PATTERNS OF ABUSE - From Anyone
When is Enough ENOUGH!
We have all been in abusive relationships. This I know for sure. Sometimes it comes from family members, friends or or even co-workers. Sometimes it comes from "out of space" in the strangest ways even when you are not asking for it! You can be standing in a market, stuck in line and some whack job decides to "put their crap on someone" and you happen to be there in that exact moment and time. VOILA!!! Congratulations on your upcoming promotion of "punching bag!" Let us celebrate this great moment of bad timing!!
I will never forget standing in line with my sister at a well known chain store checking out and paying for our goods and a woman behind the counter decided that she wanted to "down something" or someone and made a rude comment but tried to act like she was being "funny." Instead of me standing there and taking it, I decided to give it back to her and make her feel like a fool. It was easy actually because she put her foot in her mouth in the first place! I mean how many people get away with abusing total strangers?!!! A LOT I tell you!!!
JUST THINK ABOUT IT!!!
How easy is it to take out things on a complete and total stranger. Interesting thought isn't it? Some people do it all the time I am sure and when I think about it, I also think about extended family members from the past that were abusive in their little ways at family gatherings. I like to say "passive aggressive" to describe the behavior best. You know the little smirks of jealousy that would rear their ugly heads in a sentence or two...maybe more. I remember it all too well and it was very easy to see how envious people could be when someone else is truly "happy."
The funny thing is that total strangers do not even know you but sometimes they act like they do and then all of a sudden.....BAM! You become "victim" to one of their insane outbursts!!! I can go on and on but I tell you I have experienced some crazy run ins with strangers and have had to duck from the bullets on their tongue!!! HAVE YOU?!
Definition Of Abuse.....
1. to use wrongly or improperly; misuse: to abuse one's authority.
2. to treat in a harmful, injurious, or offensive way: to abuse ahorse; to abuse one's eyesight.
3. to speak insultingly, harshly, and unjustly to or about; revile; malign.
4. to commit sexual assault upon.
5. Obsolete . to deceive or mislead.
SO, how does one deal with going out and having a regular day and then getting "side swiped" by a total nutcase?! Boundaries my dear Watson.....BOUNDARIES. The first thing you need to do is be able to recognize when someone has gone past "your comfort zone." As soon as you feel like you have been "abused," do not sit there and take more of it. Try your best to not "engage" the attacker and move on to safer grounds. If someone is out to abuse you or anyone else in their path, they will not stop until they do so! Do not be the one to take it and to give the person more to even feed off of.
This is what abusers do....they feed off of "drama," "discomfort" and "chaos." Most abusers will do as much as they can while they can so if you no longer give them any sort of "in" or "license" to be abusive and continue their pattern with you they will eventually stop. THIS IS NOT EASY. This is something that takes work. I'm not a therapist but it took me a long time to figure this all out. SO, AMEN to that!
If you or someone you love is being abused, please seek professional help immediately. Although we can't always seek help when it comes to every day events with total strangers....we CAN get help for situations that are closer to home.
Protect the one's you love......
Hub Pages Author - GPAGE
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