Of Love and Loss

It's not seeing you with someone else

Nor is it witnessing your affection for another

I know that it is not all about myself

And your happiness I'd never want to smother

Anyway, it's not the kind of love to covet

Nor is it a matter of being jealous

More like a treasure covered in torn fine velvet

My heart is simply feeling the value of its loss

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Jodah 20 months ago from Queensland Australia

I can feel the love and loss. Well expressed Shanmarie, in so few words. Voted up.


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whonunuwho 20 months ago from United States

Nice work my friend and heartfelt. whonu


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billybuc 20 months ago from Olympia, WA

Very lovely work!


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Ericdierker 20 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

A very touching piece of art, thank you


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shanmarie 20 months ago from Texas Author

Thanks, Jodah. Concise is good. ;)


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shanmarie 20 months ago from Texas Author

Thank you, whonu. I've definitely felt like that a few times in my life. Unless one is hateful or vindictive, it is probably not an uncommon feeling.


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shanmarie 20 months ago from Texas Author

Thanks, Bill. Glad you enjoyed it.


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shanmarie 20 months ago from Texas Author

Happy to see you, Eric. Sometimes the words thag flow out apoetic form say more than I ever could rattling off otherwise.


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manatita44 20 months ago from london

Short, touching, philosophical but very wise. Higher blessings.


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Faith Reaper 20 months ago from southern USA

Wow, Dear Shan, beautifully expressed. Sometimes less words is truly best!

Up ++++ tweeting, pinning, G+ and sharing

(((Hugs))) and God bless


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shanmarie 20 months ago from Texas Author

Hi Manatita. Yes, it occurs to me that there can be at least two ways to interpret this piece. But philosophy is good exercise for the mind. ;) Thank you.


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shanmarie 20 months ago from Texas Author

Thank you, beautiful Faith. I miss you. I'll have to try to find time to read more around HP town.


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tillsontitan 20 months ago from New York

Sad but beautiful. Only a gracious heart could handle things so well.

Voted up, awesome, and interesting.


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shanmarie 20 months ago from Texas Author

Thanks, but I find that grace sometimes comes after the fact when things are more objectively looked at.


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Faith Reaper 20 months ago from southern USA

Oh, sweetie, I have not been able to publish anything here of late, but I am working on an attempt of flash fiction ...

Hugs


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shanmarie 20 months ago from Texas Author

Flash fiction is fun, or so I recently found out with Bill's mountain challenge. But I also find that it, like a poem, must come to me on its own. Practically write itself. LOL. Otherwise it won't get done. I'm having a hard time with my novel. I am sure your flash fiction attempt will be great.


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Gypsy Rose Lee 20 months ago from Riga, Latvia

Lovely and very expressive.


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shanmarie 20 months ago from Texas Author

Thanks, Rasma. How nice to see you.


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Oscarlites 20 months ago from Alabama

shan marie// so if we experience it again, we must love before the loss, right? then, that, is the fear of most women is it not? to love again. Do us guys entertain the same fears? I wonder. or is it just in the finding of the right one?


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shanmarie 19 months ago from Texas Author

Hmmm, Oscarlites. Good question. I don't think it is the fear of loving again that is an issue. It's the fear of loss because that pain is like none other. And especially if it is the loss of a lover, it is darn near unbearable at times. Though I can speak from experience as well as quote another friend on saying that sometimes losing a friend is worse than losing a lover. Or just as traumatic. It depends on the closeness of the person, I think. But, as the saying goes, it is better to have loved and to have lost than never to have loved at all.


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MsDora 19 months ago from The Caribbean

Beautifully expressed! Even the lover would have to agree!


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shanmarie 19 months ago from Texas Author

Thanks, MsDora! I hope all is well with you.


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MartieCoetser 19 months ago from South Africa

Oh, but losses are so terribly painful. But we have to determine the real cause of our pain. We have to realize that we actually own nothing. Even our life could be taken away in a second. All we can do is appreciate and cherish what we have with all of our heart as long as we have it.


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shanmarie 19 months ago from Texas Author

I'm no stranger to loss by theft, fire, and other means. Your words are true as can be. No, we own nothing, especially not people. We can enjoy it while it is there, whatever it is. But it still sometimes hurts when it is gone. It's the sentiment of it.


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always exploring 19 months ago from Southern Illinois

Losing something or someone is painful at the time, but life goes on and their memory fades. New horizons are waiting to be explored. In my case it was worse losing a friend than a lover..


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shanmarie 19 months ago from Texas Author

Aw, Ruby. I understand that. It depends on closeness and a friend is so very different than a lover, unless the lover truly was a best friend, in which case it is just as hard. I suppose it also depnds on how the loss occurred.


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Oscarlites 19 months ago from Alabama

I agree.. I was married quite a few years and I felt a long lasting loss on quite a few levels. - on the other hand, since then, I have known someone closely for just a couple years and though it might hurt deep it was not equal to the long term loss of marriage, friendship, shared ministry, parenthood, and other loss included in that length of a relationship. It does take time to grow deep roots. note: elements included feelings of betrayal, deceit, etc. as well.


