enjoyed it.


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poetvix 5 years ago from Gone from Texas but still in the south. Surrounded by God's country.

What a beautiful tribute you made for a beautiful soul. Her poems always bring me the most profound sense of peace and no one else's do it. This shines with the love you have infused. Thank you for sharing.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Nellieanna – Yes, we just never get off scot-free – we even pay for the wrong choices made by our ancestors, and, of course, we reap the fruit of the right choices they’ve made. I’m trying to get myself in soundcloud.com, but a simple problem with my microphone has to be solved first. I plan to call a PRO tomorrow. Hugs and kisses for you too, Nellieanna. (11:00pm SA-time)


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

*** BobbiRant

*** poetvix

Thank you for comments. Some things, especially love, just demand to be announced through poetry. Though I will not sell myself as a poet, I love writing it according to my own rules. Nellieanne is, of course, a born poet with her own unique, fascinating style. I love spending time in her corner.


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Nellieanna 5 years ago from TEXAS

Be sure to check my site for a new hub - for you!

:-)


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saddlerider1 5 years ago

Well my dear Martie I had first ventured into Nellieanna's latest hub and voila it was about two cyber buddies mother/daughter and I was blown away by Nellianna's wonderful words about you and her. I then clicked the link to yours and equally am blown away.

Here are two amazing ladies and very talented writers of verse and prose sharing their love for one another with passion. I am so happy to read these two scribes. More of us need to let our souls speak to us and put it out there for the world to read.

There is little time to share LOVE like this and never should one feel shy or reluctant to show LOVE. These two hubs are sheer respect for each others words, their pure eloquence, thoughtfulness and caring words that bring tears rolling down our cheeks. I am honored to know the both of you almost equally well. I await anxiously as another hub is produced by you both and come in as quickly as I can to read them. I never leave disappointed, but instead uplifted and all the more in love with the both of your writings.

I am truly humbled to be included as your friend in cyber space and I felt the love with every comment you leave for each other and at any of my hubs. Let's shout out to the world how we feel for one another. I have this love for many here at the Hubs, but there are always a select few who we want to Yell it to from the ROOF TOPS. I love you little sista, keep writing, sharing and it will come back to you a 1000 fold. Hugs from me to you always.


oballesansano 5 years ago

What a lovely article, full of love and inspiration :)


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Rosemay50 5 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

Such a beautiful tribute. It is so emotional and so loving that it stirs my heart to read your praises of your cyber mother. Love and friendship developing a beautiful relationships and it is lovely to see two hubbers who were obviously meant to be part of one another’s lives.

I have yet to meet Nellieanna but will pop along and visit now.


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pennyofheaven 5 years ago from New Zealand

Very profound and touched the most intimate part of my soul. What a beautiful and loving tribute that is captured within the vessels of magical words. Clearly enveloped in love.

Thank you so much. You have made my day!


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Alastar Packer 5 years ago from North Carolina

I know of the special relationships between moms and daughters. Using the four elements you've written a unique and awe inspiring tribute to yours Martie. That's quite a gift you have. Heart and high brain power. The tops for mom, and us.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

*** saddlerider1 – It is amazing how we grow in cyberspace – closer to one another, or away, while we also become older/wiser/riper.

We are only spirit/heart/soul in cyberspace, no body, while in reality we are all body and seldom spirit/heart/soul. In reality we hide our thoughts – we are too busy to share it with others, or too tired, or too unhappy and not willing to burden the people we know with our anxieties, or perhaps too happy, but oblige to stay stalled in our self-images. Fact is, in this hectic (real) life we live, like Henry David Thoreau said, indeed lives of quiet desperation. But here at the Hubs we find others who have the time to ‘listen’ and respond – Let’s say we spend our alone-time productively in here with our kindred spirits. Thanks, Saddle, I appreciate your friendship and support tremendously.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

*** oballesansano – Many years ago I realized that people utter critique and negative thoughts about others promptly, but seldom or never give compliments to each other, or confess their adoration for each other. Why wait until the opportunity to do the latter slipped out of reach? Thanks so much for leaving me your opinion, oballesansano. Take care!


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Rosemay50 – Nellieanne’s hubs is out of this world. I can spend hours in her corner, pondering over her short, unique poems. They are loaded with wisdom. We are all unique, but Nellieanne’s is unique unique. Thank you for your kind comment. I look forward to read your hubs. Take care.


