How to Play Hard to Get

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Photo Courtesy of Jon Aldinger

You want to play hard to get?

Playing games at the beginning of a relationship is a 100% guaranteed way to create a long-lasting, healthy relationship.

No matter what anyone says, honesty is not the best policy. You need to get down and dirty, rolled in honey, to catch your bird.

The most time honored, effective method for catching your fly...er, lover, is to play hard to get.

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Simple Games You Can Play

Once you have focused in on your prey, you need to do everything in your power to let him or her know you are not even remotely interested in a romantic relationship. A wonderful way of doing this is to pretend that you simply don't see this person - act like he or she does not even exist.

You need to act as though your life is very important and what you are doing at the moment requires too much concentration for you to be able to pay any attention to your future love.

Eye contact is No No when you first begin playing the Hard to Get Game.

Next make sure this person has a way to contact you. Get a friend, or pay someone, to give your potential mate your phone number or email address. By now, he or she will be dying to call you (see what the power of ignoring someone can do?).

After you have ignored your love for a suitable period of time, you can start throwing him or her small tidbits. Flash a little smile, make a little comment that shows you remembered a small detail about the person, or hold hands at a dinner party.

Do not answer the phone! Let it go to voicemail. Don't reply to the emails.

Yet.

At the beginning, you should not be readily available. Even if the first date was fabulous, do not let this person know. Act like your life is really busy. Wait a while, then call or email back.

Apologize for not calling or emailing back earlier, explaining how you have been so busy. Give details about all of the fabulous stuff you have been up to, then maybe be available for something with him or her later in the week.

Next, you need to make sure you and your crush get to hang out together in a group setting. Meet up at a party, a bar, or a concert with your friends.

Show up to the event late because, of course, your life is so full and busy. Then, latch onto another friend and live it up. Laugh like you love life, like you have a wonderful sense of humor, like you are carefree as can be. Have a ball with anybody and everybody but your love interest. He or she will see how fabulous you are this way.

If your crush isn't eating out of your hand by the end of the night, you have one more card you can play:

Make out with someone else in front of everyone. This way, your lover to be will see just how irresistible you are.

Ready, set, play dating games! Good luck out there...it's a jungle!

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How do you play? 53 comments

Maddie Ruud profile image

Maddie Ruud 8 years ago from Oakland, CA

Too funny. What's even more amusing is that often the people who state on the first date that they don't like games are the ones who end up being the most drama.


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Patty Inglish, MS 8 years ago from North America

Exactly right Maddie!


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Stacie Naczelnik 8 years ago from Seattle Author

Maddie, that is so true.


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funride 8 years ago from Portugal

Thank you you´ve make me laugh :-))

I supose that any relationship who hasn´t games anymore is not a healthy one!


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cgull8m 8 years ago from North Carolina

Hilarious but it is true, it is a complex game like a chess game. Cheers :)


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Marye Audet 8 years ago from Lancaster, Texas

Ewww.

I don't play games, have never played them and have been married (an in mutually in love) for 28 years this March.

I guess there are benefits to being old.


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Whitney05 8 years ago from Georgia

I'm not a big game player unless I can win. ;-) But I try not to play them in relationships, but sometimes subconsciously they arise... :-/


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Mark Knowles 8 years ago

Hehe... Now I understand females better, LOL I of course would never consider playing these type of games. :D


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Angela Harris 8 years ago from Around the USA

Funny Hub- the photos are great.


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poseidon 8 years ago

It's like a strategy game...thanx


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malabikajay 8 years ago from Pune

coollllllllllll...........pls do visit mine also and let me know do u like taht??


IJ 8 years ago

Women like what they cant have so as long as you play that card and act like you dont want it trust me ...you will have females throwing yourself at you.


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Stacie Naczelnik 8 years ago from Seattle Author

IJ, interesting idea. Are you male or female?


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KwameG 8 years ago from MS

IJ is correct, women want everything and plenty of it...however, most men enjoy the chase, to a certain extent


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Stacie Naczelnik 8 years ago from Seattle Author

Kwame, what is your definition of everything? As a woman myself, I can think of quite a few things I don't want.


scottybbytches 8 years ago

I had a girl do this to me once. I never talked to her again. Screw that loose female, fooling around with someone in front of me knowing I liked her, I wouldn't want any messed up woman like that.


