Prose - Man is Deluded; Woman is Real

A man will ignore the fact of his own shortcomings while a woman will dwell on the mere hint of her own. It's that delusion of their own greatness that gives men their self-confidence. It is very difficult to explain the reasons for the delusion but it's existence is indisputable. Because women seem to be more willing to confront their own flaws it also makes them more willing to confront a man over his. Men in believing their own greatness have to be trained to challenge a statement while a woman will challenge it as a matter of instinct.

The delusion of man
In sharp hue
To the reality of woman
He believes
In his greatness
And ignores the truth
She frowns in the mirror
At the mere hint
Of dissonant character
While he plunges
Into the fantasy
Of his own immortality
She masks her fears
In seductive pose
And feigned aloofness
Further demanding
Account of his actions
And repentant in all manner
While he puzzles
Over perfections force
And scornful insistence
The cold truth
And warm illusion
Stare in gilded certainty
Never to be one
Never to be free
Instead apart in incongruity


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anndavis25 5 years ago from Clearwater, Fl.

Women are multisensory human beings. Men are not bothered by all the distractions and colors of extra sensory perceptions, therefore they can switch the on and off button at will. Is is really self confidence, or blind eye?


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

It is self-confidence built upon a foundation of delusion (or blind-eye as you say) at times... we can confront a mistake but it somehow is destroyed never to be heard from again and we move forward believing in ourselves. And the funny thing that is how the "mentally healthy" ones act! Among men if you walk around with a self-image problem or unable to "be a man" then you are a loser.... we can be hard on each other that way...


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bell du jour 5 years ago from Ireland

Hi Suburban Poet, I agree that men have to be that way in order to be an man. As you said If men were to be as self critical as women are, they would be considered 'losers' by their peers, so in a way its a kind of self preservation. Excellent hub, voted up.

Bell


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anupma 5 years ago from India

Yes this is the most important distinction between a man and woman. Men usually do not accept their shortcoming, and if someone especially their partner tell them about their flaws, their male ego hurts. They are really stubborn. Nice Poem. I voted it up, awesome and interesting.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

It's funny because some of my male friends gave me a bit of ridicule when I started writing prose a few years ago. They were like, "Poetry?" But I've won them over; they say I have a masculine and direct style and they can see themselves in it; if it was weepy and too flowery they would have rejected it and wondered about me... but I told them I'm only writing what I feel and they acknowledged they were feeling the same things. I don't believe it is a weakness to feel every emotion known to man or to express it either. It's a matter though of not lettimg it dominate you or be paralyzed by it. You still have to get up and face the world.

@beel ju jour - Thank you. That is the way it is... at the same time I know that woman are also hard on each other in their own way.

@anupma - Thank you. It seems men need to confront their flaws a bit more and maybe women can point it out a little less... yes? no? maybe? Of course men can be critical of women too... it's not like what I am saying is a one-way street. Far from it but it is he effect of mistakes and criticism that I am discussing and I think men and women take things very differently.


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Freya Cesare 5 years ago from Borneo Island, Indonesia

Interesting topic to brought by man. Mark, how about yourself? But I guess, realizing this by yourself it's mean you already surpassed the whole drama, right?

Indeed man's endurance to his own flaw is lower than woman and culture teaching made it worst by taught man that he have to be strong and better than any woman so he can become the man of the family.

There is no place for flaw and this is how man become tormented when the flaw show up on the surface and caught by his woman.

But my friend have more amusing explanation. He said;

man is shallow but unless it make man easy to be satisfied. While woman can be very deep but too bad, it is because there is worms living inside woman's head which caused woman become unrealistic, love to looking on something which is never existed but in her mind only and become too demanding to man. It is not woman's fault of course but the worms only. And if in the end man have to suffer because his woman, it is not the woman's fault, but the worms.

Smart way of denial. Of course I challenged him to find the cure! ^_*

Have a nice day there, Mark.

Freya


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Freya - That is so funny... "the worms..." well men have something crawling around inside us too I guess when it comes to our sex drive and other acts of aggression so I'm glad we had this talk! They used to say, "The devil made me do it." It's a matter of taking personal responsibility when you make a mistake to acknowledge it and then improve. But that is apart from one's self-image and men seem to shake things off fairly quckly.

One reason may be sports (and women of course are participating in this more than ever so maybe it will have the same affect on them)... when you make a mistake in a game you have to forget it and continue to play. This is like a mental exercise because you learn to control your emotions and continue to impact the future and not dwell on the past.

Also men as you were probably talking about, are raised to be leaders and strong and we don't have time for too many regrets. We are trained to be in front of a group of people and to think quickly and project strength so people will willingly follow us. Now, not every man can do this but we are exposed to this type of upbringing...

As for me all I can say is that I feel I am aware of this phenomenon but I don't want to lose the ability to believe in myself. Hopefully I can improve and be open to development of my mind and my life but I will always be confident in my "upside" so to speak. One thing I say to people when discussing past mistakes, "All I can tell you is that I am smarter today than I was then." So if you think like that you can evolve while not being mired in pity or low self-esteem because tomorrow is another day and it is yours to do as you wish...


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anndavis25 5 years ago from Clearwater, Fl.

Alright, you guys...I have a cure for all of it. Alcohol kills worms.


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fi fi 5 years ago from Niagara, Canada

lovely poem...voted up :)


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@anndavis25 - No wonder I think so clearly... scotch kills worms!

@fi fi - Thank you!

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