No Name, No Face, No History

      There are many things I would like to talk about. My name is not one of them though; neither is my appearance and to know my past, one would have to be a good fellow, perhaps a friend for decades. I once heard that an English man will have many friends over the course of a lifetime. Depending on jobs, location of domicile and such, an English man will change his/her list of friends. An Italian man on the other hand, will have a handful of friends for life. For Italians, friends are simply extended family. I am of that latter category: I confide only in people whom I have known for long periods of time. The Latin blood runs strong.

      When I write for an audience, I prohibit from using my birth given name. I do not post a biography and I do not go into very personal details. For one who does not know me fully, what would be the point in throwing-in a few lonely facts? It would create a bias within the reader that might influence his/her reading of my material. One shall either know me for who I really am or know very little about me. I think the latter option works best.

      I also do not put myself out-there because I do not enjoy spot-lights. Have you ever stood on a podium with spot-lights? You cannot see your audience or even recall your own thoughts because the lights focused on you seem to only have one purpose: to blind the speaker … too much is too much in my opinion. I can give speeches all day, minus the lights. Generally, I like sitting to the side, where I can enjoy my surroundings by simply watching the flow of Life. If I am alone I savor the sunlight; in public I’ll take the shaded corner.

      There is another reason why I do not give out personal information and it has to do with some of my personal philosophy. My thinking has been greatly influenced by German philosophers such as Friedrich Nietzsche, Arthur Schopenhauer and Immanuel Kant. To this day, I honor the importance Kant’s categorical imperative.

      "Act only according to that maxim whereby you can, at the same time, will that it should become a universal law."

      I usually like to help-out as much as I can. Friends and family can call on me at any time of day or night if needed and I will do my best to be supportive. Yet, we should all be helpful for our family and friends. That is a given. Therefore, I go a step further and help-out strangers, people I see for a short period of time (perhaps even just a few minutes) and never see again after. When I stop to give a hand or whatever is needed to a stranger I happen to pass by or come in contact with, I call that “an act of random goodness”. I help for the sake of helping. I do not need a donation receipt; I don’t want a ribbon, a sticker or my name engraved anywhere … I just want to help if I can then, I will keep going wherever I was going. There is no need for me to give-out a name; I do not even require a thank you although it would be appreciated.

      When Red Cross and Greenpeace send me booklets, calendars and all sorts of other stuff, I wish they stopped spending the money on packaging, stamps and the rest. I do not donate because I want or need a calendar. I donate because I want to donate. I do appreciate their effort though and some of the calendars I have received from the Red Cross have actually been of Nature in Canada, which I do like.

      I got carried away as usual. The point I was trying to make is that labels such as our names, or shapes such as our looks, are really non-important and inconsequential. It is who we are as individuals and what we do through our actions that really matters. Everything else is extra.

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junko 5 years ago

Happy: God don't make personal appearances he use people to do his will on earth. The good done on earth is by mankind,those that serve are blessed to serve, and glad to serve. It makes them feel good all over.


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Darlene Sabella 5 years ago from Hello, my name is Toast and Jam, I live in the forest with my dog named Sam ...

Hello Mr. Happy, first thing about personal names, this famous writer once told me that if you want to work as a writer or become known for your writing, you must use your name. So that is why I do. Also, I relate to everything you wrote about, I am so much like you in so many ways, yet I do get personal in my writing. I share my thoughts and feeling behind my experiences and ideas. However your way is the smartest way I do agree. Excellent hub, I enjoyed reading it and I love the English I am half English and half Italian, and now that I am old, I really don't mind what people see or think of me, I stepped out of the dark shadows and I finally found my voice, I was so shy all my life and now I am a Hawk...rate this up, great job and thank you love & peace Darski


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Mr. Happy 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank you for stopping by again Mr. Junko. I appreciate your words. Cheers!

Mrs. Darlene, I am not sure if my way is smarter than any other way but I need no fame right now so, Mr. Happy works for me (it's a nickname I have had for over a decade). I am also not shy at all, I just like my peace and quietness.

Thank you very much for your comment and time. All the best!