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Stacie Naczelnik 8 years ago from Seattle Author

Scotty, I wouldn't want someone like that either. You know I wrote this in jest, right? Good for you to avoid a relationship with someone who wasn't serious.


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Judy Asman 8 years ago from Orange

Stacie, truly amusing. I know you're kidding, but seriously, when adults take advice of this nature seriously, it's like asking a pubescent child for tips on building a lasting relationship.


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Stacie Naczelnik 8 years ago from Seattle Author

Judy, it's true...I can only hope people get the humor, and don't take it as advice! I may have spurred some serious problems here!


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About-The-Home 8 years ago

Whoever says Honesty is The Best Policy is probably lying!


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Stacie Naczelnik 8 years ago from Seattle Author

Why, About-The-Home? How far did you get by lying? In a relationship? Did it create a lasting, healthy relationship for you?


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mattd241 8 years ago

I'm glad you clarified the intended humor of it because I was thinking to myself, that might work when the hormones are raging and you're still young enough to expend the energy in a chase. However, with age comes a sense of "I ain't got much time left to play chess. How about a fast game of checkers?" If you act like you aren't interested, I'll believe you and I'm moving down the line. The one thing I sadly agree with is the honesty. Confess to someone you find them interesting/appealing too soon and they think you desperate, rather than honest and easily able to express themselves. :)


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Stacie Naczelnik 8 years ago from Seattle Author

Matt, I think there is a difference between honesty and spilling everything at the beginning. You can be honest without telling everything. Veronica, another hubber, expressed it well: "I’m not saying lie. I’m not saying to hide things. I’m saying, there is a certain amount of time you should know someone before the topics of conversation become very intimate and personal."

You can read her article on this here: http://hubpages.com/relationships/The-First-Date--...


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singpec476 8 years ago from Not Too Far Away

I think at the beginning the need to impress over rules commonsense and we don't deliberately lie or play games we just try a little too hard to impress, that's my two cents, great hub Stacey.


Reallia 8 years ago

Playing hard to get is a MAJOR turn off unless they are ass holes!!! Like My Boyfriend! SHAKUR!!!!!!!!


afi 8 years ago

real cool stace. u r true to an extend. we shouldn't spill all the beans during the early days of a relationship, its is like telling a stranger in a bar that u like sleep naked. playin hard-to-get isn't only for the beginners, its for everyone in a relationship. suppose if your partner is loosin interest its the best way to bring him/her back into line (it worked for me). and guys its not an advice, its her experience/knowledge (mine as well). use if u think it will work or else just laugh at it. cheers :)


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Raven King 8 years ago from Cabin Fever

Wow. I could never do this.


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Stacie Naczelnik 8 years ago from Seattle Author

Good, Raven--you shouldn't. This hub is in jest.


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ferreira4664 8 years ago from rhode island

women are just very different ... i can't read them


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twohandtouch 8 years ago from Everywhere!

hahaha.... that's so great.

It's a throwback to "the rules"

didn't one of those ladies get divorced.... not that that means anything..... ;)


bill 8 years ago

haha. yes, one author from the rules did get divorced. and one(not sure which) got sued for $5 million for, i believe, posting comments on the internet about some guys business(?)

games are for petty + insecure people who need attention. subtle + innocent little teasing is fun, but only "after" a relationship has started.

seriously, do you really want someone who makes out with another right in front of you to get your attention? at some point, we all have to grow up.


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Maylinda Arons 8 years ago from India

Some games work... if you play them right, of course ;)


bfns1953 7 years ago

Even if it is in Jest.....it just shows how fake/sick the person is. Maylinda...if you play the game right you can just end up getting that much more hurt in the end.

I have a friend who tried to play this stupid game with me almost 10yrs ago. She recently contacted me, crying.... wishing the 2 of us got married, instead of to her abusive husband. Do NOT play games w/eachother!! Be real and enjoy your mutual crush that much sooner!!