Dave 5 years ago

Your heart's speaks volumes Ladies xx


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

pennyofheaven – Your comment touched my heart. I’m glad this hub has made your day. I know all daughters would like to give a poem like this to their mothers, but not all daughters can do it, because their mothers don’t mean to them what Nellieanne means to me. Fortunately I have a lovely mother in real life as well. She is a quiet and secretive lady and a devoted Christian. She will, however, not like any of my hubs. According to her idea of a perfect woman I am too outspoken, too open-minded, too audacious, too rebellious and worse of all, agnostic, and if God don’t show mercy to me, I will end up in hell. But in spite of this she loves me and she believes with all her heart that God loves me too and He will take care of me in His own way. Thanks so much for your comment, pennyofheaven. Take care.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Alastar Packer – Thanks so much for your comment. I truly appreciate your interpretation of this poem, for I always – most of the time – try to connect my emotions (heart) to my brain.


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marcoujor 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Martie,

This is a magical and touching tribute, descriptive of the most sacred relationship I know- that of a Mother and her Daughter. Knowing how beautiful you are, both inside and out, I now know how special Nellieanne is from this heartfelt labor of love. Voted UP & AB, mar.


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Erin LeFey 5 years ago from Maryland

Martie, this is an outstanding tribute to Nellieanna! We all love her and her gentle yet strong writings that take us gently into her world and teach us true value and the simplicity of life, right down to the bones. I believe you have captured the style, rythm and structure of one of her own, for I felt the same way in reading this poem of yours. They say to copy someone's style is the highest form of flattery. And not only did you copy the style, but you made it all about Nellieanna. She truly is a woman deserving of our love and admiration, she is a role model for me too and I hang on every word she leaves on my hubs. She is always positive, life-affirming and hopeful. You, my friend, possess those very same qualities, and I love reading you hubs although I don't make it here as often as I'd like. Take care Martie, and brightest blessings of the universe.


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sonia05 5 years ago from india

This is such a wonderful hub about a wonderful person who is graceful,talented, optimistic,kind,joyful,versatile and what not....the list is endless. Nellieanna is truly a special person and we all are honoured to have found her through hubpages.Thank you Martie for sharing this!! voted up!


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

marcoujor – Nellieanne is certainly the queen of poets in Hubland. I so wish she consider publishing them in e-books.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Erin LeFey – How wonderful to see you in my corner! Nellieanne’s hubs are for me like the books about fairies I’ve read as a child – absolutely fascinating. She is for me the representation of Mother Fairy, making my wishes come true. Reading her poems before putting off the lights at night is so relaxing – I fall asleep with dreams already in my mind. And yes, her comments are loaded with wisdom. So Erin, then you, too, is a cyber-daughter of Nellieanne? Now there! I’m proud to be your cyber-sibling.

I haven’t copy a structure of one of Nellieanne’s poems. Never thought of doing that. She has such a unique style! Perhaps I will try, one day, after I’ve managed to establish my own style, which seems to be unchangeable since I started to ‘commit’ poetry as a teenager. I still have a lot to learn about poetry. But I love the challenge and the opportunity to play with words.

Thanks for your visit, Erin, and your lovely comment.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

sonia05 – Welcome in my corner, and thank you so much for agreeing with me. I read Nellieanne’s poems since the day I arrived at the Hubs, and by now I’m totally addicted to them. Just like a mother feeds her children with food, Nellieanne enlightens me, and all of us, with esoteric thoughts. What amazes me is the fact that she was able to write many of those far-above-ordinary-life-poems while she was extremely stressed and unhappy, and the rest while she was extremely happy. Thanks for coming by, sonia!


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Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

Hi, Martie, your poem was wonderful, and this tribute to our lovely Nellieanna even more so, she is an amazing lady, and I think everyone on here loves her to bits! lol but seriously you have such a kind heart to, that shines through, have a great weekend and take care, nell


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Erin LeFey 5 years ago from Maryland

Martie, I'm sorry for saying that your style was the same as nellieanna's but the way the words flowed and how it made me feel was so similar. I think, dear sister, that you have inherited mother's melodic mind for poetry! Your poem is absolutely beautiful and the way it is written with the subject in the line first and then the descriptive words after, and then some that stand alone - its late here, i can't really describe it, but it rang in my mind like the little songs that Nellieanna's always bring to mind like a music box that plays in the background when I'm reading her poetry. I love you both!


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Erin LeFey -:) No need to say you’re sorry. I was not offended. Actually, I regarded your ‘suspicion’ as a compliment. We do rub off on each other. Picking up some idea here and some idea there... in the process we grow. Even when we try to copy one, our personal style will be clearly identifiable. I suppose you are very busy unpacking? Have a great day, Erin! I love you too :))


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prasetio30 5 years ago from malang-indonesia

This was a beautiful tribute to the one of the best hubbers here. Very inspiring poem. Thanks for share with us and I love James Blunt songs. Vote up.

