Need Some 'Alone' Time? That's Okay - "PAEAN TO SOLITUDE", a Poem

Precious "me" Time

A cozy sofa and new magazine await my undivided attention....
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Sometimes people just need time alone, and that's all right.






Some days aren’t made for sharing

They’re meant for self alone

These times brook no intrusion

I hold them for my own



I have the need within me

to seek a private space,

somewhere I’m happy by myself

confronted by no human face

Alone--but Not Lonely

Don't need to see anyone else right now...thank you.
Don't need to see anyone else right now...thank you. | Source

My friends all understand me

They’re hurt not by my flight,

but respect my wish for freedom

as my undisputed right

And when indulgent isolation

has once again fulfilled

my need for such seclusion,

and my sense of self has healed

Then I’ll emerge from cloister

and conform once more to life

refreshed from my alone-ness

and equipped to cope with strife.


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Enjoying time spent with other people

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fpherj48 13 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Jaye...Hey girlfriend, where has this oldie been hiding? It's great. I love it. As one who who treasures her alone time, I'm right there with you, in each line of your enjoyable poem!...Peace, Paula


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JayeWisdom 13 months ago from Deep South, USA Author

Michael-Milec - Thank you so much for your very kind comments. It is obvious that you understand the real need for solitude, especially when getting in touch with your inner self. I'm glad you enjoyed the poem.

Yes, it is sad that we lost Frank, an excellent writer and good friend.

Regards,

Jaye


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Michael-Milec 13 months ago

Hello JayeWisdom.

What a great discovery finding you at another author's comment and meeting you at this meaningful poem complimenting to life's genuine need to have time 'alone'. It is more normal than weird (as I was wondering by now) to have time ' alone' for myself, yet not lonely while listening to my spirit- inner me, possible to do only in a total solitude. Additionally, two lengthy of your responses to above comments, gave me insight in area I am learning to know more, more to appreciate every author as a divine gift while journeying together. Made me though sad finding out that Frank is not with us anymore...

May the Lord bless you.


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JayeWisdom 2 years ago from Deep South, USA Author

Audrey - I'm glad you can relate to this poem about the need for solitude. I feel sad for those people who don't like themselves enough to be alone at all. Regular 'me time' helps recharge our mental batteries so we can enjoy all aspects of our lives. Thanks for sharing this hub. Jaye


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brakel2 2 years ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

Hi Jaye Sometimes things pile up and brain goes on overload, and the body needs peace and alone time. Your poem and its words convey this message and make you feel as if you deserve this time and need it. Sometimes, as you say, people can take a rest from others, especially if "you have stressful relatives". It is so relaxing, and you put it so well. Thank you for sharing these words. Sharing this hub. Blessings, Audrey


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JayeWisdom 3 years ago from Deep South, USA Author

Au fait - Thanks for the vote and your insightful feedback. I think true "loners" either don't like the company of other people or don't connect with people at all. The real loner is more likely to be a recluse who avoids companionship altogether.

The other end of the spectrum is the person who cannot stand to be alone for even a few minutes. This individual experiences panic if not surrounded by others or in the company of at least one other person at all times. This avoidance of aloneness may be caused by low self-esteem, or it may be a neurosis. I find it sad.

Then, there are those of us who enjoy the company of others yet don't need to be around people constantly to be content. We enjoy a bit of "breathing space." One must feel comfortable in her or his own skin in order to enjoy periods of solitude. This need for some time alone doesn't prevent us from pleasant interaction with people at other times. Before my retirement, I spent at least 60 hours a week surrounded by and interacting frequently with people. I also had a social life, so scheduled "me time" was really necessary for me to retain my mental equilibrium.

A long-ago memory popped into my mind while I was writing about the person who can't abide being alone. When I was a young married woman, my (then) husband's young cousin--about 13 or 14 years of age--came to stay with us for a few days. The boy followed me around the house almost constantly, talking. The only respite I had was when my husband came home from work and the youth's attention switched to him for a while. I can even recall the boy standing in the hallway outside the bathroom (door locked!) and talking loudly to me until I came out. I felt exhausted by the end of his visit. This is an extreme example, but it illustrates the anxiety some people feel when left alone with themselves.