Jimmy Amato 7 years ago

oh wow lol


Tommy 7 years ago

Women only play games because they are so insecure. Every woman who has played games with me never got anywhere with me.


NN Portugal 7 years ago

"A wonderful way of doing this is to pretend that you simply don't see this person - act like he or she does not even exist."

:/ This is the way of starting a relation? What are you? 12 years old?

I am 35 years, and trust me, if a woman "pretend" that she doesn’t even see me, its because she doesn’t have the maturity do have an adult relationship.


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Stacie Naczelnik 7 years ago from Seattle Author

I just love it when people don't get it. So amusing.


Emma McArthur 7 years ago

i think this great i really liked the comment about checkers,

I have played many hard-to-Get games and this is by far the most efficient,

How would you go about this if you are intrested in the other gender?

Is it the same techniques?

Thank you very much for you time and effort you put into making the Fabulous Page. It is very much apriciated

when i first read it i completely understtod

Thank you very much :)

Any lesbians contact me

Thanks again


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Paulipopo 6 years ago from Abuja, Nigeria

stacie the problem with your approach is that it might send the wrong signals to a truly qualified crush.

Imagine the feeling of being ignored and disrespected some guys might fail to see that one is just playing hard to get and might lose interest in the chase


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iskra1916 6 years ago from Belfast, Ireland.

Ha, ha !

I think you should enter a big "Satire at Work" sign at the top of your hub in red ink for the benefit of those with no sense of humour....

But then again, they would probably think you were selling something and bombard you with their credit card numbers, addresses & security pins! Lol!

Excellent hub ! Top Marx !


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avangend 6 years ago from St. Louis, MO

This was hilarious once I realized it was satirical.

Sadly, I did not understand this from the beginning, since there are actual blogs/hubs/websites/books/companies devoted to ideas like this one. And they are completely serious. Soap operas (and I count One Tree Hill, the OC, etc. as soap operas) run off of relationship "rulebooks" with interesting social physics...


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thehands 6 years ago

Haha. I hate it when people do this to me.


luwiza 6 years ago

guys honestly ! yes i do i agree playing hard to get is the best to get a mans attention

hey women see what men here commented.. they do agree that playing games do work so why do we women waste our time and emotions on being seruios with men

play hard to get and feel stress-free

how an easy act

if a man ignores you, ignore him , he probaply would chase u and if not kick him to the curb


onlygonnabreakurheart 5 years ago

Im gonna try this:) cuz I heard this really hot guy was gonna ask me out after the dance (which was yesterday) and then this other kid asked him if he would ever go out wit me and he said "fuck no" so he decided to do that game... two can play this:)


whatever 5 years ago

These steps are so stupid and lame..

they're not helpful..

instead trust me.. they'll ruin your future relationships..

that not what playing hard to get means..

and that's not how you play it..

make out with someone else ? what the HELL?!


Billy bob 5 years ago

If I saw you making out with someone else, your history


Gary 5 years ago

Playing hard to get works great for me. With sooo many pretty girls out there, why stress yourself over one? If she wants you she needs to work for your attention otherwise kick her to the curb and move on to the next.


I raged 4 years ago

The beginning was alright, then at the end it got retarded

But yea playing games is good. Want the truth?

Girls like creating obstacles

Boys like surpassing them

The problem is most men are too pussy to realize that girls throw out these obstacles for them to pass, and they chicken out


very true 4 years ago

women that play hard to get, certainly need to GROW UP. so many women today, now need to be MUCH MORE EDUCATED like they use to be years ago. this is the reason why many of us men are having TROUBLE, meeting a decent woman today.


franko says 4 years ago

it is very sad nowadays that there are so many LOSER WOMEN today in this world. especially that i live down the SHORE, there are so many women think THAT THEY ARE ALL THAT. like i have said, SUCH LOSERS.


JAY 4 years ago

women that play hard to get, will always wind up loosing at the end.


Alexander 3 years ago

Home run! Great slgnuigg with that answer!


zoey 2 years ago

i love when woman is hard to get

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