Prasetio


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

prasetio - Thank you for coming by. It is always nice to see you in my corner, and wonderful when you agree with the contents of my hub.


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howcurecancer 5 years ago

A great poem, 5 stars rated.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Thank you, howcurecancer!


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tonymac04 5 years ago from South Africa

Good one, Martie! Nellieanna is such a wonderful artist and writer. Your tribute is beautiful. Thanks for sharing it.

Love and peace

Tony


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Thanks Tony for agreeing with me about Nellieanna. She is truly a lovely person. And so are you. It is wonderful to see you again in my corner - I feel honored. Mooi loop, my vriend!


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moneycop 5 years ago from JABALPUR

i admired today nellieanna...really thankful for having here you both...thanks for making it published


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Moneycop, welcome in my corner and for following me. I'm looking forward to read your hubs. And here's to Nellieanna, the queen of poets.


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Mentalist acer 5 years ago from A Voice in your Mind!

Both Nellieanna And This Poem Are Life Affirming Martie.;)


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Mentalist acer, your comment is deeply appreciated. Thanks a lot :)


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epigramman 5 years ago

....now there is a hub tag team if there ever was one:

the absolutely sublime Nellieanna and the hottest gal in town (and hopefully in my town, soon) Martie Coetser - who needs the Playboy Mansion when the epi-man has got women here who are stunningly beautiful and sexy but brilliant thinkers and world class writers - and that to me is sexy in itself - a lady who is independent yet sweet a lady who is tough but gentle a lady who is just like Martie and Miss N .......

lake erie time breathless for you two but if you really want to know it's 9:32pm


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Epi, can you imagine me and Nellieanne as two bunny-girls in your Playbou Mansion? Lol! Well, as long as I can write as much as I like... and do HubPages.... and listen to my favorite music... But I will not wear that silly tail... :))))

1:00am Monday - off to bed now :)


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Scarface1300 5 years ago

I enjoyed greatly your lovely poem, We only get one Mother and she should be so precious to us......... As for Nellieanna, I have only recently come across this lady and enjoyed her poetry greatly and enthused at her very intelligent and forthright critique. She seems to be an invaluable part of Hub pages and a blessing to all those who are lucky enough to entertain her...Great Hub. Voted UP UP UP


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Scarface, Nellieanne is certainly held in high esteem by all. I am sure I am not the only one who regard her as my mother in cyberspace. Thanks a lot for your kind comment.


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Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

What a beautiful tribute to a lovely lady. HubPages is indeed a close and caring community and the many close friends we make are here for life.

I often wondered what I did before HP.

Your kind and caring nature Martie shines through your words brightly.

I vote up up and awwayy here.

Here's to many more for us to share on here.

Take care my friend,

Eiddwen.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Eiddwen – It is so nice to see you in this special corner I’ve created for Nellieanne. That story about ‘Rose’ you’ve posted in FB, reminded me of Nellieanna. She is such a beautiful example for all of us. I definitely want to be like her by the time I am 60. Until then I still have a lot to change about myself.

Before HP I was a workoholic. Until late at night. Long story.... I did not allow myself to get involved with people. They were merely a responsibility I had to take care of - and cope with - to the best of my ability. But this is a long story. Here in HP I’ve discovered the me I was ages ago, before I was disappointed by Life.

Eiddwen, here’s to many more for us to share on here and elsewhere! Take care.


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vocalcoach 5 years ago from Nashville Tn.

Martie - It has been to long since I have visited your magnificent hubs. I plan to make up for that, starting now. This beautiful tribute to the stunning Nellieanna, is so lovely...I had tears in my eyes as I read it.

It takes one beautiful soul to recognize and cherish the beauty in another.

I so loved this line - "Your words are hypnotic flames of wisdom and sacred truths." Magnificent! I have voted UP and across the board. Thank you. vocalcoach


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

vocalcoach – Hi, my dearest co-hubber. I’m not blaming you for neglecting me so atrociously. Lol! No, I understand too well that we just don’t have enough time to visit all our followers. But I’m all the way aware of your presence and the lovely way you support hubbers who really need your unique words of encouragements. I also know you will do the same for me whenever I need you. I’m so glad you enjoyed this tribute to Nellieanna. Without any doubt she is a mother for many of us. Take care, my dear friend.


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ubanichijioke 5 years ago from Lagos

Outstanding! This is pure grace. Well written and classy! Wonderful!


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Ubanichijioke - I wonder what is the meaning of your name? Thanks so much for your inspiring comment. Take care!