Thanks for the read. Have a good weekend!

Jaye


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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas

A wonderful poem and so well written. I like your choice of words.

I am one of those dreaded loners. You know how 'loner' is said in such an accusatory way when someone commits a heinous crime and the news reporter discovers that s/he was a loner (usually it's a man). I wonder sometimes if they are not true loners but can't find companionship and so they commit their crime out of frustration, loneliness, and resentment.

I have so much to do all the time and I get plenty of companionship at work. Voted up!


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JayeWisdom 3 years ago from Deep South, USA Author

Thank you, dreamseeker...I'm glad my poem about solitude resonated with you. Some people can't bear to be alone, but others--such as you and I--do need a bit of space.

Regards,

Jaye


dreamseeker2 3 years ago

I can totally relate to this poem. I am one grump when I don't get my space. Much better when I do...then its okay to be around people again. Thanks for such an awesome poem!! Voted it up, of course!


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JayeWisdom 3 years ago from Deep South, USA Author

KoffeeKlatch Gals....I think there are probably a lot of us who need our solitude, no matter how much we care about other people. Having some "me" time allows us to be better companions when we are around others.

Thanks for reading and commenting.

Jaye


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 3 years ago from Sunny Florida

I love to nspend time with my friends and family however, I have a great need for alone time.Your peotry described it perfectly. Up and awesome.


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JayeWisdom 3 years ago from Deep South, USA Author

Thanks, Wayne...A cup of java and the keyboard make 'alone' time very enjoyable...JAYE

Theresa... Before I retired from my 'real' career, I interacted with people 50-60 hours per week. The time I carved out for myself of what was left over helped me recharge my mental batteries. That's very important for maintaining one's equilibrium. Thanks for the read.

JAYE


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phdast7 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Good Evening Jaye. A very good poem, and boy do I agree with your conclusions and the poem's sentiments. I love my time with family, friends, students, but I really need regular time alone too. You hot the proverbial nail square on the head. Hope all is well. Theresa


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wayne barrett 3 years ago from Clearwater Florida

Very nice. I do love my alone time. Especially early in the morning with a cup of coffee and my keyboard.


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JayeWisdom 3 years ago from Deep South, USA Author

JenniferEve...Somehow I missed notification of your comment about this poem (I'm embarrassed) months ago. I'm so sorry. Thanks for reading and I'm glad you identified with my sentiments about solitude. JAYE

justsilvie...It's so true that you can be lonely in a crowd, but not lonely when alone if you like your own company. There are many people who cannot bear to be alone, but crave people around them all the time. I'm not one of them! Thanks for reading...JAYE

Audrey...Thank you so much for your kind comment. I'm glad you enjoyed these lines. JAYE

torrilynn...Thanks so much for the read and the vote. I'm happy you liked this poem. I don't write a lot of poetry, but the poems I've written came straight from my heart. JAYE


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torrilynn 3 years ago

nice poem Jaye

i absolutely love poems and I really

did enjoy reading yours

Voted up


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AudreyHowitt 3 years ago from California

I so enjoyed this! Well written and so very true for many of us I think!


Justsilvie 3 years ago

You captured the feeling of being alone and not lonely, I love that time also. Lovely poem.


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jennifereve110 4 years ago from New York

What a nice poem. I like to spend my time alone when i am upset or tied from daily routine work. I like this poem. Thanks Jaye


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JayeWisdom 4 years ago from Deep South, USA Author

Thank you so much, Linda. I'm so happy when someone who appreciates and needs some "me time" reads and relates to this poem. I'm glad it spoke to you.

