Pefection is Not an Option

I'm not perfect and I'll never be

So please stop judging me

I'll gladly accept my responsibility

If I'm alone and its all my fault indeed

At least then I'd be free

To gladly be just as I am alone - me!

© 2014 Shannon

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Ericdierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Well done and refreshing

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ImKarn23 2 years ago

don't you DARE change! i adore YOU exactly like you are! MWAHxx

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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas Author

Thanks, Eric. I don't know about refreshing, but that's it. That's all I am. Take me or leave me. I so despise being compared to others as if I should be more or less in order to be accepted. It's hard enough trying to be things to so many others knowing that I can't please everyone without having the added pressure of being expected to fit somebody else's perfect mold - or not so perfect mold, since no one really is perfect.

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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas Author

I don't plan on it, Leslie! Well. . .okay, that's a lie. I do plan on it. I hope to continue to grow and to evolve, as I experience new things for as long as I live. But, I hope only to change for the better. I can't change just to suit somebody else's preferences. Even if I tried, I'd still not be perfect; I'd only be less me.

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FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

Perfect is boring and unattainable. Don't even try.

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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas Author

Definitely a truth, FlourishAnyway!

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always exploring 2 years ago from Southern Illinois

Being a perfectionist must be such a difficult way to live one's life. I have a tendency to lean in that direction when it comes to my home. I am slowly leaning the other way, but having to be perfect in all aspects of living has got to be so boring. If someone expects me to be perfect, they're going to be mighty disappointed. I might add that how dare anyone to ask that of anyone. Chin up....

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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas Author

Hi Ruby. Good to see you! I think that many people are "perfectionists" about certain things. Some about housekeeping. Others about grades at school or work or art, etc. While it may be stressful and too much pressure to strive for those things, it is not an uncommon goal, especially if competitiveness is part of the person's personality traits. But, it really is unattainable and often leaves a person feeling dissatisfied anyway.

Unfortunately, though, people do often ask it of others. Maybe not so much expecting true perfectionism, but in expecting others to be according to their own perception of what a perfect friend, spouse, parent, etc. should be. Really, it is a shame because placing expectations on others does not leave room for really getting to know them for who they are.

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Kathryn Stratford 2 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

I don't think there's such thing as a perfect person, because one person's idea of "perfect" may not be another's. I always look to be with someone (and around friends and family) who love me for me, and not who they want me to be. I have that right now, and I am happy for it.

Thanks for another inspiring piece, and I hope you are doing well! My life has been so busy, but I want to get back to reading and writing here on my favorite writing site :)

~ Kathryn

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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas Author

Hi Kathryn! No worries. It's hard to keep up here on HP or anywhere else in the world, it seems. I too want to spend more time here, but other things keep me away.

You are so right, perfection is like most everything else - subjective!

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Gypsy Rose Lee 2 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Best thing to be - just wonderful you

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Jodah 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

Few words that say a lot Shanmarie. Well done.

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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas Author

Hi Gypsy. I agree! Everyone should just be themselves.

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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you, Jodah. Much appreciated.

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Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

Beautifully expressed, dear Shan. Not one is perfect as we are human. We will certainly waste this life on attempting to attain something we can never be and that is perfect. Never change ... please!

Up and more and away

Blessings always

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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas Author

Hi Faith Reaper. I miss your hubs and smiling face! But, as so many others have pointed out, no one is or will ever be perfect. I neither expect to be nor expect it from others, which is why I am generally quick to forgive the faults of others. Or perceived faults, as the case may be. It also takes a lot for me to want to end a relationship with someone. It becomes increasingly difficult to ignore when the criticism is constant and the score is kept, though. Normally, a person can walk away easily from those kinds of people, but it's more difficult when already invested in knowing them.

But, at any rate. . .I'm just me and happy to be!

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