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

Hello Martie, I first read Nellieanna's tribute to you and now I read yours. Simply wonderful. It's amazing when you find a friend in cyberspace who you bond with via your heart and not your eyes. Looking forward to following you!


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Sunshine, I've just read this poem for the first time since I've published it, and it pulled my tears. I am a sentimentalist when it comes to love... all kinds of love. It is the most awesome feeling in my heart. I love to love and hate to hate. I'm so glad we've met. See you soon.


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sligobay 4 years ago from east of the equator

Best wishes for a happy, healthy and prosperous New Year. This is a wonderful tribute to a wonderful woman, Nellieanna, your cyberMOM. I've just read Nellieanna's hub tribute to you and left a comment. All the best.


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radhikasree 4 years ago from Mumbai,India

This poem is written so lovely that your affection towards Nellieanne H. Hay is honest and pure. The way with which you compared her to the godly nature and to other precious things is immaculate. Up and beautiful.


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

radhikasree, I simply adore Nellieanne H. She is my role model, but I know I will never be as smart and classy as she.


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empire mike 4 years ago from empire, colorado

as i said


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

empire mike, I've heard you. 'Magical and mysterious' Nellieanna is indeed. I love spending time in her corner; she has restored my faith in life and love; thanks to her (and other wonderful hubbers in here) I've lost my sinister and skeptical attitude towards men and love. I truly love her in a special way and hope to be like her when I grow up :))

Oh, I will never be like her! She has qualities one has to be born with, and I was surely not born with half of them... :))

But I do love myself the way I am... Lol! I belief people rub off on each other... So I will stay close to nellieanna :))


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empire mike 4 years ago from empire, colorado

gee, i have recently had 2 female "acquaintances" tell me essentially that i am a "bad investment." between them and my ex-wife, i my attitude toward women is currently in a state of disrepair.


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empire mike 4 years ago from empire, colorado

ps: the last one to tell me that was just last week. she is a recent member of hubpages-NOT coincidentally- and said i was "mushy" because i used the term "all my love" to nellieanna. when i continuously asked her if that was a bad thing, and she evaded the question, i finally pinned her down and got her to admit that it was bad (in person). afterward she posted a comment on hp saying i'm too negative and i wasn't worth wasting her time on. apparently i should be getting drunk all the time and not taking anything seriously. i certainly don't take her seriously, i'm glad to admit. i'm glad things are better for you though, martie, with your attitudes. i know things take time. all my love!


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa Author

empire mike ~ You are at present not ‘for sale or for rent’; you are ‘in for repairs’. Don’t take the opinions of buyers and investors to heart.

If we regard other people, even our own children, as ‘investments’, we will find ourselves over and over completely bankrupt. In this life we have to give all we have – all our love, dedication, loyalty, name-it... We have to give 100% and we can but only hope to receive in return 30% of what we need. Happiness is in giving; disappointment is in receiving.

Yes, it takes a lot of time to retrieve some sense of trust and hope after you’ve lost it. They are like wild birds – once out of our hearts, they are free.... gone.... never to return...

But for me it was good riddens.... Without them I have learned how to live from day to day, from hour to hour, enjoying every minute of it with ALL my heart.

My mother’s motto finally became mine: Don’t expect anything from anybody and even not from Life (including God), and you will never be disappointed.

I may as well also end this message with ‘all my love’, because while I was writing it, you had all my attention, and therefore also all the love I am able to give you through the screen of my computer.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

This is the first hub that I read of yours!! Only 5 months ago!? No way! It feels like we've known each other for years!!:)


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manatita44 2 years ago from london

Second visit this night.

1. I see nothing wrong with your English or grammar. It is good to have a style of your own.

2. Perhaps Mother's are God's main instruments on Earth when it comes to sacrifice. You have expressed your love admirably well.

3. Your tribute to Nellieanna - a most worthy and lofty Soul - is superior to my humble poem.

4. The heart, the heart, the spiritual heart .... always the heart, and you show this excellently!


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MartieCoetser 2 years ago from South Africa Author

Hi, manatita. Thank you for your most inspiring comment. "Superior" is certainly not the correct word. Your poem (tribute to Nellieanna) has a unique angle with vibes like the arms of an octopus, touching many strings in one's heart. Take care :)


kimmie 22 months ago

Oh Martie what a beautiful tribute to our dear friend. You have capturesd Nellieanna, our Texas yellow Rose, so beautifully. I know she is beaming right now from your beautiful words.

Love and hugs

Kimmie


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Nellieanna 22 months ago from TEXAS

My dear Cyber-daughter, Martie. I've been reading this lovely hob you wrote and dedicated to me - 3 years or so ago! wow. And I like the newer picture choices you've added to it too, like the one in my Flying Dutchman Ranch cap.

