NO FEAR - What Would You Do?

Way Back When.....

I remember one of the first times I felt extreme fear. Atleast if I had many "fears" before that like most kids do (like bad dreams, scary parents and horror movies) I don't remember many details! I remember that time when I was about ten years old and my mind went "wild with thoughts" and I created an adventure in about 5 minutes! It was easy....the setting, the location, the person and his strange attire and odd sandals, the big hunting knife that he carried in some sort of hip holder. It was perfect for a book titled "Little Kid Gets Slayed In Hollywood By Bad Man in Beard and a Turban" Part One...

I started to hyperventilate and before I knew it I created a VERY scary story and my little sister no longer wanted to walk to school with me! I terrified her and from that moment on, we always ran quickly by this particular house which we had to pass by every single morning. The feeling was intense and I braced myself each and every time. My sister would grab hold of me tightly since I was much bigger then her and brave. Atleast she thought so cause I had on such a brave face (I'm such a good actress)! It was classic when I think of it. I scared the CRAP out of both of us!!!! The more my imagination started to roll, the more freaked out I got! It just goes to show you how powerful our minds are!!! Just think of all the situations that we may have made "worse" at any given moment in time. I know I am guilty of it and I know many others are too. How about you?

The point is FEAR plays an important role in everything we do. The choices we make, the people we have friendships with, the intimate romantic relationships we choose or not choose to have. I know that FEAR can also turn to a sort of paranoid state. I have been there too where I make things a lot worse then they actually are. I'm not talking about important personal matters only. I'm also talking about silly things that are not important at all! Like I create things in my mind sometimes and before I know it, the time has passed and I have missed a really good opportunity. It's like I work my way into a cave sometimes.

I asked myself this question today for the hundredth time..."If You Had No Fear, What Would You Do?" I go into a sort of "release of information" that I learned from a "life coach" many years ago and write down various things I would do....like "travel more, live abroad, perform more in Europe, go on an adventure, finish all the projects I have been developing for television, start shooting for magazines again, FINALLY give into a record label that has been hassling me for years, learn "Russian and French," and I could write down a million other things to pursue......THEN I say "See? You are doing most of these things already!!!!!! But the point is YES I am doing quite a few of these things and I am really VERY impatient! I know I need to follow through and bring these things to some sort of final stage where I'm going to get to the next level....

Did I tell you that I still have not spent three consecutive nights in the bath tub REALLY thinking about what I want to do in my life? And my life coach told me to do this in 2004?

So I go on with my life doing a hundred different things and then.....IT HAPPENS.....MY MIND STARTS PLAYING TRICKS ON ME! And somehow before I know it, I talk myself out of it!!!!!!!! I never fully succeed though and I still finish projects and get paid for them. Thank God!!! BUT, if I didn't go through this "Create a scary story scenario," I may get a lot more done or make a lot more money!!! Or atleast I would get everything done more quickly!!! Maybe not? Maybe this is a sort of "protection mechanism." Maybe my gutt is telling me something is not quite right? Have you ever hesitated on something and not know exactly WHY? I HAVE!!!!!! When this happens I just decide to do nothing for a while. This seems to work when I relieve the pressure and give myself a break. Maybe disappear for a while and do some really good thinking. If you ever get to this place, just take a break. Like I will on Tuesday of this week where I promised I would disappear into "I will do NOTHING mode."

SO, I guess I wrote this today to make you think. Just like I do. Does your mind play tricks on you? Do you talk yourself out of everything or some things? Do you create a bigger problem then it actually is? Think about it. We all do it. FEAR changes things and keeps you from moving forward and can also turn people into hermits or create scenarios that are not really healthy. FEAR can make you stay in toxic relationships or friendships.

So before you disappear cause of a deep seeded FEAR, just remember to come out of your cave and enjoy the sunshine! Just get yourself out there and the rest will follow.

Gx

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IslandVoice 5 years ago from Hawaii

Don't we all deal with fear? Yes, our mind can and does play tricks on us,if we let it. I think the key, is how to control it, so it works for us, rather than against us. When it goes crazy on me, i have learned to 'shut it off', and like you, divert my attention to more positive activities, like going out and enjoying the sunshine. Fear can be destructive, but it can also be a driving force to make us more creative and productive. A wonderful hub! Best to you G!


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Pamela99 5 years ago from United States

At one time in my life fear was almost paralyzing due to the the problems I was living with but I did get out of that situation eventually. I got help from some different sources and fear hasn't controlled my life for many years now. One of the main reasons is I now have strong faith.

I think your hub is excellent and many people will identify with this problem.


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prasetio30 5 years ago from malang-indonesia

This was another great hub from you, Gina. With your kind heart, you spread love to the world. Your beautiful word so relaxing. Very inspiring hub. I thought we all have fear. Phobia is kind of fear. But the most important thing is how to control our fear and stay positive. I heard many times that fear came from negative thinking. The world has a power to share positive energy. This help us to control our emotion and I believe this could eliminate our fear. If I don't have fear, I can't be a humble person. I will be a selfish guy and always underestimate others. I don't want to be like this. With a lot of pray, help me to control my fear. Thanks for writing this. Rated up. God bless you.

Love and peace,


Serious Richard 5 years ago

Fear.

Well where do I begin? It's a survival mechanism that ensures survival when we are faced with an external threat. This is different from anxiety which is something we feel even in the absence of an external threat. Fear requires escape in keeping with fight or flight but anxiety is based on a threat we cannot control. But what both things have in common I guess is whilst they may sometimes be a response to the present they are both concerned with questions like "what happens next" or "what if" - future consequences - hence when we feel fear we always IMAGINE the worst is about to happen and things assume larger proportions in our mind.

I have been in fearful situations and I came to realise that it was my imagination, or lack of it, that kept me trapped by fear. The key, for me, is to embrace and make friends with the imaginary fear because it is after all YOUR imagination. More often than not I find myself thinking once the fear has been faced - "what the hell was I afraid of?"

So, now that I am beyond fear - Liz, order me another Azteca baby, with a root beer!


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

Thank you IV! I like the idea of "fear" being a "driving force." A different way of looking at it. Always nice to see you here! Best, G


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

pamela....thank you for being here and sharing your past experiences. I always enjoy hearing from you. Like you I have a lot of "faith." I also have tried to stay clear of quite a few unhealthy situations. All the best, G


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

prasetio! I appreciate what you said here A LOT! Like you.. I put my heart on the page in my writing. I like what you said about "positive thinking." I really appreciate what you said about being "humble" when it comes to fear. I am so happy that you are here prasetio! You bring such a positive light to everyone you touch....thank you for being you!!!!.....G


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

Lovey..you are so serious in your comment! I "fear that you have been waiting for me a bit too long today! All kidding aside, you are right what you say here darling. So, let's embrace the "imaginary fear!" AND enjoy our meal!!!!! Spicy for sure!!!!!!! Love, Lizzzzzzzzzzz x


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James A Watkins 5 years ago from Chicago

Yes, many folks do play it safe because they fear risks. I only fear suffering. I don't suffer well. Other than that, I have no fear. Great article. I surely agree with you.


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

JAMES! I missed your comment on my damn blackberry!!! How annoying!!! I am always sooooo happy to see you here! I fear suffering too like many......I'm glad you agree with me.

Thank you for your comment...I hope you are well!!!!! Best, G

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