Poem - Don't Change For Me

 

You must never change
For me
You have been spared control's wrath
You will follow your heart
You will follow your path
You were free when we met
So this I do not give
But instead it will remain
Rather without
You will be with
My desires are dreams
Not commands
Be as you are now
You never have to worry
I will enjoy
Rather than allow
But when you become lonely
Will you think of me?
I may not be the only
But I will make you see
Love
Passion
Strength
Freedom
With this you will live
In this you can believe
I did not come to you
For your mind's conquest
You are not my goal
You are not Mount Everest
Others will try to construct
The vision they conceive
But I see a vision
In you
And together we will weave
A life as we define it
Our voice unrestrained
Our thoughts unexplained
Our existence uncontained
And when we are apart
Your heart will rest
Protected by the walls
Of trust's treasure chest
Walk alone my love
And carry your wishes
And I will carry mine
Together we will share love's riches
But as you live your life
As free as you can be
I have but one question
Can you do the same... for me?

 

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thougtforce 6 years ago from Sweden

Very lovely and true poem! We shouldn´t try to change the one we love! I especially loved "you are not Mount Everest", that says it all! Thanks for sharing this!


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Erin LeFey 6 years ago from Maryland

Very nice poem for a special friend...sometimes it takes reminding in this day and age that love does not mean getting lost or sacrifice of our individual selves. It is freedom without obligation and knowing we are loved for all we are. I think I got the message in this one...

Thanks for sharing!


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you both thougtforce and Erin,

It seems so many times a new lover is viewed as a sketch or a rough draft that we must complete... how arrogant...


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Peggy W 6 years ago from Houston, Texas

Excellent! It is wonderful to be loved but also allowed the freedom to remain who we are as individuals. I like your attitude and your poem very much.


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you Peggy w... it's the old if you love somebody set them free.... I have my moments of wanting to control others because I'm a leader at work and think I know everything (the ego run amok) but I know in my heart how it should be....


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Nayothara 6 years ago

WOW~~ IT is amazing how life works. There are people want to see the change! lol Change so they can see them selves in the other person! People love creating mirrors, they enjoy watching them! To be honest, we cannot change any one, if it happen this word be a one person, so we do not need to worry a thing! We can change instead! I think it is the beauty of without CHANGING! Love is there before you change everything! lol That is the real beauty in life, love, everything we do...

This poem was right in to my heart! And I felt life is in these words, and I am so blessed with your amazing writing. Write more and want to see more hubs from you..


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you Nayo for the very nice comments... we only can hope to meet someone who love's who we are as we breath... as a natural person... there is no need to create a lover; you must be patient and they will find you...

To all... I added four more lines... hope that didn't mess it up...


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Minnetonka Twin 6 years ago from Minnesota

You had me at "HELLO." Seriously though, I wish more men and women understood this true concept. Love is not about changing or controlling another. It is accepting who you love, warts and all.

I found myself talking out loud in a Caribou Coffee Shop because your message was so strong and true.

Beautifully written:)


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Minnetonka twin

And you had me at "Beautifully written!" Ha... wait, which one of you am I talking to? You or your twin? Aaaaahhh... anyway... thank you very much for that compliment... Feel free to read it aloud anywhere you go! That is too cool but did you get some wierd looks?


ralwus 6 years ago

Oh I love that ending. Actually the whole of the poem, but will she? LOL Women always want the man to change. Best wishes for you and yours. I am very busy, but I decided to come for a drop in, glad I did too. Charlie


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thanks dude... I think those last four lines pull the rug out eh?

It's a two-way street... I'm not selfless enough I guess....


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Nellieanna 6 years ago from TEXAS

Reminded me of the old saying that women marry men expecting them to change and men marry women expecting them not to change, so all are disappointed. Often seems to be that way. Looking for the wrong endings almost guarantees disappointments when the real endings happen.

But everyone should be happy to be allowed to be near another person as he or she goes through their own changes and to share them. Even presuming that one can "allow" another to change is absurd. We don't "give" freedom to another person!! It is not ours to give!! It is theirs to claim whatever our expectations may be.

How true is this statement from one of your comments: "It seems so many times a new lover is viewed as a sketch or a rough draft that we must complete... how arrogant..." Yet how often does one person (not only lovers but parents, siblings, bosses, friends. . . ) presume that someone already in their acquaintance but suddenly viewed, or someone just met or encountered is a blank slate on which they must write the code for the person to suddenly blossom into existence! So subjective are people that they can honestly think whatever they've not known before surely had no previous existence and it's up to them to create one for the other person! It happens all the time, too!!


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Nellianna! Whew! You exhaust me lady!

Thank you again for taking the time to write up these types of comments. I've heard that saying before and it seems to be true at times. Men are to be tamed and domesticated while women are to remain alluring and wild sexual creatures. Ok...wait... what's wrong with that? Ha....

I don't feel the need to change anyone. It took me awhile but I realized that rejection was not about worth but about compatibility. Sometimes it's obvious that certain two people just shouldn't be a couple. Period. So you should try to find that person (if you desire to be a couple) and not force the issue just because someone is cute, or popular or even because they can write a poem. These things are things; they are not a relationship...

You just have to take your time and be who you are... love will come.... it always does when you stop trying so hard to either be what they want or make them be what you want... love will come... just relax....


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pennyofheaven 6 years ago from New Zealand

Awww this is.... Awesome! What a beautiful and powerful poem. This is magic.......Your heart will rest Protected by the walls Of trust's treasure chest.

Thank you!


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you penny... set them free!


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Nellieanna 6 years ago from TEXAS

You don't need a smidgeon of advice! You have it!! That's it. And if the other person is not only incompatible, but combative, well - that is really not a matter of rejection of you but an indication of something not well integrated within that other person. You are so right - when the right person comes along -it will fit! And better no one than a wrong one.

One can still write about all the phases! And you do it so well.

Forgive my rambling on so. :-)


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Hey Nellieanna.. first, you don't ramble... you prose... second... feel free to ramble on!

I don't know why people allow one person to become such a dominant force in their life but we somehow develop tunnel vision and jump into the silo of their judgement and we forget that there are so many reaons why a particular person may not be right for you. I guess we just want them to fall for us no matter what. Pretty egotistical huh?


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2uesday 6 years ago from - on the web, I am 2uesday.

This was lovely to read and the truth in it echoes after reading it. Lots I could say in response to this as it is thought provoking in that I can understand it and the idea of it, but then I might just ramble on and you have summed it all up well in this well written poem. Thank you for the chance to read it.


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you 2uesday for the nice comment. I just wrote it because that's how I want to be when it comes to another person. I think marriages fail because the bitterness of mindless control and compromise saps a person's spirit. I'm not here to do that to you... you know? I don't need to control you. I want you to thrive around me and if you do hopefully you will recognize that and then want more of me... not less....

and by the way... ramble ALL YOU WANT... that's what this is for....

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