We have been through a lot together and your tribute still rings true to all of that. Thank you again! And again, thanks to those who commented. Some of them are no longer in HP, sadly. It was like having another visit with them.


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MartieCoetser 22 months ago from South Africa Author

Hi Kimmie, thanks so much for agreeing with me. Yellow rose of Texas - suits our Nellieanna perfectly :)


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MartieCoetser 22 months ago from South Africa Author

Hi Nellieanna, I have done some revamping to the hub, but my feelings are still the same and even deeper. I wish you only the best for this new year of your life - the best of peace, joy and good health. Thank you so much for being you :)


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Nellieanna 18 months ago from TEXAS

Trying to refrain from further falls and injuries! ;) I so much appreciate your caring! Much love and big ole Texas hugs!


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MartieCoetser 18 months ago from South Africa Author

My dearest Cyber Mamma, Nellieanna, it's been 5 years since I've met you for the first time, and my love and respect for you are still growing deeper by the day. Just knowing that you are only a click (of a mouse) away from me, like a neighbor only a knock on the door away, is such a comforting fact. Please take good care of yourself. Okay, I know you do take care of yourself - you are such a perfect role model. But now, keeping those fragile bones and flesh in mind, being extra careful has to be a full time job. Love you so much!


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Nellieanna 18 months ago from TEXAS

Ah, Martie, yes, the closeness across thousands of miles of land and water is a privilege and a blessing!

And, yes, it is currently feeling like a full-time job, keeping self whole and going strong. But what's the point, if not being whole and going strong, preferably on one's own steam, and definitely making the best of whatever the reality may be? Making the eftort to keep the reality optimum is a worthy cause! I'm into it, as well as making the best of realities! Not much point without its being real! Reality is one's Earth-life laboratory, with all its challenges.

Love you, too, my dear, and have high respect for you as a person!

Oh, this one-finger typing guarantees many typos! I'm constantly going back correcting them and still many survive in every sentence and nearly every-other word!


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MartieCoetser 18 months ago from South Africa Author

Dearest, Nellieanna, indeed, 'reality is one's Earth-life laboratory, with all its challenges.'. Is it not a fact that in spite of whatever keeps us from being 100% contented, we always have many things to be grateful of. Suffering this constant pain caused by osteoarthritis in my hips, being actually bedridden from 2:00PM to 7:00AM, but still able to enjoy adventures that captivate my mind, I cannot see myself coping with pain in my wrists and hands. So, while empathizing with you, I thank my lucky stars :)) Hugs to you, my dear CM.


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Nellieanna 18 months ago from TEXAS

Yes we do have so much to give thanks for, whatever our difficulties and challenges. If we are alive to discontent, pain and to thought, we have the tools to seek, find and create our joys and reasons to persist where we are with courage.

I cannot see myself coping with your challenges and pain, my dear! I've been so thankful that other vulnerable bones and body parts, such as my skull, ribs, back, hips and legs - and more of my arms - were spared in that awful fall. It would literally be physically unbearable to be in bed that long as you must be, especially with the hands and wrists as they are. I sleep soundly and well for 6 to 8 hours, at maximum, before I'm awakened by hands & wrists being both numb and beginning to hurt excruciatingly, and other parts beginning to ache and cramp from poor circulation. Almost as soon as I'm up, moving around, using my hands & muscles, that pain starts to subside. Then the challenge is to do what I must do without twisting the wrists wrong & setting up more pain. Everything can hurt them. So I am thankful I don't have to stay in bed 17 or 18 hours as you're having to. How wonderful that you can & choose to enjoy those mind-capturing adventures you bring to it all, in spite of the pain and confinement. It's amazing how we adapt to the circumstances, in our upward quest for the fullest living possible .

Each our own personal situations and our intimate first-hand experiences of them, are unique to us and enable us to empathize with another's, but, even so, no one can 'know' what it is really like for someone else.

Love, smiles and big hugs, dear Martie.


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MartieCoetser 18 months ago from South Africa Author

Thank you for your lovely comment, Nellieanna. Having you in my life is such a blessing. You always encourage and inspire me. I believe we are strong and courageous for the sake of our beloveds and friends. We don't want them to worry about us, we don't want to disappoint them in any way; we want them to be proud of us - proud to call us their relative or friend. I truly want to be an asset in another's life, not a liability :) Did I mention that I have an appointment in mid-Jun with a doctor specializing in pain control? Let's hope he meets my expectations. Sending you lots of hugs - xoxoxo :)

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