Point of No Return: My Son's Marriage

You started this marital journey as a mistake;

Each of you has personal ulterior motives different if not conflicting from each other;

He took you for the reason of trying to correct the mistakes of his parents who had a broken marriage;

You took him purely for financial reasons, with your perception that he belongs to a well-off and high socio-economic status family;

Whereas you come from a big family who struggled hard in order to live and support yourselves in any way possible within your mediocre capability;

You never had considered nor had any idea of the kind of personality he got being a financially pampered eldest son between two siblings of doting parents;

You forgot where you come from and that you have no idea how he would inherently look down at people with low intellectual capacity much more coming from a big family who struggle to live; he knew it;

For him, you will just be one of the servants he had in his childhood;

But on the onset you both tried your best to make it right for the sake of your children;

He is two years younger than you;

At age 18, you made him a father of your first born;

Difficult times came your way;

He is not used to poverty and would never do anything to pick pebbles along the way in a hand-to-mouth manner of survival;

He studied instead and fed his dream by doing what he really wanted to do with a vision of getting rich as a result of his struggles;

But you got three little children this time who urgently needed to be fed;

So you did menial jobs just so the children can eat;

The gap between the two of you had started to widen;

He, in the dreamland with his intellectual companies;

You with the servants who struggled to feed the children in a daily basis;

He was enjoying;

You were complaining;

Though you grudgingly yet dutifully continued to do mundane things every day if only to feed the young;

You called him irresponsible which deeply hurt him;

He saw you as a shallow person;

You cannot see that one day he would succeed so you nagged him every day;

You started to gossip with everybody, with your friends, with your relatives about how callous and irresponsible your husband was;

Worse you included to destroy his family’s reputation;

And affirmed to yourself that you are unlucky in your marriage with him;

That he is the worst person you ever know; And destroyed his relationship with his own family by manufacturing lies against one another;

Then the time has come for him to earn his first million;

He succeeded in his dreams!

All of you benefitted from it;

The children are now enjoying an opulent life as well as you;

But the wounds in his heart had not healed;

He started to leave you and you both lived a separate life though he continues to financially support you;

My son cannot live in a loveless relationship with you;

Now he found someone new and you came to me;

What can I say?

I want my grandchildren to be happy without compromising my son’s happiness;

I have great mercy for you but I love my son most of all;

Your situation is now in the point of no return;

He found his happiness;

And what about your new baby?

Who is the father?

It’s not my son obviously.


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Jynzly 2 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Hamzah,

Thanks for dropping by and for reading my hub. God Bless.


Hamzah Ghammaz 2 years ago

Thanks Jenny for posting the story here

For parents the most precious thing on earth is the children. So for wives, dont put urself in a omparison with a son infornt of his mother because you are the looser. True or false, its mothers nature


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Jynzly 2 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

anonymous;

I read my hub repeatedly and I cannot see any tenor of hate or bullying. The objective is not to bully, it's the negative perception of the reader that would make it sound like bullying. If you read through in the light of truth, my intent is sincere and honest evaluation of the situation. I know what I am talking about here and I have the right to evaluate the situation because I am the mother I know what is going on. As far as the grandchildren are concerned, if they are open-minded they won't be embarrassed because my objective is to shed light on the reasons behind the separation of their parents. Many people don't want to be evaluated and won't welcome the truth, the truth oftentimes hurt but without acknowledging the truth and getting hurt we never learn from our mistakes.


anonymous 2 years ago

Please remove this hub because you are causing trouble in your life and the life of your grandchildren. They may suffer from embarrassment because of this hub. You may also be charged of cyber-bullying by authorities or worse, be sued by your own family.

This is a free advise, take it or leave it


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Jynzly 2 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Globetrekkermel,

Hi Globe, thanks for such comment. You're right, life have lots of fluctuations but life itself will open new doors for us to move on.

Glad to hear from you again.


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Globetrekkermel 2 years ago from CALIFORNIA

So, Life..... You never know what cards are you going to be dealt with. Good thing is, we are more resilient than we think we are. The dust will settle and we can stand back up and keep on going forward.How is that for optimism?


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Jynzly 2 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

dashingscorpio,

Thank you so much for your valuable comment. I appreciate it. You are right, my son finally found the girl who matches his standard for a life partner. Although, as the mother and grandmother of his children, I feel so sad for his ex-wife and my grandchildren...but I love my son, his personal happiness is foremost for me.

Thanks again and God Bless.


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dashingscorpio 2 years ago

Very well written.

Glad to see your son found someone who appreciated him. The number one cause for divorce is and always has been (selecting the wrong mate).

The number two cause for divorce is getting married for the "wrong reasons". (An ultimatum was given, all your friends were married, you reached a goal age, an unplanned pregnancy, someone was being shipped out for military duty...etc) A marriage based on circumstances rather than love is likely to fail.

The third cause for divorce is one person commits a "deal breaker" in the eyes of the other. This may range from verbal/physical abuse, cheating, neglect of affection/sex, and no longer wanting the same things or agreeing on how to obtain them. Like attracts like in the long run!

The goal for any person is to find someone who shares their same values, wants the same things for the marriage/relationship, (naturally agrees) with you on how to obtain those things, and last but no least have a (mutual) depth of love and desire for one another.

"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

- Oscar Wilde


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Jynzly 2 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

sittingduck,

Hi, Thanks for the comment...For me as the grandmother of my precious grandchildren, it's really sad. My ex-daughter-in-law was here yesterday and she told me her sadness. I am greatly affected so I called my son but he told me not to listen to her drama...I can really cry.

Thank you for reading.


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sittingduck 2 years ago from Asia

Quite sad...

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