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shanmarie 19 months ago from Texas Author

Sorry to hear that, Oscar. At least it eventually gets easier.


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LadyFiddler 19 months ago from Somewhere in the West

Shan I've gotten so out of it with love I don't care for it too many lying bastards running around out there breaking people's heart. Mines was broken once back in 2007 and I deemed to myself it will never be broken again. I've built up a wall around love a very high one. It's lost and I don't care to find it back :)


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shanmarie 19 months ago from Texas Author

Hi Lady! Please don't give up on love. It's all around. Sure, romantic love is often harder to find, but it exists. And there is love in a friend and a family member. Even a total stranger showing compassion to someone else.


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Oscarlites 19 months ago from Alabama

- The irony is, that love is the highest of all powers.. the highest of all emotions, yet sometimes the most fragile. Love indeed has to be something we possess and own regardless of what others do. We love our children regardless of what they do. I know in my case, I have only just now learned, from a talk show or somewhere, that in my marriage relationship, I shoulda found a place years ago to show her, my ex now, that I WAS going to make mistakes and let her down.. IF she reciprocated, which by the time we divorced, she was not willing, yet if she had, we would have gotten past the mistakes and the let downs.. for proof is that in some peoples lives, they have came to that crux, that crossroads, and settled the issue, and went on living and loving.. .. anyway how's that for a two dollar confession?


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shanmarie 19 months ago from Texas Author

It's true of any relationship, Oscar, even nonromantic ones. I don't ask for apologies but rarely, however, in such instances I think apologies and forgiveness go a long, long way toward resolving those things.


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Oscarlites 19 months ago from Alabama

yes, indeed, you are right, that is what we expect, from someone we think is like us, but indeed again, they are not like us, so they think different, and perhaps can't resolve the issues with apology or forgiveness. they perhaps might instead be angry, or unforgiving, even of themselves, and just cannot react the way we need them to. So voila! a cataclysm.. so we are going to be left standing somewhere out in the cold. Sometimes, though they try to give you what you want, and miserably fail, for reasons they or even you cannot control. So sometimes we can't make our own happiness work , or theirs, or anyone's, and there is left the awkward atmosphere. and both feel they failed. So the only option seen is from us, demanding change from them, and they conclude finally after days, after months perhaps their need of departure, or change in other ways than what are conciliatory. and everyone they ask or confide in, complicates it further..

and then suddenly they might be gone, and we're left.. are we left because they disliked us? no, but maybe because they felt inside themselves they could not make you happy.. maybe in some cases its low self esteem on their part.. but my studies of my own life and relationship makes a strong case that we can never see or realize their self inadequacy, that they would have done anything in the world to please us, but in trial and error, they begin bearing the sense of failure, and they seek an escape route.. - their low self worth not even then visible to us, for they can't afford to let us see it.. they are giving us a better life by leaving however, in their mind. -- or the quantam leap to the conclusion that we just did not live up to what they expected, and why I proposed the preceding argument of revealing our humanness and agreeing to adjust, and to get past our differences. Only If two agree to accept each others flaws can two paint on the same canvas.. only if they can feel each other improving each stroke, affirming each other... I'll leave it for you to continue with you own definitions, these are mine, but I'm leaving them on your canvas..


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shanmarie 19 months ago from Texas Author

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Oscar. I agree with much of what you said, especially the first part. I suppose it is only natural to want to make sense of "what went wrong."


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Frida Rose 19 months ago from Maryland

I can relate to this poem. Not feeling jealous about someone moving on, but feeling the pain of them missing from your life. You expressed the feeling beautifully.


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shanmarie 19 months ago from Texas Author

Exactly, Frida. Thank you. I appreciate you coming to read.


Lee Cloak 19 months ago

A brilliant piece of poetry, really splendid, beautifully written, thanks for sharing, best wishes, Lee


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shanmarie 19 months ago from Texas Author

Brilliant? Wow! What can I say to that? Thank you. I appreciate your kind compliments. Glad you enjoyed it.


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Oscarlites 19 months ago from Alabama

she loves me, she loves me not.. she loves me, she loves me not.. she loves me? well, anyway, what a great hub!


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shanmarie 19 months ago from Texas Author

Haha. Don't we tend to pick things apart when we hurt, looking for answers that can't be found? Like the daisy petals. . .

Thanks for returning, Oscar.


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LadyFiddler 19 months ago from Somewhere in the West

Hi Shan,

Good Morning

Short and Sweet poem , I like it, Do have a wonderful day :)


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AudreyHowitt 19 months ago from California

Lovely write--I feel every word of this


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shanmarie 19 months ago from Texas Author

Thanks, LadyFiddler. Glad you like it.


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shanmarie 19 months ago from Texas Author

Aw, Audrey. Thank you.

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