Prose - Stop Changing Me

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You want red roses
But I’m a mighty tree
You want peaceful waters
But I’m a raging sea
You knew what I was
Still you loved me
Now you ask for change
What do you want me to be?
Wasn’t I good enough
Like you are to me?
You have a vision
It's not going to be
You continue to chisel
On what once was love
I can only wonder
What is it you are thinking of?
There will come a day
When the marble is no more
And you will find yourself
Alone as before
Let me be who I was
The man you admired
Let me be who I am
The man you desired
Let my fire burn
Let my seas rage
Let my leaves fall
Don't put me in a cage
The book is written
I am who I was meant to be
We can grow together
But you must let me be free
As I will do for you
Because I know
The only way to live
Is to let each other grow
We live in our own pot
And mingle our leaves
But I am not you
So listen to me please
Do you want a friend
Or a student?
Do you want a lover
Or a servant?
Who can say
What is right?
But know this
You need to see the light
I won’t make you change
I ask the same for me
I’m begging you now
Or be freer than you want to be



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ubanichijioke 5 years ago from Lagos

The success of any relationship is based on appreciating your mate. Even if things seem hard, try and exercise control, patience, and overlook some of the mistakes. Always Pray for things to be better. Do not compare your mate to others. Lessons i learnt. Great poem!


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Frank Atanacio 5 years ago from Shelton

You want red roses

But I’m a mighty tree

You want peaceful waters

But I’m a raging sea....

This is indeed a guy poem LOVED IT! the start to it was perfect


ExoticHippieQueen 5 years ago

Whoa! You kicked some serious poetry butt in this awesome poem! She better change her ways! Voted up and awesome...............


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Hunbbel Meer 5 years ago from Karachi, Pakistan.

You put the thoughts amazingly with these beautifully arranged words. Very good poem!


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mckbirdbks 5 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

Powerful poetry Suburban Poet. On behalf of all mighty trees and raging seas we thank you.


Justsilvie 5 years ago

Powerful Poem and so true in many relationships. A woman finds the perfect man and then tries to change him.


september girl 5 years ago

Powerful poem. I really liked it. It is so true isn't it? We try to accept others just the way they are, but sometimes the same ones we accept, try to change who we are. You have to wonder... why? Voted up and awesome. : )


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@ubanichijioke - thank you for commenting. Everything you say is very wise. It seems it's hard to put into practice...


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Frank - Thanks man... yeah I can get macho at times which sounds odd for poetry but I want to bring a masculine perspective.


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Mavhe Quijada 5 years ago from Taguig

Nice poem. Applicable to everyone who's in a relationship. Yes, you're right. You may be a lover, a partner but not a robot. A healthy relationship means not manipulating each other's way of living. It means freedom and full of love instead of demands. It means a partner must not control the other. Voting up!


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opusmith 5 years ago

Oh dear, I shall hang my head now for the noose, but I have to ask why, why does she insist on changing you so much? are your faults to hard to take.

Example. My life was hard, from childhood I stood no chance of being loved. My own parents beat it into me that I was unlovable.

After three failed marriages I gave up. I was never enough; then I met Andy. He told me he loved me, convinced me to trust him, swore he loved me like never before in his life.

I fell head over heels in love, for the first time in ,y life I felt special and beautiful and loved. He was the first man I ever trusted.

Then I discovered he was cheating, with his ex wife, his co-worker his ex wife's cousin.

I was beyond myself with pain, I still am; yet we are still together because I saw something in him, and knew with change he could be a good person,.

So yes, I ask change of him. I ask him to stop flirting, to stop the lies, the cheating. I asked him to go for counselling, and accompanied him because such was the lack of trust.

but before any of this, I asked if I was worth the effort for him to change. He said I was, that he had been blind, that he now saw me where before he saw nothing but himself.

I have encouraged change with his relationship with his children too. Where once they were bitter, sullen, angry, now they are five beautiful bright happy souls.

Sometimes, changing someone, subtly, slightly, totally; can be the right thing to do.

So head ready for the noose, I apologise for writing so much here, and urge you to sit down and ask her to tell you why she feels you need to change.


sreekanthragi 5 years ago

Terrific!!Terrific!!Terrific!!!


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@ExoticHippieQueen - Thank you. Yeah this one is a shot across the bow isn't it? It's a matter of understanding that I'm at my whits end and leaving is starting to look good.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Hunbbel Meer - Thank you. It's hard to be nice and beautiful when you're firing off the warning shot.... but it's an attempt to give the warning while simultaneoulsy give it another chance.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@mckbirdbks - I always have to remember ok it's mck on the front and bks on the back... :) Welcome to the club of Mighty Trees and Raging Seas!


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Justsilvie - Thank you for commenting. I have found in my life that what you said is true... of course is it me? Or them? That's the question.... I posted this poem on Facebook and got a couple of "This is true" from some friends... maybe it's just the male perspective...


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@september girl - Thank you. Why indeed... The quest for perfection can kill anything. We all have our flaws. Assuming the person who still who they are then the quesiton becomes 'why did you get involved with them?' Is it because you are insecure and settled then decided to badger them because you couldn't get your dream guy to notice you?