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stclairjack 5 years ago from middle of freekin nowhere,... the sticks

loved it,... its the world as it should be, and rarely is.

i'm the one with the tow chains and the jumper cables,.. and they say thank you and i drive away before they get my name,...they ask what they owe me and i tell 'em to pass it on.(unless they were pains in the ass, then i make 'em buy me a soda)


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lmmartin 5 years ago from Alberta and Florida

My name and appearance is not me either, though I admit a lifetime of use has made me fond of Lynda and I think of myself by that term. You are Mr. Happy to me, though I do know your other name. I haven't a clue how you look, but I have an image in my imagination, much like a character in a book. I know you through your words here and our private correspondence. You know me the same way, and as for appearance, you probably think of my avatar -- who is not me, but represents how I may see myself.

Unfortunately, we live in a society obsessed with outer image. Perhaps that's what makes our Internet friends special. The images we attach to them have nothing to do with reality, and for a change, we focus on the contents of the packaging, so to speak. Good hub and food for thought. Lynda


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Amy Becherer 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Beautiful hub, Mr. Happy, and very thought provoking. I have put myself "out there" all my life. Most instances have been disappointing. We all come from different genetic, cultural, familial backgrounds and personal experience. This package influences the way we operate in the world. Many times I have felt that relationships are motivated by an individual selfish, delusional drive to achieve an agenda, often at the expense of another person. In complete contrast to your path in the world, I have felt used in many ways and when I wake up and smell the coffee, I am blamed as the "bad guy" for my decision to act according to my own path. When, in truth, honesty does not fulfill the vampire's plan. And why are my plans less important? Because the love professed by the other is self serving. That is not love. I am happy living alone. I will continue to be open to connections to others, however. An honest, mutual connection remains my single most, awe inspiring, joyous experience in life. It only takes one! I admire your independent, but generous soul. There is truth and beauty in your selectivity. Thank you for sharing your inspirational, heartfelt, genuine piece.


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Micky Dee 5 years ago

Great hub again. I "put myself out there" all the time as I've always had to prove what I've said is true. I do love anonymity though! Yes sir! Anonymity has a lot going for it. Sometimes pride leads is to promote ourselves. Pride is before the fall. Great write!


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ImChemist 5 years ago

I like this hub its very informative and i rated it useful.


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DynamicS 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

Great hub, Mr Happy. You have made some interesting statements and I agree with you whole heartedly. Image is over rated. I'm with you about anonymity.


Multiman 5 years ago

Good article!


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Mr. Happy 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Mr./Mrs. Dynamics and Mr. Multiman, thank you for taking the time to read my rant and comment. My apology for not allowing your comments sooner - I was out of the country for a week.

All the best!


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bbnix 5 years ago from Southern California

I live by my heart and will call you friend.

This is a very important moment in history. All is at risk and the messages we hear are very little of what's to be done.

I do not have a voice and I am of no consequence, but I do know about caring. It is magnificent to help those in need, but there are billions. As important (if not more), there is our planet and its precious creatures, an intolerable number being destroyed as we speak. .

For the first time in the existence of humankind, there now exists the tools and knowledge to do something about it.

No one person or people can prevail. It is time for a new people that embraces all and through careful consideration, resource management and a new vision of the future, we can save everything (except the destructive forces).

Those forces that oppose what needs to be done are masters of propaganda, so that must be the start, a message.

You, my friend, share in that message of change, and I am, in my little part of many to come, here to join you....


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Rani Singh 5 years ago from Australia

This is good writing and I can relate to a lot of what you're saying. There is a lot in a name, be it your own, a nickname, or a name someone else has given you. The act of naming things is a complex process of signification, and we should always be looking for more than what is presented to us on the surface.


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gg.zaino 5 years ago from L'America

Well said Happy- I also being of Italian descent, understand your reluctance.

not to necessarily put yourself out there; not exactly a sense of mistrust, but more one of caution and answer when called upon.

A handful of close friends, or family members, standing by my death mat would be a fine accomplishment.

Let 'Good' be done for the sake of the goodness that dwells in all. reaching out for those who are in need is neither noble nor the moral thing to do, but instead the only thing to do... expecting nothing in return is righteous- is truly a gift to thyself.

peace paisano ~ gregorio


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Mr. Happy 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank you for your comment Mr. GG.Zaino. I am not Italian but I am Latin, as Latin as one can be. My ancestors, the Dacian and Thracian people mixed with the Romans, thousands of years ago and now we call ourselves Romanians.

Like Italians though, I tend to be overly-passionate, talk loud, with my entire body and I love red wine!