Jaye


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lrc7815 4 years ago from Central Virginia

What a statement this is. I crave time alone and have learned to seize it. It is critical to my well being. My personal philosophy is that until one has learned to be alone and happy with only themselves, then they cannot possibly be happy with another. I love this poem and am going to print it and post here in front of my monitor as a reminder of it's importance. I will share it also. Voted up and awesome.


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JayeWisdom 4 years ago from Deep South, USA Author

Hi, Frank....I'm glad you enjoyed the poem. It's odd, but reading these verses again makes me realize they described me more accurately a few years ago than they do today. Perhaps it's the fact that I'm growing older, but I feel the need for solitude less than I did when younger and frequently surrounded by people--most of them making demands on my time.

I still spend a lot of hours without other human company, but I can't say I'm actually alone. My dog is usually close by, and she gives the appearance of listening when I talk to her. Ha!

One of my adult sons is "in and out" around here, and he frequently helps me with yard work and repairs to "this ol' house" that I can't do myself. I don't know how I'd manage without him. Other family members and a few friends pop in occasionally for coffee and chat.

The phone, email and online friends I've made on HubPages provide the human interaction I need to avoid feeling lonely. Still, I realize I've become too much a homebody--not quite a recluse, but close enough to guard against the tendency. I keep telling myself "I've got to get out more!" : ) I will likely listen to my own advice more when this heat wave breaks and getting out means cooler air and more comfort. I look forward to autumn, which has always been my favorite season.

I've found since my (early, enforced) retirement that the younger generation stay as busy and involved as I was for decades, so our communication is often limited mostly to phone calls and brief emails. When I do get to spend "face time" with them, I cherish every moment.

You see, our lives keep evolving as our circumstances change. My strong need for occasional solitude lifted when solitude became the rule rather than the exception! I no longer have to carve out time and place for being alone, so it's not as valuable. Make sense?

I like what you said about developing friendships with your fictional characters. They do seem to take on a realistic life, don't they? I haven't finished a short story lately, but when I'm writing one I become fond of some characters and pleased with others.

I must catch up on your recent writing and that of some other favorite HP writers. For the past couple of weeks I've been very involved in (1) my dog's health crisis (now improving) and (2) an editing project (now completed) to stay abreast of all the 'newest and best' to be found on HP.

Have a great day, my friend.....JAYE


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J. Frank Dunkin 4 years ago from Foley, Alabama

Hi Jaye. Loved this poem. Voted up, awesome and beautiful. My issue at this age seems opposite from the one you stated in this poem. It's not that I want to be alone - I just am, and I've learned that I can develop friendships with the characters of my stories and poems. Great job here, Miss!


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JayeWisdom 5 years ago from Deep South, USA Author

Hi, Merlin...People who cannot bear to ever be alone make me sad for them. I, too, enjoy the company of family and friends, but need a certain amount of solitude, as well. You are indeed lucky to have a special place with the peaceful sounds of nature to make your solitude special. JAYE


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Merlin Fraser 5 years ago from Cotswold Hills

I love your concept of Being alone but not Lonely, sums me up to perfection.

I enjoy company but nothing beats our special place of solitude. I am lucky to have one a short drive away where I can still hear the stream whisper by and the sound of the birds singing.


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JayeWisdom 5 years ago from Deep South, USA Author

Thanks for responding, Hyphenbird...I'm discovering there are many more people like me who need some time alone. JAYE


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Hyphenbird 5 years ago from America-Broken But Still Beautiful

This is lovely. I also need alone time. You expressed this so well.


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JayeWisdom 5 years ago from Deep South, USA Author

Thanks, Susan...I think there are a lot of us who cherish our "me" time. Glad you liked the poem. JAYE


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Just Ask Susan 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

I love my alone time. Wonderful poem!


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JayeWisdom 5 years ago from Deep South, USA Author

Hello, livingsimply...So glad to meet a kindred spirit. After I spend time alone, it makes me a better companion when I'm with other people. JAYE


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livingsimply 5 years ago from Isle of Arran, Scotland

For me this captures the essentials of spending time alone. Such an important aspect of our lives and we must never take it for granted.

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