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Mavhe Quijada - Thank you for your thoughts. It seems easier said than done doesn't it? Why can't we just gently inspire instead of loudly badgering?


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YiMin 5 years ago from Malaysia

I really like this prose. We must be ourselves in a relationship. If we really love each other, we will accept everything about him/her and also, every flaw of him/her.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@opusmith - Thank you for commenting and please don't feel the need to apologize. I'm sorry you've had such a tough road in life; it is very disheartening to hear that your parents made you feel inadequate. No matter what I tell my children that I love them and that I am proud of them. They have my approval and they know it. For you I hope you know that you are worthy of happiness in life. I wrote something about this already:

http://hubpages.com/health/Personal-Advice...

As for the poem that drew you here I can only say that every couple has a thousand moments that only they experince in the context of their relationship. The problems you described (Andy's infidelity) are beyond the scope of my point. It is stipulated that the protaganist in the poem is faithful, has a high work-ethic and is responsible. It is the day to day habits and hobbies and such that are in play here. When I say " you need to see the light" it is a plea for context and understanding that cannot be explained by example of behavior. It's a "you either get it or you don't" type of situation. In this case the man is tired of it and while he is receptive to constructive advice he is tired of daily badgering. It has become a quality of life issue and he is at his wit's end. But.... it is a warning and not a goodbye....

I always appreciate comments such as yours where personal pain and insight is shared. I admire you for your capacity to forgive and your ability to see the good in Andy despite all the pain. I know I wouldn't have stayed....


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@sreekanthragi - Thank you! I like terrific! Terrific is very good... You are way too kind...


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@YiMin - Thank you and you are right but it is so hard to be unconditional with the love... I admit this... I am not perfect by any means and I know I have tried to change people... so I'm not saying I have the answers in terms of real life behavioral change... but I know when I've been subjected to it and it wasn't pleasant...


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crystolite 5 years ago from Houston TX

The success of any relationship is trust.Even when the tough get going.Trust can unleash every abnormality.But we always pray that the going will always get tough with TRUST.I grabbed many lessons from this hub. I'm impressed.


opusmith 5 years ago

Hi :-). Thank you for responding to my comments. I need you to know that I did not see infidelity in your poem. I saw confusion and bewilderment. The latter being at how you have tried all you can yet nothing is enough.

I hope you and your partner meet a happy compromise or at worst you part on happy terms, and I look forward to enjoying more of you work in the future:-)

Just stay true to yourself :-)

Smiles from Wales :-)


Justsilvie 5 years ago

It's not just the male perspective, SP.

Many women seem to look at men more with a mind that thinks "Yea he is perfect, but…" and the program to IMPROVE the poor unsuspecting male begins. Some men might go along, others will fight the effort kicking and screaming.

I don't think it is always done with intent, or meant in a bad way, and usually starts off small. However some women seem to need a man on their lives so badly they will choose anyone and then try to turn them in the person they want. And the results are usually catastrophic.

Age and maturity, I think teaches you to stop that kind of crap and let someone just be themselves and appreciate them for whom and what they are. So most women seem outgrow the need to mold someone. So there are things to look forward to as you get older. *grin*


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@crystolite - thank you for the kind remarks. Trust is a big thing; no doubt... you have to trust and on some level be accepting or it will die...


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@opusmith - thank you for your support. It's tough but I have to be true to myself; hopefully I'm a reasonable person but as time flies I'm becoming more and more independent. I don't feel the need to share my life at this point...


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Justsilvie - I hear you... maybe it is driven by the fear of being alone. I think women are more impacted by loneliness than men. I love my freedom. It is huge in my life and I don't think of myself as a loser or anything when I spend a Saturday night alone. It's just not an issue. I have so many things that fulfill me and I don't need someone around just to have them around. It will take a very unique person to be able to fit into my life for me to take the chance on the tension that could build.... right now there is no stress and that is what I want.... thank you for taking the time to be so thoughtful.


LOVELYHONEY 5 years ago

JUSTA LOVELY POEM I HAVE READ IN AGES

one poet wrote do not fall in love with me i had loved before ...now I've had a great fall... just read what's written on my wall... and that's about all....


VIETNAAM 5 years ago

When one is young

And

The world of gals

Is at ones feet,

Such lovely words emanate freely

And

When we are in doldrums,

In search of love,

No one listens

Except the voice of a dove

And

We then weep

Oh what was it that kept us so gay

Now for love alone we pray.

Oh love me

And do stay

As without you

I can't go any way


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@LovelyHoney - Ok I'm intrigued by your name and who you are! Thank you for commenting and I appreciate your kind words and rhyme....

@Vietnaam - Thank you and you should post your poem on a hub! I like it...


Joanie 5 years ago

Falling in love is very easy - living daily life with someone is very hard. Compromising, negotiating and hopefully falling into a routine that works and is comfortable and lasting for both. You have to enjoy each others company. You have to give each other time to be free of input from the other person all the time - to have your own personal time. I think the most important thing in a person is a kind heart, empathy and wanting to help your partner enjoy life. You can't make someone happy, but you sure can make them unhappy IMO!

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