One of the people I look up to is Mother Theresa although, I am not religious in any way. I only pray to the Great Spirit and attend churches when I can find them empty. I expect nothing in return when I chose to help, many do not understand this and always try to look for a double meaning behind my actions. I believe in Kant's categorical imperative! The only thing that matters is the truth and I am the definition of loyalty.

Salut!


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Jangaplanet 5 years ago

Great hub! and very well written.


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Mr. Happy 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank you Mr. Jangaplanet, I kinda ran with this one.


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tonymac04 5 years ago from South Africa

Excellent! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on these matters. I agree about the packaging and other fancy stuff that Greenpeace and the rest use - but I think they are competing in a very competitive market and so feel they have to do those things.

Love and peace

Tony


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Mr. Happy 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank you for stopping by Mr. Tony.

On the issue of Greenpeace, they are not doing so well. Memberships are being canceled daily. I just doubled my monthly contribution because of that. They really should stop spending money on little things. Their effort is needed on a grander scale.

Have a great day!


mikeq107 5 years ago

Love it..I have only about 5 really close friends and it has been work but well worth it..for as I once heard a man say...

"A friend is someone who comes in when the rest of the world has gone out"

Btw My wife has that wonderful Latino Blood she is from Argentina and I`m from the green blooded country of Ireland and our cultures are very similar and we have a very passionate realationship which is what God Intended real life to be all about...Great Hub!!!!

Mike :0)


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Mr. Happy 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

I love that quote Mr. Mike. Thank You for the great words You have left me. All the best to You!


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kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

Dear M-W-Y: I got your name shortened - so it is only between you and me.

I agree with you - it is all a matter of perspective - and personal preferences.

If you don't want to have a name, or face or history - fine by me.

You know I don't hunt people down. I allow people having their extravagances - even though my opinion may be drastically different from yours on the subject of names and identities.

I don't feel too exposed, I don't think anybody is interested in me even if they know my name, my face and my history. To push "myself" onto others - to "brand" is a costly adventure. I am not doing it.

I just exist in My Universe, where I am the Center - that is how it works. For everyone, spotlight or no spotlight.


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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

You are an intriguing man. I, being of Italian background, have a few trusted friends, but share bits and pieces of myself on HP-it is the nature of my writing. Thanks for this intersting hub.


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Spirit Whisperer 5 years ago from Isle of Man

I like the hub and what you stand for. I like the way you write from the heart and and actually reveal a lot about yourself personally by doing this. Regardless of what information you provide people will make up a meaning for you and that is just human nature. A wise man once told me:

There are three I's. The I you think you are. The I others think you are and the I you really are.

Thank you for another great read.


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Mr. Happy 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

I realize here, that I failed to give thanks to Kallini and Denise Handlon for stopping-by to read and comment. Not nice of me, I apologize for that - I do appreciate it. Thank you.

And thank you as well Mr. Spirit Whisperer. About the "I", I really am ... "I" does not define It - It is beyond words, in my opinion. Cheers!


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Fennelseed 5 years ago from Australia

I also can relate, I think there many people who cling to the importance of names, because thats all they have, but then there are people who are extremely proud of their names and use it at every opportunity. I don't use my name here on hub pages and I do write very personal stuff as my writing is an enormous release for me after losing a loved one, but there have been a few times when fellow hubbers have moved me so much with their compassion and I feel compelled to respond with my real name.

But I agree, a name doesn't define us at all and it along with our appearance are just extras, as you say. I really like your style of writing.


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Mr. Happy 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank you again for your kind words Mr./Mrs. Fennelseed.

I agree with you that "writing is an enormous release" - in general, I would say. In my opinion, I get to learn about myself and others through my writing and through the comments left on my blogs from people such as you.

I do think the comments are price-less and I cannot be thankful enough for them and the people that take their time to write them.

All the best. cheers!


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Sustainable Sue 4 years ago from Altadena CA, USA

Hi Mr. Happy - I was browsing through your writings because of the comment you wrote on my Occupy hub and came across this one. It's interesting how people's backgrounds motivate them to handle their lives in different ways. I use my own photograph, but not my own name (for some reason). I started writing on Hubpages because my family doesn't listen to me much - I'm too political (I guess) and go into too much detail (i.e. I really think about the topics I'm interested in). Writing here gives me the audience I need, so I don't go crazy with all these unspoken thoughts.

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