RESPECT YOURSELF AND YOUR BODY - Older Women Are Like A Fine Wine
I Know Ladies....Aging is tough......Actresses & Models have it a bit harder.....
Look, we are all not getting any younger! Most of my friends are 50 years old or older now and even though I'm a few years behind them, I can relate in every way. My sister and I have often made jokes about seeing our reflection in a glass shop window and saying "Who the hell are those two?!!!" All in good fun and it always makes us laugh.
Sometimes "motherhood" is like a "time machine." Years go by and as you watch your little one's grow and start counting the years, you begin to see that the more years you "count," the older you are getting...THEN one day you look in the mirror and say "WHAT HAPPEN TO THE TIME?!!" "HOW DID ALL THESE YEARS DISAPPEAR?!"
The women that I always admire are the one's that are comfortable in their own skin and NEVER depended on their looks and body for "success." OR even if they did at one time, they eventually realized that they will not be 20 years old forever and then made practical "life changes or adjustments" and have regular lives away from the Hollywood shuffle. YES, we all know that everyone needs to make a living doing what they know best, BUT that does not mean living it every day and including the kids in every way. When I look back at my grandmother's life and her life choices, I realized that she was a very good role model for my sister and I. She lived her life giving and helping others and also held a job working for the Veteran's for 20 plus years. She was a beautiful woman inside and out and she wanted to make sure she made a difference on this earth by reaching out to a lot of people. She did so until she died at the age of 85 years old. She NEVER tried to impress strangers or act like someone she is NOT. She always dressed in a respectable manner and never did anything that she had to "explain." Think about that one.
Growing up in the entertainment business and then acting on a hit show in the late 80's and also doing high profile modeling jobs brought me around a lot of "insecure women and men." I was and I still am close friends with many of these but as we have all aged, it seems that a lot of them didn't get the "age gracefully memo." It's like they are caught up in a "time warp" and playing the same games (dressing the same, acting the same) as they did when they were in their 20's and 30's. A lot of their relationships with the opposite sex "fizzle out" because they never looked into bettering their game and taking the road to the real side of life and they are still making "bad choices."
A millionaire friend of mine that has been married about 5 times once told me something about one of his ex-wives from the South. "You know when she used to drink at a party and got drunk it was cute, but after she turned 50 and didn't change her behavior, her immature ways or her attire it wasn't so CUTE anymore." I'm NOT saying HE made good choices either but he had a successful business and always acts his age. The lesson here is that all men like a "fine glass of wine" (aging or not) with a subtle and lovely after taste.
Female Role Models Are Important....
So here comes my rant about "women" becoming good role models for their children and the people around them. I often see mother's (especially in California) that are still single (by choice or not), maybe married, dressed like Pamela Anderson and toting their children around like an EGO circus. It's like instead of the dog, let's bring the kid today.
I have often kept my children away from people in the entertainment business for this reason because when "they" are desperate for attention, some folks will "pimp their kids." Meaning try anything they can to get them in the biz and to make more connections to shallow people. Most of these parents do not have college degrees and made a living on their looks most of their life. Most of these people (males included) lived the life of success at one time, fell off the rails and now want to put their children in the "torture chamber." Not the best place for a kid fighting bad self esteem issues.
But there are the few that lead a very "real life" while living their dream (even in the entertainment business). And when they are in the public around their children, they make sure they are good role models.
I have to say that most of these people have moved out of Los Angeles and keep their personal lives separate from their work. There is a very long list of people who do this and have made it work for their families.
REAL People, REAL Life.....
SO, the point of this article is to make you think. If you have low self esteem and find yourself in the same place over and over again....you need to make a CHANGE. If you are a mother or father (no matter what age and especially if you are in your 40's or 50's), you need to act like one and be respectable in front and around your children. I do not care if you were the HOTTEST chick or SEXIEST dude alive on this planet at one time.
Always remember that children need good role models and so do younger generations. I am thankful that there are a lot of classy older women in the Entertainment industry and in the media. Women who put their children and families in front of their own needs, egos and desperation. If you never got the "age gracefully memo" and you decided to still act like a "model" trying to get the role, just think how it will effect your kids eventually when they make their own "life choices?" Do you want them to end up in the same boat? Do you really want them to be an actor/actress, model or dancer?!!! Did you ever think that steering them towards a good education and a more realistic future in something more stable may give them a better life?! Let them get a good education first and THEN let them make their own choice to be in the entertainment industry. Do you want them to end up like you?!! These are the questions you need to ask yourself."
RESPECT YOURSELF SO THAT OTHERS AROUND YOU WILL MAKE BETTER LIFE CHOICES. BE A CLASS ACT AND NOT A TRASH ACT. ACCEPT YOUR INNER BEAUTY AND NEVER SELL YOURSELF TO LOSERS.
YOU MY DEAR FRIENDS ARE LIKE A FINE WINE THAT NEEDS TO BREATHE........LOVE YOURSELF NOMATTER HOW MANY WRINKLES.......LOVE THE FACT THAT YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE NOW............
Hub Pages Author - GPAGE
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